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Post time 5-6-2019 11:12 AM
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ako_chan replied at 4-6-2019 10:50 AM
ada a few questions la nk tanya...
i dah bnyk kali couple clash couple clash...sebb:
1. i rasa i ...
Xpe.. hehe.. silakan.. sebab at time aku pun rasa yg sama.. at some point in relationship, kita as perempuan akan rasa mcm tu.. rasa diabaikan, rasa x diendahkan.. kita mmg sucker for attention kan.. while men, masa courting period mmg effort all out sebab dia x sure la hati kita mcm mana..
Sama je.. cuma this time around aku dah belajar dari past mistake.. mgkin dah tua so x nak fikirkan sgt as long as dia still respect & sayang aku.. lelaki ni they speak different language.. dia ada 1001 mcm benda nk buat bila dia sorang2 tu selain nk text kita 24jam .. bila dia x text tu la kita rasa dia x peduli & diabaikan .. you just trust him and at the same time buat any activity yg u suka.. hiking ke, yoga ke.. anything as long as x involve dia & u really enjoying it.. that will make you more sexy in his eyes & he wont stop chasing you..
Ugut2 nk putus ni dulu2 ada buat.. masa last relationship.. sekali dua dia layan, kali ketiga bye2 terus.. bg aku, kalau masih sayangkan dia, outline positive qualities yg dia ada compared ngan perangai x brp nk kasi attention tu.. mcm ada forumer kat atas ckp, ni semua issue sblm kawin.. once dah kawen dah mengadap muka dia 24 jam, mgkin x rasa sgt dah.. kena hadap isu lain la plak .. haha
Kalau jmpe yg baru pun cycle ni akan continues.. percayalah.. so just enjoy your life.. be happy with or without him.. anggap dia peneman hidup bukan you sole source of happiness.. he just add more values into it.. good luck in your next love quest! |
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Post time 5-6-2019 11:13 AM
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NurAlia14 replied at 5-6-2019 12:56 AM
Bg aku, kau xkn dpt ape yg kau nk..kalo dh jodoh ko dgn die xde ape blh halang..kalo nnt lps kawen k ...
Thanks.. tu lah.. harap takkan ada sesalan di kemudian hari.. kena belajar lower the expectation |
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Perkara mcm ni boleh jadi isu bila dah kawen. Contoh you expect suami beli barang keperluan rumah, barang baby etc tapi dia kurang common sense, maka dia terlepas pandang. Kalau setakat benda enjoy2 mcm date, maybe you annoyed shj. Tapi jika berkenaan benda yang lebih penting, u boleh jadi marah dan bengang.
Walaubagaimanapun, iols tak rasa ini deal breaker. Ada laki common sense tinggi tapi mencelup sini sana. Perkara mcm tu baru deal.breaker.
Kalau bf u setakat kurang common sense tp bab lain ok, itu boleh diurus. Contoh u amik initiative.. call dia hari jumaat.. tanya direct esok nak dating tak? Bila dh kawen, kalau nak dia beli barang.. hantar reminder dekat whatsapp "boleh tlg check air milo ada lagi tak.. kalau takde.. boleh tolong beli?", Kalau dia tunjuk common sense yg u impikan, bagi dia servis tanda penghargaan (sorry 18sx sikit). Lama kelamaan tu common sense tu boleh dipupuk. |
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weezerfan replied at 1-6-2019 11:59 AM
Benda kecik je tu dek. Percayalah bila dh kawen ada seratus benda baru yg kau akan annoyed ngan dia. ...
It’s like a competition. Who annoys each other better haha... Bila dah lama kawin tak kuasa nak kecik hati or terasa over small things/details. |
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Edited by Meiizu at 11-6-2019 02:14 PM
penah alami hal yg sama :
i rasa i aje yang terlalu byk compromise in all terms and aku je yg rasa aku aje yg letak effort too much compared to him. then sampai satu tahap, aku rasa aku xdisayangi dah... aku x penting lagi. and aku rasa there's no spark at all.
..tapi you sorang yg berani walk away.. i sangatttt lambat, citer cinta zaman dulu i amik masa bertahun utk pegi..rugi masa, lembik lutut sambil tadah doa- tiadalah dayaku melainkan ketentuan mu Ya Allah
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thanx for your reply. really appreciate that.
aku suka quote ni. ayat last tu. sexy in his eyes... for my next relationship insyaALLAH aku akan try apply benda ni.
you just trust him and at the same time buat any activity yg u suka.. hiking ke, yoga ke.. anything as long as x involve dia & u really enjoying it.. that will make you more sexy in his eyes & he wont stop chasing you..
