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In laws interfering too much dalam relationship

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Post time 22-1-2019 07:47 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
SuriNate replied at 21-1-2019 04:16 PM
Dah banyak kali bincang dengan partner pasal stuff ya boleh discuss dengan parents and yang boleh  ...

I really pro on privacy, sekecik2 benda pun i tak suka apatah lagi hal2 financials etc

Draw the line...
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Post time 22-1-2019 08:46 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Edited by 234126 at 22-1-2019 08:49 AM

Love can find you eventually but peace of mind is hard to come by these days. Save yourself and believe that one day God will send you the right one. At 32 you’re not worth the future suffering. Your self worth amounts more
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Post time 22-1-2019 08:47 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Edited by raihaneem at 22-1-2019 08:48 AM




Bg suami awak dgr ceramah mufti menk...semua parents kena dgr.

Byk mufti menk sentuh ttg in laws.

Tt....saya hrp awak tabah. Dr awak cerita..awak baik n bkl suami pun bagus..alhamdulillah.

Fikir betul2, kalau awak rasa awak mmpu harungi hidup brsama mertua mcmtu..awak kena kental n sgt2 sabar. Mulut manusia ni bisa bonar mkn dlm.

Tp kalau tt jenih yg berlapang dada...sakit ati sat pastu boleh act normal..maka proceed la

Tp yg penting bkl suami awak tu...dia kena bijak handle both. Kena tahu hukum..apa yg dia perlu taat pd parents dia..apa yg tak perlu.

Cukup benci mak2 yg suka guna ayat anak derhaka, tak cium bau syurga, nak redha Allah kena dpt redha mak...anak pun takut past taat membabi buta..bini dibuat mcm garbage. Please la lelaki2 sekalian be wise..belajar hukum betoi2, faham apa yg hak seorang ibu, apa hak seorang anak, apa hak seorang menantu, seorang isteri..

Semoga kita semua dpt jd mertua yg baik. Kalau kita jd parents yg baik, mertua yg baik..ank menantu akn balik rmh kerap..tak payah nak call suruh balik aih..

Tt...hrp bincg elok2, saya risau nnti bkl suami awak jd terhimpit pastu nnti dia tak backing awak..awak akn mkn hati. Kalau awak n suami saling support, fahami ntra satu sama lain, komunikasi elok2 insya-Allah tt akn dpt harungi semua ni..
Kalau pun awak ada buat salah..as suami yg baik dia akn counter properly...tegur elok2.

Saya doakan yg terbaik buat tt..semoga mnjadi bkl ibubapa dan bkl mertua juga suatu hari nnti...ameen



Byk typo pulak
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Post time 22-1-2019 08:54 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Kawan saya perempuan
Dijadikan cerita kawen dengan suami anak tunggal yatim piatu dan saya merasakan doa beliau terjawab tp plot twist di tgh jalan
Rupanya bukan sedara mara belah suami yang menempel tapi adik beradik beliau sendiri
Walaupun tujuh beradik tapi hanya dia sahaja yg boleh diharapkan dalam keluarga
Untuk mak ayah allocation beribu sebulan
Tak masuk kalau mak ayah sakit
Then tak cukup dengan tu adik beradik asekla nk pinjam duit
Suami dia daripada asalnya tak kisah kemudian jadi kisah dan tidak boleh lagi pejam mata
Suami nasihat kan supaya berhenti menolong dan bagi pinjam adik beradik
Tp apa pilihan dia ada
Dia hanya harapkan laki dia faham dia buat ni sbb mak ayah.bila mak ayah xda dia akan stop
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 Author| Post time 22-1-2019 09:38 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Hi guys.. good morning. I have read each and every one of your comments. Thanks sangat2 for all the advice... Memang betul apa you guys cakap. I dapat nasihat yang sama juga dari kawan2 yang rapat and my family members especially my mom. But now just to clear my mind sebab tahun ni ingat nak kawin.. dah lama postpone kwin sebab issue nie. Bagi yang tanya if about his siblings actually adik dia kecik lagi. The second baru masuk college and another one still in secondary. I tak tanggung his siblings but whenever we go out I dont mind sometimes paying food and stuff they want if betul2 necessary sebab my bf pun tak pernah berkira with my family. Actually for this relationship I really want untuk commit sebab like I said earlier before nie ada seorang ex. Our relationship lasted for 8 years but we ended it nicely sebab dia anak sulung and family dia prefer anak sulung untuk jaga keluarga. I can't commit sebab my mom is a single mother. I won't choose anyone above her. Furthermore family my ex pun macam lebih kurang jer but a bit better than the current one. So after break up I ingat nak single etc sebab malas nak commit but jodoh di tangan Tuhan kan. Maybe that's why the family macam tak suka but kalau cakap tak suka dia orang pulak yang beria suruh kawin. They are even willing to pay. Macam Pelik. I rasa macam insecure sebab Im trying to be my best in everything but the more I try makin banyak benda yang show up as signs. I dah doa minta pentunjuk. My bf is actually a very nice person..soft spoken.. religious rajin and suka buat housechores compare to his other siblings. Mmg ciri2 lelaki I suka.I takut they sengaja pay and make me feel owe to them. Just my feelings maybe?
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Post time 22-1-2019 09:57 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
SuriNate replied at 22-1-2019 09:38 AM
Hi guys.. good morning. I have read each and every one of your comments. Thanks sangat2 for all the  ...

