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Gut feeling atau instinct dalam relationship

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Post time 13-8-2020 12:21 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts |Read mode
Nak tanya pengalaman masing2 esp yang dah kawin

Masa bercinta atau baru2 kenal, ade tak terdetik something.. gut feeling like yakin he/she is the one.. atau something felt off.. mcm ada tak kena ?

So korang ignore atau teruskan hubungan?

Kalau teruskan sampai kawin, ada tak terdetik balik dlm hati ‘ kalau aku tak kawin dulu dgn dia, mungkin tak jd mcm ni atau vice versa’

Sebab sy yakin petunjuk Tuhan tu dalam berbagau bentuk.. in the end, kita menilai dgn akal dan membuat pilihan..

Jom bincangkan..
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Post time 13-8-2020 02:32 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Tt ada terasa sesuatu yg tk kena ke? Weols tah hahaaa syg membuak2 kot tu yg kawen kohkoh..tp manusia ni berubah seiring masa/tangung jwb/kewangan??
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 Author| Post time 13-8-2020 03:04 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Edited by sweetpea911 at 13-8-2020 02:05 PM

I dah mmg takde apa2 dgn si dia.. initial phase, even tgh2 bahagia tu kkdg ada triggered gak bila dia bercerita .. like something yg x sedap tapi confuse dgn overthinking.. tapi x bergaduh.. it’s something he said or did.. mcm something off tp ignore je

The suddenly he changed..i even bukak topic kt sini dulu.. tetiba rasa jauh.. jarang call, jarang msg.. tp bila jmpa depan2 ok je.. the moment i start luah perasaan kt bff n bukak topic i knew something was not right.. i tried communicate tapi  slalunya kena tuduh pikir bukan2, emo sampai i pun percaya i yg problem..until at one point dari jarang msg terus stop.. bila i ajak jmpa utk discuss future plan, semua kesalahan diletak kat i.. bila ckp nk putus, dia ckp still sayang & nak start over..

Tp things really went downhill after that.. habis mcm tu je.. xde closure.. mula2 i sgt sedih n tertanya2.. masa tu kt sini ramai ckp dia dah ada yg lain tapi i x caya.. sebab xde tanda2 pun ( again: in denial)

Akhirnya baru2 ni i dpt tau the truth..dia mmg tgh try someone masa tu dan maybe still lg kot.. sebab org tu x layan lg..i tau pun kebetulan someone terlepas ckp.. kenalan rapat that lady.. dua2 i kenal..ajak keluar few times tp bdk tu x layan pun.. 1 sbb dia pun kenal i.. dia x sampai hati nak ckp sbb dia tau i berharap sgt masa tu.. tp nasibla i tau bila dah slowly move on.. kosong jap masa tau tu ..

Bila fikir2 balik.. maybe this is it.. dia still mencari2 jd dia tau i bukan the one.. tp tu lah, pengecut plak x berani ckp terus terang.. i bukak topik ni sbb terus teringat all those gut feeling yg penah rasa tp i ignore dulu... antara plg ingat, i jalan ngan this lady sama2.. bertembung dgn dia tp his eyes caught this lady instead of me.. tp i x mau sgka buruk masa tu..skrg baru make sense

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Post time 13-8-2020 03:23 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
he's not into you la tu.

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Post time 13-8-2020 03:27 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Kalau nk pasti..istikharah la dulu..
Tp jnis i la..kalau btul2 bkenan..
I kdg2 solat hajat mtk ptunjuk..
Kdg ada dtg rasa xsedap..rasa kecamuk mcm tu..
Bila iols jauhkn dri..terus rasa selega leganya..
Tp xdgn semua la..dgn org yg i ada rasa suka je..
Stkt ni baru sorg..next xthu..tp i tnanti2 jgk rasa 'the one' tu mcmana..
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 Author| Post time 13-8-2020 03:34 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
rangerx replied at 13-8-2020 02:23 PM
he's not into you la tu.

Yup2 dah bole accept.. i cuma kesal sbb dia x sabar2 confess & i pun cpt2 terima tanpa amik masa utk berkawan2 lama sikit.. tp yelah kalau setakat kawan n x bercinta susah nk nmpk perangai sebenar
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Post time 13-8-2020 05:19 PM | Show all posts
kalau your intuition tu rasa lain , solat istikhorah dan bebetul minta divine intervention i.e petunjuk ALLAH.
usually kita baca daripada  pengalaman org dan dengar dari pengalaman kekawan dan pengalaman sendiri bila relationship tetuba jadi ' lain macam' - as in kurang communicate, dan ada hints hints lain yg masa tu  may be taj perasan bila recall ( ada unsur recall bias ) sebenarnya ada hints hints itu - maka kalau ada ajak terus terang.

yups, tapi sebelum tu doa kat ALLAH agar ALAHH BEBETUL SISIHKAN org yg suka udharatkan dan mendatangkan dan tak ikhlas dan yg berniat jahat - minta bebetul Allah sisihkan org macam ni,
seriously.


so yes - i think masa in relationship jgn lupa diri dan ALLAH m asa ni kena doa dua kali ganda sebab dugaan banyak.

just macam nilah selagi tangan si dia belum diakad - maka anything can happen under  the sun.

