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myls0dasky posted on 18-6-2013 01:12 PM 
yela sy pon byk tolak ansur tp still dye xley phm jgk, skrg hnya berdiam diri, dn dia mrajuk... bi ...
well simple benda ni
sebab kominkasi dan puncanya?
pada saya ialah : unmet / unmatched expectation sebab expectation dia kat awak tak sama dengan expectation awak kat dia
but then komunikasi tu penting sebab
i guess
dedua tak faham apa konflik yg dedua alami tika dan saat ni
u terangkan kat dia it is normal for her to seek relationship at this age , biasala a lady like her by the way dia ni student uni ke or what ? i mean ...u know usually a lady of 21 would think about study tu , awat dia tak study ?
may i know???
u ressuare dia yg you akan kahwin but give time sebab a , b , c dan d etc etc bagi dia faham
dia tak secure sebab tu dia desak u know being pushy
so kalau u kata dialah a lady of your llife ...well...fair enough
but she needs to use her god given brain to understand what a guy like you need okay?
now it is up to you to understand her situation - u okay ke kalau dia ada pilihan lain ?ni serious ni dah sebab boleh berkelahi kang kalau say this to an immature 221 yr old lady ...
fikir dulu
gosh simple matter je ni
komunikasi je
make her and you understand one another cari solution , win win
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mbhcsf posted on 18-6-2013 01:18 PM
well simple benda ni
sebab kominkasi dan puncanya?
thank you for ur advice...
yup bcuz communication la jd cm ni....
i know and understand the situation, but i think its to much for me.....
dan berbuih dh trngkn but lg konflik and rumit jd nya...
yup di usia yg muda dia xdpt mngerti pe yg sy mahu korban tuk my future jga...
yup she 21 not finish study yet ..bcuz failed one subject for thier diploma,,, time tu ble suruh study je amik je lg dh ckp xminat..urmmm degil.. rugikan
kdg2 tu pnh juga btul ke pilihan i nie....
mcm ne nk jd isteri lau ckp pon susah nk dgr selalu dgil n melawan je..... or lps dh kwen bole brubah? hanya masa yg menentukan..
yup i know communication can solved the prob, but she different.. how ?..
but i dont think dia ada pilihan lain bcuz she really love me....
urmmm dont know wat to do now........ |
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myls0dasky posted on 18-6-2013 01:33 PM
thank you for ur advice...
yup bcuz communication la jd cm ni....
guide laa kalau sayang dia
jap dia sayang you ? ke you sayang dia?
hehehe...
just you know , get het to be a mature human boleh tak ?
well kalau hampa dedua nak bina masjid bersama sama then the way to go is to sabar karenah masing masing dan you being a big 'imam' tak rasmi ni kena act las aleader lah approach elok elok...u know apa apa pun bagi impression kat dia yg you jujur, calm, in control and responsible and mature lah , get to her level kalau nak communicate dgn makhluk macam your lady ni ...
i can understand your struggle : she did not get it ...so well slow slow
you do not have to REACT immediately just for now you to be the understanding party lah sebab well otak dia tak mampu nak cerna the waord and konsep sabar dan think about other people's point of view... and ressuare yg you akan kahwin dengan dia : kalau u nak menikah dengan a lady nilah
so u know
chill lah
relax
communicate sampai dia faham
or i dunno she insecure ke?
atau awak banyak pilihan/
i dunno pada saya a lady yg secure dalam relationship akan ada sense of wisdom sikit yg
kalau belum akad ni enything can happened dan do not controlling one another , being supportive yes to each ambition , etc
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myls0dasky posted on 18-6-2013 01:33 PM
thank you for ur advice...
yup bcuz communication la jd cm ni....
well the most interesting point is both of you ada masa ye gaduh benda remeh ni ? seriously ? goshh.....syukurlah bahawa ada org lain juga masih struggle berjuang untuk hidup , mandiri ....sometimes kena juga look around , seeking perspective in wider context
but well...21 years old yeah cayalah i was still where aah? in the library ...kahwin i terfikir lagi seusia itu. |
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mbhcsf posted on 18-6-2013 02:08 PM
well the most interesting point is both of you ada masa ye gaduh benda remeh ni ? seriously ? gos ...
hehe yela... thx 4 advice...
try the best for our relationship....
lau ada jdoh tu kwen leee kn....  |
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guna reverse psychology:
gi rumah dia...ajak parents n dia sekali duduk bersidang kat meja..keluarkan 2,3 helai kertas A4..and start jot down expenses yang akan diperlukan lepas kahwin..i.e makan, baju, sakit pening, belanja korang gi malls minggu2 bla bla. then dgn muka keringnya cakap kat parents dia, ni lah duit yg diaorg kene keluarkan selagi kewangan kau tak stabil/tak kerja lagi.
aku jamin either diaorg stop mendesak atau putuskan tunang. either way, it's not your lost. (unless tunang kau nak start belajar makan roti kering takde sapu and air kosong lps kahwin  ) |
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becir posted on 18-6-2013 02:28 PM
guna reverse psychology:
gi rumah dia...ajak parents n dia sekali duduk bersidang kat meja..kelua ...