Complicated right. As usual, itulah cabaran dia. Xde pn yg 100% smooth. Wish u all the best..
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Post time 22-1-2019 10:43 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Kalo bnyk yg xske tntg family inlaws better make a move..jgn menyesal..dh kawen nnt kte pompuan ni kne shut our mouth xblh melawan ape pn sbb MIL ok MIL
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Post time 22-1-2019 10:53 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
SuriNate replied at 22-1-2019 09:38 AM
Hi guys.. good morning. I have read each and every one of your comments. Thanks sangat2 for all the  ...

Saudara saya gini...mrtua dah byk tolong dr segi kewangan...sgt byk.
Pastu...mertua brainwash dia..pastu asyik dok blame si isteri ( mertua ni..si anak perempuan.. mmg kesian la.

Sorg lg kwn saya...mertua nak bg rmh..rmh mmg besaq la banglo..tak payah byr sesen pun. Tp dia tolak.sbb takut termkn budi n mertua akn control. Tp da kena paksa...terpaksa terima...tp alhamdulillah mertua tak kacau rmhtgga depa.

Keputusan di tgn tt...doa yg terbaik buat tt..
Mana tau kot bkl mertua lepasni lagi loving...tak kenal maka tak cinta.
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Post time 22-1-2019 10:57 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Lecehlaaa cam tuu.. cam my in law mcm takut i control my husband finance.. ceittt pdhll akulaa jd bank antarabangsa bila dia tengah sesak
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Post time 22-1-2019 11:01 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
SuriNate replied at 21-1-2019 04:14 PM
Tapi sayang sangat dengan partner sekarang

Rugi u lpskan dia.. mana nak dpt partner yg baik.. bagi i.. i akan tetap nak dia.. tp dlm masa yg sama husband kena main peranan yg terbaik.. mcm in law sampai skrg tak tau i pencen.. sbb my husband tutup mulut.. satu lg i ni bknlaa jenis perfect wife tp my husband adakala menipu sbb nak cover i punya psl.. jgn risau u punya in law pun mcm i.. tp taraaaa i happy sampai skrg.. rumah tangga pun happpy
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Post time 22-1-2019 11:06 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Ni sbb fil tak bagi apa mil mau. Lantas apa yg mil nak akan minta kpd anak2. Fil tak mencukupkan kehendak mil. Niat kawen x betul, beranak sbb nak suruh anak sulong tolong menyara sibling. Niat kawen supaya ada anak boleh jaga tua, niat kawen supaya ada org bagi Wang masa tua. Semua mau harap anak, fil apa buat. Kemudian akan gunakan alasan anak derhaka la tak mengenang budi la. Ada mak2 minta anak beli kereta mewah idaman sbb nak menunjuk2 dgn jiran2, beli sendiri pakai duit sendiri tak boleh ka.
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Post time 22-1-2019 11:13 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Dah kawin ke belum?kalau belum,cari y lain..better drpd nti tt plak dipersalahkn oleh husben-to-be tu gara2 in laws..byk gk baca story in laws dr hell ni,cari y baik..sejenis sporting..good luck tt!
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Post time 22-1-2019 11:16 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
raihaneem replied at 22-1-2019 08:47 AM
Bg suami awak dgr ceramah mufti menk...semua parents kena dgr.

Byk mufti menk sentuh ttg in ...

Tq for sharing this. A very good point kann.
Totally agreed with all his point.. Mmg ada mak2 yg guna point ni, syurga kau di bawah tapak kaki msk, so jgn derhaka, jgn lawan ckp mak. Ini golongan mak2 yg selfish. Tak faham sepenuhnya konsep yg betul.

