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i had a good female friend, i treated her as a friend only lah kiranya, we went (with a bunch of our other friends) to holidays overseas a couple of times. Nothing happened between us, sebab masa tuh he was dating one of my good guy friends too, so i takdelah nak sailang awek dia kan.
But after a while i nampak perangai dia berubah lain macam, suka pegang2 i, bila cross jalan nak pegang tangan, alasan takut...lol. bila dalam keter duduk sebelah i, tertidur atas bahu i semua, dalam swimming pool (siap pakai one piece lagi) nak duduk atas leher i, konon nak lompat masuk air gitu. Peluk2 i semua. But i still treated her as a good friend, and jaga batas as she is my friend's GF.
tapi bila i dapat GF, dia jadi mcm tak best pulak, cuba nak encourage gf i untuk tawar hati ngan i. I was pissed, but then i trusted my gf sebab dia x senang nak makan cakap org.
fast forward, she did come to my wedding when i invited her. But i highly suspected that she really liked me, but didn't have the courage to ask me directly, even if she did, i would've rejected her due to her relationship status at the time, i like being friends with her bf, he's a great guy, always helped me when i needed it.
sampai skrang dia x kahwin2, sebab bf dia tuh macam xnak proceed further, dia pon single lagi.
i would be lying if i say i wasn't the least bit attracted to her...physically and sexually, and vice versa, she's a very attractive woman. Tapi dah xde jodoh kan, haha.
Thus i would say its difficult for a man and a woman to have a true platonic relationship, lambat laun one will fall for another, but all at the cost of friendship.
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aah zul arifin..
i cakap dengan dia you tau i tak single.. dia cakap dia tahu tapi dia nak luah jugak mana tahu dia ingt the feeling is mutual.
since then i kurang kan la jumpa..
dia pun frust dan kawin.. malang nya hari dia kahwin tu malam tu dah ajak i lepak.. hmmm
kesian wife dia..
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Edited by mbhcsf at 16-7-2020 09:42 AM
wow, your GF ( dah married ke, you now) is a verry patient lady i must say ,with all the things u told us now about the other 'woman'.
u know , kalau i gf you and i knew you did this with abukan mahram. i tak marah, i just walked off.
tu;ah kan betulah you cakap - both genders will definitely feel attracted one way or another be they , intellectually, physically and so on but ...self restraint is always the best thing to resort to.
gosh....
tulah i takpercaya bila lelaki mingle dengan a lady cakap dia less bit attracted , penipu ( and i came to know one , almost 10 years ) and you know banyak and almost all macam tu ( execption lah a few male humans like prophet etc ) , i let them lie. kat situ kita boleh measurte their worth. penipu lelaki macam ni, memang Allah je deals with them.
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sorry, but i don't quite get what you're saying.
di above adalah pengalaman i many years back.
i met my GF (now wife) when i was friends with the girl i mentioned. We have been friends since early uni days, i know her through her BF which was a really good friend of mine, at the time they seemed happy, but after a few years i found out they were actually in an open relationship. I was a little uncomfortable when she was too 'mesra' with me...sometimes it happened right in front of her own BF, we have a group of mutual friends who always went to holiday trips together, i was confused while thinking "mamat nih x jaga gf dia ke apa nih".
btw all this "mesra-mesra" happened before i met my GF. Once i did, i never went out to lepak with her or to any group holidays anymore, all my time spent with my GF.
but alas, nothing happened, and i got married, we are still friends, but no longer speak as much, my wife knows about what she has done and also had the opinion that she liked me but was frustrated that i got married, haha.
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ohhh i see, i seee....oh i see now i know, you met the woman first then your GF ( now wife ) later....ohhh i thot just now, you had that u kno ' a whaleeeee of time ' with her and your gf just felt uneasy about it - that is why i wrote , If were your gf then , and i knew the thing by the pool and at the pool , i just walked off...
tapi lelaki kan
see?
suruh wanita kahwin but - bila macam ni pun i was like thinking and you can respond to this
berapa kasih seorang lelaki kepada wanita ye to be honestly, absolutely, utterly butterly TRUTH ?
i rasa kan semu alelaki semuaaaa ( kecuali my abah , late uncles , brother Prophets , auliyaa ) adalah penipu to a certain extent
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Edited by yprat at 16-7-2020 11:37 AM
yes, all that mesra2 from my 'platonic' female friend was before i met my GF, after i met my GF, i never went out with her to lepak2, unless i bring my GF together and in a group setting. I know my boundaries.
she (GF) knew of her conduct with me because i told her, we laughed it off, it wasn't like i was cheating on her, and it all happened quite some time before i met her (GF).
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I never believes any platonic relationship btwn both gender can be mesra2 without any feelings..no romances atau no seksual attraction. Must be one of them..lama2 akan terpeleot gak. Its like sound bbnu punya words..apa..teman tapi mesra kaaa..gituww..
From my past experiences..sudahnya im quit when they started to say sayang2..feeling2 gitu. ahh..mula lah i rasa bosan. For me..kawan is kawan..ada gap. For them yg dah married..better tak yah kot gini. But skrg i noticed some husbnd and wife ada amalkan open relationship with other partner. Not sure lah itu lanjutan dari hubungan platonic antara mereka semua ker.. |
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I open a thread before n it was deleted by some moron. I stop all my connection with my so call platonic fren. Bkn sbb dia over board tp sbb org keliling2 bodoh n i cant stand it.
He once in a while say hi over the phone n fb. N we chat jgn tidak about cats.
I love my husband n he is not that happy with the relationship too. So i choose my husband over everything. Afterall he accepted me after all the hoo haa. |
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MrsVeneer replied at 24-7-2020 04:27 PM
I open a thread before n it was deleted by some moron. I stop all my connection with my so call plat ...
I have one too many platonics too
Helps with getting along at work. Iols punya pembawaan maskulin boleh masuk zone
I dislikes if they took it far. Gives me the impression I have bad taste over men  Macam desperate lak. Sebabtu I offended orang kata fangirling over men. My manly bitch face dont do 'fan'
Iols kalau mendapatkan cinta sama macam dapat simpati mak ayam @MrsVeneer Tak pernah paksa atau sengaja tumpang nama. Orang bagi kita tadah dengan nyiru! |
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I think I have one platonic relationship ni.
With my office mate.
We text everyday. Mostly pasal kerja & gossip.
And I biasa cerita apa2 je dgn dia.
Pasal I dgn ex bf.
Pasal my imaginary friend.
Pasal isu with my ex hb
So, blessed ada Kawan mcm ni. |
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Ada kot.. tp dia gay la..
Taste kitorg sama in music, tv show, fashion etc..
Tp dah lost contact la.. |
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Susah la. Pernah until org tu start luahkan perasaan. Stress jadi nya. And jujur ckp syg sgt persahabatan tu. Maybe if not them, its me |
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My bff in sch, lps kawin isterinya a bit jealous so we stopped being friends for 6,7 yrs kot. Lagipun masing2 sibuk bina kehidupan. Now ank2 pun dah besar, hidup pun dah stabil xder apa lg yg our spouses nak feeling insecure. We did not go out together but communicate a lot via soc med. Ala... cerita pasal Najib, Tun M je pun...
We r not sexually attracted to one another, jadi persahabatan tu kekal je
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Category: Cinta & Perhubungan
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Post time 15-7-2020 12:30 PM
