Should I Quit My Job? Update on post #79

robinmosby

QIsmail replied at 30-7-2018 04:26 AM
Hopefully. The thing is I don’t totally hate my job. The environment pun isn’t that toxic. Heck, ...

Ahhhh i see.

If thats the case, i remember this quote from Richard Branson: if somebody offers you amazing opportunity but you dont know how to do it, accept it. Then learn how to do it later.

Its just a month. No harm giving this oppurtunity a try

nor876

syg le quit keje gomen.better u pk hbs2..nnt u quit keje gomen, mak mentua u pndang rendah pulak..skrg ni mostly mentua suka menantu keje gomen..kang dh create another problem utk u plak..lg stress.. nk quit keje tu, bukan u sorang TT.. i ni mostly ckp nk benti keje tp at last xbenti2 bila pk byk hutang kena byar...nsb baik lom kawen lg.

mesmerize

megan_pox replied at 29-7-2018 11:07 PM
Kalau sy sy quit.. sbb hidup ini singkat utk bersedih..

Sy pernah laluinya tapi tak reti berhenti ...

i like this comment the most

mesmerize

TT.. u muda lagi.. i have frens who simply quit without new job in their 30s, and after one month or two they received new job offer. My own elder sister pun quit when she was about 43 or 44, and within 3 months she got another job. Rezeki Allah ni luas... bukan kat tempat tu je. Eh tapi i bukan nak influence u suruh berhenti tau. Still the choice is in your hands. Istikharah sis, solat hajat selalu. Allah tu Maha Mendengar.

QIsmail

Thanks for all the replies everyone. I really appreciate it. There are so many things to consider to be honest.

I’ll try to talk to my HOD regarding the task that they’ve given me. I won’t suffer in silence anymore.

QIsmail

senahitam replied at 30-7-2018 10:50 AM
tiap2 jabatan ada pegawai psikologi. ce try consult diorang dulu mana tau u akan ada option lain yan ...

True. I’ll try to talk to them first before I decide on anything.

QIsmail

aja109 replied at 30-7-2018 08:33 AM
u da penat mentally & physically ni..

take a rest for a while tp jgn quit..u're still young and j ...

This one is true as well. Mmg kena tahan hati kalau nk cari rezeki halal, kan?

aja109

QIsmail replied at 31-7-2018 04:09 AM
This one is true as well. Mmg kena tahan hati kalau nk cari rezeki halal, kan?

yes..reality yg pahit utk ditelan kan..tp berkatnya lebih..

everything ada hikmahnye wpun perit for us to face it..

sy tawu awk strong enough that's y Allah uji u..Allah syg tu..

be strong okay..and jgn pendam alone, bahaya utk ur health..just 2cents from me..

ninja boy

kerja ajela,
cukup bulan ambik gaji
kerja 5 hari, banyak benefit
hidup tak kerja lagi memderita taw
kerja gov mmg gitu mengadap musuh hari2 bertahun2

tunangku

Dont leave your job..
Me dulu lepas istikharah & dgr nasihat org dewasa
Tak jd benti kejaa
Lama2 stress tu hilang sikit2.. tips nya lapang dada settle masalah satu2.' B4 pg kerja.. baca yasin
Keja mcm susah sgt. Not.my field.also.. tp ada byk supporter. N kawan yg baik

cik_violet

aku pun experience benda yg sama. tak sampai setahun kat situ. masuk2 pun takde org welcoming aku. yg ada pun sorang tu la; si mentor aku. dia welcome aku pun sbb aku bawah dia.
rupanya mentor aku tu nk bla dari situ. so.. yes aku sorg je yg akan handle bos2 ni semua.

and aku jenis ignore je mulut2 yg kata aku takleh buat keje. pedih weh. sebab aku je lain jantina situ. depan2 muka aku dia suruh aku cari keje lain walhal tak sampai sebulan aku kat situ.
mmg byk ups and downs mental aku kat sini. aku pernah balik rumah sambil menangis naik LRT and Monorail sbb cakap2 dorg+workload ni. aku mmg tak fikir apa dah kalau org nampak aku nangis.

mengadu kat bos besar pun takde action. dok janji kata nk bagi someone from other project utk tolong aku. tapi hampeh. sebulan aku tunggu. takde weh. dok cakap.. it's good for your growth.
since dia takleh tolong aku. aku tolong diri aku..
and I quit.

