Love Doc: Q & A Here (Especially for the Ladies)

gurlfriday

ifan..i nk tnye ni tnye tp i pm u ok...

sweetpea911

which of the following shows how much the man is in love with his woman?

1) by talking over the phone for few hours or
2) by holding her tight in his arm without saying a word

zaydatul

ifan,i da pm u..hope to hear from u soon

ifanonline

which of the following shows how much the man is in love with his woman?

1) by talking over the p ...
sweetpea911 Post at 4-4-2010 22:50

action speaks louder than words...so the number 2 option is your best bet

sweetpea911

ifan,
i've got a big problem..i dah fell in love with someone yg ada gf..
he's my best friend and also my colleague..gf dia ni jauh,still young n still studying..
actually, dah lama sgt suka tp simpan sebab dah rapat sgt dgn dia dan tau
mcm2 perangai dia which are kaki perempuan, manipulative, opportunist etc..but
the good side of him ialah dia sgt suka tolong kawan2 n jarang sakitkan hati org..

until recently, dia tiba2 confess yg dia pun sbnrnya suka dkt i dah lama..tp dia still
on dengan gf dia..sometimes rasa mcm dia nak manipulate or ada hidden agenda tp
sebab mcm tiba2 dapat tau org yg kita dah lama suka pun ada perasaan yg sama, jadi
mcm tak boleh nak follow sgt akal punya judgement..so, i pun layan je la that feeling to
the point dah rasa sayang sgt2 dah..dia pun ada buat loving gestures like staring deeply into my eyes while talking, holding hands, kiss the back of my hands,kiss my forehead smpi
i betul2 rasa mcm dia mmg sayang dkt i..

tp, dlm masa yang sama, dia mcm makin in love dgn gf dia..everyday akan ckp on the phone lama2, sms x henti2..mmg rasa frust sgt2..so, i try to convince myself yg dia sbnrnya sunyi dan at the moment i je yg plg dekat n rapat dgn dia, tu yg dia buat mcm tu..i jauhkan
diri, taknak rapat sgt..then i tanya betul2 psl feeling dia..dan dia admit, dia ada plan nak kawin with that girl in 2 yrs time lps that girl habis belajar..while dgn i dia x de plan mcm tu pun.. dia siap cakap, what's the diff kalau dia kawin..we all still akan mcm ni..(dia nak buat i gundik ke?? )

tp mmg susah sgt nak avoid dia sbb keje skali, 1 team n hari2 communicate..so, kalau at one time tu tiba2 tinggal dgn dia je, dia akan pegang tgn i..peluk bahu i n ckp he miss me..
i hate myself sebab bila dia buat mcm tu, i takde courage nak lawan..dlm ertikata lain i tak
tegas n biarkan dia sebab i sendiri still ada feeling kat dia..i rasa mcm loser sgt, mcm i biarkan diri i diperbodoh2 kan mcm tu..

so, i nak tny u ..as a guy..if u were that man, are you really intend to take advantage of me..or are u planning to get into my pants or are u really like me but at the same time never wants to hurt ur current gf?

i mmg suka dia sgt2..dah list down mcm2 perangai buruk dia but still ada perasaan tu..

which one is  better option?
-leave him and his gf or
-try my best to win him?(it's weird i even considered this option because this guy has nothing..duit pun takde, byk hutang..pelik betul.. )

please..i really need ur help..kawan2 i dah mcm meluat dah..diorg mmg cukup benci dgn this guy..tp i taktau knp hati i ni mcm attached sgt dgn dia..

sweetpea911

ifan,
i've got a big problem..i dah fell in love with someone yg ada gf..
he's my best friend and also my colleague..gf dia ni jauh,still young n still studying..
actually, dah lama sgt suka tp simpan sebab dah rapat sgt dgn dia dan tau
mcm2 perangai dia which are kaki perempuan, manipulative, opportunist etc..but
the good side of him ialah dia sgt suka tolong kawan2 n jarang sakitkan hati org..

until recently, dia tiba2 confess yg dia pun sbnrnya suka dkt i dah lama..tp dia still
on dengan gf dia..sometimes rasa mcm dia nak manipulate or ada hidden agenda tp
sebab mcm tiba2 dapat tau org yg kita dah lama suka pun ada perasaan yg sama, jadi
mcm tak boleh nak follow sgt akal punya judgement..so, i pun layan je la that feeling to
the point dah rasa sayang sgt2 dah..dia pun ada buat loving gestures like staring deeply into my eyes while talking, holding hands, kiss the back of my hands,kiss my forehead smpi
i betul2 rasa mcm dia mmg sayang dkt i..

