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Love Doc: Q & A Here (Especially for the Ladies)
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wanawina posted on 29-3-2013 12:48 AM 
menarik neh.
hahaha. saya rasa saya faham kot kenapa bg seorang ppuan, dia akan tanya, ...
ini tujuan thread ni di buka kan...utk kedua-dua pihak, samada lelaki dan wanita saling paham memahami supaya relationship tu lebih bermakna...
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waa..mcm ada soalan nak tnya..tp malu plak 
hmm actually dah lama nk tanya kat kaum lelaki, tp nk buat mcm mana, i dont always make friends with guys =,=
so, there's nobody to refer to. hmm mcm ni, sy berkenalan dgn boyfriend sy melalui sms je dulu, n then calling2 seterusnya blind date. then bila dah couple, dia mcm terlalu busy dgn kerja dia smpai kadang2 xcontact dekat seminggu. is this normal??
i heard that men sometimes need his space, unlike women, we r almost all the time (maybe) being needy. tp, sy betul2 xselesa dgn keadaan mcm ni. kalau boleh sy nak tau apa dia buat, being with him thru his rough times ke ape ke. tp, mcm tak dpt je. dalam kepala sy, sy pikir maybe dia ada someone yg lain, or dia xsuka sy, and the last is maybe btul dia busy. btw, dia seorg inspektor.
sy ada tnya dia kalau2 dia ada org lain, tp dia deny. so, sy tak tnya lebih2 unt elakkn isu ketidakpercayaan plak nnti..huhu pastu bila sy pikir pasal maybe dia xsuka sy, lam kepala sy "takkn la mcm tu kot, dah dia yg mintk aku dulu" so atas purpose apa dia nk couple tp xsuke plak, sbb mmng takda apa yg dia dpt pun. jadual terlalu pack? xkan la smpai seminggu xdpt contct. his behavior confuses me.
bila tanya, alasan masih sama.. kerja. then dia ada mintk maaf sbb xdpt spend time dgn sy, tp terlalu simple maaf dia tu mcm benda yg berlaku ni tak serius mana pun. which is lam hati sy *sabar je la.
then, ada skali tu sembang2 kat phone dgn dia, tnya apa dia buat after kerja td, dia ley kata tido, kemas2 bilik, laundry baju, then main games. i was like games?? wth games lg penting dr aku neh??
the only reason sy masih dgn dia adlh sbb sy masih sayangkan dia. tu je. dah xtau nk tnya mcm mana, nak fikir as positive as i can mcm mana lg dah ntah la. takut2 lama2 perasaan yg ada pun fade away mcm tu je. T.T
bila sy cerita kt org lain, i'll get the same opinions n same suggestions. he's cheating on u, n just leave him. ini sgt men-stresskn sy Last edited by farahferrari on 1-4-2013 03:09 PM
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farahferrari posted on 1-4-2013 10:44 PM
waa..mcm ada soalan nak tnya..tp malu plak
hmm actually dah lama nk tanya kat kaum lelaki, t ...
Seriously farrah, i have the same issue as you may have noted in my thread... My fiance ni pun selalu gak minta maaf sbb kekdg tertdo kalu x balas msg or lmbt balas msg, sometimes sampai kite dh bosan dgn the same apologies... sbb die gak yg propose to me so me pun x rasa was was sgt la kan sbb die mcm nak kat kite... huhuhu but now, asyik perasan dok like gambar work colleagues die (ade la 2-3 gambar, mmg cun baik punya that girl  ) pastu leh plak check FB every 15-30 mins time keje walhal text kite x balas2 lg... omg... but despite die keep in touch daily, still trust tu susah sgt nak maintain... bertabahla kite... huhuhuhu
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kaann?? normal ke mcm tu? sometimes i feel that i deserve better.. bkn layanan ada xada, acuh xacuh mcm ni. T.T
kite nk tnya terlalu bnyk, takut plak dia kata kite yg tak percayakan dia. dah lama mkn hati, tp tahan sbb sayang. tp, asyik kite je yg tabah, acano tu??  |
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autoure posted on 2-4-2013 05:51 PM
Seriously farrah, i have the same issue as you may have noted in my thread... My fiance ni pun sel ...
kaann?? normal ke mcm tu? sometimes i feel that i deserve better.. bkn layanan ada xada, acuh xacuh mcm ni. T.T
kite nk tnya terlalu bnyk, takut plak dia kata kite yg tak percayakan dia. dah lama mkn hati, tp tahan sbb sayang. tp, asyik kite je yg tabah, acano tu?? |
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farahferrari posted on 2-4-2013 07:06 PM
Agaknye sbb kite mmg expect an ideal partner kan... but they don't come perfect and neither are we... tp ape la salahnya penghargaan tu diberi to someone that we consider "special" kan? i feel upset jugak that others can "feel" the love but kite x merasa sgt pun... did you try confronting your guy? i have never tried but what I did was I cube like byk2 status dkt FB yg relate to what I feel in hopes that he will read it (which he does) but I don't think that has been successful so far... kikiki xpe la farah, after some time ni kalau x catch lg hint tu, mmg i will confront lah... malas dh nk makan hati berulam jantung... 
