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Reply #18 tobcontinued's post
the thing is
u are thinking bout 50 years to come but in the same time u still didnt know this man. its like this,
u are going out, u want to buy something. and u keep on thinking, will it be rain? will the queue at the counter is too long? is it available? what color do i need to buy? if i end up buying something else, then how? what if i go tomorrow? do i really need to buy this?
u can keep on thinking, or u just go first, see the thing....then decide.
and yess, understand completely that by nature, women will think this much! and u r very normal dear!
but for me , personally, life is about taking risk and making decision. u accept him, worse case u r hurt again, but if it succeed then it will goes well. who knows?
personal notes: i think u r not in love with him yet, thats why all this question appear, kan? |
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Reply #20 pavlova's post
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yups........................ but camna nak tau kalau kita tak cuba kan? |
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Reply #22 hitamputih's post
kalau bende kawen ni bole try and error mcm buat math xpe..kite bole cube sampai kite dpt..
tp once kite dh kawen..sume bende kite x bole nak undur blk dh..
sbb tu kena pk byk2 kali |
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Balas #1 tobcontinued\ catat
mmm, cuba tanya betul2 pada diri awk...
awk betul2 xda hati pada dia ke?betul ke hanya kesian sbb dia baik sgt...
if betul rasa camtu...xperlula pening2 fikir pasal hal2 future...
terus terang je dgn dia awk xde pape perasaan pada dia..
tapi,
if sebenarnye awk betul2 ada hati pada dia....cuba jela get serious wif him..
xsalah mencuba...masa depan kite xleh duga...mungkin kita bleh plan..tp Dia lebih mengetahui..
just follow the flow...if rasa suke & dia ok...move on to serious relationship...
xperlu risau sgt hal2 lain..dlm hubungan yg penting tolak ansur...insyaAllah..if awk & dia
bleh bertolak ansur..mesti xda prob..lagi satu..doa byk2 biar dimudahkan semua & dilorongkan
kepada pilihan yg tepat ye..
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Reply #23 pavlova's post
tgk tu
pikir sampai hujung dunia lagi
ada ke lelaki tu ckp nak ajak kawen?
...he seems to b interested with me n try to further our relationship to a serious level, either couple/engage/getting married.
dia nak ajak couple dulu kan
kalau dah couple
leh laaa adjust apa patut
maybe dia korbankan kerja dia
and tuan umah kena korbankan duduk jauh sket.
gitu...
after all
marriage is about give and take kan.
TAPI
lelaki tu baru ajak couple kan?
ke dah masuk minang? kalau nak pikir jawapan kepada pinangan, itu wajarlaa nak mentelaah
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Reply #25 hitamputih's post
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baikkk.... |
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Originally posted by hitamputih at 6-10-2008 03:25 PM 
ada ke lelaki tu ckp nak ajak kawen?
...he seems to b interested with me n try to further our relationship to a serious level, either couple/engage/gett ...
tam, kan tob letak sign "/" = atau
kirenya, dia nk tob pilih salah satu..
cume baru2 ni, dia bangkitkan isu nk ajk couple
lelaki tu baru ajak couple kan?
ke dah masuk minang? kalau nak pikir jawapan kepada pinangan, itu wajarlaa nak mentelaah
belum lagi dia nk masuk meminang..tp dia pnh tnya tob, "klo sy nk jumpe parents awk nk bertnya kabar bole?"
(antara soklan kiasan dia)
klo dia nk masuk minang, alamat x tdo mlm la tob nk pk psl ni
ni dia br ajk couple pun dh gelabah itik
tu sbb tob nk menelaah dr awl dulu..
sbb tob ingt, once tob jumpe sumone, tob ingt nk buat dia as the 1st n the last
tob x suke la klo dh move to serious level, klo ade isu yg bole buat either one of us xhappy..nnti end up sakit hati
klo bole tob nk elakkan..sbb tu tob pk 3 issues yg tob cerita diatas dr awl - ni antara issue utama la
(dan pd waktu yg sama juga, pk hingga ke hujung dunia ) |
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Originally posted by pavlova at 6-10-2008 03:04 PM
kalau bende kawen ni bole try and error mcm buat math xpe..kite bole cube sampai kite dpt..
tp once kite dh kawen..sume bende kite x bole nak undur blk dh..
sbb tu kena pk byk2 kali
betul!
tob sokong pav 300%
skrg ni kadar kes perceraian semakin meningkat
tob x nk termasuk dlm statistik itu! |
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Reply #28 tobcontinued's post
we are in the same boat!  |
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Reply #6 juwaini's post
thnx juwaini 4 ur view..
really appreciate that..
tp, smpai skrg tob x tnya2 lg kat dia psl kamikaze tu..
sepi kelu lidah nak bertnya..
tah bile nk dptkan kekuatan nk bertnya pun tak tau..
but i'll ask him one day
btw, bole ke tob tnya dia "wut do u xpect in our r/ship?"