guna reverse psychology hehe bgus gk tu...  |
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myls0dasky posted on 18-6-2013 01:09 PM
ble ckp mslah kewangan dia ckp masalah tu bole setel, xyh wt kenduri bsr2,, nk wt kecik2 pon kna d ...
ahaha..kalau kawen ni, saya risau duit utk hidup lps majlis..tunang you ni jenis independent x ni? mcm ambil ringan je psl duit
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tiramisuu posted on 18-6-2013 04:01 PM
ahaha..kalau kawen ni, saya risau duit utk hidup lps majlis..tunang you ni jenis independent x ni? ...
hahaha independent la sgt....
susah nk ckp..redha je... dh byk nasihat
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Tetapkan niat menikah utk mencari keredhaan Allah, Insya Allah, segalanya akan selamat. Syaitan menjerit ketika kamu mendirikan masjid. Kasih pd pasangan dlm perkahwinan perlu dibaja dan dipupuk selalu. Jadilah seorg suami spt Rasulullah. Didiklah isteri dgn sabar. |
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mmmmm kalau blum bersedia awat pi bertunang pulak!... ker xpikir pnjg... |
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myls0dasky posted on 18-6-2013 04:12 PM
hahaha independent la sgt....
susah nk ckp..redha je... dh byk nasihat
TT.... tolong jangan nak manjakan sangat tunang itu... kalau anda da stable baru leh kawen, lagi pun die mude lagi what... ke u takot u tak kan dapat perempuan camtu... cantik ke die?
kalau nak kawen skang ni, paling murah skali kawen cume RM1000 je... tu pun jemput fam terdekat.. tapi kalau kawen nak gah3... mau2 ade rm30k... skang ni da la kije pektikal.. ingat senang ke nak dapat kije? aku yg da kije ade 2 years experience ni pon nak kije tempat laen susah gak... means,,, rezeki tu memang ada tapi kite kene usaha keras.. dibuatnya ko x dapat kije langsung, sebagai 1 ujian.camne?
aku ase ko reverse psyco camni gak,, ko tunjuk baju cantik2 n pelamin cantik2... ko cakap.. ko suke bile die pakai cantik2 caamtu..ko cakap,, ko nak beli rumah bla2.. nak beli keta bla2....bile die da masuk jarum,.. baru ko cakap.... tapi need more time la.. coz i dont have enough money yet.. cakap la cenggitu..
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tiramisuu posted on 18-6-2013 04:01 PM
ahaha..kalau kawen ni, saya risau duit utk hidup lps majlis..tunang you ni jenis independent x ni? ...
Rezeki Allah yg beri. Masing2 kenalah pandai mengukur baju di bdn sendiri. Jgn pula baru grad dh nk pakai Myvi. Naik turun bas tak hilangkan jati diri.
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menjad posted on 18-6-2013 04:47 PM
mmmmm kalau blum bersedia awat pi bertunang pulak!... ker xpikir pnjg...
tu r silap... dh dua2 family dh setuju even family sy mula2 keberatan sbb tgh stdy..
last2 tunang jgk...
mula2 ok je phm situasi sy cm ne...tp skrg makin xphm lk jdnya..... pe bley wt.....
huhu masa bercinta kdg2 bole jd buta.... tnpa kita sdar.... |
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biozipstar posted on 18-6-2013 04:48 PM
TT.... tolong jangan nak manjakan sangat tunang itu... kalau anda da stable baru leh kawen, lagi p ...
yup mmg dh ckp cm tu pon.. tp twu la bribu kali ckp tetap xphm2 jgk cm ne...
mmg sy perlu fokus pda career dlu twu2 la zaman skrg ni sume ny mahal pe sume...
#bkn sng nk bina masjid....
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Buat solat istikharah. Semoga Allah tenangkan hati dan tunjukkan jln. Andai ada jodoh kalian, tkyh buat majlis besar2an. Panggil immediate family pun sudah cukup. Pandai2lah korang dua berjimat. Bersusah2 dahulu, bersenang2 kemudian. Be a man. |
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myls0dasky posted on 18-6-2013 04:12 PM
hahaha independent la sgt....
susah nk ckp..redha je... dh byk nasihat
so, apa kelebihan tunang u smpi boleh jd tunang?
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Genkidesuka posted on 18-6-2013 05:00 PM
Buat solat istikharah. Semoga Allah tenangkan hati dan tunjukkan jln. Andai ada jodoh kalian, tkyh ...
thx ...Genkidesuka
yup skrg mmg itulah yg sy byk berdoa je lps solat... harap2 d permudahkan jln...
insyaallah segala masalah bole selesai.... amin.. |
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tiramisuu posted on 18-6-2013 05:03 PM
so, apa kelebihan tunang u smpi boleh jd tunang?
hehehe sume org da kelebihan dan ada kekurangan masing2 
#biarlah rahsia.. |
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myls0dasky posted on 18-6-2013 05:05 PM
hehehe sume org da kelebihan dan ada kekurangan masing2
#biarlah rahsia..
then motif ngeluh kat sni??? |
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Post time 18-6-2013 01:18 PM
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