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Post time 4-8-2015 07:50 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts |Read mode
I have one good friend. Kami berkongsi banyak kisah hidup yang hampir sama. Baru2 ni waktu i jatuh sakit dia salah sorang yang i mengadu masalah. Few days back, my friend texted me that dia ada masalah dan semalam die personally bagitahu dia dia disahkan ada cancer stage 2. Sedih. Tapi dia mcm totally down, anxiety and panic attack. How to deal with this emotional situation. I dah bg support dan kata semangat mana i mampu tapi die bertindak mendiamkan diri. Adakah i kena bagi dia cooling period atau mcmana. Rs bersalah tak dapt bersamanya.
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Post time 4-8-2015 08:44 PM | Show all posts
TT,
u google search segala jenis artikel berkaitan kejayaan cancer survivor dan bagaimana mereka mampu melawan kanser tersebut..print out, and suruh kawan u tu baca.. u buat cantik2 la..

atau cari dokumentari ke..pasal orang yang dah berjaya bebas daripada kanser

gud luck TT ..,harap ur friend jadi salah seorang daripada cancer survivor
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 Author| Post time 4-8-2015 08:49 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Wakai replied at 4-8-2015 08:44 PM
TT,
u google search segala jenis artikel berkaitan kejayaan cancer survivor dan bagaimana mereka ma ...

Good idea wakai. Will do it !
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Post time 5-8-2015 01:27 AM | Show all posts
dulu dekat oprah penah this one young actress datang.. kris carr.... aku rasa kisah dia sgt inspiring...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uZVSosX4SmI

auntie aku ada cancer.. n dia sgt positive... always very happy... sgt bersemangat.. nmpk dia enjoy life... n sgt independent...

ur friend ni single ke dah kawin? n tinggal dngn family or sorang or rumah sewa with tenants?




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Post time 5-8-2015 10:27 AM | Show all posts
mmmm... pernah hadap situasi ni, tahun 2000 dulu..
sorang budak office yg rapat dgn lips di diagnosis leukimia, pulak tu dia warded lepas balik cuti dgn lips.
dia mmg down terus la... mula la dia compare hidup/nasib dia dgn kakak dia... bla bla bla
menangis... salah kan itu..salahkan ini..

tapi lips mmg tak layan bila dia beremosi mcm tu.. lips akan buat lawak.. cerita2 benda lain..
sebab taknak dia fokus dgn kesedihan dia..
everyday...seboleh2 nya lips akan visit dia.. lunch atau lepas kerja..
kdg2 temankan dia kimo... tido kat hosp...
apa dia rasa nak makan...lips cuba carikan...buat dia happy la...
infact, lips jadi closed dgn almost semua cancer patient kat HKL tu,
ada yg kita borak2 hari ni..esok dah takde....
ni pengalaman yg takkan lips lupakan.

bila dia start meroyan cakap bukan2...mmg akan terus stop kan dia.. cerita benda best2,
bukan la janjikan benda2 yg bukan2...mcm `dun wori...ko akan hidup lama mcm tu'

alhamdulillah..dah almost 15 years pun... dia survive...dah kawin ada 2 anak..
dia still update health condition dia dgn lips...

i think, utk pesakit cancer... mmg kena positive... kena support spirit/mental diorang..
kita pun kena positif

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 Author| Post time 5-8-2015 10:59 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
mystica replied at 5-8-2015 01:27 AM
dulu dekat oprah penah this one young actress datang.. kris carr.... aku rasa kisah dia sgt inspirin ...

Thanks mystica. Yerp. I did share another story psl pesakit kanser yang i kenal juga. But seems kawan i mungkin masih lg down dan dia tinggal pun jauh dengan i because i work abroad. Tapi i slalu minta die text i supaya i boleh support dia walau apa skalipun. Beacuse dia pernah mendengar masalah i semua waktu i down. I paham sbb waktu i sakit mmg i pun isolate dgn semua org untuk tenang rather than listen org lain punya cerita yg happy2. But i will try.
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 Author| Post time 5-8-2015 11:15 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
lipsofanangel replied at 5-8-2015 10:27 AM
mmmm... pernah hadap situasi ni, tahun 2000 dulu..
sorang budak office yg rapat dgn lips di diagnos ...

Lips.. Mmpuke i nak buat mcm tu juga. Mungkin u kuat semangat orgnya kan. But u dah buat sesuatu yg baik pd hidup kawan u. Well done.
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Post time 5-8-2015 08:33 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
My brother passed away last year. Pancreatic cancer stage 4. Masa diagnose dia diberitahu hanya ada 6 bulan untuk hidup. He passed away on the fourth month. My heart shattered. He was my best friend my brother. May
Allah bless him Jannah. Amin
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 Author| Post time 5-8-2015 09:01 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
FaRiShAsYaHaNaZ replied at 5-8-2015 08:33 PM
My brother passed away last year. Pancreatic cancer stage 4. Masa diagnose dia diberitahu hanya ada  ...

I feel sorry for the news. May Allah grant him Jannah. Amin.
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Post time 5-8-2015 09:08 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Tq sister. Masa tu berlaku suma dlm family tak tahu nak react memula. Abg minta rahsiakan tahap kanser dia kat wife and anak dia.  My brother mcm da give up awal2. Kerap masuk hospital. Bila pi emergency dia bisik ckp da tak lrt tanggung sakit.

I pulak serba salah sbb selalu bila dia admitted di hospital dia nak I tunggu dia time waktu kerja. Relationship dgn bf pun merudum. In the  end relationship  gagal. I nearly drove myself into depression.

