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Reply #125 Agul's post
on the contrary u probably want to meet..just u know engaging in the conversation etc etc
it's nice to learn about people anf u become more infomed |
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Reply #123 my-alja's post
i think u rasa macam tu becoz
a) she knows tat you are highly intuned with her style u know so she's more opened with u
then as if the dosage of a drug lah
lagi increase then u'lll feel the effect lah
so i think sebab tu the more u engage withher the more u becoming informed about her self , HER IDIOSYNCRASIES lah sayang.....
dear it's ok
lagi satu u ken atahu jugaklah
mentality org yg tak suka dia macam mana depa, sure different kan? sebab dia dah isilate u from the rest as what she said - alaa u educated ( ish cringe i dengaq word tuuu takut)
so u know nipun kena factor yg you ken abalance jugak
just advise her on teh approach not the person jgn fokus pada dia tapi gaya dia ....
ok jer tu rasanya |
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Reply #128 Agul's post
oh god..dear u are talking in those ultraman - like - warrior type of terms..super this and that
so pray tell who are those nice people in your life? |
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Reply #128 Agul's post
and that / those person might be having the super attributes of human which make them fit to be super"ly" loved at.
gosh i am talking with that ultraman - warrior type tune dah....how infectious .... |
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Reply #130 mbhcsf's post
just some nice friends... nice people are not easy to find.. just lucky to find them. sometime people are really nice but they build walls to protect themselves from. when it's open, we will be a bit more vulnurable but it's ok... i hope... |
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Reply #131 mbhcsf's post
the superthing is supernice... and superloves... that you feel that you can and you want and will superloves them back... 
everyone wants love. and if everyone loves eeryoe there will be no problem..
but i think it's impossible... but at least just a little bit ok i guess...
also of course we meet lots kind of people, that do think that we don't like... but what can we do? i don't know.. if we can't do anything, just let them be i guess...
you don't have to run away from them, but you don't really seek them too... your time is spend more with those you love.. that's just it... |
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Hami ..where are u?????
i know u here somewhere dear....... |
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Originally posted by Agul at 15-11-2008 12:30 PM 
just some nice friends... nice people are not easy to find.. just lucky to find them. sometime people are really nice but they build walls to protect themselves from. when it's open, we will be a ...
my hubby is like this....being too judgemental, i guess
but the walls protect him well from ....$%^@})_^* person |
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Reply #135 my-alja's post
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yeah sometime... people say at first, i think that you're cool, aloof, but really when knowing you for a long time, you're not at all like that... |
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i agree, it has been derailing abit...
ok you guys set it back straigth.s |
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Originally posted by mbhcsf at 15-11-2008 12:11 PM
i think u rasa macam tu becoz
a) she knows tat you are highly intuned with her style u know so she's more opened with u
then as if the dosage of a drug lah
lagi increase then u'lll feel t ...
ye laaa.....hubby said the same thing
i'm being too accommodates
thanks anyway |
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Reply #139 my-alja's post
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that's a nice traits... but sometime too much could be a problem... |
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Originally posted by mbhcsf at 15-11-2008 12:39 PM
Hami ..where are u?????
i know u here somewhere dear.......
Hey, you all tak kerja ke hari ni?
Well it is nice to note this thread has suddenly become sooo cool!
Well I was trying to get to the bottom of my-alja's concern.
First and foremost we must find our own friends. I used to have a neighbour that don't seem to be in the same
wavelength. As I was a working gal it was easy to stay at armlength. If we bum in public...ok just a curtious salam
would suffice. I didn't want to know what she did or anything, but sometime later I was told how she had taken advantage of
many people and that had left a bad taste in many of those who were once her "friends". What am trying to say here is do not
be sucked into a friendship you cannot nurture/maintain.
So now you may be left with the choice of just being civil whenever you do meet.
She seems to love making small conversations over her stuff and things? If you don't like such topic then take control and talk about other
things. For one, people will talk only about things they know and are important to them. Try to reinforce by saying that these things must be very
important to her and hope that she would be able to take care of them or anything to show you understand her. Then you suggest
what is more meaningful to you and hopefully you could veer the conversation to other issues or another perspective of the stuff
she admire so much. Help to shift her thoughts.
The idea is to take control. My 2 cents worth.........
[ Last edited by hamizao at 15-11-2008 06:06 PM ] |
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by mbhcsf:
lagi satu u ken atahu jugaklah
mentality org yg tak suka dia macam mana depa, sure different kan? sebab dia dah isilate u from the rest as what she said - alaa u educated ( ish cringe i dengaq word tuuu takut)
...................
just advise her on teh approach not the person jgn fokus pada dia tapi gaya dia ....
Betul.......the first part tu is your chance my-alja. She does look up to you ...so take charge!
The last part - am in concurrance. Focus not on the person but on the issue. That way you do not need to judge people unnecessarily
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Post time 15-11-2008 11:56 AM
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