Demotivated + Lost

adila39

noor2 replied at 9-4-2018 01:12 AM
Kawan baik i baru bercerai bulan 11  (atas permintaan isterinya i rasa sejak 5 tahun lepas dah i ...

i nak hugg u boleh, simple but deep

anyclassything

CardiGans85 replied at 9-4-2018 09:25 AM
Klu tt islam, solat n mengaji everyday. Baca tafsir Al Quran. Bykkn Istigfar dan zikir,kena tahu ert ...

Thank you cardi.
Akan ku coba tips2 tu

Hidup ni penuh bermakna, maybe I yg failed to see it now.

Skrg I see everything as blank. No color. I pikir nak buat apa, mcm why nak buat. For what. Takperlu pon, rasa taknak pape.

anyclassything

noor2 replied at 9-4-2018 09:08 AM
Dia tak ada rasa nak cari bini baru pun.....masih terlalu sayang xwife. ...yang dia buat sekarang  ...

Kaka pls keep sharing I suka je baca even benda x related dgn I

Somehow boleh reflect diri kita balik gak bila baca mcm ni.

Kesian la your friend tu, tp betul la. Maybe the ex wife tu prob dgn diri sendiri so kalau dpt husband baik mcm mana pon, dia sndiri rasa tak nak, tak puas.

I takmau la jd camtu

anyclassything

Nenasketum replied at 9-4-2018 07:16 AM
Ish ramai naw ummah mesia depressed. Seriously, masa tak menunggu sesiapa. Kalau semua tak suka, tak ...

I pon skrg pikir mcm u la nenas,

Ikut je kata hati xnak buat apa and mereput.

That’s what I’m doing now

Sales jalan tu hasil dr yg I buat dulu, tp x rancak la. That’s why I cakap I dah xkisah pasal sales ke apa, dulu I suka pikir nak buat apa tomorrow then apa lg..

Lately meh. Mereput just like u said.

At the same tIme I sedar this is not good.
Camtuhh

anyclassything

capiloton replied at 9-4-2018 08:25 AM
jadi macam ni bukan sebab bekas tunang tinggalkan i,
itu nama nya frust menonggeng, haha. :laugh ...

Erk.

I takut plak dgr cite pasal ex tunang u.

Psycho af.

I thought dealing with narcissist ex dah cukup gila dah ada lg gila hahaha

Btw, betul apa u ckp tu.

Yg it’s been there all along.
Tp all this while maybe can fake it and act normal.
Sama mcm I.

Contohnya skrg ni bila I rasa xnak respond to people mmg I dah xleh. I ikut je kata hati. Mcm yg no pls don’t even talk to me

Maybe gak before this I try to tell them, dorg ambik x serious and anggap I je yg overthink.

So..
whats the point talking and seeing them anyway

Sometimes kita dah deal with too many things then kita still in denial mode yg kita ok.

So kita ignore the stress/all those symptoms

Tp sebenarnya slowly, semua tu silently killing us from inside.

Tp sebab tak sedar just ignore and ckp ok je, the end result is suddenly dah jd camni.

Bila org tanya dah x reti nak describe how this happen, why jd camni.

So org akan ckp, you are your own problem.

I rasa lah.

anyclassything

rospinki replied at 9-4-2018 08:52 AM
teori akak

selagi adik masih mampu mengarang panjang dan bercerita..takde masalah.itu normal..too ...

Yes cik rose.

I skrg berpotensi ke arah tu.

Cuma bezanya I still aware..

Masalahnya skrg, I yg malas nak deal with org. Benda yg I used to say normal. I rasa very draining. I takmau reply whatsapp takmau angkat call. I rasa xnak

Before I’m getting serious sampai tahap jd monk can’t even type a single word, and I masih sedar this thing is not good I try to tanya gak la kan. Tu jehh

Problems come and go. I sedar tu. Xde org terlepas dr problem. Cuma skrg ni I jd dah xkisah..

Dlm masa yg sama I kisah gak why I jd camni.

U phm x ayat I. Hahaha

anyclassything

pearl.silver replied at 9-4-2018 05:35 AM
Bestnya tt
Kiranya free of debt dan a lot of saving la kn bila money bukan motivation dah
Dah xris ...

Tak jugak.
Cuma I ada saving.

Tu problem nya I sepatutnya bermotivasi nak cari duit utk diri sndiri nak travel semua kan nak improve.

Tp I dah x rasa semua tu.
Even I tak banyak duit and duit ni kejap je habis sebenarnya

It’s not about I dah financially secure.
It’s about me yg x kisah pasal my financial flow skrg ni.

Kdg2 bil pon I biar je pikir mls byr bila dorg call baru mcm ok I bayar

anyclassything

adheq replied at 8-4-2018 09:22 PM
To me, u don't seem like u are depress. Traumatized a bit, yes. Get out of your bubble & start cou ...

Ye ke, good then

I hope I am not depressed. I hope all this is normal.

Betul sgt u ckp tu,

I skrg sbenarnya banyak self torture.

Banyak blame diri, I mcm ni I mcm tu.

So I tend to pikir I’m useless and good for nothing.

Maybe I have problem with self acceptance

Or I sbenarnya stress

Or traumatized

I tak tahu.

That’s why I’m here trying to relate to some people.

Kalau betul la I ni just x reti bersyukur n mengada2

I hole this phase will end soon

adheq

anyclassything replied at 9-4-2018 11:07 AM
Ye ke, good then

I hope I am not depressed. I hope all this is normal.

Drp cerita ko, ada gaya mcm ko sdg menuju ke arah hikikomori. Ko pernah dgr term tu?

anyclassything

adheq replied at 9-4-2018 10:15 AM
Drp cerita ko, ada gaya mcm ko sdg menuju ke arah hikikomori. Ko pernah dgr term tu?

