Am I really attracted to them? Do I want to be “off the market” right now? Do I really want to introduce this person to my family and friends? Does he or she make enough money? In love, these questions don’t cross our minds, at least not enough to deter us from the person’s company. There is a feeling of unity with them, a feeling that any obstacles can be overcome and there is trust. If the following resonate as truth to you, then you’re probably in a pretty great relationship. You Challenge Each OtherGetting along, having a great time and being attracted to each other are all wonderful. What is truly a sign of a great partner is that they celebrate your successes and challenge you to be the best version of yourself. Sitting back while your partner makes poor choices in their life doesn’t sound like love to me. Having those conversations about where you’re at as individuals shows your partner that you are interested in them and that you want them to be the best version of themselves too. Challenging one another doesn’t mean arguing or fighting. It means being transparent, honest and forward. My partner and I constantly check in with each other, our emotions, goals, the relationship and our personal life aside from the relationship. You’re Attracted To Each OtherA feeling of wanting to connect with the person so fully, the yearning to simply be in their company provokes an interest that you have rarely, if ever, felt with another person. It’s energy that you feel whether they just rolled out of bed, or are dressed to the nines! It’s important to keep physical intimacy alive, although a relationship should not be built around it, it’s a strong energetic exchange that keeps you feeling connected on another level. You’re AcceptedYou sense and feel their respect and admiration for who you truly are, mind, body and soul and that there is no judgement, no secrecy, but a desire to make the other person feel safe and loved. You TrustWhen you are in love, you don’t fear unfavorable outcomes. You are positive! You are not consumed with feelings of doubt. This doesn’t mean that you don’t have a realistic view of life, but simply that those feelings do not consume you. You’re FreeWe often forget that we are two separate beings living two separate experiences, we have agreed on a soul and physical level to be together. We don’t have ownership over the other and we don’t have expectations of our partners. You allow your partner to just be, you receive anything your partner has to offer as a gift rather than expecting it of them. What If You’re Unsure?If you read through this article and felt that this isn’t your relationship, that some aspect of you is feeling unfulfilled, then maybe it’s time to make some new agreements together. Most of the time our partners are unaware of what it is that we need. Sometimes a simple conversation can spark a new and exciting time in the relationship..
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