Love Doc: Q & A Here (Especially for the Ladies)

biynio

Nak tanya...
Mcmana nk lupakan seseorg yg pernah 'menetap' di dlm hati selama 4 thn?
Seseorg ini terpaksa dilupakan disbbkan family dia

tulip^putih

jus like me... tetapkn pendirian dan terima ketentuan DIA dgn redha.. insyaallah.. mungkin yg terbaik akan bakal dtg pd u.. n alhmdulilah i m bersyukur.. berkat kesabaran i dgn apa yg berlaku.. HE gives me a 'gift'..

dh2 la.. x der guna nk kenang2..

kalu btul dia nk u syg u.. dia akan terus pertahankan hubungn dia dgn u.. sori to say.. life goes on dear..

ishak_mia

thanks everyone for helping...gotta erase this now..

[ Last edited by  ishak_mia at 10-11-2006 06:26 PM ]

ifanonline

Originally posted by polaris_girlz at 3-11-2006 12:37 PM

kat sini

3minggu dia myepi kan diri.....sejak kami clash...Tp mlm td dgn tak di sangka2 dia hantar msg kat sy...
Dia ckp "Abg minta maaf, wat ms skng abg xleh nak tumpu bcinta, kt leh bk ...

saya dah baca luahan hati polaris di thread saudari, saya minta maaf kerana lambat membalas pertanyaan saudari kerana saya sibuk dengan urusan seharian, sememangnya niat bf polaris hanya untuk berkawan dengan saudari, dia hanya menunggu peluang untuk mencari pasangan yg lebih baik sementara menjadi saudari sebagai tempat persinggahan. Lebih baik saudari berkawan dengan dia untuk melihat sejauh mana kesetiaan dia terhadap saudari. Saudari jangan mudah 'jatuh cinta' dengan dia sekiranya dia merayu untuk menjadi saudari sebagai kekasih dia. Saudari perlu mencari peluang yg lain dan jangan menagih kasih dari dirinya sahaja...

ifanonline

Originally posted by biynio at 4-11-2006 11:20 AM
Nak tanya...
Mcmana nk lupakan seseorg yg pernah 'menetap' di dlm hati selama 4 thn?
Seseorg ini terpaksa dilupakan disbbkan family dia

pada mulanya memang sukar untuk melupakan seseorang yg pernah kita sayangi, kita akan sentiasa teringat-ingat kenangan indah bersama, haruman yg dipakai oleh dia dan conversation yg pernah anda buat bersama. Cara terbaik untuk melupakan segala kenangan tersebut adalah dengan meng 'active' kan diri anda dengan kegiatan2 yg anda suka lakukan seperti bersukan, bersuka-ria bersama kawan2 dan sebagainya. Pada mulanya memang sukar untuk melupakan tetapi lama-kelamaan perasaan itu akan pergi dengan sendiri apabila anda bertemu dengan pasangan yg baru...:love:

ifanonline

Originally posted by ishak_mia at 6-11-2006 07:43 PM
Dear Ifan

I admire the way you tackle each of the problem presneted to you.

I would like to ask your opinion too.
My sister has just gotten to know a guy, whom i recommended. I know the guy ...

From your posting, i think your sis is dating a nice guy...yes, it is true some guys get really exhausted from a relationship that they have built with another woman but by the end of the day, the relationship collapse leaving both person broken hearted and time wasted. My advice, your sis should give him some time to heal his wound from his previous relationship, he is very much interested with your sis, don't try and push him to a serious relationship just yet because he is still
'sorting' his mind out and maybe gradually he will get back to his senses...

Your sis should play a role as a 'soother' and try to understand his situation rather than your sis being upset with his behaviour. Being a helping hand can make someone understand you much better...

[ Last edited by  ifanonline at 8-11-2006 08:55 AM ]

ishak_mia

thanks ifan,

[ Last edited by  ishak_mia at 10-11-2006 06:27 PM ]

ifanonline

Originally posted by ishak_mia at 8-11-2006 12:15 PM
thanks ifan,
any suggestions on what my sis should do? like can she still call him? or should she just keep quiet and play jual mahal?

hmmm, sorry ifan, i am very inexperienced in this...

yes, your sis should still call him, treat him somehow as a best friend, tanya kabar dia, sometime ajak dia keluar pegi makan kedai mamak ke, simple stuff...

LegalVixen

Dear Ifan,

I just broke off with my ex early this year for a year relationship. I was totally in love with him before and we even planned to engage. Out of the blue, he asked for break-up. Reason being, he said he wasnt good enough for me. That i deserve a better man than him. (such a lame excuse). I was suffer from a major total breakdown then.

During ramadhan, i pray hard to be able to find a good man for me. First day of ramadhan, i met this guy through chatroom. Wasnt a very nice way to start a relationship innit?? Later, i find this guy is a very honest and nice man indeed. I told him that i wasnt really looking for any relationship and i did sometimes making an 'attitude' towards him. But yet, he being patience with me. The way he treat me 'like a princess' melt my heart bit by bit. Lately, he confessed to me tht he really love me and willing to see my parents to ask a hand for marriage. He even suggest tht i should meet his parents too.