tp, dlm masa yang sama, dia mcm makin in love dgn gf dia..everyday akan ckp on the phone lama2, sms x henti2..mmg rasa frust sgt2..so, i try to convince myself yg dia sbnrnya sunyi dan at the moment i je yg plg dekat n rapat dgn dia, tu yg dia buat mcm tu..i jauhkan
diri, taknak rapat sgt..then i tanya betul2 psl feeling dia..dan dia admit, dia ada plan nak kawin with that girl in 2 yrs time lps that girl habis belajar..while dgn i dia x de plan mcm tu pun.. dia siap cakap, what's the diff kalau dia kawin..we all still akan mcm ni..(dia nak buat i gundik ke?? )

tp mmg susah sgt nak avoid dia sbb keje skali, 1 team n hari2 communicate..so, kalau at one time tu tiba2 tinggal dgn dia je, dia akan pegang tgn i..peluk bahu i n ckp he miss me..
i hate myself sebab bila dia buat mcm tu, i takde courage nak lawan..dlm ertikata lain i tak
tegas n biarkan dia sebab i sendiri still ada feeling kat dia..i rasa mcm loser sgt, mcm i biarkan diri i diperbodoh2 kan mcm tu..

so, i nak tny u ..as a guy..if u were that man, are you really intend to take advantage of me..or are u planning to get into my pants or are u really like me but at the same time never wants to hurt ur current gf?

i mmg suka dia sgt2..dah list down mcm2 perangai buruk dia but still ada perasaan tu..

which one is  better option?
-leave him and his gf or
-try my best to win him?(it's weird i even considered this option because this guy has nothing..duit pun takde, byk hutang..pelik betul.. )

please..i really need ur help..kawan2 i dah mcm meluat dah..diorg mmg cukup benci dgn this guy..tp i taktau knp hati i ni mcm attached sgt dgn dia..

ifanonline

ifan,
i've got a big problem..i dah fell in love with someone yg ada gf..
he's my best friend and  ...
sweetpea911 Post at 19-6-2010 00:40

hi sweetpea,

sorry ler lambat reply, i dah lama giler tak update thread ni....mcm mana entah tergerak hati nak jenguk sini, mungkin panggilan sweetpea la barangkali...hehe (who knows right?)

anyways, ape yg u mention tu sebenarnya adalah that guy takde confident dgn his current gf, sebab tu la his giving all this mix signals. Dier cuba nak dapat kan u, but in the other hand his heart is still with the other girl. Ok, first of all, mcm biasa la, u kena uji dier skit...try and find another male friend, not to be your bf but someone yg boleh membuatkan dier jeles. Tengok reaksi dier mcm mana, kalau dier tidak memberi respon atau mcm takde perasaan jer, maksudnya dier cuma nak main2 kan u jer.

In the other hand, kalau perasaan jeles dier tu menebal apabila tengok u dgn teman2 lain, maksud dier he is 50 percent serious with you. So u must take the next step. Orang lelaki ni senang jer nak capture hati dier, be a playful person, ala-ala manja skit. But do not ever mention his gf to him. Buat dunno je.

To me, LDR (Long Distance Relationship) susah nak maintain dan mudah di uji. So maybe you have a chance with him sebab you berada lebih dekat dgn current gf dier? who knows right?

ifanonline

just to put some points in this ever so lovely thread...hehe

sebenarnya the best time to fall in love is during your varsiti days or before you start working. This is because, when you are young and naive, you do not think about responsibility of work...you have nothing to lose, you even don't have any money (unless your family is rich, that's a different story).

So to all the lovers out there, work will make your love life less exciting. Be in love before you are employed, find someone special, than work.

adikhyppo

hi ifan..
saya ingin berkongsi masalah dan dapatkan nasihat dr saudara..

Sy dah couple dgn A selama lebih 2 tahun...mmg dh rancang utk kawen..tp bila dh smpai tahun yg sepatutnya kawen..target tu tak smpai2..bila sy suarakan pendapat mcm2 alasan diberi...kdg tu bila sy sebut je bab 'kawen' maka kami akan bergaduh besar...bila dh jd hal mcm ni...bg mengelakkan sy ni asyik pikir pasal kawen je (memandangkan umor dh nk masuk 28) dan asyik diperli di pejabat...sy berkawan dgn seorang teman iaitu B yg dh sy knali lebih lama dr A...bila dh kerap bermsg2..dan memandangkan B ni masih solo..maka dh timbul satu perasaan antara sy dan B....B seorang yang mempunyai peribadi yang lebih menyakinkan dr A...sy selesa bersama B.....

tetapi nampak gayanya A sudah mengetahui hubungan sy dgn B...sy dipaksa utk tinggalkan B...tetapi sy tak mampu berbuat demikian kerana perasaan kasih sy terhadap B masih menebal...sy tidak suka dgn sikap A yg suka memaksa sy membuat keputusan dan bersikap panas baran itu....sy jadi takut untuk berbaik dgn A kerana dia mengugut untuk membuat perkara yg sama (mencari perempuan lain) tp dlm ms yg sama memaksa sy utk kekal dgn dia...

sy dh jd buntu....mana satu harus sy pilih...A or B?? sy berasa amat kasihan pada B yg menjadi mangsa keadaan...

ifanonline

hi ifan..
saya ingin berkongsi masalah dan dapatkan nasihat dr saudara..