(sbg soklan tambahan)
or is it too harsh for a guy?
guys, wut do u think klo partner korang tnya mcm tu? bole ke? patut ke?
jikalau sesapa ade soklan2 tambahan lg sila la kemukakan ..
bole tob buat list utk soal siasat dia nnti |
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Originally posted by tobcontinued at 6-10-2008 04:49 PM
tu sbb tob nk menelaah dr awl dulu..
sbb tob ingt, once tob jumpe sumone, tob ingt nk buat dia as the 1st n the last
tob x suke la klo dh move to serious level, klo ade isu yg bole buat either one of us xhappy..nnti end up sakit hati
klo bole tob nk elakkan..sbb tu tob pk 3 issues yg tob cerita diatas dr awl - ni antara issue utama la
...
tam faham maksud awak, tp apa yg tam nak highlight is, jgn anggap once u approve him as bf , it means he is approved for hubby. 爁aham kan? still ada masa nak turn back. yess it is waste of time Tapi, better la, dari nyesal kemudian or wat worse, tak mula relationship langsung. for now, u tak terima dia, u will see only the negative part, believe me. its like, u tanak g keja kat Jepun, u akan pikir perkara buruk jer about working there.....
tu sbb tob nk menelaah dr awl dulu..
sbb tob ingt, once tob jumpe sumone, tob ingt nk buat dia as the 1st n the last
tob x suke la klo dh move to serious level, klo ade isu yg bole buat either one of us xhappy..nnti end up sakit hati
klo bole tob nk elakkan..sbb tu tob pk 3 issues yg tob cerita diatas dr awl - ni antara issue utama la
this is a mistake that most women do. and ikhlasly(apa punya bahasa daa) , men do it too.
we expect him/ her to be the ultimate. nak kalau terima tu, dia tu really worth it. and kerapkali, expectation kita go wrong. and we broken because of it.
whenever u are still in couple mode, still the chances is wide open. accept him now doesnt mean accept him forever. or terus telan buruk dia begitu jer. |
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ape kata tob berterus terang ngan laki tu...sy rasa tob cam suka kt dia tapi too many things to considere first kan...ckp atau berterus terang la bende2 yg tob pk utk future tu..so bila dia dh tau perkara2 yg tob pk tu mungkin dia akan considere atau buat keputusan lain...sama ada utk bertolak ansur atau terus jadi kawan baik...
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pikir panjang tu ok.. tp jgn pikir berat sgt..
mcm tam ckp tu btul.. lily setuju sgt2..
kdg2 owg pompuan ni terlalu memikir menda2 yg x realistik....
x salah pon klau try n error... kawen pastu takut bercerai.. tu sume satu alasan jer..
if u really know him pon... n u think die tu Mr perfect... x menjamin perkahwinan tu akan kekal
nasihat lily tuk tuan umah...
pikir byk2.. utk menda yg diri sendiri pon x pasti... x guna jugak...
apa yg u rasa tu cuma satu kesan dr kegagalan hubungan u sbelum ni jer....
(btw, berfikir mmg bagus!.. tp telebih pikir pon not good jugak... ) |
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mybe tob suke gak kt die... but mybe sbb penah kecewe.. tuh yang wat tob pk mcm2... hurm.. mmg laa..
mcm me.. after dh penah kecewe skali...
mmg rase.. if nk jmpe sape2 lelaki lam hidup...
gur7 phm ape yg tob rse...
afraid to strt sumthing again.. after yg dh penah jd.. 
kalo bleh nk trus leh wat husbnd.. yg mcm kate tob.. selesa ngn keje.. life die.. life kite.. life fmly kite...
mybe kite pmpn.. tuh yg wat kite pk cmtuh.... |
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thnx a lot to forummers who give your views on this matter
i really appreciate that
so, at d mo, we still be good friends
the thing is that, i haven't ask him bout what i've been thinking,
including the kamikaze thingy like what juwaini suggests
both of us r bz at the mo but we still keep in touch with each other..
but i'll ask him bout that when the time is appropriate
btw..dia start panggil tob sayang plak dah
tp tob still layan biasa2 je |
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nnti tob update lagi..
bz giler deh skrg..xsempat nk baca ape yg korang tulis..huhu |
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Balas #33 lily_kama\ catat
perkahwinan bukan leh try n error...................
perkahwinan penuh tnggungjwb.........snggup pikul jaln terus.....kalu sngsi jgn dulu..............
pk kehadapan perlu dlm buat keputusan.....pk apa halangan yg ada dan pk jln penyelesaian bukan lari..........
kalu arini cuba kawen...sok dh rasa x best trus cerai....mna boleh............ |
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dare to fail....dare to get hurt....
get thousands bags of experience and joy in life
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Originally posted by itik_magic at 14-10-2008 09:30 AM 
perkahwinan bukan leh try n error...................
perkahwinan penuh tnggungjwb.........snggup pikul jaln terus.....kalu sngsi jgn dulu..............
pk kehadapan perlu dlm buat keputusa ...
lily bukan maksudkan try n error sebuah perkahwinan...
tp try n error.. utk merealisasikan sesuatu perkahwinan... |
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Category: Cinta & Perhubungan
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Post time 6-10-2008 02:53 PM
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