kawan bersedudukan dengan lelaki bukan islam

LadyEffa · Post time 15-5-2012 03:47 PM

salam all
akak pernah bukak thread pasal kawan yg close and colleague jugak sebelum ni tapi ni bukan cerita pasal kawan ni

Ni adalah kawan yang close jugak dari zaman undergrad dulu

kawan ni nama dia Miss Z,

kenal ngan dia dr time degree sebab room sebelah, tp masa time degree pun dia dah bermasalah, tau pun sbb nak pi amek kasut jogging tertinggal kat room dia, tup2 dia tgk lalok, rupanya dia dah telan sepapan panadol n coke setin..konon nak bunuh diri..nasib hidup lagi. dia bgtau dia kene rape ..i suh dia buat report tapi dia x nak sebab malukan family, pastu yg buat i marah kat dia duk pi carik lagi budak tu..so i dun think so laa rape..more on mutual..

then I grad, awal setahun dr dia but at the end of semester 8, she got kicked out from uni sbb pointer sgt teruk...kesian sbb dah the lastttttt sgt kene kicked, sgt rugi. lepas I dah grad mmg jarang2 keep in touch sbb i marah kat dia, tp dkt time i nak kawin sbb jemput dia dtg baru contact balik, dia keje kat hotel, so keep in touch macam tu laa and until last2 i found out dia kawan ngan laki org, her boss kat hotel, which the wife pun keje at the same hotel dtg serang dia and dia resign moved to another hotel.
so I tegur dia, tp dia kata i wasn't in her shoes.. so kami dah kurang baik

lepas a few years, we get in touch balik ..lupa how, and she is no longer with her bf yg hubby org, but kawan with a non-muslim guy,, but last2 she told me that guy is also a married man. but this guy loves her n wife very much..

just recently, i nak kene outstation dkt her area, so i kata i nak tumpang her house saja la.. but to my horror, i baru tau all this while she is staying, living with this guy. kiranya macam husband n wife dah la. when i tegur her, dia kata dia tau but that guy is the only person in the world that care n loves her. and she doesn't mind living like that. bila i kata dosa zina semua, dia kata at least she is still a muslim, dia tak convert.. but duhh geram bila dah tegur pun x jalan

so what can I do? i baik dgn her family tapi takkan nak bgtau fam dia, satgi x pasal2 kene heart attack her parents.
I dah tegur and dah marah pun dia, my hubby kata dah toksah dah kawan dgn this lady.. but I still feel that i need to do something to save her.. can i just call pencegah maksiat ke? but i do not have her exact house address

help what can I do? i takut dah terlalu lama dia dgn this guy, sekrang dia masih muslim i takut jadi the otherwise

card_reader · Post time 15-5-2012 06:25 PM

kawan u tu dah jaoh menyimpang dah..................

tabasco · Post time 15-5-2012 09:05 PM

if only you keep using one language in one sentence, it would be easier for me to understand the whole story.

Artemesiaa · Post time 16-5-2012 01:14 PM

Dia dah terlalu jauh hanyut. Diri dia kena dibetulkan dulu barulah dia mampu buat U turn. Kalau setakat hantar pencegah maksiat tak kemana pun hanya short term solutions. Possibility dia kembali ke gaya hidup yang lama agak besar. Kena ada mentor atau orang yang betul2 dia percayai untuk nasihatkan dan bimbing dia semula untuk berubah kearah kebaikan.

LadyEffa · Post time 16-5-2012 01:31 PM

Reply 4# Artemesiaa

tapi nak cari mentor tu yang payah, Akak bukan ade dekat sana, family dia mmg tak tahu dia masih ada hubungan dgn this non-muslim guy. hari tu family dia dah cuba buat macam-macam nak pisahkan dia dgn this guy, even apa yg diorang tau dia hanya bercinta dan buat anggapan tak pernah tidur sekali. tapi dia pandai sembunyikan, jadi family dia ingat dia dah ok. tapi rupanya itu hanya lakonan.
akak bukan apa, rasa kesian sgt dekat dia. nak bgtau kat family dia ke? ke akak just berdoa untuk dia dah since dah tegur. tapi masih rasa bersalah kalau x dapat sedarkan dia