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autoure posted on 2-4-2013 06:21 PM
Agaknye sbb kite mmg expect an ideal partner kan... but they don't come perfect and neither are we ...
confront dgn cara yg serious blm pernah, tp pernah jugak la several times tanya napa tak cntct, napa xreply msg etc. etc.
as always jawapannya sama je.. kerja, busy, tak da masa. mcm dah lali dgr alasan tu. tp sy pernah jugak ckp kt dia, u have 24 hrs a day, yet u cant spend like 30 secs just to reply one of my msgs?? then he was just like, sorry. thats all
can u imagine? alasan tu semacam xlogik sesangat. sy pun pernah meluahkn ketidakpuasan hati sy dgn layanan dia, tp dia akn jwb balik mcm sy tak blh terima kerja dia n so on~ ok, sebelum sy dikatakan "xdpt menerima dia seadanya" baik saya mendiamkn diri jek. but the feeling of dissatisfaction is still there. n skrg pun dia masih xreply msg sy dah dua hari ni.. dah ada rasa nk berbincang dgn lebih serious ni. tunggu masa je |
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n im aware that, perkara2 mcm ni takkn jadi ok kalau tak dibawa berbincang dgn baik. tp sometimes, ada yg jenis ego ni dia xjelaskn sebab2 dia buat mcm tu, sbb dia berkelakuan mcm tu. jadi, punca nya sy xdpt tau, n sy jugak xdpt identify kalau2 sy yg ada buat salah yg menyebabkan dia jd mcm tu. sesungguhnya, dia mengkonfiuskn sy btul lah.hmm |
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farahferrari posted on 2-4-2013 07:32 PM
confront dgn cara yg serious blm pernah, tp pernah jugak la several times tanya napa tak cntct, na ...
Haha! Betol2!! 30 seconds just to reply a message kan!! Sy pun selalu je pikir, dlm 24 jam tu tolong laaaa... show that u care la kannnn.... adoiiii bukannye susah sgt nk type hello how are you kan? skrg me giving him the cold shoulder plak, nk reply lambat gile2 haha... tgk ape plak respon die... selalu guys mcm ni die jenis hati kering / emotionless... kite plak yg nk menjaga hati dorg tp hati kite ade dorg kesah?? huhuhu... your guy punye job mmg sgt busy ke? kekdg ade gak terbaca forum member yg lain yg ade bf yg 24j busy jaaa... balik2 lelap terus! huhu time weekend die free x?
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autoure posted on 2-4-2013 07:06 PM
Haha! Betol2!! 30 seconds just to reply a message kan!! Sy pun selalu je pikir, dlm 24 jam tu tolo ...
tu lah kan? hmm makan hati makan jantung, sume dah mkn ni. huhu hmm according to him, busy katanya. dia peg. penyiasat jenayah. katanya tak kerja ikot working hours mcm org bese, bila2 masa boleh dipanggil. kdg2 buat operasi dr tgh mlm smpai ke subuh. i can tolerate with that, cumanya.. yelah, membayangkan 24 hrs tu, darab dgn seminggu.. err, 30 secs pun xdpt?? even just to say "sorry, i busy sikit, xdpt nk spend time with u, love u or miss u". xkesah la ape kan, tp tak ada pun~ kalau ada pun, jarang sgt. actually sy xtau sgt keja polis ni mcm mana, but once again, xkan lah smpai begitu sekali.
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lg satu.. dah lama x date. dia xada masa. T.T |
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farahferrari posted on 2-4-2013 08:18 PM
tu lah kan? hmm makan hati makan jantung, sume dah mkn ni. huhu hmm according to him, busy katanya ...
Haha weols lg la, love ke miss u ke mmg xdak langsung... i dunno, die penah mention he's the shy type... i'm believing that for now la... tp kan sy ni mmg ego sket la, pape mesti die yg start dulu  ... i suggest try to make him jealous... sy penah gak buat skali, kata ade org nak mai meminang... kikiki... tp die plak mcm suruh kite consider that person (pulak dahhh!  ) haha tp time tu awal2 in the relationship (masa sblm tunang)... entahla farah, sy mcm nk give up pun ade... skang ni sume berserah pd Allah je, malas dh nak pikir... kalu ade jodoh x kemana.... tp what I can say is, sy mmg mcm x matang sket la, haha kalu die lambat balas msg i will do the same... kekdg kalu baru perasan die like gambar pompuan lain, merajuk... wakakakakaka... hmmmm tp your guys line of duty tu mmg understandable la tp just try to make him jealous, kot2 la berkesan... but try with caution ek, this was tested in my case kikiki tp x berapa nk menjadi la plak.... huhuhu...
