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Love Doc: Q & A Here (Especially for the Ladies)
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Hye. i have a boyfriend. ktorang baru je together, 6 7 months camtu.
The problem here is, i have a few close guy friends. and my boyfriend rase inferior bile i hangout/chat dengan my guy friends.
i've known my guy friends for years. and for me, kitorg dah mcm member. tak de heart feelings. xkan lah i nak shut them off just sebab i ade bf?
sometimes, my guy friends tu mcm ade lah flirt or be sweet. but i tau dorg main2. my bf thinks the other way.
please give me advice on how to explain to my bf that me and my friends are just friends? |
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hye. nak tny..
how to stop the jealousy of a boyfriend..?
i ade few guy friends and sometimes we hang out / chat. everytime i hangout, mesti kene marah dgn bf. haih. as of now, sebab nak elak gaduh, i dah jarang lepak ngn my guy friends. slalu bagi alasan kat dorang.
how..?
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ainulrabain posted on 7-6-2013 02:20 PM 
Hye. i have a boyfriend. ktorang baru je together, 6 7 months camtu.
The problem here is, i have ...
hi ainul,
itu menunjukkan bf u belum ade trust in you...u need to gain his trust by your action, not by your words...how to gain his trust? try to be more responsible with your actions i.e. kalau your guy friends usik2 or trying to flirt, u ckp la u dah ade bf depan your friends and bf...reaffirm his believes that he can might actually trust u...
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bee23 posted on 7-6-2013 04:37 PM
hye. nak tny..
how to stop the jealousy of a boyfriend..?
same answer as ainul...read the above..
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Hello Doc
i nk tanya can we be friend with someone yg dot dot dot? sbbnya slalu org akan avoid dr jd kawan.
since kami punya circle of friend yg sama so mmg susah la kalo x jd kawan. any suggestion? |
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Innrukia posted on 10-6-2013 05:20 PM
Hello Doc
i nk tanya can we be friend with someone yg dot dot dot? sbbnya slalu org akan avoid ...
ape yg dot dot dot tu....tanya biar jelas...
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ifanonline posted on 10-6-2013 07:29 PM
ape yg dot dot dot tu....tanya biar jelas...
someone spesel yg kmudian jd tak spesel hahahaaa |
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Innrukia posted on 10-6-2013 07:36 PM
someone spesel yg kmudian jd tak spesel hahahaaa
relationship perspective berbeza antara lelaki dan wanita...
apabila berlaku break-up, agak sukar bagi lelaki dan menjadi kawan 'biasa' kpd wanita yg pernah di ada hubungan yg istimewa...
berbanding wanita, dier boleh berkawan biasa dgn lelaki...atas sebab2 tertentu...
sebab tu, kalau kita tengok apabila wanita nak jadikan teman lelakinya menjadi pasangan istimewa, dier akan lebih worried...berbanding berkenalan dgn total stranger...
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ifanonline posted on 10-6-2013 08:19 PM
relationship perspective berbeza antara lelaki dan wanita...
apabila berlaku break-up, agak suk ...
Then kalau situasi yg ada circle of friend yg sama mcm mana?
Let say share same bestfriend. Mcm tak lojik ler putus semua friendship sbb ni right?
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Innrukia posted on 10-6-2013 08:35 PM
Then kalau situasi yg ada circle of friend yg sama mcm mana?
Let say share same bestfriend. Mcm t ...
it can be non-logical for women...but it is quite logic for men...
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masuk sini utk mimpi barang seketika.
how to overcome jealousy?
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sue_0684 posted on 29-6-2013 10:09 PM
meh sini ai tolong jwb...
same answer as ainul..read the above...
mcm mana ai nk ilangkan jealousy
ai jeles bila dia layan org len baik dari layan ai.....
depan dia ai tak tunjuk, belakang dia ai naik hantu |
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Innrukia posted on 29-6-2013 10:26 PM
mcm mana ai nk ilangkan jealousy
ai jeles bila dia layan org len baik dari layan ai.....
depan ...
owh.. gitu.
yg ni ai x reti jwb..
kena tnya pakar,nnti dia akan bg caranya..maklum org bnyk experience..
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Innrukia posted on 29-6-2013 10:26 PM
mcm mana ai nk ilangkan jealousy
ai jeles bila dia layan org len baik dari layan ai.....
depan ...
ni kes masih mengharap pada si dialah ni rasanya walaupun tak diterima.. dlm bulan puasa ni usaha dululah dengan banyak berdoa dan solat hajat serta istikharah supaya dijauhkan sifat cemburu pada org yg tak sepatutnya dicemburui and doa supaya dipertemukan dengan calon lain... maybe jawapan dari MR antertu terhormat lain plak kot, tunggu ajelah ye...
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Hana_Hirokawa posted on 11-7-2013 01:31 PM
ni kes masih mengharap pada si dialah ni rasanya walaupun tak diterima.. dlm bulan puasa ni usaha ...
 dah tutup buku la hana....zip & buang laut...
saja jer mengaco MR ni.... |
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Innrukia posted on 11-7-2013 01:41 PM
dah tutup buku la hana....zip & buang laut...
saja jer mengaco MR ni....
 betul ker? eloklah tu.. mulakan azam baru.. doa2 bertemu jodoh di aidilfitri sapa tahu kan kan kan... tak pun kat surau/masjid masa gi terawih ker...
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Innrukia posted on 12-7-2013 12:25 PM
Inn doa lepas Aidilfitri ketemu soulmate
 amin.. amin... moga aidilfitri tahun ni memberikan soulmate terbaik utk u...