Ape tu

This is something new

Tak pernah dgr lagi before this. Jap I gugel

lwyl

Your solution is to get married. It's time.

NurAlia14

Mybe mid life crisis everything serba xkne mcm org mengandung ape pn serba xkena huhu

capiloton

anyclassything replied at 9-4-2018 10:36 AM
Ye ke mokcik, I xtau la depression ke apa.
Tp mmg rasa tired and malas je all the time.
Mls na ...

dulu i pun sama. asek pikir no jer.
tapi lepas tu i tertengok movie jim carrey - yes man,
terus i kena brainwashed.

i suggest u tengok movie tu.
it will change the way you look at life.

adheq

anyclassything replied at 9-4-2018 11:27 AM
Ape tu

This is something new

Hikikomori ni mcm ko la. Hilang semangat nak hidup n just nak duk dalam gua jua tapi dalam masa yg sama masih makan tanggung berak cangkung . Aku lupa mana artikel aku baca but samada ko setuju atau tak, situasi ni cuma bole jadik kat middle to high income family. Sebab ko tak perlu fikir food, shelter & clothes. Basically, semua basic necessities ko dah fulfill. Tak mcm org lain yg terpaksa keluar cari rezeki utk fulfill benda ni n sekaligus terhindar drp hikikomori. Ye walaupun korang love-hate dgn kerja, ketahuilah it's a blessing. Panjang lagi aku boleh bebel ni

mokcikKSKB

anyclassything replied at 9-4-2018 10:36 AM
Ye ke mokcik, I xtau la depression ke apa.
Tp mmg rasa tired and malas je all the time.
Mls na ...

X normal uols.sblm jd lebih teruk mcm porumer kata sila pegi klinik kesihatan pastu mintak refer ke pakar atau psikologis.at least from there depa boleh guide uols mcm mana nk overcome satu persatu.

mesmerize

btw u baru 26 .. ai dulu 26 masih semangat lagi hidup sebab masa tu baru nak masuk dunia pekerjaan.. so masa tu masih berkobar2 lagi.. social life masih ligat lagi sebab yalah masa tu muda kawan2 ramai belum kawen n nak hangout together lagi lain la sekarang kawan2 ramai dah ada keluarga n masalah sendiri.. yang sesama single ai sendiri malas n takde mood pulak nak hangout..

believe me as u get older things will not get easier, it going to get tougher, sangat2 tough.  i've been there done that. kena teruskan hidup, kena kuat aje. orang kata u have no choice but to be strong. alhamdulillah physically im strong n healthy la (cuma emosi tak berapa nak stabil) and setakat ni financially masih stable tapi tak tahu sampai bila. memikirkan masa depan memang menakutkan.

merrissa

stress plak baca masalah u....sebab i pon rasa demotivated nih...
tapi sebab bile tgk mak aku...aku kuatkan diri...

kite pikir je purpose kite hidup....sebenarnya simple je tujuan dia....
tapi kite sendiri yg buat complicated....

anyclassything

mbhcsf replied at 8-4-2018 09:06 PM
heyya

how are things with you today?

hello back.

Dunno how to answer bila org tanya how  are you
so let me just simply answer I'm fine thank you

ok I will answer properly to your questions:

1. eating habit skrg ni ada masa I jd lapar and nak makan mcm2. Then ada masa I xde selera and malas pikir pasal makan. Ni basically mmg malas nak buat everything including nak makan. So bila dah lapar sampai bunyi perut I turun la makan telur ke apa then continue w my mereput session. Then ada gak I sedar I've been eating bad, especially bila I rasa badan tak sihat (cause x keluar peluh n x makan proper) So konon I start to eat healthy and kluar. Tp most of time maybe kejap je I boleh follow.

2. When it comes to sleep patterns.. I dunno if this is relatable or not.Dulu even I xbuat apa, I tido awal. Tp these 2 weeks I somehow tak boleh tdo. End up I tido around 5 a.m and usually tersedar around 6 or 7 something. Then I dah rasa very drained and teruskan mereput.

3. This is what I'm feeling right now. More to penat without even doing anything. Penat and at the same time I dont know what to do with this. I wanna do benda2 yg I used to do tp I feel tired. Nak reply whatsapp or angkat call pon dah jd a big deal yg mana sepatutnya tak kan. As for me I x interested nak communicate with people anymore

I  try jugak to fight this urge.
But somehow I rasa mcm mehh..
I wanna duk diam2 xnak deal w everything\

anyclassything

zaza201516 replied at 8-4-2018 09:14 PM
U ni ada existensial crisis lah ni. Since u dont have any goals currently, so u rasa lost and demoti ...

Ha ah, no current goals.

I dunno what should I do next.

Contoh..
Ok I nak cari keje, why? Sebab I need to finance myself.
I nak gak somehow treat my parents etc..

But then I fikir balik..
I pi keje, I stress. Deal dengan Boss.
I pikir nak deal dgn org. So tiring.
Nak hadap routine, 9 - 6 ..

Then I ask myself, boleh ke I nak stay for 6 months or more.
Dulu yes apa2 dtg pon I hadap je.
Tp skrg I xde kekuatan utk tu.

Then I fedup mcm dulu, I quit lg.
Dulu at least I bertahan gak before quit.

Tp kali ni kalau I xtahan. I rasa 2 hari pon kalau I rasa x ok, I xpikir panjang dah.

Entah la u I pon xreti dah nak fikir right now.
Maybe it was really me and my fault

Saussurea

Relax je. Hadapi semuanya mcm angin yang berlalu. Semua tu cuma thoughts. Bagi diri u chance lihat dan rasa apa yg sedang berlaku. Emotionally, physically. Appreciate  it. Detox n detox. Its good