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Dear holla...
i think u better confront him..bagitau dia yang u tau apa yang dia buat, bagitau dia apa perasaan you bila dia buat macam nih... give him 2nd chance... kalau lepas tuh pun dia tak berubah then it's up to u to decide... since you dah bagi dia 2nd chance... |
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Baiknya perempuan ini, wajarkah di lantik jadi isteri mithali? Terangan dalam friendster, facebook, myspace etc semua suami mengaku masih single, terjumpa pula gambar bogel perempuan dalam hp dan isteri tahu tapi diamkan sahaja? Terlalu baik lurus atau.... |
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holla, u agak agak yr asben ni jenis suka layan menda 18 sx, ke sampai ke peringkat melakukan zina ek? just wonder kalau dah sampai perinkgat terkutuk tu, memang parah gak...
skrg ni u tgh pregnant, so focus kat yr pregnancy, benda benda lain tu cuba ketepikan....me tau masa tgh pregnan ni kta jadik supersensitive....jgn dilayan sgt, pas ni dah settle semua, u bole la nak confront ke, nak bagi ultimatum ke, nak fight back ke....semoga somi berubah selepaas menatap yr bundle of joy |
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Originally posted by Blues_guy at 11-2-2008 04:34 PM 
Kpd holla, sorry to sound so discouraging. The key question that you have asked here is perhaps whether your hb can change.
I would like to say, of course this is possible. People do change.... but more often than not, there has to be a drastic or specific motive for this change to happen.
agree..kena bagi dia 'tersentak' sikit. baru dia sedo apa yg dia ada, dibandingkan dgn apa yg dia kejo. |
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Originally posted by hollaback_girl at 11-2-2008 05:15 PM
Kadang kala berdetik juga dihati, agak2nya apalah yang perlu dilakukan oleh seorang isteri untuk menjamin hati hasben sentiasa milik mereka.
aku rasa dlm hal camni, takde jaminan
kadang2 kita tgk marriage tu takde masalah pun, even the hubby admits..isteri baik, anak2 comel, rumahtangga bahagia
cuma dieorang sajaaaaaa suka2...it's always start with suka2..lepas tu terus terbabas
as a wife, ape yg kite leh buat ialah gives our very best shot..dan jgn lupa sentiasa berdoa dan memohon pada Tuhan sebab segala-galanya pun berbalik pada Dia gak |
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Originally posted by hollaback_girl at 11-2-2008 17:15 
Walau mcm mana pun, sekarang ni Holla tgh cuba untuk memperbaiki diri dan melayan hasben sebaik mungkin. Holla takkan beri peluang kepada stripper2 murahan itu untuk menangguk di air keroh. Holla ...
...gini jerlah sis...while we want to give our very best to our husband...try not to give him everything of u in one shot...some men ada pelik sikit...when he can get all that he wants from u...he will lose interest in u and thats when he starts to wander on to some other women who can give him the excitement that he desires for...
...so...instead of putting yourself 100% on a platter before him...ko kasi dia sikit2 dulu...bila agak2 ko dia dah mula resah dan requires further excitement...ko umpankan dia ngan another 10% of whats in store...pancing dia sikit2...so that dia akan tetap teruja ngan ko...macam orang pompan...orang lelaki pon suka surprises and excitement...so...ko kena sentiasa carik akal camna nak excite dia...give him wonderful surprises...like...eg...ketika dia having his shower...u knock on the bathroom door and join him skali...or...ketika dia sedang sibuk berinternet ko switch on some sexy music...and do the stripetease...especially so time ko tengah pregnant...lagik nampak sexy...tease and tease and keep on teasing him...he will surely love it...and some other stuff like that noe...
...equip yourself with self esteem and confidence...sayangi diri ko dulu sebelom ko menyayangi orang lain...kalau ko hargai diri ko...suami ko jugak akan menghargai ko in a way that u want him to treat u...
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Originally posted by Vvenus at 11-2-2008 11:39 PM
agree..kena bagi dia 'tersentak' sikit. baru dia sedo apa yg dia ada, dibandingkan dgn apa yg dia kejo.
hmmmm holla ni memang baik le, but dear...
