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juliez replied at 10-4-2016 06:18 AM
Iols ternampak thread ni dlm list new thread. Pastu iola pun click la kusyuk baca luahan tt. Pastu ...
Ala biasalah tu sis
Akak dah biasa tgk cikki2 suruh pm bagai kalo ada poremer lelaki yg baru putus cinta nih
Rasa geli geleman pun ada gak bila baca posting cikki2 yg memasing gigih nk attention dr poremer lelaki (educated, ada harta, keje tetap etc etc)
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Normal kot. Akak sblom cerai pon tak pikir nak kawen lagi, masa tu ex dah buat perangai. Akak fikir nak hidup dengan anak & buat hal sendiri. Nak kata serik tu, macam serik pon ada. Lepas 2 tahun, rasa ok pulak sekarang, maybe because I'm highly independent before knowing him. Cuma masa mula2 dia keluar rumah tu tak tentu arah sikit sebab ada bende yang dia buat akak highly dependent kat dia, ada bende dia soh independent specially bab duit, macam main tarik tali, dependent-independent-dependent gitu la. So masalah besar sebab tetiba takde suami dalam rumah, cuba takde beza kat benda lain macam duit (for me & anak) & penjagaan anak, tu memang dia serah bulat2 kat aku.
Akak rasa ok single nih, akak rasa akak bleh survive pon sebab anak, budak nih my biggest entertainer. So maybe that's why I dont think much about finding a pengganti, i dont care to meet new guys & dating bagai, I'm too old & occupied for that. I had so much pending hobbies lagipun.
So I guess we're that type, we're so comfy with our single, in my case 1.5 life, maybe because it sucks being married. |
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Edited by nabyha at 13-4-2016 01:51 AM
a friend of mine pon komplen bini dia camtu. tapi dorang jenis yang tinggi kesabaran, masing2 jaki dengan masing2 & boleh go on sampai anak ramai.
guess we dont have that kind of patience, takde jodoh lagipun.
kalo kata nak hobi sama, i have same hobby/interest dengan ex, pon tak jadi jugak. i masak, take good care of our daughter, cuma malas nak hias rumah & i nag him to help. pompuan nih bab kerja rumah, ada macam2 pe'el. ada suka masak, tak suka cuci pinggan. suka cuci baju, x suka lipat baju, etc. jadi suami kena la tolong, saling melengkapi gitu, atau bagi la maid, atau tambah bini lagi buat penolong, ok bad joke.
dah takdir jodoh tak panjang, biar la 1001 sebab, ada pasangan tu takde sebab langsung pon bleh jadik bercerai.
kenapa u tak amik anak u? tanya jek, just wondering because budak tu lelaki kan? kalo ex x suka masak, budak tu makan ape?
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cmf_premierleag replied at 12-4-2016 08:03 PM
Ala biasalah tu sis
Akak dah biasa tgk cikki2 suruh pm bagai kalo ada poremer lelaki yg baru putu ...
Sis, tu nama dia cuba nasib....Mana tahu mengena, tak de lah asyik mengelak bila sedara-mara sibuk tanya,' hangpa bila nak kawin....' |
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yprat replied at 11-4-2016 11:48 AM
Wow dude, i'm currently in the same boat as you, almost identical.
Not to brag, but I'm a pretty ...
Bro, have you talked to your wife abt this?
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Actually kan...kekadang sehobi sekepala sama minat pun tak menjamin kebahagiaan jgk..like me n my husband..both of us are too different on so many level...he said he wasn't happy with our differences..so when he found someone who quickly clicked with him...he fell in love..tp masih keep me as isteri plus he has two daughters with me..i felt insulted..sbb i pun tak happy x boleh spend time with him doing things i love..tp i takdelah cari laki lain...anyway they got married....tp tak sampai 3 months...dia ceraikan that woman..because he said..minat sama..sekepala tp xleh go on dgn perangai..and that woman did something he said dah sampai tutup semua kelebihan yg dia ada(i xtau apa n do not care pun)...meanwhile me..minat x sama..tp i respected him dan taat..so there is no perfect husband or wife out there..mmg akan ada cela dan kurang..but weigh it out lah..kelebihan dan kekurangan yg mana u rasa boleh buat u bertahan sampai tua dan reput...
Anyway..masih baru lg kan ...enjoy your life dulu la..and go with the flow.. |
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Clover_Hill replied at 12-4-2016 12:36 AM
Selalunya..jodoh kita adalah someone yang contradict dgn diri kita..lets say kita pencinta travellin ...
Aku pun fikir mcm uols jgk..complement each other..tp maybe for some people..nak yg sehati sejiwa sekepala sama perangai |
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Edited by adila39 at 13-4-2016 11:06 AM
TT I rasakan u ni perfectionist...some may say that is a bad quality to have bla bla...but to me...try to be perfect and always do our best in what ever yg kita buat tu is part of our own quality..we dont take things for granted and we tried being the best as we can. Too bad when our spouses unlike what expected them to be, some boleh carry on and some dont.
