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faraway1 posted on 11-5-2013 09:30 PM 
ambil berat pasal adik beradik patutnya tidak dikira sebagai
dependant antara satu sama lain... ...
kenapa? salahkah hubungan adik beradik kitorg mcm ni?
ala selama ni pun ai rs bertuah dpt adik mcm die. die tak penah susahkan ai. adelah die pinjam duit ai, tp tak penah smpi seribu pun and she always pay me back. die tak penah pun suruh ai jadi penjamin die ke, suruh belikan die keter ke itu ini ke, die pun tak penah la suruh ai setelkan segala masalah remeh temeh die ke. pendek kata kalau die cari ai tu kire last resort die la tu. and ai tau kalau die belikan atau kasi ai ape2 pun die mmg ikhlas and die takkan ungkit balik pun.
oklah kalau hubungan kitorg tak layak dianggap adik beradik pun, as friends ai rasa terpanggil nk beritau die ape lg yg die tunggu? kawen jelah ai sokong dan tolong ape yg ptt 
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annehuda posted on 11-5-2013 09:37 PM
although they are rare... aah kan mmg rare sgt lelaki mcm ni...
sekali tu ai pun jadilah dayan ...
Rare tapi ada... Cari ler yg rare tu....
U cannot force your sister to get married coz u can't change others but u can change yourself. That's why auntie recommended for you to search for your soulmate. Then ambik anak angkat atau try very hard to conceive your own. The rest leave it to Allah swt.
Eg : auntie tak suka masak. Masa zaman auntie dulu2, lelaki Malaya mmg cari perempuan yg pandai masak ( bukan setakat tau masak jer). Auntie carilah lelaki Melayu yg pandai masak & tak kisah jika auntie taknak & tak suka masak... Walaupun rare (di era itu tapi mmg ada). Dgn izinnya berjodohan sampai ke hari ni. Dan auntie masih liat memasak ( am NOT proud of it).
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annehuda posted on 11-5-2013 09:54 PM
kenapa? salahkah hubungan adik beradik kitorg mcm ni?
ala selama ni pun ai rs bertuah dpt adik ...
Lupa nak tambah, anak bukanlah faktor yg akan mematikan hasrat lelaki utk memilih poligami. Realiti hidup - ada pasangan yg ada anak sedozen pun masih berpoligami... Percayalah....
Serap @ asyraf tu pun, bukan sbb ketiadaan zuriat dia nak kawin lagi, dia mmg drp sebelum kawin dah ada kes2 "adik kecik" merenyam. Rupa paras yg hensem ( menurut pandangan majoriti) & penampilan Islamik memudahkan lagi modus operandinya...
Auntie ada 2 org kakak & seorg kakak ipar & sorang biras yg hanya dpt anak selepas 5 thn berkawin. Ok jer, takder ler BIL nak tambah2 pasangan. Diaorg berusaha dan tawakkal jer.
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annehuda posted on 11-5-2013 07:54 AM
kenapa? salahkah hubungan adik beradik kitorg mcm ni?
ala selama ni pun ai rs bertuah dpt adik ...
well hubungan masing masingkan, kalau pada u ok,
sapalah me nak judge...
penting semua happy.
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annehuda posted on 11-5-2013 10:02 PM
thread ni kan pasal adik ai? kenapakah tetiba ai plak dipaksa utk berkawen???
takpela. bi ...
Sebenarnya ada jawapan "terlindung" di sebalik jawapan auntie.
Pandangan auntie => anne tak boleh suruh adik Anne kawin. Anne nak dia kawin supaya anne boleh dpt dukung anak saudara. Kalau Anne teringin nak dukung baby, anne kena buat baby sendiri (obviously wz your hubby) atau ambik anak angkat sendiri. U cannot force your dreams onto others to execute them.... Berkait tak? Directly & indirectly kan...
sorry kalau jwpan auntie tak berapa nak ngam dgn anne... Maaf zahir batin... 
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annehuda posted on 11-5-2013 10:07 PM
ai ade kawan sorg ni baru kawen 2 thn dah jadi janda kes laki die bersekedudukan ngan pompuan lain ...