Sagoo · Post time 16-5-2012 01:38 PM

g report kt jabatan agama la..biar dia marah ko.....biar dia sedar awal2..lame2 x gune lagi..
sekian dr imam muda sagoo

LadyEffa · Post time 17-5-2012 01:22 PM

i dah bagi tau kat twin dia apa sebenarnya yang terjadi sekarang. Sekarang biar kat family dia sendiri untuk selamatkan dia.Since my husband dah tak bagi berkawan dgn org macam ni, so itu laa cara terakhir yang i guna untuk sedarkan dia. and now, i kene larik jauh2 from her

kamarulaiff · Post time 17-5-2012 05:26 PM

short term solutions pun rasa nya akan bagi impak juga pada idup dia...

angahalong · Post time 23-5-2012 11:32 AM

Apa kata bagi tahu aje parents through the phone tanpa mention ur name

adikfatin · Post time 23-5-2012 11:51 AM

Reply 1# LadyEffa

bagitau pencegAH maksiat,sama la macam bagitau mak bapak dia..kiranya kalau bagitau parents dia terus,at least parents dia je tau perangai buruk anak dia.but if you report to that pencegah maksiat ,the whole family will know and they will shock. so, maybe bagitau parents dia dulu..
*don't mix english and malay sentences together,hard to understand..

tapi sy salute kat awk sebab berani tegur.satu tindakan berani menegur seorg kawan.jadi kenapa tak bagitau mak ayah dia..? try la yer,alang2 awak dah berani tegur kawan awak,report je lah kat family dia. nanti family dia tau la nak buat apa..

prettyuglybabe · Post time 23-5-2012 11:58 AM

TT dah pernah gi rumah dia kan? tak perlu alamat penuh pun tak apa. bagi tau kat mana and rumah no berapa pun dah cukup. kalau jabatan agama kat area tu, mesti dorang tau.

or else, berterus terang dengan family beliau. minta mereka buat sesuatu. hantar ke pusat pemulihan ke.

sebab orang begini, kita kena bawa mereka ke pangkal jalan iaitu mengenali agama. kalau ditegah je, pasti mereka akan kembali ke sikap lama. sebab hati mereka dah terpesong.

selamat berjaya.

lalunagujiwa · Post time 23-5-2012 12:36 PM

g report kt jabatan agama la..biar dia marah ko.....biar dia sedar awal2..lame2 x gune lagi..
sekia ...
Sagoo Post at 16-5-2012 13:38

montah!!!

kepada TT, sampai bila nak berganding bahu menggalas dosa bersekongkol?

farahanafarah · Post time 23-5-2012 04:13 PM

KALAU DIRI SENDIRI TAK RASA NAK UBAH DIRI SENDIRI SUSAH KAK OII...tertaip urup beso pulok..malas nak re-taip..

atiey74 · Post time 23-5-2012 10:01 PM

Cukup 3x ko tegur dia tak jalan gak, ko dah terlepas dari tanggungjawab..at least you've tried..next step, sila lapor jabatan agama..tak tau alamat bukan alasan..u sure can show the direction..tq..

knk~pooh · Post time 24-5-2012 08:55 AM

bagi tahu je famly dia dulu..biar famly yang setel kan dengan dia..n kalau tak jalan baru report pejabat agama

LadyEffa · Post time 24-5-2012 11:48 AM

TQ semua,

semalam I dah basuh dia habis2, tp dia cuma balas kata, dia tak marah and tak terasa hati langsung dengan teguran I sebab dia tau dia memang bersalah and dia kata dia sedar dia memang berdosa. dia kata I tak paham sebab I tak kena apa yang dia kena.

so mcm I bgtau last post I dah bagitau twin dia, diorang nak dtg serbu rumah dia and tak tau la apa yang akan jadi. As seorang kawan saya dah buat apa yg patut, sekarang saya biar family dia yang handle.

AnitaSabrina · Post time 24-5-2012 11:59 AM

You are hardly in her life....every few years, you will get in touch.... so you don't really know what's going on in her life.

She doesn't need your saving....she's an adult and capable of taking care of herself.  You....can move on with your life.

*been there, done that* .... I had a friend like that.  Keep getting into a mess with married men.  She even got pregnant....had an abortion bla bla bla..... I got married and my husband didn't approve of me being friend's with her.  Also, I realise I don't need toxic people in my life.

Take care of yourself & your family TT.