...Jangan membenci sesama manusia ....

nickrandy90

Miserable people focus on the things they hate about their life. Happy people focus on the things they love about their life.

kecik68

mummyalissa

Jangan membenci.

seribulan

Kebencian bukanlah hal yang paling berbahaya. Ketidakpedulian, ya!

Lauren Oliver, Delirium (Delirium, #1)

nickrandy90

nickrandy90

nickrandy90

seribulan

Kalau ada orang yang membencimu karena kau melakukan banyak kebaikan, itu bukan masalahmu. Tapi masalah orang itu.
Helvy Tiana Rosa

mummyalissa

Tak faham kenapa ada orang yang boleh membenci seseorang padahal tak pernah kawan atau kenal pun orang tu. Just based on hearsay.

seribulan

mummyalissa replied at 11-4-2017 01:00 PM
Tak faham kenapa ada orang yang boleh membenci seseorang padahal tak pernah kawan atau kenal pun ora ...

seribulan

reasons people dislike you for no reason         

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

             Rejection
  Why do they dislike me?Do people dislike you for no reason?
Are you wondering why some people hate you?
Do you think that something is wrong with you?
Well there is certainly something wrong.
But the good news is that nothing is wrong with you.
1- You remind them of their failuresHatred is an emotion that the mind uses to keep a person safe by keeping him away from people who might harm him. If you are successful at anything then some people might feel like losers when they see you and as a result hatred kicks in to protect them. In other words you might be hated because you are really good.
2- You remind them of what they lackAll humans want to be the best among their friends but psychologically unstable ones will hate those who are better than them at anything. You get better grades? You have more friends? You look a bit better? You have a better body? You have a better job? Then you might be hated for that.
3- You Remind them of their horrible pastIn my book The psychology of physical attraction i explained how the associations we form can force us to judge people on the first meeting. If you reminded a person of someone who was mean to him then you might be hated. The problem here is with that person's past & not with you.
4- Because they feel worthlessBrave people set goals and achieve them. Cowards run away from big goals then seek cheap victories to feel good about themselves. Some examples of cheap victories are gossiping, putting someone down or bullying someone. All of these actions help a person who already feels worthless to feel a bit better.
5- You remind them of themselvesOne of the best defense mechanisms the mind uses to help people deny their personal flaws is to blame someone else for them. In my article Why do people criticize others i explained how people project their own flaws on others to convince themselves that they are flawless.
6- They don't feel safe around youPeople dislike the ones they don't feel safe around. Those who suffer from anxiety or those who are too afraid to mingle with new people might dislike strangers just because they don't feel safe around them. They prefer a small circle of friends that gives them the safety they need. (See also Why are some people unfriendly)
7- They think you are a threatSometimes a person might dislike you because he thinks that you are a threat. Cowards and weak people automatically dislike anybody who might threaten their position ( Steal their friends, get a share of the attention they are getting, get the job they are applying for ...etc)
What you should doIn order not to be hurt by rejections you have to understand few facts about life. It's impossible to make everyone like you because of the various reasons described above and many others.
You should only stick to the people who truly love you instead of wasting your effort trying to win the approval of those who don't. In order not to feel lonely you need few close friends who really like you and not tens of friends who barely like you.
Finally no one is perfect. Yes you might have some flaws but in many cases people will dislike you because something is wrong with them and not with you.

mummyalissa

seribulan replied at 11-4-2017 02:18 PM

wahhh....

seribulan

ddhuhazz

Bahagia secukupnya
Sedih seperlunya
Mencintai sewajarnya.
Membenci sekadarnya.

hearthati714

salah satu tanda kematian seseorang bila kita benci sangat dekat orang yang nak meninggal tu.
kena hati2 sebab takut jadi kt mak ayah or ahli keluarga kita.
bayangkan benci2 tetiba2 org tu meninggal.tak ke menyesal

AryaRose

seribulan replied at 11-4-2017 02:22 PM
reasons people dislike you for no reason          By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.             Rejection
  ...

or you simply remind them of their Ex. kekeke

cmf_elegant

jaga hati baik2 supaya dapat kurangkan rasa benci kalaupun tak dapat hilangkn rase benci pada hamba Allah tu...

tinkiwinki

Lumrah manusia, bila dah takde depan mata baru tercari2.

cheergirlz

Don’t associate yourself with toxic people. It’s better to be alone and love yourself than surrounded by people that make you hate yourself.
— Robin Williams

cheergirlz

Teringat kata-kata Datuk Dr.Fadzillah Kamsah semasa berpeluang mengikuti seminar dimana beliau menjadi jemputan. Saya ada mengemukakan soalan kepada beliau dan antara jawapan yang berkaitan dengan topic ialah, "kalau ada orang baling taik kepada kita, berilah bunga kepada mereka sebagai balasan", sungguh mendalam makna tersebut. Betul la, kenapa kita perlu membenci sesama manusia...jangan benarkan walau setitik atau setitis dakwat hitam menconteng dihati kita...