I pun awal2 nikah, ada isu ni from both side, my family & in laws. But my hubby main peranan, this is our life, and let us manage our own family. Jatuh bgn ktorang,  ktorang x susahkan sapa2.  Xde istilah ur money is your money, my money is my money. Duit gaji semua letak sama2 satu akaun. Part ni mmg my mum tentang habis-habisan. Since i keje gomen, so nk buat loan mmg senang lah kan. Awal2 nikah dulu, mmg sll jugak la termiss bg duit kt family. Baru nk hidup, gaji msg2 ciput. Mmg merasalah kena kejar dgn bank, cc semua dh maksimum. Buat loan sana sini, tutup lubang lama, korek lubang baru. Kena black list pun pernah. Tp kitorang sama2 setelkan. Bila kenang blk, syukur sgt2 sbb dpt lalu zmn susah tu. Personal loan atas nm i dulu ratus ribu juga. My hubby i ajar i how to manage our life. Jgn takut kena kejar dgn bnk. Jgn lari. Bank call, kita jwb. Bkn hutang along pun. Bab kena label anak derhaka pun pernah. But, itu semua x patahkn semangat kami. Tp make us stronger, nk buktikan pd keluarga apa yg kami buat ni benda betul. Alhamdulillah, skrg kami dh lalu fasa lain. Personal loan i yg ratus ribu pun, hubby i dh langsaikan. No more hutang cc. Cuma hutang kereta saja. Ini motivate diri msg2 utk keje lebih. Now masa utk balas jasa family msg2. Sementara dikurniakan rezeki lebih, dptlah menyumbang lebih kpd family.  I dan hubby pun selalu sembang, borak psl ni. Bila dh tua, jgn sesekali menyusahkan anak. Kita simpanlah bekal hidup utk hari tua sendiri. Jgn ulang kesilapan yg pernah org tua kita buat. Yg baik kita ambil sbg contoh, yg buruk kita jdkan teladan.
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Post time 22-1-2019 11:16 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
SuriNate replied at 21-1-2019 04:18 PM
That's what I thought ..my mom cakap benda sama..so me and partner plan nak tinggal jauh sikit so  ...

Migrate ovc boleh setelkan isu ni ke sis?ntah2 lagi best in laws sis membawang..mcm giler pangkat dan harta je tu,tgk2 nti nak jgk ikut p ovc..gasak ler tt..n kalau boipren tt sejenis y anak mommy,faham2 jelaa ur future might be bleak and dark tt..

Ingat,prevention is better than to cure..
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 Author| Post time 22-1-2019 11:20 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
farlis replied at 22-1-2019 11:16 AM
Tq for sharing this. A very good point kann.
Totally agreed with all his point.. Mmg ada mak2 yg ...

This is inspiring sebab sekarang pun tengah adjusting our financial tp in laws potpet pot pet mcm tak trust out plans. I banyak diam jer nasib baik like I said my partner is willing to go through thick and thin and ur story makes me feel better
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 Author| Post time 22-1-2019 11:21 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
salmon-suki replied at 22-1-2019 11:16 AM
Migrate ovc boleh setelkan isu ni ke sis?ntah2 lagi best in laws sis membawang..mcm giler pangkat  ...

That's why mcm terfikir why should I run away sedangkan yang bermasalah is them not me...
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 Author| Post time 22-1-2019 11:22 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
ninja boy replied at 22-1-2019 11:06 AM
Ni sbb fil tak bagi apa mil mau. Lantas apa yg mil nak akan minta kpd anak2. Fil tak mencukupkan keh ...

Yes. I can see that. The husband is quite stingy lah macam sangat lokek dengan duit so mak bf I more into harapkan ny bf will fulfill her dreams lah... I can see that
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Post time 22-1-2019 11:28 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
cari suami lain
mungkin luaran sana ada calon mil yg lebih baik
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Post time 22-1-2019 11:29 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
SuriNate replied at 22-1-2019 11:21 AM
That's why mcm terfikir why should I run away sedangkan yang bermasalah is them not me...

Mcm y poremer ckp tu,boipren tt kena draw the line..kena tegas and tt sama,kena tegas..

Tp sy,mmg sy x kuat kalau nak hadap in laws cmni,yelaa,kawin bknnye sekejap aje,msti nak long lasting..kalau asyik ngadap cercaan spoiled brat in laws tu,boleh mental taw tt..nak2 plak relatives pun ikut sama tumpang mengikis..it's a big NO for me..

My money,my life..y adults sila cari duit sndiri..even to my siblings sy takkan senang2 nak bg duit unless ada valid reason sbb kalau asyik bg aje apa y dorg nak,they will never be independent..never~
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Post time 22-1-2019 11:56 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
SuriNate replied at 22-1-2019 11:20 AM
This is inspiring sebab sekarang pun tengah adjusting our financial tp in laws potpet pot pet mcm  ...

Semua mslh boleh setel. Ada jln penyelesaian. The way we manage tu yg penting. Don't worry. Bak kata husbnd i, kita yg buat dia, bkn dia yg buat kita.  If your partner org yg firm, then bagus la. Bakal mil u tu rasa insecure, takut u kongkong anak dia etc. Bkn kita ni lupakan diorng, cuma kita ada priority lain dlm hidup kita. Kita baru nk bina hidup
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