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Author: ramaramu

Hidup Berdua sehingga ke akhir hayat

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Post time 8-8-2020 06:55 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
KIM.K replied at 8-8-2020 05:40 PM
Iols percaya suami u suka ada anak kecil. Anak2 suami pun dah dewasa

Kalau takda anak ni tidak ...

Yawwwwnnnn
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Post time 8-8-2020 09:02 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Me and my husband, weols belum ada rezeki anak walau dah bertahun kawin and bermacam2 kami try.

How do I feel about not having a kids of my own? Most of the time, I am fine. In fact I am happy with my life, Its true that unlike my friends yg kena spend a lot for their child I boleh shopping travel sesuka hati I.

However, there is always some part of me that feels sad at times. Especially after my mum has passed away. That is when I mula terasa agak sedih yg I dont have my own anak. Because kasih yg paling deep in your heart is always between ibu dan anak. In my case, i rasa seolah dah takde sapa yg boleh sayang I unconditionally bila arwah mak I dah takde. Of course my husband my siblings sayang I and I love them too, but sayang mereka tu tak sama dengan sayang seorang ibu atau sayang seorang anak kepada ibu.
Setiap kali I doa buat arwah ibu i terfikir, bila I dah takde nobody doa will help me. I terfikir doa anak2 buah utk I sama kah ia dengan doa seorang anak buat ibunya? Wallahualam.

Nevertheless your dilemma is different than mine so how you feel about it may differs.

If u ask me should u have children? Serah pada Allah. If its meant to be, its meant to be...





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Post time 8-8-2020 10:46 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
ramaramu replied at 8-8-2020 05:05 PM
itu lah my main concern.. takut bosan berdua.. sekarang tak rasa sebab dia duduk jauh jumpa pun du ...

Kalo uols blh beranak, beranak la..u blh..bkn xblh..tgk org yg nk anak tp xdpt , Allah xbg..lg terseksa jiwa raga..mmg la anak tanggungjwb berat tkut culas la ape la..tp yg penting dh buat sehabis boleh yg lain serah pd Allah..jgn esok time umur dh lanjut nk beranak xblh xguna dh tua
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Post time 8-8-2020 10:57 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Better u pregnant sorg. sekarang mmg u rasa tak nak anak..tp percayalah akan ada satu tika usia u..masa tu u rasa nak anak sgt2. Tentang sekolah apa sume tu..dun wori lah..sure time tu dah dipermudahkan. Seronok tau ada anak ni. Mula2 rasa mcm kekok..tapi bila dah kuar..u akan rasa itu lah nyawa u.
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Post time 8-8-2020 10:58 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
ye ada anak lebih baik
buat masa skrg ni mungkin tt ok je sbb muda lg
zuriat ni adalah pelengkap
sebelum terlambat tt nnt bila umur dah lewat sangat takut susah nak dpt anak
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Post time 8-8-2020 11:40 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
TT, kalau dapat anak seronok.. tgk dia gelak ketawa comel sangat2... Hati tgh serabut pun hilang tgk dia, tangis dia macam bunyi muzik yg indah... memang dia dtang dengan ujian untuk kita dan dia... hidup jadi lebih bermakna... Bukan semua berpeluang dapat rasa nyawa berdegup dalam perut... terpulanglah pada tt
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Post time 9-8-2020 12:22 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Tt, i pulak berpandangan baik u ada sorang anak atleast utk doakan u di sana kelak.. baca pengenalan uols cam korang educated.. insyaAllah blh didik anak dgn baik.. i cuma teringat 3 perkara yg kita bawak ke kubur yakni sedekah, ilmu bermanfaat dan doa anak2..

Tiber i jdk ustazah.. tapi fikir2kanlah tt utk bekalan jgk..
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Post time 9-8-2020 11:21 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Kalau aku di tempat tt, aku akan beranak sekurang2nya sorang. Suami tt mungkin tak kisah sebab dia dah ada anak sendiri. Tapi macamana dgn tt, memang la janji nak bersama berdua ke akhir hayat, tapi kalau ditakdirkan jodoh tak panjang (bercerai atau suami meninggal awal), tt akan keseorangan. Kalau ada anak, walaupun dia tak dapat jaga kita di usia tua, at least kita ada orang yg boleh kita curahkan kasih sayang. Kalau kita memang tak ada rezeki mengandung takpe, itu kita redha, tapi kalau sengaja taknak anak, takut menyesal kemudian hari. Tt masih muda, kalau tahun depan beranak, umur tt 52 dan suami 65, anak pun dah 18, kalau jaga kesihatan, umur tu masih ok lagi kalau tt nak buat apa yg diimpikan - retired kat beach dan travel keliling dunia.

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Post time 9-8-2020 11:42 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
yuki812 replied at 8-8-2020 10:57 PM
Better u pregnant sorg. sekarang mmg u rasa tak nak anak..tp percayalah akan ada satu tika usia u..m ...


The feeling sama tak suki dgn berlaki nee??? terutama golongan janda macam hang...keinginan nak berlaki tuh kuat tak??? Setelah pernah gagal dgn yg lalu???

