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Susahnye Lahai Nak Lupekan Orang Yang Dah Tak Hingin Kat Kite
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Cari org lain...cuba bina kehidupan ngan org lain..tk perlu fikir lgi psl men2 kan dia...kalau kita tk ubah mmg kehidupan kita akan tetap sma...bila u dh bz ngan kehidupan u..lama2 u sndiri akan lupe kwn u tu...tau mmg ssh..mmg akan amik msa..tpi kalau kita tk mulakan skrg kehidupan yg baru ttkan tercipta...kdg2 dlm hidup kita perlu pntgkan diri sendiri..fikir apa yg kita nak..kalau bnda yg kita nk tk dpt...mmg kena fikir psl bnda lain lak... |
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Adakah? replied at 10-5-2015 06:05 PM
@intriQue Menduakan tu sbb hubungan kami kire belum putus lagi. mmg dia dh tak pedulikan sy.kalau ...
Macam ni lah.....
in order to move on, u need closure. Usaha lah agar awak dan dia dapat bercakap dari hati ke
hati. Luahkan apa yg tersurat dan tersirat, apa yg terbuku di hati supaya jelas semua. Letih tau dok assume mcm2.
Good luck |
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Edited by munchkin at 10-5-2015 06:40 PM
dia hanya cari tt bila sunyi and takde orang perlukan dia waktu tu.
dulu my spouse kekawan dia buat gitu pada dia. bila tak keluar ngan awek, baru nak jumpa. suruh my spouse cancel our date sebab nak teman kawan tu s gf kawan dia balik kampung. adik beradik dia pun buat gitu. bila nak minta sesuatu favor baru nak communicate kalau tak macam strangers. cam tak normal sangat perhubungan jenis cam ni. saat perlu baru nak communicate.
sekali aku sembur, dan bagi tahu facts ni semua baru dia sedar. now things has changed. kawan kawan dan adik beradik tak buat gitu sebab kita bertegas and show our love unconditionally. kita tak minta minta dengan mereka tapi kita sayang mereka dengan ikhlas. nanti orang akan tengok balik and ikut contoh kita tu.
paling penting jangan biar orang buat kita sebagai alas lap kaki. biar orang sayang dan appreciate diri kita tak bersyarat. kita tolong or tidak, dia tetap disisi kita.
orang yang bersyarat syarat ni boleh diignore. lantak pi. cari kawan/kekasih/suami yang ikhlas.
sekarang mungkin sukar. tapi time will heal your sadness. hargai diri you. kesian mak pak you dah lahirkan you, jaga you, sayang you dari kecik sampai ke besar. tapi you allow jantan tak guna buat you gini. love and appreciate yourself. love and appreciate your parents by taking care of yourself.
munchkin doakan segala yang baik baik buat tt.
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Adakah? replied at 10-5-2015 05:53 PM
@munchkin betul sgt2 tu..kalau sy busy kerja, takde pun teringat kt dia. yg jd teringat bile time ...
Tt rindu orgnya ke rindu situasi ada org teman? Hehe |
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Adeh, satu lagi benang meratap .... awatlah .... sedih2 cepat tua, ok. |
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Post time 10-5-2015 08:32 PM
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ipes2 replied at 10-5-2015 06:21 PM
tu lah... pengalaman sy sendiri: memang sakit tubuh dan jiwa raga ha ha; tapi lama lama sebab kesi ...
@ipes2 boleh tau berapa lama ambik masa utk betul2 lupakan dia? |
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Post time 10-5-2015 08:35 PM
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aleesyasofia replied at 10-5-2015 06:22 PM
saya juga ada rakan yang mengalami nasib yang sama sepeti tt.. dia brkwn selama lapan tahun dan sptu ...
@aleesyasofia kwn tu sekarang dh betul2 move on ye?sy ni tak pasti samada si dia mmg dah ada gf lain ataupun tidak..masing2 jauh..dia nk curang pun konfem tak kantoi..huu |
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Post time 10-5-2015 08:37 PM
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AbukRokok replied at 10-5-2015 06:25 PM
Time will heal kata orang
mcm iols la walaupun saki baki kerinduan dan cinta masih subur dijiwa i ...