My question, do u think its a bit too early to get engage with someone who u know for barely 2 month? How do i know whther he totally serious with me? My past relationship doesnt do any good to me and that teach me quite a lesson which i live with it till today. But it wouldnt be fair if i didnt give this new guy a chance. What am i supposed to do.

ifanonline

Originally posted by LegalVixen at 8-11-2006 01:36 PM
Dear Ifan,

I just broke off with my ex early this year for a year relationship. I was totally in love with him before and we even planned to engage. Out of the blue, he asked for break-up. Reaso ...

Give the relationship sometime to blossom, yes, it is a little bit to early to get involve seriously with someone if you know them for just 2 month...try and get to know him better, understand his behaviour and maybe you can judge from there whether you would like to be with him or not...:love:

LegalVixen

tHanks ifan.. U are right, perhaps i should give more time..get to know him more better..take it slowly...

ishak_mia

Originally posted by ifanonline at 8-11-2006 12:18 PM


yes, your sis should still call him, treat him somehow as a best friend, tanya kabar dia, sometime ajak dia keluar pegi makan kedai mamak ke, simple stuff...

thanks ifan, you have given great advices!

ifanonline

Korang penah dengar tak lelaki atau perempuan yg katakan apabila mereka mengorat, mereka cuma nak test power, nak try samada mereka masih 'got it or not'...bagi saya, soal 'test power' memang diterima oleh semua manusia samada lelaki atau perempuan. Manusia ni memang suka melihat benda2 yg cantik tetapi benda yg cantik tidak semestinya suka dimiliki...mungkin orang yg suka test power ni adalah golongan yg cantik-handsome tetapi kepada org yg dia test power tu mungkin suka kepada mereka tetapi deep down inside mereka akan kutuk-seranah orang yg test power...silap haribulan orang yg nak test power tu kena 'trap'...mangsa perangkap pemangsa...

firdaruddin

kalau macam tu,jawab nyer abis la power..hehe

sorry, cancelled

[ Last edited by  maera_sumea at 10-11-2006 06:03 PM ]

neeeza75

Hi ifan... nee'za nak tanyer pandangan ifan laah dr sudut pandangan kaum adam

1) Kalau kaum adam ni setiap kali perbingangan selalu dia mention kalau saya jadi pasangan hidupnya adakah dia betul betul menyatakan hasratnyeer atau sekadar berpikiran secara sepontan ajee?

2)Bila dia menyatakan sekiranyeer dia jadi teman hidup saya sebagai suami maka saya akan jelous disbbkan emak mertuanyeer lebih sayangkan diri nyeer drp anaknyeer sendiri.  Secara personalliti nyeer yg baik dari segala segi memang kenyataan yang dinyatakan tak mustahil ianyeer akan berlaku. Saya pulak raser mcm tercabar.

3)Saya tak suka diia,  but dia saya kategori kenalan mengisi segala kesepian saya... bila dipikirkan tak adil saya buat mcm tu kepada dia tapi nak buat mcm maneer.

4)saya raser saya perlu menjauhkan diri saya drp dia tapi mcm maner?

buat masa ni itu ajee leer soalan yg ingin dikemukakan... thank you in advance membaca celotih saya pada kali ini.

regards
nee'za

ifanonline

Originally posted by neeeza75 at 12-11-2006 01:03 PM
Hi ifan... nee'za nak tanyer pandangan ifan laah dr sudut pandangan kaum adam

1) Kalau kaum adam ni setiap kali perbingangan selalu dia mention kalau saya jadi pasangan hidupnya adakah dia betul ...

in the first place, are u lovers? it seems from what you jot down, there is no sign of love anywhere...

ifanonline

I read the NST papers this morning and was suprise that malaysian men are looking to foreign ladies for love and marriage. Astonishingly, these men commented that foreign ladies are more loyal and not material-base kind of woman. This shows that malaysian women (malay,chinese, indian) are more material-driven rather than looking for true love.

Jadi, kepada wanita2 yg diluar sana tu, jangan lah mengharapkan harta-benda sahaja apabila ingin mencari pasangan, lebih baik memiliki sifat2 'isteri' yang ingin dicari oleh lelaki.

firdaruddin

betul..ini belum kawin,tapi dah "pau" lebih dari bini plaks..

neeeza75

Originally posted by ifanonline at 13-11-2006 08:54 AM


in the first place, are u lovers? it seems from what you jot down, there is no sign of love anywhere...

bila dipikirkan balik perasaan i mmg tak love kat dia pon semakin meluat mendengar bila dia keluarkan kenyataan mcm tu.. I pulak i teraser yg diri i ni terhegeh hegeh kat dia ker? sampai boleh mengelurkan kenyatan masa depan bersama.

cuma dia tu kawan kesepian saya ajee.. saya tak nak leer dia pulak mengharap  bahawa diri saya ni akan jadi pasangan hidup masa depan dia..

itu ajeee tu pasal leer saya tanyer pandangan anda.

regards
nee'za