mental health aku mmg teruk masa kat situ.
anxiety, jantung degup kuat, lack of sleep, selalu teringat pasal kerja, need for assurance in everything i do, eyebag teruk gila sampai semua tegur.
weekend kacau aku. tgh2 malam kacau aku. aku tak pernah ambil cuti sbb mmg takde org yg akan buat kerja aku.
kalau part aku tak settle, project takleh jalan.

aku percaya rezeqi tu ada di tempat lain.

up till now, from org yg replace aku.. bos2 ni still mengharapkan aku kerja sana balik. siap nk tolong cakap kat management lagi.
aku reply elok2 aku cakap nk cari rezqi negeri lain plak.
aku dh penat.
kekawan aku yg tahu aku berhenti semua terkejut. sebab bg dorg, aku ni selalu play safe and kental.

to TT, all the best. I'm just sharing my situation why I quit. Sorry terpanjang.
Kalau u rasa mental health terganggu, better cari jalan penyelesaian.
Benda ni kita je yg rasa. Orang lain tatau pun.

QIsmail

cik_violet replied at 31-7-2018 06:23 PM
aku pun experience benda yg sama. tak sampai setahun kat situ. masuk2 pun takde org welcoming aku. y ...

Thank you for sharing. My heart is quite decided actually. Mmg dh tak nak be in this field anymore. The only thing that’s stopping me from moving forward from my decision is my parents.

Tp mmg la. Workplace environment for government sectors are the same everywhere. 4 years back, I okay lg.

At this point, I dh Tak sanggup. Tak tau cmane nk bg parents faham.

pitera

QIsmail replied at 1-8-2018 06:01 AM
Thank you for sharing. My heart is quite decided actually. Mmg dh tak nak be in this field anymore ...

Hi tt.

Reading from ur story, i can say we are in a similar position.

I started working with US based company after graduates, and got an offer from gomen sector after 2 years. My parents are ohh so happy, so i accept the offer.

It was so hard for me to fit it. I was in my comfort zone, but i could excel. I hate every minute of it. Due to commitments, and i was going to get married a year after i started working in government sector, i stay and stay up until now; 5 years and 2 kids later. And i hate every effing minute of it. Well, not all times, but most of the times.

Sangat susah bila u dah start keje with fun environments, and later on tukar kepada kerja yang quite rigid, byk protocol and politics, work ethics yg hanya buat buat buat tanpa u boleh suarakan pendapat u.

Dulu fikir jugak nak tukar kerja, tapi pikirkan parents, then husband, then anak-anak, so i decided to stay je. I started to look for things that can drive me. Cari kawan. Finally sekarang, thou i still takde kawan sekepala ( u know when tetiba during lunch hour u teringinnnnn gila nak makan patin tempoyak, tapi u takde geng nak layan ur craving so u end up having them alone), tapi atleast i got few friends that care for me.

Tapi bab kerja, i still takde drive nak do well. Semua kerja pending bila u takde drive. So earlier this year, i decided to continue my master - just so that i had a chance to move up later on in a similar field but different workplace. Bila buat macam ni baru i rasa i ada something to look forward to, i can bear with what im doing now because one day i will leave this all behind for a better things.

My advise is, dont quit for now. Try to look for things that can motivate u or give u satisfaction. At the same time look for opportunities for u to move up your ladder, so that u will have something to fall back on. Kerja gomen is really one of the most secured position ever, its a good perks for when u have children later on. When the time come where u can quit, dont think about others, you are the one that is suffering.

Good luck tt

QIsmail

pitera replied at 1-8-2018 11:04 PM
Hi tt.

Reading from ur story, i can say we are in a similar position.

Hi Pitera.

Thank you for the suggestion. In terms of practicality, staying in government sector seemed like the only way to go. But it comes with a higher cost. Huu.

If you don’t mind me asking - you further your Master through HLP ke? Congrats  Since it’s quite tough to get into HLP programme.

pitera

QIsmail replied at 2-8-2018 05:39 AM
Hi Pitera.

Thank you for the suggestion. In terms of practicality, staying in government sector ...