Tell your friend jangan give up. Berjuang selagi mampu. My brother gave up.
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 Author| Post time 5-8-2015 09:31 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
FaRiShAsYaHaNaZ replied at 5-8-2015 09:08 PM
Tq sister. Masa tu berlaku suma dlm family tak tahu nak react memula. Abg minta rahsiakan tahap kans ...

Yes i will. Just now dia ckp dia akan be positive dan cr solution. Happy for her. I know deep down hati dia pasti sedih. Yelah sape tak sedih bila jatuh sakit. Dugaan plg besar apabila sakit. Pernah ada org ckp biar miskin asal bdn sihat.
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Post time 6-8-2015 01:08 AM | Show all posts
I ada kenal seseorang yg menghidap kanser stage 4 belum masuk 30's pun time tu. Tapi semangat dia utk pulih sgt2 vavavoom! HAhaha


Sbb apa, contoh pagi dia pegi sesi chemo, petang dia masuk keje. Walaupun badan lemah ke apa ke dia ttp masuk ofis. Mcm x percaya, tapi percayalah ofis mate, bos2 selalu bagi semangat dan layan dia mcm biasa bukan mcm penghidap kanser sbb itu yg dia nak. Dia still buat aktiviti harian mcm biasa, tgk wayang, bola etc. Cuma dia x drive lah bila pegi mana2..sbb bahaya kan. Last i dengar dia dah kawin pun.



The best you can do as a friend is dont push him/her. Kalau dia pilih utk diam u pun diam lah. Bagi dia masa utk relax. Nanti bila dia ready, mesti dia akan cari u. InshaAllah...zaman sekarang kan ada byk alternatif utk pulihkan kanser. Yg penting u bagi dia semangat #dontgivup



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Post time 6-8-2015 10:56 AM | Show all posts
melinda_kerr replied at 5-8-2015 07:15 AM
Lips.. Mmpuke i nak buat mcm tu juga. Mungkin u kuat semangat orgnya kan. But u dah buat sesuatu y ...

my mom also ada cancer tapi dia sgt2 positif..
tak pernah dgr dia mengeluh... dia cuma cakap...
`nak komplen apa lagi ya... hidup sihat walafiat selama ni..dah almost 60 ni baru Allah uji bagi penyakit,
takpe lah...'

alhamdulillah, dia ok dah sekarang, cuma kena cont amik ubat.

eh, maybe ur fren boleh cuba alternative mkn ubat yg mak lips ambik ni.. (mak lips tak buat kimo)
nanti pm lips...lips bagi details..

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 Author| Post time 6-8-2015 11:08 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
lipsofanangel replied at 6-8-2015 10:56 AM
my mom also ada cancer tapi dia sgt2 positif..
tak pernah dgr dia mengeluh... dia cuma cakap...
...

Thanks lips! Will PM u
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 Author| Post time 6-8-2015 11:14 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
samperit replied at 6-8-2015 01:08 AM
I ada kenal seseorang yg menghidap kanser stage 4 belum masuk 30's pun time tu. Tapi semangat dia ut ...

Itulah. Tak semua org ade spirit mcm tu kan. I ingat lg i tgk movie apa yer psl lelaki brain cancer. Setiap pesakit cancer akan disuggest dgn seorang pakar consultant untuk bimbing pesakit ni dr segi emosi dan perasaan. Every week that hospital akan setkan appointment pesakit dgn consultant. The biggest part yg kena jaga pesakit adalah emosi dan stress management. Seriously kalau takde semangat dan positive spirit harus pesakit akan sakit dan menderita. Kalau takde dpt family suppport kawan terdekat yg penting. Kdg tuhan uji kita dgn datangkan org sakit sbb nk tgk kita tolong tak. I believe yg itupun ujian untuk i. I akan support my friend sampaila die bgn balik.
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Post time 6-8-2015 02:19 PM | Show all posts
biarkan dulu kalau dia nk mendiamkan diri..
tp melinda sms ke wasap ke tanya dia cemana..
xperlu berderet2 atau pjg2 lebar..biar dia tenang..
jangan terlalu push cam nak rapatkan diri pd dia..
sebab mungkin dia perlukan masa untuk terima sendiri kenyataan tu..
lagi satu..orang luar mmg susah nak pujuk hati dia utk ok..
diri sendiri tu yg kena terima..mmg sukar tp nanti dia ok la..

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Post time 6-8-2015 03:02 PM | Show all posts
melinda_kerr replied at 6-8-2015 11:14 AM
Itulah. Tak semua org ade spirit mcm tu kan. I ingat lg i tgk movie apa yer psl lelaki brain cance ...

50/50 eh babe?




tapi...last2 cite ni x silap counselor & patient fall in love kan?

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 Author| Post time 6-8-2015 03:37 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
samperit replied at 6-8-2015 03:02 PM
50/50 eh babe?



Haa citer ni lah. Hehe. Yeke bercinta? I ingt2 lupa ending dia. Yg i ingt die slalu skip appointment kn?
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Post time 6-8-2015 03:45 PM | Show all posts
melinda_kerr replied at 6-8-2015 03:37 PM
Haa citer ni lah. Hehe. Yeke bercinta? I ingt2 lupa ending dia. Yg i ingt die slalu skip appointme ...

ha'ah. ending dia i pun lupa jgk ingat tang yg dia & counselor dah start ada feeling gitu


tapi kalau movie yg pasal cancer patient yg paling sedih i tgk is stepmom



sedihhhhh sgt

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 Author| Post time 6-8-2015 04:40 PM | Show all posts
samperit replied at 6-8-2015 03:45 PM
ha'ah. ending dia i pun lupa jgk  ingat tang yg dia & counselor dah start ada feeling gitu  ...

oh yang ini..ni pun sedih yg cameron diaz tu.
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