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Originally posted by chicsee at 9-12-2005 05:35 PM
Tu lah...pihak lelaki yg nak bagi. This girl baru balik belajar dari Australia. Tup tup nak kawin...
icic.. yelah.. rezeki budak pompan tu.. |
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woo 15k bnayak tu.. da rezeki dia |
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Originally posted by chicsee at 9-12-2005 11:52 AM
Next month my hubby punya cousin kahwin....hantaran 15K...
fuyoo...kaya kaya |
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Originally posted by SweetCandy at 20-11-2005 07:01 PM
smlm waktu i ke rumah my mak ngah kat eunos ville.. ade satu majlis kawen.. dorang buat kat padang besar tepi masjid darul aman.. woo.. looks very grand & siap dgn 2-3 khemah putih..
Ya..lawa kan?
I kno ni dah nak sebulan lalu..i masa tu nampak..Dorang buat mcm garden party kan.. |
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Originally posted by skgerl at 10-12-2005 01:43 PM
Ya..lawa kan?
I kno ni dah nak sebulan lalu..i masa tu nampak..Dorang buat mcm garden party kan..
SK.. u pun perasan jugak?..
i first time nampak concept ni.. pun mcm kagum dgn dorang punya setting.. very nice & classique.. |
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Originally posted by chicsee at 9-12-2005 11:52 AM
Next month my hubby punya cousin kahwin....hantaran 15K...
Rezeki masing-masing,tetapi itu terserah masing-masing ada pulak Sq dengar orang tua mintak hantaran tinggi-tinggi...tak patut islam tak galakan begitu tetapi moderation, kesianlah sikit kat bakal menantu itu~ ! |
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Originally posted by chicsee at 9-12-2005 11:52 AM
Next month my hubby punya cousin kahwin....hantaran 15K...
last april my hb nya cousin kawin hantaran $18k.. at first terperanjat jugak.. rupanya hb dia mamat pakistan british citizen.. kira duit dorang around 6K pound.. |
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Originally posted by SweetCandy at 10-12-2005 01:50 PM
SK.. u pun perasan jugak?..
i first time nampak concept ni.. pun mcm kagum dgn dorang punya setting.. very nice & classique..
Ha'ah aku nampak..dekat dgn rumah.Tapi masa tu i pass, majlis dia dah over.Tapi tent dia blom bukak and deco still intact..Ard maghrib masa tu.Dari jauh dah nampak, lawa. Tapi mcm klakar in the sense, tent tu mcm kat tengah2 padang..
[ Last edited by skgerl at 10-12-2005 08:22 PM ] |
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To those yg dah kawin,i nak tanye sumthg laa..Tempoh sebulan u guys nak kawin, mak or parents u all ada cakap pasal pantang bakal pengantin takleh kluar umah tak? |
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Originally posted by skgerl at 10-12-2005 08:21 PM
To those yg dah kawin,i nak tanye sumthg laa..Tempoh sebulan u guys nak kawin, mak or parents u all ada cakap pasal pantang bakal pengantin takleh kluar umah tak?
tak pulak... makin dekat hari makin rancak aku keluar rumah.. beli coklat buat berkat.. beli bunga untuk bilik.. pergi geylang beli carpet.. pergi orchard beli cadar & lampu.. pantang tu untuk apa?..:hmm: |
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Originally posted by Browneyes at 10-12-2005 08:39 PM
tak pulak... makin dekat hari makin rancak aku keluar rumah.. beli coklat buat berkat.. beli bunga untuk bilik.. pergi geylang beli carpet.. pergi orchard beli cadar & lampu.. pantang tu untu ...
entah.. selalu dengar jugak.. tapi i tink depends on the individual's family as well ah.. some ok some macam tak ok.. |
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Ntah ah ni my mum yg ckp.Pantang takleh kluar umah."Nanti orang cakap."
Cakap apa?
Cakap kita ni gi shopping?Gi beli cadar carpet lampu???
...ke sebab takot terkena black magic tak? :hmm: |
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Originally posted by skgerl at 10-12-2005 08:21 PM
To those yg dah kawin,i nak tanye sumthg laa..Tempoh sebulan u guys nak kawin, mak or parents u all ada cakap pasal pantang bakal pengantin takleh kluar umah tak?
lagi 3-4 hari nak kahwin aku masih lagi pegi kerja...
pastu baru cuti panjang...cuti aidilfitri + cuti kahwin...
[ Last edited by arysa at 10-12-2005 09:56 PM ] |
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Originally posted by skgerl at 10-12-2005 09:52 PM
Ntah ah ni my mum yg ckp.Pantang takleh kluar umah."Nanti orang cakap."
Cakap apa?
Cakap kita ni gi shopping?Gi beli cadar carpet lampu???
...ke sebab takot terkena black magic tak? ...
yg tak cakap nama dia bisu.... :cak:
sihir?.. tawakkal kpd Allah sudah.. benda kurafat jgn layan sangat |
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guvnor This user has been deleted
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pantang yg digelar 'darah manis' kott... |
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Ok rakyat sekalian i tak tahu if this article suits here, well just to share je leh jadikan sempadan & tauladan~
She put up with pain for kids' sake
By Crystal Chan
December 11, 2005
FOR 21 years, Madam Tessie Tan accepted her husband's beating, slapping and pinching as part and parcel of her married life.
She kept quiet for the sake of their three children, now aged between 17 and 26 years.
