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How are you my son/daughter? how often we as parents asked them?
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How often we parents asked anak kita how are you son or how r you daughter?
How u treat ur kids? macam kawan or ada gap between anak and parents?
Share jom.
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aku harap satu hari nanti aku dikurniakan anak.. semoga Allah makbulkan...aminn |
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Everyday.
Ambil dia dari playschool, mesti duduk pepeluk
Sambil tanya camana hari dia di playschool, main dengan sapa... |
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nak respon, tp takde anak lg 
tp iols komen jugak sbb nak kumpung tacang hehehe |
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Post time 26-7-2019 10:17 AM
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little_sis replied at 26-7-2019 01:45 AM
aku harap satu hari nanti aku dikurniakan anak.. semoga Allah makbulkan...aminn
aminnn... insyaallah sis |
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I ask every day. Kadang2 kalau jawab teragak2, I ask every few hours sampai they open up to share their problems :-p And I make sure, after they talk to me, they will feel better or on top of the world. So that, next time ada problem diorang cari Mak dulu. Besarkan anak zaman moden ni betul2 challenging.
My kids are 19 (girl) and 14 (boy) years old. Yg eldest, belajar overseas since 17, so unlimited freedom lah. We still video call every day before she sleeps. We talk abt everything in life, her friends or membawang pasal famili kat sini (bukan mengajar bergossip, tapi mesti ada fun topics jugaklah).
Semua orang kalau jumpa anak orang, mesti tanya "sekolah macamana, belajar bagus?" stress anak tu. Tanyalah, how's your life? what's your hobby? What do you like to do? I do this since they’re young. I tak pernah tanya markah exams but I akan tanya susah tak papers. Kalau susah, I tenangkan and cakap, takper yg penting you dah try yr very best I’m sure.
Bila remaja mesti ada topic sensitip… mcam boy/girl relationship, partying/drinking, drugs etc. Jgn cakap anak kita takkan buat tu semua, ‘cause zaman budak2 sekarang godaan melampau. Jgn cakap dah cukup ajaran ugama ‘cause trust me, its not enough. So instead, I explain kenapa salah atau perkara buruk apa yg akan jadi kalau kita ikutkan kawan (mcm drinking – I tak terus cakap haram, but I cakap kalau mabuk tak sedar, dilakukan tak baik by friends macamana. Nanti pasal satu salah, seluruh hidup kita rosak kerana tindakan bodoh yg sekejap je enjoy.) Sex pun gitu, mmg kita tahu haram tapi berapa banyak budak2 sekarang take it lightly? So I explain pasal maruah, pasal kalau boy tu bilang orang lain atau ambik gambar you lepas tu malukan, yr whole life affected. Yg anak teruna, I explain kalau girl tu jahat lepas tu dia ngadu you apa2kan dia macamana? Yg boy I explain, treat anak dara macamana you nak orang treat kakak you atau saudara perempuan you – with respect. If girl tu yg tergedik2 pun offer free, lagilah jgn layan.
Yg bagusnya bila anak2 trust you, they will call you first in moment of trouble. Anak I pernah pegi party ada drugs, terus dia call I. Kalau mak lain dah terjerit terpekik, but I control marah I suruh dia cepat2 keluar sebelum benda tak baik berlaku. Lepas tu I tak membebel kenapa pegi ikut kawan2 macamtu, tapi I explain Allah lagi sayangkan dia, detikkan hati dia untuk call mak dia and kluarkan dia dari situ. Imagine kalau kena serbu or overdose, sia2 seumur hidup.
So I make sure, diorang tak takut nak bilang or share apa pun. But I tell them, I’m not yr friend. I can be the best mom BUT I can also be mom from hell… pernahlah jugak I jadi dragon mom to earn their respect. And kalau diorang tetap buat yg tak baik belakang I, kalau apa2 terjadi, bukan hidup I yg musnah but its their life.
So… kalau dari kecil kita tak kekok to talk abt anything, insyallah sampai besar you can talk abt anything with your kids. |
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Post time 26-7-2019 12:26 PM
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Edited by adila39 at 26-7-2019 04:27 AM
AnnaMd replied at 26-7-2019 04:19 AM
I ask every day. Kadang2 kalau jawab teragak2, I ask every few hours sampai they open up to share th ...
Hi sis... i am so agree with u. Hopefully more parents mcm ni. Sbb I see ramai parents so harsh to their kids sometimes talk little about them or patahkan semangat budak2 tu when they share their thoughts or nak buat something
Alhamdulillah i mmg talk anything to my son. even suka kacau dia pasal gf.. have u ever like or crush with any of girlfriends. or asking what will u do if u have alot of money... or how u dealing with friends yg bullying u.
