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Post time 18-2-2019 02:23 PM | Show all posts
i want to share my story tapi nantilah
bz sangat kerja n task
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 Author| Post time 18-2-2019 03:52 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Iris. replied at 18-2-2019 02:23 PM
i want to share my story tapi nantilah
bz sangat kerja n task

Pls do so.

Tq
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Post time 19-2-2019 09:26 AM | Show all posts
Iris. replied at 18-2-2019 02:23 PM
tolong jawabkanyap dalam kategori murung - portpartum depression (PPD)
boleh melarat sampai bila2 ...

ya Allah kesian....

actually dlm pantang, kita xleh nak bersedih2 dan beremosi... sbb dlm keadaan kita yg penat, x ckp tido, kotor (with darah nifas), byk benda x elok, aura negatif dtg dekat kita....

frankly, i kesian kat pompuan yg depression and xde support dari husband dan family. and membawa smp abis pantang... tu la kdg2 kita dgr cerita ada org pantang yg bunuh baby, amuk... sbbkan emosi x stabil...

nauzubillahiminzalik.

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Post time 19-2-2019 09:52 AM | Show all posts
osheenz replied at 19-2-2019 01:26 AM
ya Allah kesian....

actually dlm pantang, kita xleh nak bersedih2 dan beremosi... sbb dlm keada ...

sepatutnya time pantang tu lah time2 nak berehat lepas lelah bawa perut 9 bulan
orang2 dulu jaga betul2 anak menantu kalau time pantang
zaman ni entahlah.....

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 Author| Post time 22-2-2019 01:27 PM | Show all posts
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 Author| Post time 25-2-2019 01:27 PM | Show all posts
Murung 'diserang' geng bawang

MyMetroUtama

Muhammad Saufi Hassan
saufi@mediaprima.com.my


KUALA LUMPUR: Sering menjadi mangsa kecaman dan bahan ejekan rakan di laman sosial termasuk memalukan bentuk fizikal membuatkan gadis ini mengalami kemurungan serta tekanan yang serius.

Kata-kata ejekan atau panggilan seperti ‘hei gemuk..’, ‘dah la gemuk b***h pula..’ dan beberapa lagi kecaman yang teruk sering dilontarkan kepadanya.

Apa saja yang dimuat naik menerusi akaun Facebook, Instagram dan Twitter milik gadis berkenaan akan menjadi mangsa kecaman, malah ada kenalan yang gemar menangkap layar status serta menjadi bahan kecaman dan ejekan di dalam sembang kumpulan WhatsApp.

Keadaan itu berlarutan selama beberapa bulan dan kenalannya tidak henti mengecam serta mengkritik sehinggakan gadis itu malu untuk bertemu rakannya di pejabat sebelum meletak jawatan.

Gadis itu yang mahu dikenali sebagai Amy, 27, berkata, tindakannya untuk berhenti kerja kerana malu untuk berjumpa dengan rakan pejabatnya yang sering mengecam serta menjadi bahan ejekan mereka.

Katanya, walaupun kritikan itu mungkin biasa bagi sesetengah pihak namun ia cuma memberi kesan kepadanya yang terpaksa berdepan setiap hari.

“Saya tahu saya tidak berpakaian seperti mereka. Pakaian saya hanya baju kurung setiap hari, itupun menjadi bahan ejekan serta kecaman mereka.

“Tidak cukup di laman sosial, mereka akan mengejek saya, perli di dalam pejabat dan keadaan itu sememangnya memberi kesan besar terhadap emosi saya.

“Bayangkan bagaimana saya ingin menghadapinya setiap hari. Ejekan mereka terhadap saya setiap hari dan saya hanya mampu untuk bertahan beberapa bulan saja.

“Selepas itu saya mula merasa rendah diri dan tidak mahu untuk keluar rumah,” katanya.

Amy yang tinggal bersama kakaknya di Selangor ketika itu berkata, dia mengambil cuti kecemasan selama seminggu dan tidak mahu keluar daripada bilik.

Menurutnya, dia juga sering menangis sendirian di dalam bilik apabila mengingatkan setiap ejekan dan kecaman yang dilontarkan terhadapnya oleh rakan pejabat.

“Kakak saya sedar berhubung perubahan saya dan bertanya tentang apa yang terjadi. Selepas saya menceritakan semuanya, kakak saya merujuk kepada doktor dan saya disahkan menghadapi kemurungan kritikal serta tekanan emosi.

“Jika dulu saya hanya membaca berkenaan kes buli siber di Internet. Namun kini, saya menghadapinya sendiri dan merasai bagaimana ia sangat memberi kesan kepada kehidupan saya seharian,” katanya.

Berbeza bagi seorang pelajar lelaki berusia 16 tahun apabila dia turut menjadi mangsa buli siber walaupun memiliki saiz fizikal lebih baik berbanding pembulinya.

