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Bercinta kali ke-2 dgn Husband...?

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Post time 7-12-2006 10:47 AM | Show all posts
Originally posted by Nenek_muda at 7-12-2006 10:16 AM


Sofea....nenek faham apa yg Sofea alami. It's not easy to let go of the past, the pain, the memories.
Nenek yg sudah dilayan baik oleh hubby pun, masih dalam struggle untuk melupakan. Sampai t ...


Nek...tu yang dah past...macam i ni...hb masih on the relation dengan 3rd party..n at the same time tetap setia dengan i ..bila tanya do u want to marry her...yes , no..donno...does she wiling to be ur 2nd wife..donno never ask n never discuss...kalau i start tanya...mulalah nak bergaduh..so all i can do is doa to Allah moga my hb diberi petunjuk dan hidayah...hb will never let me go...he admits that he is wrong ..but then again..he is in love..since that girl masih belajar ...he doesn't want to jeopardize her study n future...I sedih sangat!!!!!!:geram::geram::geram:
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Post time 7-12-2006 11:03 AM | Show all posts

Reply #112 rossa47's post

:setuju:

sedih betul aku baca thread ini..
bila dugaan hebat menimpa kaum sejenisku...

Ya Allah..berilah kekuatan kepada hamba2 Mu ini...!! :amin:



tabik spring :hatdown: kat anda semua yg telah mengharungi dugaan hebat ini dan seterusnya mampu bangkit semula..!!
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 Author| Post time 7-12-2006 11:08 AM | Show all posts
Lipton,...
i wonder...how the 3rd party tu feel right now, kan..?
Happy...? Bangga..? or ape lah agaknya....

Huk huk...moga2 tak terjadi atas diri sendiri...
Getting involve with a married man!! mintak dijauhkan Allah.......
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Post time 7-12-2006 11:25 AM | Show all posts
iskhh.. nape lah sumer menda nie ada ekk..
smalam ada peristiwa ngeri gak..
bila tercurik dengar sorang pompuan nie gado gado ngan boypren dia dlm talipon..
ayat yg paling sadis tu "abang nie TAKUT sangat ngan isteri abang, dengan ALlah sikit pon abang tak takut.. bla.. bla.. bla.."
dalam ati.. apa punya jenis olang la nie pompuan.. trus aku blah..
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Post time 7-12-2006 12:26 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by sofeahisyam at 7-12-2006 11:08 AM
Lipton,...
i wonder...how the 3rd party tu feel right now, kan..?
Happy...? Bangga..? or ape lah agaknya....

Huk huk...moga2 tak terjadi atas diri sendiri...
Getting involve with a married ma ...


Sofea..hmmm..apa dia rasa..dont want to bother anymore...as i cerita dalam thread i tu i confronted her once...n pernah inform her tru sms that i dah deliver baby girl...kot2 le nak cakap tahniah akak jaga diri baik2...huh..tak dapat balasan until now...so i will never confront her anymore!!!!:geram::geram: Kot ikhlas nak jadi madu i...pandai2 le ambik hati i...:hmm::hmm:
So my stand at the moment..as long as my hb tak abaikan me n my kids...nafkah zahir n batin tak pernah miss...i stay in this marriage..for my kids sake n i still love him...never ask about the 3rd party...go to hell!!!! SOry terEMO plak...:geram::geram:
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Post time 7-12-2006 12:35 PM | Show all posts
baru je habis khatam thread nih.....
speechless.....

selalu dok baca crita2 mcm ni dlm novel je, tak sangka it hapens.....
salute dgn u all semua.....hope u all always happy in whateva you do...
insaf sat....hargailah dgn apa yg kita ada...
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Post time 7-12-2006 12:37 PM | Show all posts
lipton, ur so cool!
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Post time 8-12-2006 10:35 AM | Show all posts
Originally posted by someBODYtoldME at 7-12-2006 12:37 PM
lipton, ur so cool!


Cool yek...tak tahu ler...tapi gunung karatua i dah meletup dah...la ni dia pendam..entah2 dah mati kot..malas ler..dah penat berendam ayor mate...Anyway alhamdullillah..in fact now ni i tenang...pasrah dengan ujian Allah..bukan apa kalau bergaduh kang segala kata2 yang menyakitkan  hati akan keluar dr. mulut hb tu..maklum le dia baran sikit..dia sendiri tak paham apa yang dia cakap..so i anggap apa yang dia cakap tu kata2 orang yang tak bape waras...Pepepun i prepare for the worst...
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Post time 8-12-2006 10:44 AM | Show all posts
Originally posted by sofeahisyam at 7-12-2006 11:08 AM

Huk huk...moga2 tak terjadi atas diri sendiri...
Getting involve with a married ma ...