Speaking to The New Paper from her one-room rental flat, Madam Tan (not her real name), 50, who divorced her husband in 1999, said she had married him after a three-week courtship.
He was her first boyfriend.
'Both of us were in our early 20s. We rushed into the marriage because I was pregnant,' she said.
It was a decision she immediately regretted as he began hitting her soon after.
'I suspected he was unfaithful as he kept late nights.
'He often sneaked out of our Bukit Batok flat in the middle of the night, returning only at dawn.
'But I believed marriage should be for life. I also thought he would change as we built up a family.
'Each time I confronted him, he slapped and pinched me. Being a woman, I couldn't fight back.
'Still, I put off any thoughts of divorce for the sake of our children.'
She was never hospitalised because of the beatings but then some of the abuse was verbal and mental.
'When I helped out at his food stall in Jurong, he often threatened to slap me in front of customers.
'Once, during an argument, he yelled at me to take the children and go home. It was so humiliating.'
SOUGHT SHELTER
She never confided in her relatives as she did not want them to worry.
In 1992, Madam Tan got a separation after she suspected her husband of yet another extra-marital affair.
'He refused to let me share the bed with him and told me to sleep in the living room.'
As Madam Tan earned just slightly over $1,000 as a clerk, she gave up custody of her two eldest children (then aged 13 and 11) and kept only her youngest daughter with herself.
'Since my two eldest children were old enough to take care of themselves, I felt my ex-husband could handle them. But I wanted my youngest as she was only 4 then.'
Madam Tan and her daughter moved into the Kallang Care Centre, a now-defunct shelter for battered women and children.
But in 1994, while taking part in her father's funeral procession, her ex-husband allegedly tried to strangle her.
Madam Tan claimed he released his grip only when her pastor approached them.
'He attended the funeral as we were still legally married then. Yet when he choked me, he did not consider our marital ties and the fact that I'm his children's mother.
'In my whole life, nobody has hit me except my ex-husband. I wonder what I had done to deserve such a terrible marriage.'
Madam Tan did not make a police report as she still hoped counselling could save their marriage.
But things did not get better. Her husband tracked her down and created a scene at the centre.
The last straw came when he pulled her away from her children during her weekly access meetings in April 1997.
Madam Tan filed for a personal protection order (PPO), which prohibited her husband from coming within 100m of her.
Their divorce was finalised two years later.
He pays her $700 a month as maintenance.
But six years on, Madam Tan still bears the emotional scars.
CHILDREN ESTRANGED
'He knew he'd be arrested if he breached the PPO. So he turned my two eldest children against me,' she said.
She claimed her the two children have not visited her since 2003 after he told them she had asked for an extra $100 per month.
'I should have got to know him better before we married. By the time I learnt he was violent and unfaithful, it was too late,' Madam Tan said.
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Are more S'pore spouses fighting
IN 2004,the Family Court granted 3,200 Personal protection orders (PPO).
There were 1,900 PPOs granted in the first nine months of this year.
Although PPO numbers have come down counsellors and the Association of Women for Action and Research (Aware) believe some cases of spousal abuse may go unreported.
Ms Deeksha Vasundhra, a programme manager at Aware, said: 'Many women believe they're responsible for making their marriage work and their identity and worth are contingent upon their keeping the man.'
Out of 10 abused spouses, eight are women, said Mr Harry Low, acting director of the Asian Women's Welfare Association Family Service Centre.
He said: 'It's strange but many men tend to believe that beating is a way of expressing love... Some still think they have the right to control women.'
His centre saw seven cases of spousal abuse last month, four in October.
Mr David Kan, executive director of the Family Life Centre, which sees one to three cases a month, said stress and an abusive family background are contributing factors.
Aware gets about 600 abuse-related calls a year.
Trained volunteers man the hotline and accompany the women to the courts, police stations or hospitals. |
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Originally posted by guvnor at 11-12-2005 02:19 AM
pantang yg digelar 'darah manis' kott...
agaknye ah..tapi salah satu reason yg mum kata is nanti kat pelamin takde seri muka.
Kalau gitu then might as well sume yg dah nak kawin tu jgn keje.Peraaaap je diri kat umah sampai hari kawin.. |
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Originally posted by Browneyes at 10-12-2005 08:39 PM
tak pulak... makin dekat hari makin rancak aku keluar rumah.. beli coklat buat berkat.. beli bunga untuk bilik.. pergi geylang beli carpet.. pergi orchard beli cadar & lampu.. pantang tu untu ...
ha'ah eh...bakal2 pengantin lagi byk tanggungjawab nk siapkan tu lah nilah....takkan nk duk rumah je nnt on the day ada yg tk kena plak... |
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Originally posted by skgerl at 11-12-2005 02:17 PM
agaknye ah..tapi salah satu reason yg mum kata is nanti kat pelamin takde seri muka.
Kalau gitu then might as well sume yg dah nak kawin tu jgn keje.Peraaaap je diri kat umah sampai hari kaw ...
it depends on mak andam & muka pengantin jugak.. yg pandai make up.. pengantin mak janda pun boleh nampak lawa |
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Gadis_Venus This user has been deleted
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Ada majlis kawin dpn blk I...kompang dia comes wif kuda kepang..penarinya siap pakai topeng skali..menari kuda kepang kt tgh2 rd...so scary...i takut tgk kuda kepang.... |
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Category: Negeri & Negara
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Post time 10-12-2005 01:25 PM