Pelajar dikenali sebagai Nadim berkata, dia menjadi sasaran pembuli di media sosial dan juga ketua pengawas di sekolahnya.

“Saya mengenali pembuli. Dia adalah ketua pengawas di sekolah dan konflik antara saya dan dia mula timbul apabila kami meminati gadis yang sama, namun gadis itu lebih rapat dengan saya.

“Pengawas berkenaan bertindak membuli saya di media sosial dengan melontarkan pelbagai kata-kata cacian.

“Saya melaporkan kepada guru namun guru lebih mempercayai pembuli berkenaan memandangkan dia adalah ketua pengawas,” katanya.

Menurutnya, keadaan itu mengakibatkannya gagal menumpukan perhatian dan malu untuk ke sekolah kerana pembuli menyebarkan cerita tentang dirinya di sekolah berkenaan.

Selain itu, kes buli siber turut membelenggu seorang pelajar perempuan berusia 15 tahun di mana dia menjadi bahan ejekan berikutan keadaan fizikalnya.

Remaja mahu dikenali sebagai Hanis berkata, dia sering menjadi bahan ketawa rakannya kerana saiz fizikal yang agak besar berbeza dengan rakan lain.

“Pada peringkat awal, saya tidak kisah diejek sebegitu namun kecaman mereka tidak berhenti di sekolah saja, sebaliknya turut menggunakan laman sosial.

“Malah, ramai di antara mereka yang gemar memalukan saya dengan memuat naik gambar saya dan membandingkan dengan perkara hodoh yang lain,” katanya.

Menurutnya, dia terpaksa berpindah sekolah kerana tidak tahan dengan ejekan selain berdepan tekanan akibat cacian dilontarkan kepadanya.

Artikel ini disiarkan pada : Isnin, 25 Februari 2019 @ 8:01 AM

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 Author| Post time 25-2-2019 01:28 PM | Show all posts
kat forum nih berguni-guni ramainya geng bawang.

yang kalah tersingkir
yang menang tu...

tak selamanya menang tu buat awak bahagia.
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 Author| Post time 25-2-2019 01:35 PM | Show all posts
Depression Steals Your Soul and Then it Takes Your Friends

It's so easy to cut off a friend who is persistently difficult, self-absorbed, nasty, and decidedly "other." Especially if they cut themselves off first.


Depression is a thief. It'll rob you of your time, your thoughts, and your sense of self. But before all of that, it'll take your friends.

Unlike suicide, depression operates ceaselessly at a low hum. A suicide is a loud clap that ripples through disconnected lives: it is known and felt instantly. But the slip into isolation before suicide, into the murk of the disease, rarely gets so much notice. We like to discuss the black, but not the fade. Subsequently, it's hard for friends to know how to interact emotionally with depression, and especially as it spans such a longer time period.

For me, the combination of bipolar, borderline personality disorder, and depression has manufactured a consistently brilliant cyanide capsule that I clench between my teeth in any and every relationship. Sadly it's almost a guarantee that eventually my friendships all get poisoned.

And I understand. For those around me it's so much easier to cut off a friend who is persistently difficult, self-absorbed, nasty, unpredictable, and decidedly other. And it's even easier to cut off a friend if they cut themselves off first.

I've run this story through my head a million times: one of my best friends—an unnaturally talented writer and a top bloke—slowly began to recede into himself. He cleared all his friends from Facebook, he stopped replying to calls and texts, and then he hauled himself up in his room like a hermit. We all knew what was happening. Friends kept messaging me: "Have you seen X? Is X okay? We should go and see X."

None of us ever went and saw X. That was two years ago and none of us have seen or talked to him since. He is not dead but he is gone. Hauled up in the mountain cabin of his mind. Losing a friend like this was like seeing a ghost pass through the two walls of a hallway—a kind of vanishing that leaves you feeling uncertain.

Last year I slid back into my own depressive slump, and began copying all the same behaviour. Basically just self-isolating and burning bridges so that within six months I'd lost more friends than someone who proudly boasts about voting for Jil Stein.

A depressive hibernation is not so much a purposeful exile, as a slow-paced locking of doors. When your mind feels groggy and your day is a looping cycle of inaction and despairing thoughts, it can be hard to work up the strength to go to a friend's gig, grab a coffee, or reply to a text. In my own experience, the disease does so much to convince you of your awfulness, that you start viewing your absence from friends and events as a deformed favour.

You mute yourself for fear that your internal wailing will wreck the vibe for others.


Illustrations by Ashley Goodall.