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Why Women Date asxxxles 
My freshman year of college, one of my best friends was a girl named Lindsey. I remember sitting on her couch one night at her dorm after she found out her boyfriend had cheated on her. “Why can’t I find a nice guy for once?” she lamented.
Like so many men before me, I just sat there, consoling her, being a good friend. Oh, to have a time machine! I’d go back and say this: “Well, I’m a nice guy, and you seem pretty fxxkxxxg content to pass me over even though I’m clearly in love with you. Maybe if you weren’t so busy banging every asxxxle football player or band member you met, you’d have time to give guys like me a chance.”
Oh, don’t worry. I’m (mostly) over it now. But I feel like the hot chick/asxxxle guy dynamic is explained away too often by the observation: “Oh, she must be really insecure.” Well what makes her insecure? And anyway, why would an asxxxle make her feel more secure than a sweet, loving guy?
You wanna know the truth? asxxxles are asxxxles because they can afford to be. They’re that hot. Pick your poison: handsome, rich, funny, famous…any guy with one or more of these traits has license to be an asxxxle. Women aren’t just superficially attracted to any guy who is an asxxxle…or else Britney Spears would be dating the mean, drunken homeless guy down the street. No, women like cool asxxxles. And if a guy is cool enough to be desired by many women, he has no incentive to be particularly nice to any one woman.
Oh, but women are nice to asxxxles! Do you know how awesome it was for a woman to get with the alpha-male of the clan 50,000 years ago? It was a pretty sweet gig. While other men and women went hungry, the strongest male always got first dibs on food, and was able to provide resources and protection to any women in his care. And there was usually more than one woman. Just as we see in modern day apes, it is surmised that ancient hunter-gatherer groups often featured ‘harems’ of the best females for a single alpha male. And why not? One awesome man was enough to impregnate multiple women. And those women could be assured that the children they bore would have his genes, and that they, too, could one day grow up to be successful alpha males. Alpha males aren’t known for their kindness, or tenderness, or fidelity. But those traits weren’t as in-demand back then as food, protection, and good genes. I guess they still aren’t.
Understanding our harem-based ancestry explains a lot. Firstly, it explains why modern alpha male asxxxles like Charlie Sheen like to form their own “harems” of porn stars and strippers (or “goddesses,” if you will). Furthermore, I think this explains why so many women are content to be a man’s “mistress,” even when they know his primary relationship is with his wife. Back in the early stone age, it was a lot better to be the alpha male’s #2 or #3 babe than to be some loser’s #1. Would you rather have a ¼ of a delicious cheeseburger, or all of a shit sandwich? asxxxles are cheeseburgers. Nerds are shit sandwiches.
So yes, women say they want “a nice guy.” Somebody who “has character” or “will be faithful.” Someone “intelligent” and “funny.” Somebody who “treats them right.” But under certain circumstances, they will alter their priorities. With this in mind, I have created a chart that explains my observations. It is based on years of clinical studies and you may need a degree in the applied sciences to understand it. But it explains the complex set of rules that determine who women are really attracted to:
| Women will date a guy who: | If he is: | | Is a complete asxxxle | Rich, Handsome, or Famous | | Cheats on them | Rich, Handsome, or Famous | | Makes them cry | Rich, Handsome, or Famous | | Is boring | Rich, Handsome, or Famous | | Is stupid | Rich, Handsome, or Famous | | Is emotionally or physically abusive | Rich, Handsome, or Famous |
The problem is both men and women have failed to adapt to modern times. It turns out that women don’t need men to provide and protect as desperately as they did thousands of years ago. Tina Turner is letting Ike beat the shit out of her because she thinks she needs him, not realizing that it is she who is the hot, rich, famous one. She should have been beating him! Ditto Chris Brown and Rihanna. To me, that’s not just simple insecurity…that’s a hard-wired blindness to the evolving male-female reality, a result of our primitive brain struggling with the modern condition.
You, and you alone, are in charge of changing these evolutionary blind spots in your own life. Ladies, you wanna get screwed over by men who act like asxxxles? Fine by me. But every time you do, you help create the world you claim to despise. You reward the asxxxles and make the nice guys bitter.
And men, quit chuckling like it doesn’t happen to us too. Like women, we have over-reacted to an evolutionary urge to mate with women who can bear us attractive offspring. Ever heard a man say he wants a girl who’s “chill” or “down to earth”? Or how about “I’d love to meet a girl who’s funny” or “who loves sports” or “who can just hang out with the guys.” Uh huh. But what will men actually put up with?
| Men will date a girl who: | If she is: | | Is dumb as a rock | Hot | | Is devoid of ambition | Hot | | Hates their friends | Hot | | Has no sense of humor whatsoever | Hot | | Hates sports | Hot | | Cheats on them | Hot | | Treats them like shit | Hot | | Is completely, totally batshit crazy | Hot |
Now, are there hot girls out there with great personalities? Sure. Are there successful men who are really nice? Of course. Are they extremely rare, and often already married, probably to each other? You betcha. Are the rest of us going to have to make some compromises? Yeah, but that’s not so bad. Better to compromise and be happy than keep getting screwed over for the rest of our lives.
In summary, we all seem intellectually capable of knowing what we really want. But when you dangle the sexiest of the opposite sex in front of us, it all goes out the window. Our whininess about the difficulty of finding good partners is eclipsed only by our rampant hypocrisy.
So you have two choices, society: 1) Override your primitive instincts and actually date the kind of people you claim to desire, or 2) Kill all the rich, good looking people of the world so some other traits can rise to the top. I’m good either way.
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Post time 7-6-2013 02:20 PM
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