That recently night, he asked why Islam cannot eat pigs.. and why Allah creates pig ni if cant eat... jenuh nak jawab. But yeah its fun.
wahh... long journey.. belum masuk bab pergaulan and so on. Hope anak2 kita jd org yg berjaya dan ingat kita nnt
Thank sis sbb bagi good tips. Im gonna miss my son soon.. |
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everyday...
balik je keja... 1-1 terus tanya....anak ada 5, blh buat drama kdg rasa 
sbb nnt kalau skip sorng, terus merajuk... konon mama tk syg dia...wlau sibujang 17tahun tu... wajib di tanya...
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Amin.. semoga anak2 kita semua menjadi manusia yg contribute to mankind & Allah mudahkan tugas kita semua sebagai ibu bapa.
Parents yg harsh tu nak kena ketuk some sense. Kadang2 bila mereka puji anak orang lain in public & kecilkan hati anak sendiri, they forget that children see & repeat what you do. When I see kids getting scolded in public or kena negative nagging, mcm nak pergi peluk and say - its ok, you will show the world you are magnificent kiddo! tapi anak orang kita boleh tengok je.
Pasal tu I suka dengar parenting lectures. Parenting is a lifelong learning journey :-) Zaman sekarang kena banyak doakan anak2 & unconditional love. Kalau tak kita yg depress tengok anak stress or tak menjadi...heheh
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Post time 26-7-2019 03:10 PM
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AnnaMd replied at 26-7-2019 06:42 AM
Amin.. semoga anak2 kita semua menjadi manusia yg contribute to mankind & Allah mudahkan tugas kit ...
I feel calm je baca posting sis ni. Im a single mummy. Anak i tu i treat mcm my kawan.. infact I feel he is my best friend. I even talk about how I feel at work.. I trained him to speak his mind. Give opinions and so on.
Parents, some of them suka stop anak bila bercakap.. they cut their conversation... like eh mama busy la.. later.. how i wish they dont. Time ni la time they listen to all things the kids nak share
btw.. tq for being an awesome mummy! |
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We are all awesome mummies! Esp single mummy I respect habis ‘cause sometimes you kena jadi both mom& dad at the same time!
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Alhamdulilah.. hari hari dapat kesempatan nak bertanya pada anak anak |
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Anak baru 2tahun. Tq mommies share opinion bermanfaat kat sini. Semoga i pun boleh jadi mommies yg terbaik utk my daughter. |
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Post time 26-7-2019 10:02 PM
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i wish i have pair. hahaha... sbb i suka manjakan anak i. hope org kita esp mummys akan lebih expressive kat anak anak... sbb bila sekali hug je pun dah bagi semangat kat anak kita or even a tap on shoulder... mybe we shud show more so mereka pun akan lbh sensetive towards feelings and yeahhh semuala yg elok elok. |
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Hi semua. Im yet having kids but i wud like to ask on behalf my mom. Cerita sgt panjang tapi i pendekkan.
I ade sorg adik i sebelom ni die ade berkawan dengan sorg guy and banyak sgt abeskan duit dekat that guys sampai 11k. That guy pinjam duit die. Mase memula pinjam aje bayar. Tapi yang lepas2 tu xde penampakan die bayar dah. Tu pon sebbaik i dengan my parents rase terdetik nak tgk bank statement my sister.
Then, start dari tu, my parents pegang kad bank adik i and tukar password online banking die. Adik i bukannya jenis yg kuat shopping pon tp duit die banyak abes bg tht guy. Kitorg bukan nak sgt control duit die tp terpaksa la sbb kesiankan diri die. Kitorg mintak die stop relationship dgn that guy dan x bg adik i jmpe mamat tu buat sementara waktu. Tapi rupe2nye adik i pegi jumpe that guy senyap2 waktu lunch. KL and shah alam tu kire jauh jugak la kan klu nak menapak time lunch tp adik i sanggup pegi jumpe nk lunch dengan that guy. Tu pon dpt tahu sbb my mom terjumpe resit dorg pegi makan dalam handbag adik i. Start dari tu la, kitorg amek anta adik i pegi keje sebab takot die pegi jumpe that guy senyap2 huhu. Mase kitorg sekat adik i jmpe that guy, laki tu ade dm ig adik i maki hamun parents i sbb xbg diorg jumpe. Bukan maki hamun parents i je tp dengan adik i sekali kene. Tp still adik i xnampak laki tu bukan lelaki yg baik utk die. Ni belom kawen, klau dah kawen rase lunyai kot dikerjakan huhu. Pernah sekali tu, that guy datang ofis adik i semata2 nak suh transfer rm1k. Dapat tahu tu pon daripada ofismate adik i yang ternampak.