Of coz tempias will affected on our kids but sometimes kita kena selfish jugak.
I wud just say, u just forget about all ur past marriage, ur mistakes etc...org kata, experience ni akan buat kita lebih alert lebih flexible and lebih matang...i would suggest you to have your space do ur thing enjoy life being single but at the same time always be there for your son. 2 yrs is a young age to understand. Mine is different..i decided the marriage should be at end when im pregnant 4 months.
And im glad deicision yg i buat tu betul...now my son dah 4 yrs and never once he met the father. True enough, his not a good dadddy and a husband. Kalau pesona as a man pun out. So leaving him is one of the correct things i have done in my life.
Cuma, u have to be always close dgn anak u tu, make sure dia ikut style you more than the mother...i bukan nak ckpla tp i rasa anak u kena suka membaca suka explore and jgn adapt sgt melayu style ni ..bukan i kata melayu x bagus..i pun melayu tp susah la nk ckp..tgk je la some mak mak melayu ni cara dia treat anak2.
cth 1 bila antar anak sekolah muka masam
cth 2 marah anak jerit2
cth 3 layan anak macam sloppy je
anak i, wlau i bekerja i make sure dia explore what ever he wants...and now dia tgh kemaruk painting all dinasour toys dia...susah i nak explain but im not gonna let my son be the typical malay, insya allah.
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ooo lupa nak add, i rasa kan TT patut jaga anak u...klu betul la apa yg u describe pasal ex u ni, he not gonna be the junior mummy kan....pompuan ni bila cerai usually akan ada time very emo and meroyan...unless u mmg ok...but being single parent ni banyak dugaan ni...but if you the type yg calm and ble pikir logik and use ur common sense i rasa u patut kot yg parenting ur son |
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Yes, i have, things change for a day or two, at max a week, then it goes back to the same shit, penat dah, berbuih mulut.
Haven't use the divorce card yet.
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yprat replied at 13-4-2016 11:37 AM
Yes, i have, things change for a day or two, at max a week, then it goes back to the same shit, pe ...
Sorry if i am asking you this..but how long hv u two been married? How long hv u tried? Did she told u what's her problem and why she can't adapt to the changes and keep going back to her old self? |
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aku rasa tak patut ko suggest pisahkan mak dgn anak yg masih kecik....ex tt maybe ada kekurangan, tapi ada tak dia biarkan anak dia kebuluran? takde tempat tinggal, atau abaikan keperluan anak dia? kalu anak sakit, ada tak dia bawa anak gi klinik? kalu semua tu dia ada buat, she is a fit mother to me.
u are a mother yourself, how do u feel kalu org nak amik anak kecik u dari u?
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aku rasa masalah ko nie simple jer bro.....ko dah tak cintakan wife ko lg....pnh terbaca quote nie.....The best thing a father could do to his children, is to love their mother....
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hmmm ye la got the point...cuma tu la i kata...kena selfish manatau anak tu akan ubah sikap ibu tu jadi seperti yg TT nak ..
kita bagi suggestion je TT yang tau what is best
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anak dia masih kecil lagi.....biarlah dgn mak nyer....walaupun tak dok sebumbung, tt masih bole lagi jalankan tanggungjawab ke atas anak dia, kasi nafkah, spend time with d kid, nanti dah besar, ajar anak solat, mengaji etc....
berpisah, suami dan isteri...takde libatkan anak...tanggungjawab sebagai ibu bapa tetap sama....
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Somehow TT, I just cannot help but to think that you are selfish.
That aside ( tak nak relate dgn what had happened in the past between you & your ex ), time will heal...
Percayalah, there will be a time bila you tanpa sedar akan suka kan seseorang and wish to settle down with her
Tak payah nak kemaruk sangat cari pengganti sekrg ( which you are not as what you have explained ), biar benda tu datang sendiri
As of now, just enjoy your single life again |
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A couple of years, countless of times. She doesn't have an answer for that, but instead love to blame me or others on her shortcomings. Apparently she's been like this from before we were even acquainted. Simply put, that is her personality. But it is also partly my fault for not seeing it earlier.
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Sayang tuh ada lagi, tapi semakin hari semakin menghilang.
Kalau husband u jenis duduk goyang kaki kat umah x bagi nafkah kat anak bini for years, duduk goyang kaki main game, pegi lepak, malas kerja, would you still stick by his side? How long can you last? Exactly.
But hey i'm still holding on, maybe....a big maybe she will change one day.
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dari relationship yg lepas2, aku sorang yg penyabar....kalu dpt laki camtu, sekurang2nyer aku akan stay bersama selama 5 tahun....kalu dlm masa 5 tahun tu tetap takde langsung perubahan, i will decide utk berpisah...
skrg nie ada tak wife ko tak jalankan tanggungjawab dia sebagai seorg isteri dan ibu kepada anak ko?
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larr.....bace komen2 hakak kt sini, ingatkan hakak jenis talkative 
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Category: Cinta & Perhubungan
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Post time 12-4-2016 08:03 PM
Post time 13-4-2016 11:02 AM