Just because it happened to others, doesn't mean it wld happen to us as well. Kalaupun ianya berlaku, ada hikmah di sebalik kejadian. Nauzubillah ( mungkin anne fikir, " hah... Tau takut". Jwpan auntie, " mmg gerun"...but that doesn't stop me from getting married & hvg children & being happy most of the time.
auntie taknak discriminate, both lelaki & wanita tak boleh dipisahkan drp seks. Kalau tak, tak berkembanglah umat manusia. Seks yg halal is not dirty.
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auntieagony posted on 11-5-2013 10:17 PM
Just because it happened to others, doesn't mean it wld happen to us as well. Kalaupun ianya berla ...
itulah kot, petunjuk dr Tuhan taknak nnt ai bukak thread kt board FD di kemudian hari |
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annehuda posted on 11-5-2013 10:17 PM
buat baby? eeeeuuuuuwwww.... taknak la nnt anak2 ai suma keras kepala mcm mak die. yg pen ...
Anne, i used to think like u years ago....
auntie mmg degil @ ketegaq, en suamiku kata kepala auntie lagi keras drp concrete atau batu. Auntie akui tetapi en suamiku pun degil mcm auntie gak ( tak nak mengalah gak tu). Maklumler org degil....
Masa mula2 kawin, auntie bertangguh2 nak preggie sbb takut anak auntie berperangai mcm auntie yg degil, tak suka masak, dan perangai2 buruk yg lain. Tapi en suamiku & kakak2 ku tak putus2 bagi motivasi@berkempen. So mula2 auntie kata nak sorang anak jer. Bila anak dah berusia 2 thn, en suami start berkempen semula selama sethn. Lama2 selepas bernegotiasi dan berdiskusi, lahirlah baby kedua. And auntie tak menyesal walau sesaat pun. Alhamdulillah. So what if diaorg degil, ramai jer penduduk dunia lain yg degil2 belaka....
Nothing in life is certain except change. Hari ni kata tak suka, mungkin esok boleh berubah....
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annehuda posted on 11-5-2013 10:20 PM
itulah kot, petunjuk dr Tuhan taknak nnt ai bukak thread kt board FD di kemudian hari
Tak kawin lagi, mcm mana nak tau whether it'll happen to yiu or not. The probability of you being happily married wz children is there as well. Why think of the negative aspect jer? Give ourselves a chance to be happy. If being single makes u happy, then be it. But u have never tried being married, so u wouldn't know the outcome.
masa auntie kawin, one of my bff kata it might only last for 6 mths. So auntie fikirkan, so be it, for the longest time. Kalau serasi, lama ler jodoh, kalau tak serasi, Allah swt dah beri option (walau tak digalakkan). Tapi both auntie & en suami berusaha utk stay together for the longest time. Alhamdulillah till today. Insha Allah, semoga berkekalan. Amin... Pls doa for me as well.
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annehuda posted on 11-5-2013 10:34 PM
beza antara auntie dan ai adalah... auntie mmg confirm dah kawen. ai jgnkan suami, boyfren ke skan ...
Hahaha... Sila JANGAN offer diri kat bangla stesyen minyak unless muka hensem mcm hero hindustan, badan wangi & anak yatim piatu....
MUNGKIN selama ni Anne berpendirian sedemikian, maka anne berpandangan negatif terhadap lelaki yg berdekatan. Nobody is perfect. If u r looking for perfection, u ain't gonna find it. There is good attributes in everyone dan ada kelebihan seseorg di dlm kelemahan mereka. Fokus on the strengths if u can live with the weaknesses. If not, find another person...
semua zaman adalah sama jer, zaman auntie, berdoyon2 jer wanita2 lain yg cantik, pandai masak, lemah lembut, berdiplomasi, pandai ambil hati org tua, pandai segala-mala. Tetapi kita semua ada jodoh mading2 yg telah ditentukan Allah swt. Maka jodoh auntie adalah dgn en suamiku. So redha, berusaha gigih, berdoa dan tawakkal jer lah. No high expectations from each other. Ada jer kwn auntie yg kawin pd usia 30 an, infact ada yg kawin di usia 40an. Malahan one of my friends is getting married soon ( dia anak dara lagi tau, masa muda remaja dulu, punyalah ramai admirers nya, berduyun2).
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annehuda posted on 11-5-2013 10:40 PM
sebab tulah ai suruh adik ai kawen dulu.
nk kawen camnenye ai nih langsung takde prospek yg be ...
