The 10 Habits Of Happy Couples

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Dr. Mark Goulston is psychiatrist, international speaker, and best selling author. He also happens to be an avid blogger. His post 10 Habits of Happy Couples, has been read by over half a million people.

Regardless of the state of your relationship, Dr. Goulston provides some interesting insight on the 10 habits that will allow you and your loved one to keep the magic going


#1. Go to bed at the same time.
Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn’t wait to go to bed with each other to make love? Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times. They go to bed at the same time, even if one partner wakes up later to do things while their partner sleeps.


#2. Cultivate common interests.
After the passion settles down, it’s common to realize that you have few interests in common. But don’t minimize the importance of activities you can do together that you both enjoy. If common interests are not present, happy couples develop them. At the same time, be sure to cultivate interests of your own; this will make you more interesting to your mate and prevent you from appearing too dependent.


#3. Walk hand in hand or side by side.
Rather than one partner lagging or dragging behind the other, happy couples walk comfortably hand in hand or side by side. They know it’s more important to be with their partner than to see the sights along the way.


#4. Make trust and forgiveness your default mode.
If and when they have a disagreement or argument, and if they can’t resolve it, happy couples default to trusting and forgiving rather than distrusting and begrudging.


#5. Focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong.
If you look for things your partner does wrong, you can always find something. If you look for what he or she does right, you can always find something, too. It all depends on what you want to look for. Happy couples accentuate the positive.


#6. Hug each other as soon as you see each other after work.
Our skin has a memory of “good touch” (loved), “bad touch” (abused) and “no touch” (neglected). Couples who say hello with a hug keep their skin bathed in the “good touch,” which can inoculate your spirit against anonymity in the world.


#7. Say “I love you” and “Have a good day” every morning.
This is a great way to buy some patience and tolerance as each partner sets out each day to battle traffic jams, long lines and other annoyances.


#8. Say “Good night” every night, regardless of how you feel.
This tells your partner that, regardless of how upset you are with him or her, you still want to be in the relationship. It says that what you and your partner have is bigger than any single upsetting incident.


#9. Do a “weather” check during the day.
Call your partner at home or at work to see how his or her day is going. This is a great way to adjust expectations so that you’re more in sync when you connect after work. For instance, if your partner is having an awful day, it might be unreasonable to expect him or her to be enthusiastic about something good that happened to you.


#10. Be proud to be seen with your partner.
Happy couples are pleased to be seen together and are often in some kind of affectionate contact — hand on hand or hand on shoulder or knee or back of neck. They are not showing off but rather just saying that they belong with each other.

Happy couples have different habits than unhappy couples. A habit is a discrete behavior that you do automatically and that takes little effort to maintain. It takes 21 days of daily repetition of a new a behavior to become a habit. So select one of the behaviors in the list above to do for 21 days and voila, it will become a habit…and make you happier as a couple. And if you fall off the wagon, don’t despair, just apologize to your partner, ask their forgiveness and recommit yourself to getting back in the habit.


If there was one key to happiness in love and life and possibly even success it would be to go into each conversation you have with this commandment to yourself front and foremost in your mind, “Just Listen” and be more interested than interesting, more fascinated than fascinating and more adoring than adorable.

intriQue

Need to work on number 9

muffins

#9. Do a “weather” check during the day.
Call your partner at home or at work to see how his or her day is going. This is a great way to adjust expectations so that you’re more in sync when you connect after work. For instance, if your partner is having an awful day, it might be unreasonable to expect him or her to be enthusiastic about something good that happened to you.



Ini je wa biase buat dan bole buat pon..

Lelain tu x leh nak buat .. .. Bahaya..

ifanonline

muffins posted on 17-6-2014 08:15 PM
#9. Do a “weather” check during the day.
Call your partner at home or at work to see how his or ...

Lelain tu x leh nak buat .. .. Bahaya..

muffins

ifanonline posted on 17-6-2014 08:20 PM

Lu nak wa call lu setiap 10 jam sekali, 5 hari seminggu tak..

2 hari rest day ..

each session determain by urself how long it will be .. Kalo bizi xmo cakap.. Just answer ok.. Kalo tensen.. Nak becakap 10 jam pon ok..

2 days for rest.. There will be no text or phone calls.. Silent day.



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wa nak sgt buat yg lelain tu.. Tapi x leh.. X halal pon nak buat..

i have very high intensity lust presure into something that i really love.. .. So.. No pegang2 .. No gesel2 .. No tenung2 .. Stay away 100 meters from me when we walking together..

kinki

habit ni sesuai utk married couple je

clarizsa

i got 6 out of 10.. hmmmm... not happy much eh?

edee_91

Thanks utk info yg berguna ni.

otakotak

encik... sila baca ini.


mslhnya waktu tidur encik dan saya berbeda yang amat dong! g mana sih?

card_reader

kalo satu pihak je excited, lagi satu pihak buat sejok beku.....buang masa je layan

xtw

org y da khwn boley la buat semua ni..mcm aku may b no 5 dgn no 9 jer...tp kalau buat no 9 tu mcm menyibuk plak hal dia...bertabah laa

faraway1

tak sangka me buat semua ni...

tak sangka ada title lagi, ingatkan normal things couple do aje..

artcrime

muffins posted on 17-6-2014 08:58 PM
Lu nak wa call lu setiap 10 jam sekali, 5 hari seminggu tak..

2 hari rest day ..

wow. sound like hanak hekan jarak jauh? jarak dekat ade? nak promote diri ni..

mbhcsf

hahaha

gosh how much did u score Ifan ?

artcrime

muffins posted on 17-8-2014 02:15 PM
Hanak hekan jauh dekat tu ape..

sila promote..

jauh.. jenis suka bercakap tak suka berdepan..

dekat2?

takkan mau tanya lagi..

ape expectation?

artcrime

muffins posted on 20-8-2014 10:33 PM
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any offer?

artcrime

muffins posted on 21-8-2014 09:00 PM
Pm harga pliss..

i dont put price, best offer pls.

artcrime

muffins posted on 22-8-2014 04:59 PM
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lol..

midori888

did none of the above....are we not happy couple?

muffins

artcrime posted on 25-8-2014 08:20 AM
lol..

dilarang borak sensorang..