36# mummywiffy
mummy ade petua nak kurangkan nafsu isteri tak?
kurang sket jer .. bukan tutup terus ..
kudajantan77 Post at 8-3-2010 16:10 http://mforum5.cari.com.my/images/common/back.gif
ni mesti wife abg kuda terlebih mkn jamu2 or supplement yg melambak2 di pasaran ni....coz me pon penah consume satu produk tu, akibatnya everyday jadi hari2mau....;P
SBQ BRO.. KU fhm ngan situasi mu...
mmg ar...sakit tu leh ingat lah sampai biler2.tunggu jer lah ur wife betul2 ready...dia sendiri yg mintak nti.
suree ada pengalaman ni jgk....brsalin anak 1s..jahitan byk, biasala anak sulug mmg kene potong nyer....mmg takut gila nk brsama...tp mmg dh ckp kat hubby kene cuti 100 hari..hehe..hubby paham je...tp lps 100 hari still fobia gak....tp still on, slow2 la, tp mmg sakit oo....menitik air mata tahan sakit.....
well , i could presume that you already have a partner, may be ? are you a muslim? if so , pardoned me.
mbhcsf Post at 8-3-2010 15:59 http://mforum5.cari.com.my/images/common/back.gif
:lol:...as u wish...
saya yang czer pun fobia gak masa mula2. bukan takut sakit tapi takut preggy lagi. bila terbayang masa sakit kena induce tapi baby still tak mau keluar selama 10 jam, rasa trauma sangat. last2 kena czer. masa pantang, sakit kat tempat bedah, susah nak bangun, etc. semua tu buat saya takut nak preggy dan make love. tapi lama2, ok je. yang penting husband banyak bersabar dan berlembut.
1# hadi1978
If you feel there was something wrong down there, my advice to you is to seek a medical advice.
But if it was more to post-natal trauma, talk to your hubby. Make him see and understand your condition.
but don't make him wait too long, because it is also unfair to him, just because he didn't go through the pain. Because trauma is something that you can overcome with your mental and inner strength. Don't do drugs like painkillers or something, because it will do you worse.
A full mind relaxation will help. Think about the pleasure, the beautiful feeling that you will be able to have again. Do it slow and steady. If you feel razor sharp and you can't carry on, just push him gently and ask him to caress you more. And try again. Just keep working on fondling till you really have this urge of having him inside. Then, trust me, the pain will be lessen, or maybe gone. Or maybe its there, but you can't feel it because you are on a full ecstasy.
But to completely shutting yourself out will not help, it will make him feel like a loser. And he'll feel used and dumped too. As if you were only using him to make babies and when its all done, he's completely shunned away like pieces of cold fries. Because men, regardless how tough they might look on surface, inside they will be continuously seeking attention from women in their life. Some men turned to others not because they wanted too but because they were consistently rejected and neglected but because they are shallow at some points, they failed to see the impact of their action. Only much, much later.
36# mummywiffy
mummy ade petua nak kurangkan nafsu isteri tak?
kurang sket jer .. bukan tutup terus ..
kudajantan77 Post at 8-3-2010 16:10 http://mforum1.cari.com.my/images/common/back.gif
abg kuda....hehehe...so far, mummy xde lg petua nie...tp yg pntg, jgn mkn telur separuh masak yer...yg tu leh naikkan nafsu...mau nak hari2...;P
yang 1st vacuum...sama ngan wife TT sbb memang tak de tenaga masa tuh ...bulan pose me pun pose gak, jangkaan lps raya ghupenya lagi 2 hari nak raya dia kuar......memang lain kalu vacuum sbb koyak pun byk, jahit byk...sakit sehhhh nak buang air......
tapi luka kat situ tak der la lama mana sbb situ ler tmptnya kalu luka paling cpt baek, habis nifas ok dah.....cuma trauma je lebih...bab trauma ni org yg lalui jer tau,sbb me panah baca ada yg terkoyak balik jadi truma tu menjadi-jadi padahal ok jer.
kena amik masa sket bagi ur wife rehat, jgn bagi dia tensen sgt walopun kita br dpt baby, nak nyusukan,tukar lampin, urus makan pakai laki...tensen gak ...pastu laki blik keje trus tgk anak x tanya kabo kita pun bleh tensen gak.....slalu mandikan anak sendri bila laki balik awal ingat dia nak tolong siapkan air mandi anak tp tak,.. kene buat gak sendri...tu pun bleh tensen gak padahal slalu buat sendri....ble jadi mende camni tu yg tambah lama "tempoh pantang" tuh
1# hadi1978
Adakah perasaan fobia isteri ni sesuatu yang normal?
Normal - kalau anu ko lagi besar dari kepala budak
Macamna suami mengatasi?
Cari penyedap lain..........penyedap sewa pun boleh
Berapa lama tempoh sebenar untuk tidak bersama selepas bersalin? Ada yang kata 44 hari dah boleh, ada yang kata 100 hari, mana yang betul?
Tengok berapa lama ko leh tahan....yang tak tahan tu..3 minggu pun dah sariap..sebab tu dia takut kottttt
44# suree_aa
air mata jer menitik?
44# suree_aa
air mata jer menitik?
nighunter71 Post at 8-3-2010 22:15 http://mforum2.cari.com.my/images/common/back.gif
ye....yg tu je....yg lain kering ok...
52# suree_aa
Oh..ingatkan air mata menitis...
air yang lain merembes....
kah3x
33# MrsJohn
sama la.. kita yg beranak c-sect ni dgr pon dah seriau.. ngiluuuuuu baca cerita korang..
