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Edited by meiya_loya at 29-6-2015 03:02 PM
Salam n selamat sejahtera...
iol dalam dilema actually n nak mintak pendapat. Iol kenal this man 2009 (Mr. M), umur dia masa tuh 32 tahun (iol beza 8 thn dari dia). So kalau ikutkan dah 6 thn kitorg kenal. After 2 yrs kenal, which is in 2011, iol pernah tanya dia ape sbnrnye relationship kitorg... But then dia ckp, "i cant be your boyfriend". Di sebabkan jawapan dia tuh(Iol taruh harapan tinggi dgn this guy, n masa iol dgr jawapan dia iol rase langit neh cam runtuh, iol xmintak further explaination pun. Since that, i blah and deleted his number, n iol lgsung xcontact dia. After 2 months, iol kenal dgn lelaki lain, n everything seem perfect. Few months after i dgn new guy, Mr. M contact i balik n i bgtahu dia i dah ade BF. But he act like nothing happened, n i mcm dah lupa ape yg dia buat sblm nie. i accept him as a friend again (entah laa, mungkin i masih ade sedikit harapan pada dia) until now. I pernah tanya Mr. M, nape dia cakap "i cant be your boyfriend" back then... n dia cakap, dia xnak i tunggu dia, coz dia target nak kawen umur 40thn. I xtahu laa itu just alasan atau ape. Me n Mr. M jumpe everyweek, sedangkan dgn mf BF sebulan pun susah. Still, Mr. M always there whenever i need him unlike my BF.
Pasal my Bf, masa kenal in 2011 dia kata, dia tgh bina kerjaya n mintak iol bagi dia masa 5 tahun before dia betul2 settle. Maknanya tahun 2016. Dilema iol skrg neh... next year 2016, Mr. M turn 40 and my BF nye tempoh 5 thn tamat. but then i rase insecure with both men. Coz:-
i. Iol xtahu after these years (6 yrs) nie, Mr. m betul2 sygkan iol or not
ii. iol xnampak BF mcm nak settle down coz kerjaya dia xstabil etc.
ke selama nie i just buang masa dgn this 2 guys?
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Edited by lalasahaja at 29-6-2015 06:34 PM
bila kita sendiri buat benda salah, hati kita susah nak cari jawapan. Adik dah ada bf tetapi selalu bersama Mr M yang adik ada perasaan lebih drpd kawan. Itu adalah satu kesalahan. Jika ada bf, sebaiknya jauhkan diri drpd Mr M. jika ingin cuba nasib dengan Mr M, perlu lepaskan bf dengan baik. Akak rasa lepas adik perbetulkan apa yang salah, hati adik akan lebih jelas. |
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xyah wait.dan malaysia musnoh dulu.cari lain.lorh |
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ika ingin cuba nasib dengan Mr M, perlu lepaskan bf dengan baik. Akak rasa lepas adik perbetulkan apa yang salah, hati adik akan lebih jelas.
Hurm.... mungkin niat sy dr awal dah xbetul. Sy couple dgn my BF dgn harapan utk tunjukkan kat Mr. M yg sy dapat lg better dr dia. Tapi after few years dgn my BF, i realize he cant compete Mr. M at all. At that time, both me and my BF dah falling apart..big time.
I sanggup lepas kan my BF, but then i always have this doubt... i takut yg dikejar xdapat, yg dikendong berciciran. |
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cofront je dgn dua2 tu... jgn buang2 masa tunggu ni.. dah bertahun2 lak tu..
kalo dua2 xnak, carik org lain..
kalo salah sorang nak ko, maka perlu la dipertimbangkan ikut pertimbangan ko.. yg penting jgn buat assumption sendiri, tertanya2 sendiri etc etc... |
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itu yg iol tgh pikirkan.... walk off means i have to start all over again, which is kinda hard. Iol bukan nye lawa sgt, pastu nak kuar dating, blind date etc... huwaaaaaaaaaaa... yg iol perasan, dari dulu...bila i single punyer laaaa susah org nak sangkut. Yg sangkut mostly laki org which ofcozzz a BIG NO for me. |
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sorry to say, tp TT nampak selfish sgt kat sini. ur BF tak lebih dari backup plan kalau thing goes wrong with Mr M. poor dat guy
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si bf kena game.
kesian kat dia. |
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sorry to say, tp TT nampak selfish sgt kat sini. ur BF tak lebih dari backup plan kalau thing goes wrong with Mr M. poor dat guy
Yup...betul ckp u, i mmg selfish. I always feel insecure whenever it comes to men. Sebelum Mr. M, i had 6 years relationship with my 1st love and almost got married but being cheated. since then.. I ade problem nak percaya kat lelaki. Yup, mungkin u akan ckp itu just an excuse...tapi that's the fact. |
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cofront je dgn dua2 tu... jgn buang2 masa tunggu ni.. dah bertahun2 lak tu..
kalo dua2 xnak, carik org lain..
im planning to, insyallah after raya... cuma i xtahu nak ckp mcmana. I'm worst with words, i jenis xreti nak luahkan perasaan i bile berdepan. xkisah laa dgn sape pun, even my best friend pon mcm tu. i'd end up crying and look pathetic and weak. i xnak both men see my weakness..i dont want them to see me desperate. |
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aku tak faham
ko cakap ko x percaya lelaki tapi ko mengharap dgn MR M utk jd gf dia pahtu siap ada BF lagi..kalau tak percaya lelaki kenapa ada siap ada boyfren dengan second choice lagi..ko takut sunyi ke?
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aku rasa ko byk excuse
tak reti berdepan, msj je la
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kalau tak percaya lelaki kenapa ada siap ada boyfren dengan second choice lagi..ko takut sunyi ke?
Sbb xpercaya n rase insecure laa ade backup. huhuhu...logic laa kut. |
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well..kalau bf ko tu ko define sbg backup, pity him
good luck la hidup dlm masalah ko cipta sndr
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Follow the flow..
tu lebih baik...
kita xtahu sapa jodoh kita..
mungkin jodoh uols bukan antara dua mereka ni..sapa tahu??
Thank you.... yup jodoh tu rahsia Allah swt.
n tq for not judging me. |
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ini pendapat iols ..
since u dah ada 2 option .. why not just buat solat istiqarah ..
tanya Yang Maha Kuasa, which one is better for you ..
amek kesempatan dalam bulan yang mulia ini ..
buat selama 7 hari berturut-turut .. insyaALLAH, akan diberikan petunjuk dan hidayah ..
bila dah dapat petunjuk .. yakin dengan Allah dan keputusan yg dibuat .. never look back ..
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saya penah cmni dlu. mmg that guy tahu saya pnya feeling. dia siap ckp kalau syg tnggu lah. sy ni tnggu lah dkt 3 thn gak. smpai ada pmpuan msg sy bgtau dia tu gf that guy. dia ambik no hp sy dr hp laki tu lah. bezanya dgn TT sy distance relationship ms tu. tp ms tu sy tak frust lgsung sbb mcm dh xdk perasaan lg maybe sbb lama kot dok tnggu. sthn lps tu jmpa my hubby, kwn 3 thn lps tu khwin. beza ngan my hubby 9 thn.  |
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Category: Cinta & Perhubungan
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Post time 29-6-2015 02:56 PM
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