Baru ni i ade jumpe counsellor. My mom and i jumpe counsellor tu. Die ckp teruskan pegang kad bank adik i tp die x setuju kitorg amek anta adik i pegi keje. Sbb sampai bile nak control mcm tu katenye. Dan die mintak kitorg hire private investigator utk buktikan lelaki ni mesti ade pinjam duit jugak dengan ppuan lain, ade dating girl lain, etc untuk membuatkan adik i tahu yang lelaki ni bukan seorg lelaki yg baik utk die.
Sorry kalau cerita ni panjang. Nk cerita detail kang boleh buat buku pulak huhuhu. Sorry kalau off topic. I just sedih la disebabkan adik i yg sorang ni buat hal, my parents asik gaduh je. Bagi i, ini ujian buat kitorg.
Pls have your says and thoughts
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Post time 27-7-2019 11:03 AM
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Jesrina replied at 26-7-2019 07:36 PM
Hi semua. Im yet having kids but i wud like to ask on behalf my mom. Cerita sgt panjang tapi i pend ...
wah complicated ni... bila anak involved in love affair.
aduhhhh... mmg susah nak sedarkan anak ni sbb tgh totaly in love. But, how come she is still ok even kena maki hamun?
Bold way
hantar gangster warning lelaki tu jgn kacau dah ur sister, am i right?
hantar sister abroad suh further study or holiday
Traditional way
Bawak jumpa ustaz, mintak air ke or manalah tau ada yg berniat jahat
Drastically
Kahwinkan dia dgn someone yg baik and family trusted
Susah juga ni.. sbb anak i baru 7tahun...hut mybe yg lain ble beri better thoughts |
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adila39 replied at 27-7-2019 11:03 AM
wah complicated ni... bila anak involved in love affair.
aduhhhh... mmg susah nak sedarkan anak ...
itulah yang kelakarnya mcm xde perasaan boleh lg suka laki tu even dah dimaki hamun.
Bold way
hantar gangster warning lelaki tu jgn kacau dah ur sister, am i right? — dah anta haitu mintak tlg pakcik i bawak ayahanda jumpe that guy dan inform jgn kontek adik i dah. Kalau kontek jugak both akan kene.
hantar sister abroad suh further study or holiday — adik i baru je dapat sambung masters kt ipta tu pon my parents yg suruh die apply bg die bizikan diri n kurangkan fikir pasal laki tu.
Traditional way
Bawak jumpa ustaz, mintak air ke or manalah tau ada yg berniat jahat — this one pon dah buat. Siap bawak ustaz dari kampung mai ke kl bace2 sikit kt umah ni. Siap pindah umah sewa lg xnak laki tu tahu adik i duduk mane skang. Haitu ade jugak berubat di kampung tp adik i mcm normal je kelakuan die. Bukan mcm org “terkena”. Wallahualam
Drastically
Kahwinkan dia dgn someone yg baik and family trusted — yang ni la i tengah duk usahakan ni. Husband i ade la nak kenalkan die dengan beberapa kawan husband yg tgh cari calon bini tp adik i mcm xberminat je nak kenal dengan laki lain. I rase ni je cara die nak bg die lupa laki tu.
Xpe la tt, i just nak luahkan je sbb kadang2 mcm dah give up nak pulihkan adik i. Tp i bernasib baik sbb my mom kuat walaupon selalu menangis pk anak die.
Ye la seperti yang tt kate, didikan anak zaman sekarang pendekatannya berbeza. Sbb budak zaman sekarang terdedah dengan mcm2 hal since semuanya dihujung jari. Huhuhu |
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Post time 27-7-2019 11:36 AM
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Jesrina replied at 27-7-2019 03:33 AM
itulah yang kelakarnya mcm xde perasaan boleh lg suka laki tu even dah dimaki hamun.
Bold way
insyaallah.. just jgn give up. best of luck and tq for being an awesome sister and doter.. jaga mak tau.. i think sooner later she will awake.. now semua masih shallow |
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adila39 replied at 27-7-2019 11:36 AM
insyaallah.. just jgn give up. best of luck and tq for being an awesome sister and doter.. jaga ma ...
Orait tt, tqsm for your words. Much love  |
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Post time 26-7-2019 08:54 AM
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Post time 26-7-2019 09:45 AM