7# mbhcsf
Orang kata kalau vacum, koyak dia banyak, saya x tahu lah. Saya yang cuci luka episiotomi, tapi x reti nak belek teruk mana luka tu sebab anak pertama..hadi1978 Post at 8-3-2010 10:22 http://mforum3.cari.com.my/images/common/back.gif...jangan dengar cakap orang...this is not true...some vacuum deliveries do not even require episiotomy...kalau pon ada episiotomy...the cut and stitches are just as per any normal delivery...
...stitches should not take more than one month to heal...maintaining good personal hygiene is very important...manja betul bini ko nie sampaikan luka kat bawah tu ko yang cuci dan jaga...melampau2 manjanya....huhuhu...
...as to when u guys bley start make love...well...selepas pantang dah bley lerrr...usually after 40 days...kalau wife rasa takut dan tak yakin yang stitches dia dah pulih...it would be helpful kalau ko bawak dia pi jumpa gynae dia dan have a post natal check up for her...mungkin nie bley convince her yang her stitches are well and she can resume with her sexual activity...
...kalau dia rasa takut...what u can do is to reassure her...promise her that u will be gentle with her...let her noe also that it is normal to feel tensed and tender at her private area...so...encourage her to feel relax...and on your part...u have to ensure that u give her a good foreplay...kalau perlu...the use of some lubricant may be helpful also...
...for a start...ko suruh dia to be on top...so that she will be able to control the degree of penetration...:$
bini aku pun hari tu mmg ada kena jahit lebih... x ingat brp lama kena tunggu. Tp bini aku tu pun teringin tuuu, so bila dia ready, ok la... back to normal :lol:
merz Post at 8-3-2010 14:17 http://mforum5.cari.com.my/images/common/back.gif
Actually, wife aku ada rasa teringin gak, tapi dia takut. Aku buat posisi bagi dia yang main peranan, maknanya dia kat atas, tapi baru cecah je, dah dia takut. Dia macam fobia sangat-sangat. masa mula2 balik rumah tu, baru 44 hari, aku x buat apa, tapi dia yang curi2 pegang aku punya tut masa aku tidur, wife aku ni pemalu. Aku tengah tido, rasa dia pegang2, tapi lepas 2 bulan, aku nak, dia takut lak.. xpelah... aku ikut nasihat kaka-kaka kat sini, tunggu sampai 120 hari ler...
So, kaka-kaka kat sini, hadi nak tanya, selepas 60 hari, masih rasa sakit nyilu lagi ke? Atau perasaan trauma/ takut je? Kali pertama 'bersama' selepas pantang tu, memang rasa sakit ke?
Macam Hadi ni, lelaki, memang x faham, bukan x faham sebab apa, sebab perempuan terlalu sembunyikan hal ni. Pasal pengalaman bersalin tu memang dia cerita macamna punya sakit, tapi selepas tu dia xnak cerita apa2..
Post Last Edit by leotazz818 at 9-3-2010 08:38
So, kaka-kaka kat sini, hadi nak tanya, selepas 60 hari, masih rasa sakit nyilu lagi ke? Atau perasaan trauma/ takut je? Kali pertama 'bersama' selepas pantang tu, memang rasa sakit ke?
Macam Hadi ni ...
hadi1978 Post at 9-3-2010 08:01 http://mforum5.cari.com.my/images/common/back.gif
hadi.. bila dah sampai 60 hari... biasanye jahitan semua dah sembuh.. kalau nak projek pon rasanye bolelah.. itu pon kalau x mau pantang 100 hari... biasanya 100 hari ni utk btol2 baik, bersedia zahir & batin... means.. badan dah mantap, cergas & sihat, peranakan dah naik ke tempat asal, dah kecut & dan bersedia utk melakukan jimak. mmg lah dlm masa 44 hari darah nifas dah abis.. npk ibu pon dah boleh bangun, berjalan normal, bole wat kerja umah cam biasa.. tp itu kalau di lihat luaran... tubuh badan kita ni secara dalaman mmg mengambil masa 3 bulan utk btol2 pulih... proses mengandung 9 bln & bersalin bukan hanya tertumpu kpd ruangan rahim shj.. tp keseluruhan tubuh badan ibu, maksud saya segala urat saraf, kandungan darah & gula dalam badan pon ada efek gak... TAPI KALAU BTOL2 NAK JAGA LAH.. org skg x kisah... so yg buat pilihan antara hadi & isteri... nak yg 44 hari ke atau 100 hari... 2-2 buleh. :)
100 hari ni pantang utk bersama jer.. & x bole minum ais... yg lain2 ok dah..
perkhhh skg musim panass.. siksa wooo x leh minum ais...;P
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Antara kebaikan berpantang :
Dari segi kesihatan - doktor menggalakkan agar hubungan sex tidak dilakukan dalam tempoh 6 minggu selepas bersalin. Ini kerana si ibu baru saja melalui proses bersalin yang menyakitkan dan memerlukan masa untuk badan kembali sihat dan kuat. Selain dari itu, ia juga untuk memberi masa kepada bahagian sulit untuk sembuh sepenuhnya apatah lagi bagi mereka yang mempunyai luka eposiotomi. Apa itu luka episiotomy
...jangan dengar cakap orang...this is not true...some vacuum deliveries do not even require episiotomy...kalau pon ada episiotomy...the cut and stitches are just as per any normal delivery...
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blackmore Post at 9-3-2010 00:01 http://mforum2.cari.com.my/images/common/back.gif
hmm thank you for pointing it out Blackie...
i think it is more to the torn muscles....sebab teh wife tu ada ventouse delivery may be bukan epi scar kot , tapi tuan rumah mentioned epi so ?? kalau epi it must be a controlled tear kan? takkanlah saya terfikir jugaksanmpai torn muscles sampai 4th degree....
jap wife dia ni torn muscles ker atau epi scar ?