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aku ada kenal org mcm ni
dia silent je xde text apa segala
aku dok pikir jadi ke x nk jmpa..
last2 aku mengalah text dia dulu..
nsb baik reply cepat (aku syak dia tggu text drp aku  )
benda kecik mcm ni pon nk jgk aku yg mulakan
benda2 lain mcm mn gaknya |
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Post time 11-6-2019 03:54 PM
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missy_intsy replied at 11-6-2019 09:02 AM
It’s like a competition. Who annoys each other better haha... Bila dah lama kawin tak kuasa nak k ...
Tu lah.. kagum dgn org yg in marriage.. bila x kawin lg ni, kecik2 punya isu pun kdg2 nak terasa sampai rasa nk putus.. pastu nmpk muka dia ceria balik .. haha.. isu aku selalu sbb x nmpak dia depan mata.. bila dia depan masa berbunga2 betul hati.. |
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Post time 11-6-2019 03:56 PM
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ako_chan replied at 11-6-2019 01:56 PM
thanx for your reply. really appreciate that.
aku suka quote ni. ayat last tu. sexy in his eyes. ...
Bila u terasa jauh tu ada communicate tak? Lelaki ni kdg2 bg dia xde apa.. kena luahkan apa u rasa tp xyah emo or dramatik.. cakap dgn tone yg expressionless.. tgk dia nye reaction.. kalau dia care psl you, dia akan dengar .. tapiii tak janji la dia x buat lagi.. haha.. mmg nature gitu kot.. tp apa yg penting how he react bila you meluah tu.. kalah defensive & marah2 u , by all means bole la walk away peacefully |
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nk kuat mcm ni aje...
pikir sebelum dia ada, hidup kita okay2 aje
bile dia ada sepatutnya menambah lah value2 yg baik2..
tp klu pikir n rasa dulu without dia pon aku leh survive buat ape nak simpan
better move on...
aku tau nak buat tu susah. cakap senang la
aku nk bgthu la.... aku move on xtau la amik berapa lama masa...
once aku jumpa someone lain maknanya aku dah move on la kan...
tp yg aku tahu proses aku bersedih menangis ke kdg2 dgr lagu jiwang ke kan
3 hari aje... mmg tu maksimum aku nak layan perasaan ke ape...
3 hari je nak berkabung... lebih2 mmg x la...
byk lagi keje nak buat kan. hahaha
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slalu dia akan ckp aku ni overthinking...overthinking aku mcm ni...aku akan text:
1- dah xnak text xpe. ckp aje la. i boleh cari lain
2- dah ada org lain ker?
3- hello i bukan tunggul kat sini? u nak u text. u xnk u buat xtahu aje
4- fyi i hidup lagi.
and he will reply:
1- u ni kenapa?
2- u ni slalu pikir yg bukan2 la
3- sorry u, i busy
sampai la aku bosan... aku diam aje. ada skali tu dia text, aku x buka pon. almost 2-3 hari
lepas tu aku buka aku baca then xreply. silent treatment. lepas tu bile dia realize bluetick, text la kenapa xreply?
marah ker? n still aku senyap baru lah dia call aku... ada sekali tu dia call 2 3 kali baru aku pick up
hati mana x sakit weh.. sepanjang 2 3 hari tu dia mcm hilang.. then muncul balik...
konon hari tu mintak peluang la ape lah.. aku just iye kan aje.. tp aku x mengharap ape2 pon.
so aku buat keputusan make it open relationship without further discuss.. malas dah aku nak discuss nk bebel2 lagi
aku punye hati, aku punye suka la nk buat ape. so skrg aku kawan je dgn mana2 laki yg aku rasa nak berkawan...
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haa laki aku la ni.
common sense memang kureng.
tak ada la dia nak ingat pampers/susu/syampoo/sabun/toothpaste eh segala benda la dalam rumah tu.
semua aku nak kena remind.
awal2 kahwin memang aku stress.
tapi lama2 aku fikir, buat apa la aku nak stress hal2 macam ni.
dia tak ingat, aku ingat kan je la.
tak perlu semak kepala.
rumah tangga aman harmoni 
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lagi 1, yang penting communication.
kau tak boleh la nak expect2.
laki ni dia bukan nya ahli nujum yang boleh baca apa ada dalam kepala kau.
cakappp
cakapppppppp |
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Post time 11-6-2019 05:59 PM
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potpetpotpet replied at 11-6-2019 04:24 PM
lagi 1, yang penting communication.
kau tak boleh la nak expect2.
Hahaha kelakar la.. sebab tu id you potpetpotpet.. tu lah.. kena gak cakap dari buat assumption.. gaduh pun gaduhla janji x simpan dalam hati.. simpan lama3 tu yg meletop..
Isu i ni kdg2 i rasa nk blame on hormone pun ye gak.. i notice one week before period i punye level of irritation tu lain mcm.. dia gurau2 pun i boleh emo.. dulu x rasa ada pms ni.. so skrg i take note.. 1 week before period, kalau i nk emo je i diam.. kdg2 time emo kita tend tu ckp benda2 yg menyakitkan ati tu jd lg jauh |
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Post time 11-6-2019 06:06 PM
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ako_chan replied at 11-6-2019 04:17 PM
slalu dia akan ckp aku ni overthinking...overthinking aku mcm ni...aku akan text:
1- dah xnak tex ...