....if you just want to give him chance to change say 1 year with expectation dia akan sedar sendiri - most likely susah nak terjadi - you may end up getting more frustrated, makin berdendam and things probably get worst
some things kita boleh usaha dalam diam, sabar dan expect miracle to happen - it can happen, no doubt...semua dengan izin Allah..
but there are some things, contoh like this case...that you have to tell him to buck-up!, change! ect or else he might end up losing you!...it is just how you nak approach tu yang you kena pandai...
if i were you, especially when hati hambar nak melayan kehendak suami sbb teringat2 activity sampingan dia tu...i won't just usaha to upgrade myself sorang-sorang and expect dia sedar....i will buat dia sedar jugak!....i will let him know that i know all the acitivities, i will tell him benda2 yang i tak suka but of course i will ask him apa yang dia nak i change dulu...there are so many ways untuk approach sebenarnya...
sanggup tak nak cubakan ikhlaskan diri bila dalam hati berkata-kata? sanggup tahan for 1 year cenggitu? sebab bila hati kita dah terluka, no more trust and so on life will naturally gets difficult tau...apa2 dia buat akan menyakitkan hati you...you need to tell him that you know, you need to tell him you are his wife you deserve all the respect as a wife, etc.....
if i were you i would rather 'fight' now - biarlah gadoh tegang2 leher asalkan my message sampai, he got my message loud and clear....and at the same time i will improve apa2 yang patut ku improvekan.....
banyak cara nak tegur sebenarnya and tak perlu nak gaduh bagai.....you can even create one scenario somethng like:
"darling, ada sorang my friend tengah upset sesangat sbb she found out her husband ada simpan gambar2 girlfriend dia - naked pulak tu kat laptop....sian sangat, sampai kan really affect their relationship....uisy, patut ke suami dia buat camtu? kalo you jadi my friend apa you patut buat ya? at least i can tell her something from a man's point of view...."
nih contoh le....get him to participate...tengok response dia cemana.....and from there you drag la something like
"sian my friend nih, ish, kalo i jadi dia i memang goodbye je.....sebab tak tahu nak hormat bini, apa lagi suami dia nak dari my friend nih, semua cukup...kalo ada yang tak cukup he should have just tell his wife, after all tu kan bini dia....cakap je lah nak soh improve apa2 yang patut...kalo i le jadi my friend tu memang i goodbye je lelaki jenis cenggitu!!!"
kind of macam hint kat dia how you will react kununnya if you were in your 'friends' shoes..
kalo dia bijak - he got the hint and slowly change
kalo dia bengap - hmmmmm banyak cara lain nak bagi dia sedar....
nih one of cara lembut la nak hint kat your man......
-just a suggestion- |
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Originally posted by Vvenus at 11-2-2008 23:46
aku rasa dlm hal camni, takde jaminan
kadang2 kita tgk marriage tu takde masalah pun, even the hubby admits..isteri baik, anak2 comel, rumahtangga bahagia
cuma dieorang sajaaaaaa suka2...it ...
Bila ko cakap macam ni V, teringat aku kat seorang kawan. Isteri dia lawa, anak-anak pun bijak pandai, rumahtangga pun aku tengok ok je.... tapi still boleh pasang dua....
Teragak juga aku nak tanya dia, apa reason dia boleh kahwin lagi satu (setakat utk dijadikan modal akan datang... itupun kalau perlu la.... )  |
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have you considered the likelihood of your hubby being a sex addict? he's getting a lot at home, and he is still looking... |
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off topic jap...
Holla tolong check p.m. |
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Reply #61 dianthe's post
dear dianthe...
"cute".... |
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Originally posted by hollaback_girl at 11-2-2008 06:01 PM
And ini hanya sebagai maklumat tambahan sahajala, gani tahu tak yang dikalangan wanita Cina, India dan Melayu, wanita Melayu la yang paling diburui disebabkan oleh kepandaian mereka di ranjang.
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"only jauhari kenal manikam"............................................. |
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Reply #61 dianthe's post
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Originally posted by Blues_guy at 12-2-2008 05:36 AM
Bila ko cakap macam ni V, teringat aku kat seorang kawan. Isteri dia lawa, anak-anak pun bijak pandai, rumahtangga pun aku tengok ok je.... tapi still boleh pasang dua....
Teragak juga aku ...
jangan blues...ko kan dah tobat kan...ke tau buat? |
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Originally posted by ganisara at 12-2-2008 09:38 AM
dear dianthe...
"cute"....
as usual  |
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Post time 11-2-2008 06:44 PM