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Post time 9-8-2020 05:10 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
m.a.n.a.kautau replied at 9-8-2020 11:42 AM
The feeling sama tak suki dgn berlaki nee??? terutama golongan janda macam hang...keinginan nak  ...

Eh..ada lagi...

Ada ke lagi nak ppuan monopos ni?
Nafsu pun dah padam dah...
Ko nak ke..

Orang citer pasal TT nk anak ke tak..
Sibuk ko tanya pasal org lain..
Cer tanya org lain pulak..
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Post time 9-8-2020 07:48 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
yuki812 replied at 9-8-2020 05:10 PM
Eh..ada lagi...

Ada ke lagi nak ppuan monopos ni?


Piyed cycle masih mainten every 5th or 6th every mth..mana datang hangnya menopos ????

Suka nah hang berbohong sama manak kan????Nanti betul betul ditutup pintu naluri nafsu kemutan hang ..., baru padan uker hang....





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Post time 9-8-2020 10:57 PM | Show all posts
Edited by Meiizu at 9-8-2020 11:00 PM

Pregnant laa sorang tt..duit ada pun utk apa.kalau boleh pregnant kenapa nak sekat takmo.
Duit laki nanti smua ke anak dia sebelah sana jugak..duit tt je tetap duit tt.
Bestnya bau baby,senyum dia.... if your husband yg berkeras taknak ....hurmm maaflah yee i nak kata dia selfish sebab u ada naluri nak jadi ibu tu
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Post time 9-8-2020 11:00 PM | Show all posts
virgo19 replied at 9-8-2020 11:21 AM
Kalau aku di tempat tt, aku akan beranak sekurang2nya sorang. Suami tt mungkin tak kisah sebab dia d ...

Ye setuju
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 Author| Post time 10-8-2020 09:29 AM | Show all posts
zennaya replied at 8-8-2020 06:09 PM
I pun sama. x terfikir nak pregnant,nak ada anak. sebab tanggungjawab ibubapa sangat berat. anak tu  ...

Im so sorry to hear about your twin and her kids..
tu la.. dah jadi beban pada orang lain untuk besarkan anak kita...
lepas tu budak budak tu nanti terkapai kapai pulak kan..

i berterima kasih you share story you and i hope whatever you choose will give you utmost happiness. also jaga diri baik baik ok.. *hugs
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 Author| Post time 10-8-2020 09:34 AM | Show all posts
m.a.nakautau replied at 8-8-2020 06:49 PM
Jantan selfish mana nak kasi TT bear child...kan???

TT pun yes sir yes sir...

okayyy there's no need to be bitter about this.. i am genuinely asking for opinion.. tak perlu rasanya nak kutuk or judge other people for their opinion.. here's a chill pill
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 Author| Post time 10-8-2020 09:40 AM | Show all posts
lesprincesse replied at 8-8-2020 09:02 PM
Me and my husband, weols belum ada rezeki anak walau dah bertahun kawin and bermacam2 kami try.

H ...

betul juga cakap you.. kasih sayang suami dan anak tak sama kan.. come to think of it, my mom is also a single parent and she raised us by herself and she did great..

maybe i still have time to reconsider this, maybe i perlu lebih ilmu untuk tahu tanggungjawab nak jadi seorang ibu. sebab kadang kadang bila terfikir tanggungjawab nak besarkan anak tu buat i rasa anxious sangat
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 Author| Post time 10-8-2020 09:44 AM | Show all posts
yuki812 replied at 8-8-2020 10:57 PM
Better u pregnant sorg. sekarang mmg u rasa tak nak anak..tp percayalah akan ada satu tika usia u..m ...

mungkin i ni overthink the whole situation esp bila tengok my friends yang complain about their husbands not being helpful, they are always tired i jadi macam fikir balik.. boleh ke aku ni?

But i risau juga maybe in the next 10 years or more baru i rasa nak anak.. time tu i takut i akan menyesal dan dah terlambat
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 Author| Post time 10-8-2020 09:46 AM | Show all posts
virgo19 replied at 9-8-2020 11:21 AM
Kalau aku di tempat tt, aku akan beranak sekurang2nya sorang. Suami tt mungkin tak kisah sebab dia d ...

betul.. nothing is certain in life kan.. kalau jodoh i tak panjang i akan tua seorang diri jugak.. macam macam dalam kepala i ni.. i keep going back and forth with my decision.. Thank you for your insight. i made me do a lot thinking
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 Author| Post time 10-8-2020 09:53 AM | Show all posts
i nak cakap thank you so much for all the input..
ada banyak factors yang forumers cakap really opened my eyes and made me think from different perspectives.

also, my aunty was speaking to my mom last week and she said she really hope she gets to see my child someday. it broke my  heart when i heard that.

So I had a long conversation with my husband last night and i think i'm going to revisit this issue next weekend when i see him.  

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Post time 10-8-2020 11:36 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
ramaramu replied at 10-8-2020 09:53 AM
i nak cakap thank you so much for all the input..
ada banyak factors yang forumers cakap really op ...


Memang selama ini hang dlm mode celik tapi buta kah????



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