@AbukRokok tula, mcm sy ade ckp sblum ni, tak sabar nak tunggu masa sembuhkan semua. bak kata lagu Leona Lewis Better In Time tu.. |
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Post time 10-5-2015 08:40 PM
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cahaya_almas replied at 10-5-2015 06:29 PM
Cari org lain...cuba bina kehidupan ngan org lain..tk perlu fikir lgi psl men2 kan dia...kalau kita ...
@cahaya_almas nak dapatkan org lain yg boleh terima kita seadanya dan kita pun boleh tertarik dgn dia belum ada rezeki lagi..jadi kene cuba lupekan si dia yg tersyg tp byk lukakan hati sy ni |
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Post time 10-5-2015 08:41 PM
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intriQue replied at 10-5-2015 06:33 PM
Macam ni lah.....
in order to move on, u need closure. Usaha lah agar awak dan dia dapat bercak ...
@intriQue bila sy dpt contact die lepas berhari2 dia senyap, ade je sy tnye psl perasaan die.tp tu la, dia akan ckp syg la, ape la..jadi, sy pun start balik pecaya dgn kata2 n janji2 dia... |
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Post time 10-5-2015 08:44 PM
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munchkin replied at 10-5-2015 06:37 PM
dia hanya cari tt bila sunyi and takde orang perlukan dia waktu tu.
dulu my spouse kekawan dia ...
Thanks @munchkin . nasihat last sekali tu mmg buat mata bergenang..huhu.sbb tu sy luah perasaan kt sini sbb tau forumer2 board ni mmg boleh bg nasihat yg bagus |
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Post time 10-5-2015 08:46 PM
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tiramisuu replied at 10-5-2015 07:25 PM
Tt rindu orgnya ke rindu situasi ada org teman? Hehe
@tiramisuu mungkin lebih rindukan waktu mula2 kwn kut..momen2 mula kenal hati budi tu..hehe |
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Edited by mbhcsf at 13-5-2015 08:25 PM
assalamualaikum saudari.
I think you are doing yourself a great BIG FAVOUR !!!
yes - move on and get on with it.
Sebab - i guess ada benarnya frasa ini : seseorang warga ADAM yg berkehendakkan respected, well meaning and lillahi taala RELATIONSHIP , akan berusaha untuk jujur dan act accordingly untuk menghalalkan relationship ini.
So, org yg respect you as a significant other AKAN being MORE appreaciative on all the things that you have done - yalni dealt with his temperamental, perangai tak matang etc etc dan i guess u selama ni dah lama benar pejam mata je sebab i think u loved him so much ! so much so that you have forgotten how to take care and look after yourself - i mean emotionally. Sometimes, when ( i think) a person loves another being too much , that person somehow inadvertently becomes emotionally ' blunt' about the hurts the mistreatement she has gotten from the loved ones, right? Now, it is better for you to re think and sayang diri sendiri dulu. Yang meninggalkan kesannya lain daripada yg ditinggalkan...u know , this?
So , untuk warga Adama yg hesitate
yg GAGAL to the boot jawab soalan ni
a) who are you to him?
b) where are we now?
c) where do we go from here?
d) any sense of open honesty ?