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autoure posted on 2-4-2013 07:31 PM
Haha weols lg la, love ke miss u ke mmg xdak langsung... i dunno, die penah mention he's the shy t ...
huhu.. apa2 pun jgn give up mcm tu je.. try bincang betul2 n clarify everything. luahkn apa yg awak nak dia buat n apa yg dia nak awk buat in order to make things work between u two.
kadg2 kita pun jgn ego sgt..huhu mcm sy dulu sy mcm awak, nk org tu je mulakan dulu. tp skang sy mcm mengalah sgt2. sy mulakan semuanya, kdg2 ada rasa mcm sy ni perigi cari timba. tp sy xendahkan suma tu sbb sy mmng nak kat dia, so apa slhnya sy hnta msg, apa smua kn.. after all, he's my bf.. bkn org lain. nak2 awak, dia kn tunang awk, laagi la. hehe
tp mcm skrg ni, mmng sy terlalu jaga hati dia sdgkn sy mkn hati. sy ada mintk dia layan sy mcm yg sy nak, dia ada jnji tp janji tinggl janji.. he doesnt walk his talk pun. but still, sy mengalah.. biarkn lah maybe dia btul2 xda masa. bila lama dia xcntct, kemarahan mcm dah menggunung, tp sbb syg, bila dia call sy smula, xterluah kdg2 kemarahan tu sbb time tu just bersyukur yg dia call sy. rindu kot, tu xsmpai hati nk marah plak. hmm tp pastu mkn hati blik. huk3 
yg pasti, sy dah buang ego sy, sy dah tolerate gila2.. cume effort dr dia je sy xnmpk lg.. untk awk, try la jgn ego sgt..huhu tp kan, ad org kata awk try tak cntct dia lama skit tiba2, jgn alert dia. biakan je. ce tgk reaction dia bila awk tak ada, ada x dia tnya2 n sbgnya? huhu sy pernah try, tp xsanggup lah lama2 xcntct T.T huhu
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farahferrari posted on 2-4-2013 08:49 PM
huhu.. apa2 pun jgn give up mcm tu je.. try bincang betul2 n clarify everything. luahkn apa yg awa ...
Hehe mmg betul ape yg farah ckp tu... ego tu la masalah & kelemahan utama yg sy ade... tu la tp one thing yg mungkin will make up for that is my enthusiasm bile bersembang... seolah2 mcm sy je yg beriya2... tp respon die xde la suam2 kuku sgt... tp ade la perbezaan betapa caringnye kite compared to him... Cer try buat solat istikharah kot2 u dpt signs from Him... me penah buat & xnmpk org lain dh... lgpun mmg xde sape dh... maybe faktor umur pun menybbkan kite cube jugak accept whatever flaws yg die ade... xpun kite be upfront & honest je kan... u still want us or not? haha...
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autoure posted on 2-4-2013 08:13 PM
Hehe mmg betul ape yg farah ckp tu... ego tu la masalah & kelemahan utama yg sy ade... tu la tp on ...
sy nak TT.TT tapi3... kalau mcm ni, mcm xbest je..huk3
lgpun, sy belum beristikharah lg.. sbbnya sy pun belum bersedia nk bernikah lg..cumanya, yelah hubungan yg ada ni, kalau boleh nak la diperelokkn lg. belum kawen pun dah dia mcm ni, sy takut selepasnya pun sy mkn hati lg. hmm sy skang ni mcm awk kata awl td tu, pegang pada kalau ada jodoh, maka ada lah rezeki sy dgn dia, kalau bukn jodoh sy, baiklah sy tau skrg drp selepas bernikah kan.. lgpun, sy dah berusaha. sy nk tgk usaha dia pulak. sedihnya ckp mcm ni..
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ifanonline posted on 29-3-2013 10:05 AM
ini tujuan thread ni di buka kan...utk kedua-dua pihak, samada lelaki dan wanita saling paham mema ...
selamat malam ifan
usia berapa selalunya lelaki serius untuk memikirkan mendirikan masjid?
bagaimana nak tahu lelaki yang sering panggil kita sayang etc tu betul maksudkan nya?
macam mana cara nak tackle lelaki?..perempuan yang mbuat langkah pertama.
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MissVixen posted on 6-4-2013 08:18 PM
selamat malam ifan
usia berapa selalunya lelaki serius untuk memikirkan mendirikan masjid?
bagai ...
salam miss vixen,
usia matang bagi seseorang lelaki utk mendirikan rumahtangga adalah pada usia 25 tahun keatas...
utk mengetahui samada ucapan 'sayang' itu mempunyai makna dan ada purpose, cuba tengok 'situasi' di mana ucapan itu di buat
contohnya, "Sayang, jgn buat camtu", "Sayang, jom kita pegi solat", "Sayang, masakan u tak sedap", etc...ucapan sayang tu ade purpose, he truly cares...
kalau ucapan sayang di ungkap mcm ni..."Sayang, buat ape malam ni?", "Sayang, i sunyi.."etc, kena lebih berhati-hati...
Last edited by ifanonline on 7-4-2013 09:08 AM
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assalamualaikum.
si dia ajak kawin dua tahun lagi. aku mmg blum grad lagi time tu. apa yang aku kena hadapi? apa yang aku kena sedia? |
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Post time 29-3-2013 12:48 AM
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