SOfea...i ketuk kepala u dulu..he he..jangan mare gurau je..:pmuka::pmuka:
Elakkan le sofea..u know better rite?!:nerd:

So girl..sorry i jadi kepochi sat..status u apa now ni..?

ff: Annalise...bila kita nak tubuh club ni..? By the way i'm looking forward for my vacation this coming march...:love:
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Post time 8-12-2006 12:53 PM | Show all posts
Terkedu baca cerita2 korang. Rupa2 nya ada lagi masalah yg. berat terutama Nenek. Solute sama nenek. Pada Sofea bawa2 bersabar & rajin2 berdoa. "Apa2 pun masalah kita...minta pada Allah. Kerana dia yang maha berkuasa yg. memegang setiap hati manusia. Hanya dia yang mampu mengubahnya...." Kalau Suka2 di landa masalah pasti teringat kata2 ni...dan  sujud minta pertolongannya......
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Post time 8-12-2006 04:12 PM | Show all posts
Tak tau nak cakap apa if this thing happened to me. Mesti berendam air mata berbulan2 lamanya.. Mesti tak leh nak buat keje.. Sedih to the max... Hopefully everything will be okey for you, tuan rumah. Tapi cam yang forumers lain ada mention, pabila dah perbanyakkan doa pada Allah, hati akan lebih tenang dan pasrah.  Dan sebenarnya perempuan kadangkala sekuat mana diduga , lebih tabah dan cekal daripada lelaki. Bangga melihat kaum sejenis tetap berdikari walau dugaan menimpa diri...
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Post time 8-12-2006 04:35 PM | Show all posts
Apa sbb 3rd party ni muncul ye? Faktor material ke, rupa paras ke? Atau apa ya????? :hmm:
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Post time 8-12-2006 04:42 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by Lipton at 8-12-2006 10:44 AM


SOfea...i ketuk kepala u dulu..he he..jangan mare gurau je..:pmuka::pmuka:
Elakkan le sofea..u know better rite?!:nerd:

So girl..sorry i jadi kepochi sat..status u apa now ni..?

ff: An ...


Sofea,

I tahu kita tak leh lawan takdir (bab2 kawin/kawan dgn laki org) TAPI kalau hidup kita dah HANCUR sebab org buat camtu....tak kan la kita nak jadi BANGANG buat cam tu kat org kan? :lol But i know u r smarter and stronger than that :nerd:

p/s Lipton, jom jom jayakan idea club tu. Nenek bule jadi advisor yg cukup bagus!
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 Author| Post time 8-12-2006 05:15 PM | Show all posts
kih..kih...Kalau I buat mcm tu...mmg PLS ler...Annalisse...tlgler tembak I...

Alahai kaum wanita...bukan ker kite yg lebih memahami hati dan perasaan kaum sejenis kita....
Tapi kaum kita jugak yg membuat kita merana....
Belum rasa tak tahu kot!!!


Lipton,...
You go dear....I hope one day your husband will realize he had YOU-appreciate you...:pray:
U R cool dear....

[ Last edited by  sofeahisyam at 14-12-2006 10:19 PM ]
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Post time 8-12-2006 05:29 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by sofeahisyam at 8-12-2006 05:15 PM
kih..kih...Kalau I buat mcm tu...mmg PLS ler...Annalisse...tlgler tembak I...

Alahai kaum wanita...bukan ker kite yg lebih memahami hati dan perasaan kaum sejenis kita....
Tapi kaum kit ...


He he I tak de tembak2 la. I m sure people can figure it out sooner or later. I think Allah wants us to learn from our past and be a better person. Org2 yg bercinta dgn laki org tu...biar la diaorg. Semua dah besar panjang...byk yg masuk univ lagi (he he sorry lipton). They need to justify their actions to Allah..not us.

We be good and live our lives well. Semoga Allah berkati kita, insyaAllah. Have a nice weekend, frens. No need to gaduh2. Life is way way too short :nerd:
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Post time 8-12-2006 05:37 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by rossa47 at 8-12-2006 04:35 PM
Apa sbb 3rd party ni muncul ye? Faktor material ke, rupa paras ke? Atau apa ya????? :hmm:
...love...cinta??...apa faktor nie tak mungkin wujud ke kalau relationship tu involving orang ketiga??...

...aku simpati akan nasib tuan rumah...im sure she has done all that she could have done to save her marriage...but...kalau dah begini kesudahannya...apa lagik yang aku nak katakan??...except...all the best to her and i do believe that she deserves someone better...moga2 ada hikmah disebalik apa yang terjadi nie...
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Post time 8-12-2006 05:57 PM | Show all posts

Reply #132 rossa47's post

salah satunya.. ego seorang isteri yg terlampau lampau
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 Author| Post time 9-12-2006 08:57 PM | Show all posts
Reply #132 rossa47's post..