No babe. Not thru HLP. Sebab course i setahun setengah je, and lepas tu i akan dipindahkan ke tempat lain. Plus yuran dia still i boleh cover lagi. I tak bersedia lagi utk being transferred ke tempat tah mana2. Hihi. So i save my HLP for my PHD, inshaa Allah.

lilpurplelady

i pernah kerja government bbrp tahun, tp bkn jawatan tetap, mmg  hari2 i paksa diri, kerja senang tp tak best sbb i tak boleh masuk. Tp i boleh nampak la beza apa yg best kerja government, skrg i dekat swasta, so i boleh komen

Pro Kerja Government
kerja government stable, gaji pulak byk sbb u akan dpt pencen, cukai bayar sikit je sbb elaun tak dikira, sdgkn kalau swasta semua gaji termasuk elaun dikira untuk cukai, kalau kerja gov u takkan fikir apa jdk kalau kena retrench, kalau swasta kena sentiasa saving

Bab gaji swasta tak seindah yg diwar2kan, adalah yg byk, tp jarang, kalau gaji government standard, dan sebenarnya agak byk bbnding kt luar, kalau swasta gaji tinggi, demand company dkt u tinggi, kalau government, gaji tinggi ikut seniority.

Pro Kerja Swasta
English berhabuk, sdgkn dkt government walau CV masing2 hebat, tp so far english communication biasa2 je walau atas kertas mcm bagus, tp bila kerja swasta sbb expose dgn ramai foreigner, hari2 speaking, mmg improve sgt

Performance kena sentiasa high
Dkt government biasa2 pon KPI i tiap tahun 100%, bkn ssh nak cecah kalau u buat semua dia nak, tp dkt swasta, bkn psl KPI je nak kena fikir, tp keuntungan company jugak mpengaruhi you, so kalau u kerja bagai nak rak, kewangan company dintis, ttp dintis

lilpurplelady

i mmg nak sgt masuk kerja government, tp i tak dpt, so TT jgn sia2kan peluang ni, kdg2 i rasa tak fair, pkerja government byk kerja main2, sdgkn kami kt swasta semua kerja dgn serious, kalau main2 bila2 masa kena buang, ni pekerja government, buat jenayah pon masih simpan, ptt buang je bg dkt orang yg btul2 nk kerja

lilpurplelady

Lagi satu TT, semua tempat pon ada masalah jugak, TT jgn ingat masuk swasta indah belaka, mcm i mmg kerja dkt company consultation btaraf international, bila kerja dkt company international ni mmg culture professional sbb byk mat salleh kn, tak ada office2 politic ni, tp performance kena tip top

tp i pernah juga kerja dkt company yg kg.com (selalu company yg byk malaysian), bila company byk Malaysian ni, tak ada beza pon dgn government, yg indah2 belaka tu kalau company international je, politik kuat dkt swasta jugak, sama lah, tak ada beza mana kalau dah nama Malaysian

lilpurplelady

benefit, government byk benefit, tmasuk untuk parent u kalau masuk hospital, swasta, diri sendiri lah tanggung, kalau ada benefit pon bernasib baik, tp cap la untuk setakat demam pyakit ringgan kcuali u masuk company yg betul2 besar tp government punya benefit juga plg best, sbb tu kerja swasta ni kena ada insurance

kalau u nak masuk swasta, pastikan gaji u berganda lagi byk drpd apa yg u boleh dpt dr government termasuk pencen, jujur i ckp, dgn gaji i pon mmg tak berbaloi lgsg kerja swasta, sbb tu i nak sgt masuk government sgt2

i suggest u ambil cuti tanpa gaji, dan pergi holiday tenangkan fikiran, atau ambil cuti smbg belajar, mana2 sama je, dulu waktu i kerja government i mmg nak sgt kerja swasta sbb nmpk gah bndg kg.com duduk government

tp bila i dah kerja swasta, i bru tahu the grass is greener, cabaran dkt government lain, cabaran i kerja swasta dulu dkt company byk malay lain, cabaran kerja environment international lain, semua ada cabaran, kdg2 adakalanya kita perlu belajar untuk terima drpd melarikan diri

QIsmail

lilpurplelady replied at 2-8-2018 09:16 PM
benefit, government byk benefit, tmasuk untuk parent u kalau masuk hospital, swasta, diri sendiri la ...

Thank you for sharing your experience in the private sector. I’m still weighing the options here. I’ll pray that both you and I will find whatever it is that we’re looking for.