Sy dah couple dgn A sel ...
adikhyppo Post at 10-7-2010 17:35

hi adikhyppo,

torn between two lovers la ni? memandangkan u sudah berumur 28 tahun, and i understand your worries, give si A an ultimatum, kalau dier benar2 serius dgn u, buktikan dgn komitmen dier....kalau tidak, sebagai gadis single dan tiada ikatan, u berhak utk memilih jejaka dan bakal suami u. But u need to look at both of them, samada A dan B...jejaka mana yg fit your criteria...because this is important in choosing your future husband...which of this 2 you like the most? yg mana satu u paling serasi?

you have to do it quickly because you are not young anymore, and your biological clock is ticking...choose the right man who transmit responsibility and consistency, and the most important of all, get your families blessing.

lastchaos

hi sweetpea,

sorry ler lambat reply, i dah lama giler tak update thread ni....mcm mana entah  ...
ifanonline Post at 2-7-2010 17:52

gosshh sweetpea nye probs same as mine..90% same!


ifan, i dah buat as per u ckp tu, mean i dah try make him jeles..the answer is yes..my "bf" mmg jelesss..but he said one thing to me " sy mmg jeles awk dgn dia, tp kalo awk rase dia boleh buat awk bahagia, awk should go on dgn dia..sy x mahu awk berhrp pd sy. sy mmg sygkn awk, tp sy xleh pentingkn diri..awk patut pikir kebahagian awk.."


how about this ifan? is he really means that? if yes, should i undur diri / hilangkan diri? or still take another step? sy dh penat nk pikir..

ifanonline

Reply 936# lastchaos

hi lastchaos,

the ball now is in your court...evaluate your relationship with A and B...keputusan akhir tetap di tangan anda...make the right choice...but always evaluate past, present and future...

lastchaos

Reply  lastchaos

hi lastchaos,

the ball now is in your court...evaluate your relationship wit ...
ifanonline Post at 17-7-2010 15:22

    kena pikir lagi...mmmmmm..honestly sy dah penat pikir..maybe i will choose undurkn diri..
but susahnye sy nk lepaskn dia..aduuhhhh

ifanonline

kena pikir lagi...mmmmmm..honestly sy dah penat pikir..maybe i will choose undurkn diri..
...
lastchaos Post at 19-7-2010 13:03

retreat is the easiest option...not always the best...but it is an option!

buterfly

apa maksud kalau dekat2 baik..layan pun baik..tapi kalau jauh2 dingin dan asyik gaduh..

ifanonline

apa maksud kalau dekat2 baik..layan pun baik..tapi kalau jauh2 dingin dan asyik gaduh..
buterfly Post at 20-7-2010 12:51

maksudnya cik adik adalah hubungan berjauhan ni banyak cobaan nya...kalau tak sabar dan tidak mempercayai pasangan, kemungkinan perasaan akan di ganggu syaitan...hubungan seseorang kalau berdekatan dgn kita adalah lebih baik...

buterfly

maksudnya cik adik adalah hubungan berjauhan ni banyak cobaan nya...kalau tak sabar dan tidak me ...
ifanonline Post at 20-7-2010 18:04

tapi x lah jauh mana..sejam perjalanan coma..

ifanonline

tapi x lah jauh mana..sejam perjalanan coma..
buterfly Post at 21-7-2010 10:56

kalau cam tu, berjumpa la setiap sabtu & ahad...during weekends boleh bersiar-siar

lastchaos

ifan, i like the way u reply mslh2 kt sini..
btw, in my case tu, honestly sbenanya lelaki tu bleh dikategorikn sbg lelaki yg sesuai buat suami or x? kalo mase kapel dia dh psang dua, dia bleh lakukn jugak mase dia dah kawen rite?

ifanonline

ifan, i like the way u reply mslh2 kt sini..
btw, in my case tu, honestly sbenanya lelaki tu bleh d ...
lastchaos Post at 26-7-2010 13:43

thank you for the compliment, just trying to do my part for the society

sebenarnya selagi seseorang lelaki atau wanita belum berkahwin secara sah, both of them has an option to choose their best partners. Sometimes the question is not because of loyalty or faithfulness, but the choice we make that is the most suitable for us, apetah lagi dlm berumah tangga...love is important, but compatibility comes into play very much in your marriage life.

So, pilih lah jejaka yg anda rasa sesuai.