Sorry if auntie nampak cam nosy jer, mmg pun kan... But with good intention....
Jika tiada prospect, carilah.... Sama cam org sales, kalau takder prospect, cari leads... Kalau nak harap lelaki sejati dtg menyerah diri, mmg takder lah unless kunfayakun... Itu pun Allah suruh kita berusaha dulu, then berdoa, then tawakkal.
Mcm mana nak cari leads. Buka hati & minda. Terima perubahan yg munasabah. Luaskan pergaulan. Don't cancel off any leads without further probes. Bagi chance kat semua org, selagi mengikut hukum syarak. Cari alternatif => suruh keluarga carikan jodoh, blindates, through friends, through saudara-mara, through internet ( tak semestinya cari.com jer tapi kalau cari.com pun apa salah nya. Dont discard any potentials), thru agency mencari jodoh ker, thru persatuan ker, thru sosial activities spt kwn gym ker, kwn hiking ker, kwn travelling ker & apa2 jer ( i'm so outdated).
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auntieagony posted on 11-5-2013 11:00 PM
Sorry if auntie nampak cam nosy jer, mmg pun kan... But with good intention....
Jika tiada pro ...
sebenarnye ai ade 2 kali pengalaman mencari cinta ni, dua-dua kene reject, mentah-mentah. tu pun selang 4-5 thn la jugak cubaan kali ke2. please la jgn paksa ai nk cari prospek ke hape ke, kalau ai kene reject jugak kali ke3 maksudnye samada ai gantung diri je atau buat plastic surgery. tu lah pilihan yg ade utk ai. kekdg ai envy org yg ringan jodohnye, ai mean senang je kan? kawan kenalkan terus sangkut, jalan2 pegi shopping mall terlanggar bahu terus sangkut, kenal kt internet terus sangkut, it doesn't work that way with me, at all. ai bersyukur sbb ai masih lg dikurniakan kekuatan utk tidak berjumpa mana2 bomoh cari minyak dagu ke minyak pengasih ke  takpela ai tak bernasib baik sbb takde jodoh ni, tp adik ai dh ade pasangan biarlah die kawen, cepat2 beranak, habis citer. so bolehla segala harta benda ai diwariskan kpd anak sedara ai.
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annehuda posted on 11-5-2013 10:58 PM
sorry ai tak pandang rupa pun ai ckp mcm nilah, i have my own pride. ai bukan gadis gedi ...
Ok ler... Kalau gitu pendirian anne. Nobody can change you but you yourself.
Auntie doakan semua yg baik2 utk anne & semoga anne bertemu kebahagiaan sekarang dan di masa hadapan with or without a husband.
But u still think hvg a child is fun right? So,adopt one if you don't wanna get married. Dont force your sister to do it for you. What if she gets married and she couldn't conceive and then her husband divorce her or practise polygamy? So are u to be blamed? U are scared of the same probabilites/consequences but u want you sister to embrace them. R u her biological sister? Hehehe... Joke jer... Just kidding...
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annehuda posted on 11-5-2013 11:10 PM
sebenarnye ai ade 2 kali pengalaman mencari cinta ni, dua-dua kene reject, mentah-mentah. tu pun s ...
Kalau direjek kali ketiga, pls choose plastic surgery instead of gantung diri ( if these are your only 2 options). Or u can choose the 3rd option, i.e. find the next prospect.
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Category: Cinta & Perhubungan
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Post time 11-5-2013 09:55 PM
taknak la nnt anak2 ai suma keras kepala mcm mak die. yg pening kepala ai gak 
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ai ckp mcm nilah, i have my own pride. ai bukan gadis gedik yg suka approach org ni. in fact ai takkan offer diri ai kt org lain pun. kalau ade yg feel intimidated ngan ai, lantak diorg la. ai fikir mcm ni je, maybe Tuhan tak izinkan ai kawen sbb Dia nk ai jadi pembela kebajikan kucing-kucing terbiar yg berjaya kt malaysia ni. 
atau maybe Dia taknak ada lelaki dan keluarganya mati keracunan makan masakan ai. or maybe Dia kesian tgk lelaki malang yg jadi suami ai so Dia rasa oh better jgn jodohkan diorg nih. 