Babe... i rasa u kena tukar approach.. serius la ayat2 tu agak annoying pada yg menerima.. sebab tu reply dia agak defensive.. bila u text tu u mcm lpskan ala yg tebuku & nk dia betul2 tau u marah..
Next time when you are jn a new relationship, kalau dia diam, u diam je la sampai dia text..kalau x tahan sgt u sorok telefon atau gi buat benda lain sbb kalau u x tahan & text dia , ayat2 akan jadi mcm ni la.. lebih pada nk lps geram..bila u dah cool down, baru u msg & tny je
1- u buat ape tu? Xde kabar berita punn..
2- arini i buat sekian sekian.. pegi sekian2.. u buat ape..
Bila penerima tu baca, xde la dia rasa nak defensive.. sebab u x put any blame on him.. kalau dia x reply atau reply lambat, xyah follow up.. anggap je dia busy.. nnti2 dia reply la tu.. tp kalau 2,3 ari xde respon.. well.. x rasa la org bercinta cmni, si baik blah je.. |
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sweetpea911 replied at 11-6-2019 06:06 PM
Babe... i rasa u kena tukar approach.. serius la ayat2 tu agak annoying pada yg menerima.. sebab t ...
Defensive? Sbb cara aku text tu mcm aku serang dia ker? Yeeee mmg aku nak dia tau ape aku rasa. Aku tgh marah. Sbb tu ayat aku sarcastic sgt hahah...
Pada aku dia defensive sbb dia tau dia abaikan aku. Sedangkan baby pon tau n dpt rasa either mak ayah dia sygkan dia ker x... Inikan pulak kita yg dewasa yg boleh pikir mcm2 kan...
Ok.. Xpe. Benda dah lepas. Aku akan ingat pesanan kau for next relationship aku nnti.
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Camnihlah, kalau lelaki tuh betul2 head over heels for u atau sayang u, dia xkan buat camtuh, it looks to me like macam tarik tali.
To guys, sebelum dapat, memang semua all out, it is the excitement of the chase and the hunt, but once dah dapat, most guys will slow down, some will no longer care because he 'won'. Tapi bila u nak break up, the guys will feel like they are going to lose the 'prize' thus the pleading and begging.
Kena face the facts, lelaki yg terkejar2 u tuh sumer cuma looking for fun and some challenge, they're not really into u. The right guy takkan abaikan u, so long as you're not the psycho or ultra clingy type, sebab all guys (and girls) need their own space too.
During my own courtship with my now wife, i memang bersungguh2 kejar dia, lepas dapat, kami keluar berdating hampir setiap hari for almost 2 years (rumah dekat hehe), sampai family kedua2 belah pon tanya tak bosan ke keluar hari2 nih, i have never abandon or ignore her, we were head over heels for each other.
So in conclusion, no, not all guys are the same, you just haven't met the 'one', so don't give up, keep looking, and drop those who do not appreciate you. Good luck.
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ni baru nak bunga2 cinta ke apa??
ke dah nak nampak sorga cinta..
kalau dah tahap saling sayang menyayangi, dia tak text..tak reply apa ke 44 hari pon, ko dah tak kisah dan mampu lagi tersenyum..
sebabnya time camni, fikiran ko dah mula waras, dr ko fikir satu kelemahan dia yg ini...beribu banyak lagi kebaikan dia yg ko dah tau dan ko kenang. as long as hubungan tahap camni, bukan toxic relationship.
kalau baru nk mula..memang lah texting punya hal pon jd issue. sbb baru nak kenal.
tapi xperlu lah tinggalkan pon. berkawan lah juga ngan laki lain.
dah betul2 percaya..baru declare.
selalu akan jadi prob bila tak jumpa..tapi jumpa eh..ok je pulak.
nak elak gaduh, maybe kena selalu jumpa kot.
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ako_chan replied at 4-6-2019 11:50 AM
ada a few questions la nk tanya...
i dah bnyk kali couple clash couple clash...sebb:
1. i rasa i ...
1. hang blum jumpa lagi laki yg btul2 baik
2. laki2 yg hang jumpa sume take for granted hubungan korang.... sbb tu bila diorg sedar je hang nak blah, cpt2 diorg cuba perbetulkan keadaan
kesimpulan: mcm yg no 1 tu, hang blum jumpa lagi laki yg btul2 baik utk diri hang |
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fifie_olin replied at 11-6-2019 03:35 PM
aku ada kenal org mcm ni
dia silent je xde text apa segala
aku dok pikir jadi ke x nk jmpa..
ada satu study yg mengatakan laki lebih manja dari pompuan
btoi kot  |
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