Singaporean student killed himself becoz of small penis

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April 19, 2006

JC student kills himself, convinced his private parts were too small
Suicide highlights importance of sex education in schools, says coroner

By Stephanie Yap

HE WAS a second-year student at a top junior college, a member of the school volleyball team, a 'cheerful and energetic' boy who was doing well enough in his studies to take Special Papers.

Yet on March 3 this year, the 18-year-old jumped to his death from a Bedok housing block, because he was convinced his private parts were too small.

Delivering a verdict of suicide yesterday, State Coroner Tan Boon Heng was sufficiently concerned by this 'tragedy of misinformation' to recommend that the case be forwarded to the Ministry of Education (MOE).

'The importance of sex education to our young people in schools cannot be over- emphasised,' he wrote.

'The case study is useful for relevant MOE officers to appreciate the problem of the severity of misinformation even among the best and brightest in our schools.'

The boy, who cannot be named, had confided in his mother in October last year that he was worried his private parts were too small.

She took him to a neighbourhood clinic, where the doctor told him his penis was of a normal size for an Asian man, and prescribed him multivitamins.

Despite strong emotional support from his girlfriend and his mother, he remained convinced he had a problem. He also had a history of being stressed over schoolwork.

In January this year, he told his mother that his life was 'boring and meaningless' and that the only thing stopping him from suicide was his family's love.

On March 3, after his usual volleyball practice, he took a bus from school to the Bedok interchange, but did not take his usual connecting bus home. When his sister sent him a text message at around 7pm to ask if he was coming home for dinner, he replied that he would eat out.

The next and final message she received from him was at 8pm, telling her and their mother to take care.

They realised something was wrong, but he repeatedly failed to answer his phone.

He jumped from a housing block near the Bedok bus interchange at around 8.30pm.

He was semi-conscious when he was taken to Changi General Hospital, but was pronounced dead at 10.40pm from multiple injuries.

In his suicide note, written in a notebook he had bought 40 minutes before his death, he apologised to his girlfriend and his family for killing himself.

'He said it was not due to the stress of his examination, but it was more about his physical development...He still knew there was something wrong with his body parts,' the investigation report said.

In his judgment, State Coroner Tan said the boy's death showed that even intelligent young people can be victims of misinformation.

'While we are the beneficiaries of this Internet age that hails an era of information and knowledge enriching our lives, the less-informed also become victims to junk information and worse, untruths,' he said.

'The deceased was so tormented by his unfounded (belief in his) inadequacy that it drove him to end his life.'

The case highlighted the importance of sexuality education, both in and out of school, he said.

'It may have helped if the deceased had the benefit of counselling now widely available. If parents are aware of their children being tormented in this way, they should seek professional help lest such tragic deaths should happen again.'

Sex education, usually termed sexuality education, usually takes the form of a short series of lessons.

One secondary school teacher with five years' experience told The Straits Times that at his school, sex education covers three periods a week for three weeks.

Students write reflection logs on topics like boy-girl relationships, different levels of intimacy, as well as legal issues.

However, he said teaching students how to be comfortable with their physical and sexual development is not in the syllabus.

'But this is something that should be looked into because it is definitely part of the students' development,' he said.

vixen

what an idiot :stp:

MamaIlya

Aiyohhhh..... Why la like that?

NonaNaga

dashatnya...

pinkie

bunuh la diri ramai org singapore..padan muke nnt rakyat sikit:pmuka:

sharpman

pity the guy... thats not the end of the world.. btw how small ?

Nash^Roy

weh pasal **** kecik pun nak bunuh diri ke.. laki wan nor azlin selambe jer..

kumar

Itu ah beng manyak bodoh!

shabib

ini ah beng langsung tak de keyakinan diri..... mungkin lebih baik dia mati... kalau dia hidup pun nanti dia tiada keyakinan diri yang dia akan dapat puaskan isterinya... menyeksa pompuan aje....



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[ Last edited by  shabib at 23-4-2006 12:43 AM ]

ruginya!!!!

ecomoda012

ayyo...ini mcm punya org pun ada ka??:geram::geram:

demonicboy

he doesnt have a ball.....

sian....nye...

Nape?Tak caye?

pasang play palsu....:lol

WonBin

Originally posted by Nape?Tak caye? at 23-4-2006 01:12 AM
pasang play palsu....:lol

tak payah pasang yang palsu. Boleh buat treatment supaya panjang dan tebal. Kenapa takda sapa ajar budak ni pasal ni? kan dah sia-sia mati

blackmore

...yes...apa yang budak nie buat adalah sesuatu yang bodoh...tapi aku pasti cerita nie ditepekkan di sini bukan untuk kita mentertawakan atau mengutuk2 si mati nie...tapi...untuk sama2 amik iktibar agar perkara seperti ini tidak terjadi dikalangan anak2 remaja kita...it also shows to us  yang sex education nie is very important for our teenagers...

...selain dari di sekolah...forum2 seperti forum yang kita layani skarang bley memainkan peranan yang besar by contributing good...relevant and factual informations with regards to sex education...and not filling up this bod with nonsensical stories and sexual fantasies...

...dari itu...marilah kita sama2 make good and full use of this forum and bod untuk memberi our teenagers what they need to noe...this is to ensure that teenagers will be well prepared to stand up against all the unexpected obstacles in their future...

...it really sadden me to read this kind of news..walaupon mungkin dia berbangsa asing...tapi...aku cukup kesian dengan budak yang malang nie...he must have been in that kind of situation where segala2nya nampak gelap...tiada ruang untuk dia kluar dan bernafas...if only orang2 sekeliling dia lebih prihatin terhadap luahan perasaan dia...

***** laaa, there are always wierdos like that running around

buiscasey

Originally posted by blackmore at 23-4-2006 02:17 AM
...yes...apa yang budak nie buat adalah sesuatu yang bodoh...tapi aku pasti cerita nie ditepekkan di sini bukan untuk kita mentertawakan atau mengutuk2 si mati nie...tapi...untuk sama2 amik iktibar ...

panjang betul ko ceramahye.... sorila.. aku malas baca, tulisan kecik sgt.....

sblm tu aku nak tanya, berita ni bukan rekaan kan?

vixen

Originally posted by sharpman at 22-4-2006 06:05 PM
pity the guy... thats not the end of the world.. btw how small ?

not small.. his doctor said its normal for asian male..

vixen

thoughtful post but I have to disagree on this:

blackmore wrote:
it really sadden me to read this kind of news..walaupon mungkin dia berbangsa asing...tapi...aku cukup kesian dengan budak yang malang nie...he must have been in that kind of situation where segala2nya nampak gelap...tiada ruang untuk dia kluar dan bernafas...if only orang2 sekeliling dia lebih prihatin terhadap luahan perasaan dia...  

She took him to a neighbourhood clinic, where the doctor told him his penis was of a normal size for an Asian man, and prescribed him multivitamins.

Despite strong emotional support from his girlfriend and his mother, he remained convinced he had a problem

Its quite unfair to just to blame others around him.How sure are you that nobody gave him enough attention? I am certain that his mother gave all the attention and support that she possibly could.There are people who are just beyond any help/salvation,sadly.