Then this fear of wrecking the fun for others lays on a thick coating of guilt. Depressives—the mad in general—carry a lot of guilt. You wear a person down. Depression is a maelstrom with a sticky gravitational pull. Loved ones who are all buoyancy, care, empathy, and concern, are steadily worn down and thinned-out like seaside pebbles. It is impossibly difficult to pour so much love and worry into a person incapable of reciprocating, and we know this.

So many times I have felt my tongue grow fat and unsteady with attempts to plop out a proper thanks.

That thanks can be uncomfortable and embarrassing for a myriad of reasons. It is hard to tell your girlfriend that just by being there and watching cartoons with you they are keeping you alive, because that puts a certain weight on an otherwise innocuous afternoon. That also puts a burden on a person who doesn't have—and shouldn't have—the ability to carry you and cure the incurable.

I hold a lot of fear that my gratefulness, or seeming lack thereof, would lead to an unending apology. I've found myself apologising to someone who loved me for being who and what I am, and there's a steady erosion in interpersonal faith when one partner or friend is incapable of understanding the reason why the other would or could love them.

In that disbelief, the disease toxifies. I've told friends their company nauseates me, and told parents they've malformed my brain, and told the person I've loved that they've allowed me to rob a fraction of their life and that's somehow made them guilty.

If there's one truth to depression it is that it is both wholly universal and fundamentally solipsistic. It refracts identity like a dark crystal, and what we are taught is a neurochemical experience felt by many, feels doggedly and unique and of your own. You can feel this so intensely that you can convince those closest to you that it's the case. Then suddenly all parties understand you as a lost cause.

Mental health campaigners consistently put forth the narrative of reaching out—for help and to help. Even though I agree that this is the best method, most people are not equipped to do this, and the guilt that springs up in the rift of that shortcoming is in itself highly destructive.

I felt this acutely when I was unable to help my friend and I feel it now when I am unable to ask for help myself.

The reason RUOK is one day a year is that most people only have so much patience for mental illness, and nine out of 10 normallos (or neurotypicals) think you are watching 13 hours of Frasier a day because you are slack.

The disquieting reality is that depression alone cannot make a person disappear. Friends play a part in the disappearance. And that uncomfortable truth is the reason we do not have this conversation. Also because empathy is finite.

I think that in accepting that neither sufferer nor witness are culpable we can all find some semblance of peace. In that hard admission we can see depression as the interloping thief that it is, and stay the flow of the mad and suffering from our lives.

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Post time 26-2-2019 07:18 AM | Show all posts
osheenz replied at 7-2-2019 11:40 AM
doc, just wondering. kalau perempuan dlm pantang kan selalunya meroyan. itu kategori kemurungan ju ...

postnatal depression byk jugak berlaku
byk yg setel je after
yg ngeri ialah postnatal psychosis
tetiba bunuh baby etc

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 Author| Post time 26-2-2019 01:14 PM | Show all posts
MASIH ADA YANG SAYANG

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Pihak polis yang berada di lokasi kejadian telah berusaha memujuk dan berjaya menyerahkan kanak kanak berkenaan kepada keluarga beliau.

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 Author| Post time 26-2-2019 01:15 PM | Show all posts
Dr @ipes2

adik neh tunjukkan tanda sedih? marah? berontak?

ada ciri-ciri murung?

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Post time 27-2-2019 03:40 AM | Show all posts
Syd replied at 26-2-2019 01:15 PM
Dr @ipes2

adik neh tunjukkan tanda sedih? marah? berontak?

alah kesian dia
psychology of a child ni different
bila adults kena marah, ada bebarapa outcomes yg boleh berlaku
dan semua outcomes ini kita boleh agak eg dia marah balik ke etc

kids lain.. dia jadi kencing malam (enuresis), jadi sakit perut etc
so dlm this girl, kena di selidik elok2
adakah dia tak nak pi sekolah sbb kena buli, ada dyslexia, ada rendah diri (maybe ada seorng yg suka nunjuk2 kat dia, mungkin itu mungkin ini etc..byk sgt.. so kena interview baik2)

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Post time 28-2-2019 05:18 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
2 adik lelaki sy Bru je didiagnose dgn depression. Alhamdulillah both Ade inisiatif utk come forward n seek medical health.. tp both xde suicidal thoughts..

yg A depress after join venture business dgn abg die. N now die da out Dr bisnes n keje lain.. xde keserasian.. A boleh tbe2 mnanges..rase sedih tgk adik mcm tu. Sy lebih risau dgn A..

Yg B pulak maybe sbb lame menganggur n xdpt keje..but now alhamdulillah da dpt keje..hope dgn keje baru boleh buat die bz xterlalu memikirkn masalah die sgt..before ni time jobless die slalu x tdo mlm..tdo wktu siang je..jrg ikut aktiviti family...wktu Mkn pon x tentu..