Errr...yg ni byk faktor....kena bukak thread baru to discuss about this kot...heheh..
But basically,...because of both lah- the husband and the wife itself...

Annalisse...
Aha...i gurau2 jer...:love:
Mmg betul...it taught us to be a better person. Learn from our mistakes/weaknesses...


Have a good day ALL!!:tq:
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Post time 10-12-2006 11:47 AM | Show all posts
bagi nuri... biasa la... bg lelaki yg tak cukup ngan wife yg dah ada tu.... cari yg baru..
n beza antara yg lama dan yang baru...
itu main factor dia.. yg baru serba serbi baru... yg lama dah biasa... lupa la kejap...

tapi pada kaum hawa, dont give up... wat goes around comes around... yang baru tu juga nanti akan jadi lama... sendiri mau hingat ler kan...

pompuan yg nak kt laki org ni tak pikir kot, lambat laun die pun terkena mende yg sama... masa tu baru nak melompat tinggi pokok nyioq.. pastu sendiri rasa la kan.... yg penting, setiap apa yg kita buat, ada balasan... apa ertinya kita cipta bahagia atas air mata orang... tak guna bina masjid di atas tapak masjid org yg kita dah runtuhkan... bila dah ada anak plak... cam ne nak bela anak dengan berkat kalau kita sendiri pernah aniaya dan rampas kasih sayang seorang ayah dari anaknya.... sume ni pada pompuan yg rampas laki org n nak 100% dia punya... pada laki tu plak... sekali dia abai isteri yg baik... balasan dia nanti dpt ler bini yg lagi teruk.....conclusion nya....mari la kita semua berbuat baik dan baik dan baik.....

sofea,
Sabar n Serah semua pada DIA. Kuat semangat dan bina hidup baru ye ...

juz becoz the past is painful, doesn't mean the future will be... so, never let events from the past change d events for future... or u'll be miserable forever...

nenek,
YES, it's true that... EASY TO FORGIVE, BUT NEVER TO FORGET.. Wallahu'alam
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Post time 11-12-2006 12:07 AM | Show all posts
Originally posted by rossa47 at 8-12-2006 04:35 PM
Apa sbb 3rd party ni muncul ye? Faktor material ke, rupa paras ke? Atau apa ya????? :hmm:



sebenarnya susah kita nak cakap, i have a friend yang suffer sebb hubby dia ada hubungan dengan majikan sendiri (so in this case memang material, kedudukan, pangkat) - emo sendiri tak tahu punyalah pandainya kawan emo pendam perasaan dia sorang2 until one they i ternampak hubby dia dengan sorang pompuan lebih berumur dari dia jalan2 pegang tangan macam pasangan kekasih.  So lepas consult dgn hubby, emo rasa bertanggungjawab plak crita kat kawan emo rupanya dia lama dah tahu...hubby dia sayang kat dia but at the same time sayang jugak kat majikan dia tu sebab majikan dia banyak tolong dia financially (so in this case memang kes terhutang budilah)...my friend dah tak amek port dah, pada dia hati dia dah beku, as long as hubby dia jalankan tanggungjawab as husband dia pasrah je kalo hubby dia nak kawen lain tapi until now tak jugak kawen2...tak paham emo.....

question rossa nih very subjective sebenarnya - tapi pada emo, salah satu punca bak kata dad manusia nih bila bercinta bagai nak rak, tapi bila dah kawen LUPA untuk bercinta...so perasaan excited, berdebar2 tu yeleks, thrill dah hilang....kemudian tak nak cermin diri sendiri asek nak nunding jari kat partner itu kurang ini kurang, konsep kesyukuran tak ada tujuan utama kawen dah lari dari maksud dia yang sebenar, etc.... - nih bukan lelaki je, pompuan pun sbnarnya ramai cenggitu (sorry to say tapi kita kena lah fair jugak ye tak)...cumanya kes nih lebih pada pompuan yan gjadi mangsa salah satu sebab konsep boleh berpoligami tu diambil enteng oleh para lelaki zaman sekarang...

kita banyak dengar cerita sperti kat thread nih tapi emo ada jugak dengar cerita sedih isteri no 2 - kengkadang some of them memang baik dan actuallypun mangsa......

to those macam nenek dan yang lenlain emo pun tak hingat nama yan gmasih setia bersama suami, moga Allah SWT kurniakan kalian payung emas disyurga kelak....
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