KAlau semua jawapan ini NO , No , NO and NO
angkat kaki , diri and maafkan dia
nak lupakan seseorang yg total
a) just accept yg dia pernah berada dalam hidup kita dan membantu
b) betulkan niat yg semua ni berlaku kerana ALLAH nak uji dan u kawan lillahi taala
c) no dendam semua but....berhati hati is you absolute right to deal with this kind of bloke/ chap/ lad again.
d) maaf, dan maaf dan may be dia berlaku 'zalim' terhadap emosi u tanpa dia sedar so u tak nak dia muflis dengan dosa dia kan ? so just forgive and it will take some time to be off him memory wise but time will heal. So ...u know
e) doakan apa yg terbaik...minta Allah lupakan dia...dari ingatan you ...apa yg baik dan nice yg berguna ...fine ... but the rest , doakan dan only time u are allowed to remember him yelah dalam tikar solat.
that's all .
so , u know , you have actually done yourself a great big FAVOUR
be with someone yg respect the relationship no beating around the bush and yes ...yg highly committed and appreciative won't treat any lady that way.
so u know , i wish you well...
just doa bebanyak dan have a good closure .
sebab kalau dah banyak kali buat lagu ni ...from my observation kelaki begini tend to do it all over again..and you being the willing victim so....it is a, bagus decision you - for me, it is a sound yet a bit painful while being a definitely good decision for yourself IN THE LONG RUNNNNNNNNN....( see , try to visualise things beyond your situation sekarang hahaha)
u know...Allah lebih besar dan lebih memaknakan dari havinga guy like that , to be honest.
a guy can say 1001 phrases that are not well meant but just for the sake of saying it je. Tapi janji dan kasih sayang Allah itu yg kekal.
i wish you well.
be strong. Allah ade dont worry. |
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Post time 10-5-2015 08:48 PM
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missus_meow replied at 10-5-2015 07:50 PM
Adeh, satu lagi benang meratap .... awatlah .... sedih2 cepat tua, ok.
hehe..sori @missus_meow. Selama ni mmg tahan je dr nk post kt sini.tp akhirnye terluah jugak.btw, sy mmg dh tua pun..dh dpt title andartu dah..hee |
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Adakah? replied at 10-5-2015 08:46 PM
@tiramisuu mungkin lebih rindukan waktu mula2 kwn kut..momen2 mula kenal hati budi tu..hehe
Beza tu rindu situasi ngn rindu orgnya.hihihi.. |
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Post time 10-5-2015 08:57 PM
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eileen80 replied at 10-5-2015 08:17 PM
kesian tt.
mcm nie lah. mmg ssh kite nak lupekan seseorg yg pnh singgah kat ati kite & kite pon b ...
@eileen80 kalau nak diikutkan mmg banyak sgt perkara yg dia buat yg menyakitkan hati sy, buat sy menangis semua. tp tak tau la, bila dia mintak maaf je, sy terus lupakan semua kesalahan die dan berbaik balik.tp tak lama pun.2 3 hari dia pun buat perangai balik.dan situasi tu berterusan lah dr 3 4 tahun yg lepas smpai skrg.
sy menantikan jugak masanya sy dh boleh terima kenyataan mcm awk skrg |
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mbhcsf replied at 10-5-2015 08:47 PM
assalamualaikum saudari.
I think you are doing yourself a great BIG FAVOUR !!!
Waalaikumussalam...terima kasih banyak2 utk nasihat mcmni @mbhcsf. mmg sy perlukan sgt2 nasihat mcmni utk terus cuba lupakan dia..insyaAllah sy akan slow2 cuba lupakan dia sbelum sy mula mencari / menerima org lain..doakan sy kuat |
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Post time 10-5-2015 09:01 PM
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tiramisuu replied at 10-5-2015 08:48 PM
Beza tu rindu situasi ngn rindu orgnya.hihihi..
@tiramisuu nak rindu orgnya mcm tak berguna je..dia sikit pun takde ingt kat sy.happy dgn kwn2 dia kt sana and dgn org baru mungkin..huu |
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hey, things that do not KILL you, makes you strong , eh?
tak pa ....replace ingatan terhadap makhluk itu dengan zikir , nak ingat dia just said to yourself: bauik aku ucapsubhanallah or doa...lagi faedah, banyak lagi dalam hidup kena pikaiq hahahahaha u know...buat ape ingat hamba ALLAh yg tak boleh atau janji kat kita syurga atau pahala ? benda yg kekal do sana? restructure your thinking.
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