Parent sy mcm xde awareness psl mental health ni..so sy xtau la mcm mane nk jg 2 adik ni..since sy da kawen n x duduk in family home lg..bile crite kt husband pon, die masih x faham betapa serious Nye mental health ni..bg die, adik2 sy ni depress sbb jahil agama..x ckup solat 5 waktu..so hati kosong..skrg adik2 sy masih proceed jumpe kaunselor..so sy harap dorg boleh get better.. mcm mane sebenarnye nk educate parent n husband sy psl depression ni?

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 Author| Post time 28-2-2019 06:45 PM | Show all posts
Depresi Bukan Gila
March 18, 2018 ·

Dengan ujian saringan ini, anda boleh mengetahui status kesihatan mental anda sama ada anda stress, risau, atau depressi. Ianya masih saringan dan dengan itu, pengesahan diagnosa oleh pegawai perubatan adalah diperlukan.

Penggunaan Saringan Kesihatan Mental ini tertakluk kepada terma dan syarat-syarat seperti yang terdapat di link berikut:

https://jpst.it/190iD

Saringan ini telah disediakan oleh:
PUBLIC HEALTH MALAYSIA

https://docs.google.com/…/1FAIpQLSffxoiWRgDlXhW_K…/viewform…

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The Befrienders Kuala Lumpur
Helplines : (03) 7956 8144 / 7956 8145 (24 hours service)
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 Author| Post time 28-2-2019 06:46 PM | Show all posts
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Post time 14-3-2019 10:41 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
dulu i pernah ada semua ciri2 orang kemurungan di atas  disebabkan tekanan kerja (dapat bos mereng) n masalah personal.masa tu i mmg lost. tak lalu makan, tak boleh tido, tak bleh fokus n badan asyik penat je. tiap2 ari i menangis. makan tahun jugak. allah je yang tahu seksanya i masa tu. sampai semua org tegur kenapa muka i mcm org sakit. i senyum tapi hati i  tak happy pon. i dah lupa macamana rasanya happy. i tak kenal dah diri i.nasib baik la i cepat sedar. plus bos gila tu dah xde n masalah personal i pun dah setel. sekarang ni i dah ok sikit tapi kesannya masih ada sampai sekarang. i plan nk tukar kerja sebab nak ada environment yg baru. sebab i perasan sekarang ni i cepat overthinking n tak boleh control emosi. nasihat i kepada mana2 yg rasa diri mereka kemurungan, belajar untuk meluahkan. jangan pendam. sila sibukkan diri so that kita x pikir yg bukan2. alhamdulillah i belum smpai tahap nk bunuh diri lagi. cuma sekarang i jd introvert, suka buat hal sendiri. sedangkan dulu punya la happy good lucky orangnya.

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Post time 15-3-2019 10:46 AM | Show all posts
da buat test tadi.. mmg ada ciri2... mmg kadang2 bila tengok anak kita tak mcam anak org.. tengok org lain berjaya kita masih di tahap tu juga... dgn benda2 lain lagi...suasana tempat kerja..tak dapat sokongan suami dan keluarga dll la...

tapi kita masih ada Allah... bila datang waktunya rasa sakit sgt dgn segala macam masalah... tetapkan dlm diri Allah Yang Maha Segala itu ada...Dia dekat je dgn kita...kita insan yg lemah amat mengharapkan pertolongan dari Dia Yang Maha Berkuasa...sikit2 ketenangan itu akan datang...in syaa Allah....

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Post time 23-3-2019 06:43 PM | Show all posts
comel_comey replied at 14-3-2019 10:41 PM
dulu i pernah ada semua ciri2 orang kemurungan di atas  disebabkan tekanan kerja (dapat bos mereng)  ...

itu tidak semesti nya depression
itu mungkin reaction pada isu isu surrounding kita
jika kita letak another person dlm shoes u, dia pun akan react sama je lah
itu hanya reaction dan cubalah tangani
1) get an outlet eg talk about it; buat exercise
2) if possible tukar job or avoid boss (du2 ni mmg susah la akan)
3) distraction eg Yoga etc
4) cari ketenangan eg read Quran, Hadith

personality kita pon memainkan peranan
ada ppl yg dlm same shoes dgn u pon, dia thrive jugak
so, some components of those people's behaviour help them be Ok thru out the tribulation tu

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Post time 24-3-2019 12:53 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
ipes2 replied at 23-3-2019 06:43 PM
itu tidak semesti nya depression
itu mungkin reaction pada isu isu surrounding kita
jika kita le ...

tq dr. i dulu takut sebab bimbang i ada depression. tapi alhamdulillah sekarang i bnyak meluahkan n cari bnyak aktiviti untuk hilangkan perangai overthinking. tapi dari segi spiritual, zikir n solat memang membantu. plus bos gila tu dah xde. hahahaha

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