Down and Out

tasha76

Suami ku ini,
dah tak tau nak buat apa dengan dia,
suruh dia keluar rumah,tinggalkan kitaorang in peace,dia tak da duit,no work. Tak da sapa wants to take him in.
Suruh dia cari kerja,
mati2 tak mau.

Latest is baru dapat tahu sapa gfriend dia.
Selama ni memang dah rasa ada something wrong dengan dia.Cakap kat mil dia kata kita jahat.
Baru2 ni terbaca msg dia,..this year pernah 3 times baca mgs dia.

Msg from Umar : "Umi kerja siang esok. So boleh jumpa."

Kuang,kuang,kuang

So selama ni umar tu Umi. Tanya dia , biasa la dia kata wrong number. Tapi selama a few years ni banyak sungguh msg Umar ni.Dekat atas note pad atas meja pun ada scribble same number.

So to cut things shorts
I cakap sendiri dgn perempuan tu, menyamar sebagai adik hubby.
Rupa2nya dia ngorat kat bus stop,....alahai...sambil tu ambik number fon. Ajak minum2 tepi laut,...selalu ambik kat hostel bawa keluar ( dgn kreta pinjam kot,now hubby tak da kreta dah kena tarik). Umi ni kerja kilang.
Last2 i cakap le tahu tak dia dah anak 2, so Umi tu cakap "Dia gatal sungguh "
Kalau keluar dgn family memang wife le kena bayar semua.

Kadang2 pikir macam hubby nye mentality cam budak2 lak. Nak buat apa ikut suka je. Whatever dia nak buat, buat je.

NAK BUAT APA YE DENGAN DIA?

[ Last edited by  tasha76 at 16-1-2008 02:39 PM ]

putratropika

hish..macam mana nak cakap bab laki ko nih eh....dah macam kucing kurapla...nak di tendang ketepi kesian pulak..nak dibela takut kutu dan kurap tu jadik penyakit pun yer gak....jadik..nak buat macam mana eh...??bagitau kat mak dia hal sebenar yang ko tau???bleh??kalua tk pun bukan mak laa..bahaya..err..sapa2 adik badik dia yang ko rasa berakal sikitler...yang rapat ngan ko...tunjuk kan bukti2 tuh..pastuh baru sergah laki ko tuh..kalau dia tak ngaku pastuh cuba nak buruk2 kan ko..sekurang2nya..ko dah ada sorang alibi...err...boleh ker cam ni..?

fly_in_d_sky

dump him n ask for divorce if dats the final solution
u already survive with n without him

033589

consult dgn pejabat agama..takpun gi sesi kaunseling dulu...otherwise mintak fasakh atau taklik...

myohmy

mntk jauh la jd hasben mcm nih

noddyFARHANA

pelik tol dgn laki ko nih...
macam katun pon ada...
ko mintak je laa cerai...
da takde duit, leh menggatal eg??
aiyooooo :@

auntie_girl

huhu

tak sedar di untung

NURMIMIE

apa tindakan ko seterusnya tasha??

huhu.. sedih kat ko ada.. geram kat hb ko pun ada..

huwaaaaaaaa.. kenapa lah agaknya orang lelaki sekarang ramai yang sakit jiwa?

jon_jawa

huh!... owang camneh pon ada...

BingkaUbi

umah yg korang duduk tu umah sendri ka?

mimzzzy

pegi kaunseling lah. Atau paling best, kena sedarkan diri dia tu. Selagi tak sedar selagi tu buat macam nie. Napa ko tak cakap ngan Umi tu yang ko nie bini dia?? jadik minah tu pun sedar yang dia dah kantooiii...

aku mmg pantang kalau laki buat dajal kalau pakai duit bini...

fifie_olin

wat per ko simpan lg laki cam ni..
xde makna nya..
menyusahkan idop ko jerk..
baik ko mintak dia lepaskan ko bebaik..
jgn pk org lain ..
ko pk kan anak2 & diri ko sendiri..

faraway

dah lah tak keja, ada hati ngan mengurat lagi tu..
angkut tel*r aje hulu hilir.. emm
tahan sungguh u tanggung dia.. tapi sampai bila yek...

cherub

you're an enabler.

you enable him to survive without actually working. you work your ass off to provide for the family. he does not see the need to work. he goes out in his free time looking for chicas. and you ask what to do now?

stop being an enabler.

What exactly is an enabler?

An enabler is a person who attempts to prevent others from the consequences of their own actions. An enabler is a person who tries at all costs to soften someone else's blows and takes on the responsibility for someone else's actions and attempts to minimize the problems of someone else, namely a loved one.

How to Stop Being an Enabler

Things You'll Need
A firm decision that you are finished enabling this person.
A friend to confide in and lean on for reinforcement when you think you might weaken.

Steps
One: Stop doing anything that allows this person to continue on with their current lifestyle. This includes lying or covering up for them in any way.
Two: Stop taking on this person's responsibilities and claiming part in their actions.
Three: Tell this person that you are finished enabling them and that you have set clearly define boundaries that you are not willing to cross.
Four: Do not react to anything that this person has to say regarding their problem.
Five: Stop giving this person money, loaning them money, lying for them or calling into their job for them.

Tips & Warnings
This can be very difficult and trying to say the least but you are only helping this person and also helping yourself.
Have a support line through a friend or other person that you can rely on and talk to.
Do not go back on your word or you will not be taken seriously by this person again. Stand your ground and be firm.

norsha

ask for a divorce la..suruh dia balik rumah mak dia, duk kat sana

IDB

sampai bila nak tanggung ...lagi dibiar lagi teruk anda....fikir-fikirkan-lah.

kimmycunz

hmm... apa u nak buat skrang? dah jelas lagi nyata ur hb mmg x bertanggungjawab pastu x appreciate u.

Longhairlady

Setuju dgn pendpt awak.... Dahlah tak kerja n takde duit...., pandai plk nak
mngorat...

*Teringat plk kat thread yg sy buka..., baik cari yg ada rupa sikit n berduit
dpd yg tak berduit... inilah contohnya... Sori, bkn niat nak menghina ke apa...
tp itulah realiti...

jenna

elok lah tu.... hang p lah beraffair dgn mamak tu... laki hang plak p lah beraffair dgn umi tu... anak2 biar bergelempangan... biaqlah tunggang langgang umah tangga hampa tu....

dulu aku ada penah bukak thread pasai depa ni... mmg berbakullah makian yg aku terima.... byk yg kata aku tak patut masuk campur.... now aku nk kata balik..... korang yg tak tau crita sebenar tak payahlah nk baking pompuan ni sgt.... si laki tu pun tak betul si bini pun tak betul... senang kata mmg elok sgtlah depa dua org ni....

my dear kak sha.... takkan raya2 pun duk ada kat opis lagi sampai tgh malam kot...??? anda kantoi dgn time posting anda.... kuang.. kuang.. kuang...

norsha

ooo..i ingat lagi your thread pesal wife dgn mamak tu dulu, sb i citer kt my hubby, my hubby cakap mamak best kot, panas.. ..u refer to tasha nie ek?

btw..kadang2 bila sesuatu kejadian yg tak menyenangkan itu berlaku, mungkin atas kecuaian diri sendiri..mungkin God bagi untuk kita sama2 mencari kekurangan dan kelemahan diri sendiri dan cuba untuk memperbaikinya...