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Post time 13-8-2020 06:11 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
sweetpea911 replied at 13-8-2020 03:04 PM
I dah mmg takde apa2 dgn si dia.. initial phase, even tgh2 bahagia tu kkdg ada triggered gak bila di ...

Owh gituh ker..ala siannyer tt..tk pe la..drp dah kawen tp dok melilau mata lagi kan..dia mmg tgh mencari tu..biarkan je dia tt.dlm kes u ni yg petunjuk2 tu mmg betul la tuh ada sesuatu yg tidak kena dgn si dia!
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Post time 14-8-2020 08:30 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Oklah tt dah tau, kalau tidak masih indenial lagi. Instict kita org perempuan ni biasanya tepattt. Tunggu masa jer, nak nampak depan mata.
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Post time 14-8-2020 10:38 AM | Show all posts
cinta itu bukan sekadar cinta membuta tuli dari hati semata-mata...cinta itu datang dgn tanggungjawab dan kerja keras...muda2 ni memang la puppy love, but mature couple knows that love is both ways, physically, mentally and spiritually...

pasangan yg lama2 berkahwin pun, dah ada anak besar panjang masih juga bercerai...maybe some feel that happiness is not there anymore in a relationship...atau pasangan tidak pandai utk create spark, romance atau sexual intimacy dlm perhubungan...sex and romance is important in a relationship...this two feeling needs to be kept alive in order for your soul to be happy...

sebab tu dlm islam membenarkan lelaki kawin 4, sebab setiap wanita berbeza dr segi pemahaman sexual, perhubungan, rohani, jasmani dan lain2...

some like love, some like sex, some like companionship, etc...moving forward,  when a country is more developed, people tend to find a better partner, sebab negara2 maju dah terlampau maju akan mencari pasangan songsang i.e. LGBT...

disebabkan manusia nak menarik pasangan berkualiti, pelbagai cara dilakukan including creating fake appearances i.e. membesarkan tetek, besarkan bontot, besarkan zakar, plastic surgery, etc for self gratification...dunia penuh kepalsuan termasuk relationship...

no matter how much the downside is, always look at the bright side...there are good people in the world, you need to find them like finding a needle in a haystack...
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Post time 14-8-2020 04:00 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
sweetpea911 replied at 13-8-2020 03:04 PM
I dah mmg takde apa2 dgn si dia.. initial phase, even tgh2 bahagia tu kkdg ada triggered gak bila di ...

pernah mengalami perkara yg sama. kenapa la lelaki kalau dah tak nak dengan kita tak berterus terang. nak jugak bagi harapan palsu. dah puas bertanya tak nak jugak mengaku. masing2 dah tua kot. bukan umur2 nak test market.
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Post time 14-8-2020 04:02 PM | Show all posts
setuju dgn ifan.

Still doalah. Jangan sedih lama lama. Semalam ke kelmarin pun I sedih kejap sampai demam ..tapi i trust my gut. Cuma kadang kita akan ignore..maybe gut feeling tu tak synchronize dgn apa kita nak. So far u kena trust yourself . Hati kita akan bagi kita signal...so kita sedar or tak kita akan tau..hey,, this is something.  Yet berdoa juga best remedy of all.

So i trust my gut feeling and l just let d rest by itself.
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Post time 14-8-2020 05:53 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Tibah teringat lagu ni..american pie yg trending di satu masa dulu hukhuk..khas utk tt.lyn blues yach!!

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Post time 15-8-2020 02:53 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Sepanjang hidup i ni..dah mcm2 laki jumpa kenal..belum pernah rasa terdetik dihati 'he is the one' tuk i baik yg dulu dah jadi bekas bf ke..apa bekas sekalipun..dan dah yg ada sekarang ni. Semua yg I pilih berdasarkan ciri apa yg i nak dan  kesungguhan dia nak i. Mmmm...maybe I'm the One. Tapi nanti ada org cakap...eh..tetap bercerai juga...hehehehe. Tu semua jodoh..tapi alhamdulillah..wlaupun gitu, dia masih lagi dikategorikan lelaki yg baik. Sekurangnya2 dia tak pernah susahkan I dan anak2. Dan sepanjang perkahwinan..I tak melalui kejadian pukul memukul ker..hal nafkah ke..mmg takde.

Tak tau nak komen tentang pasangan ni. Tapi tuk i..i tetap pilih focus apa yg i nak. Kalau dah dpt tapi takde jodoh..sekurangnya kita tau mmg pilihan kita adalah lelaki yg baik. Lelaki yg baik..insyaallah tetap bertanggungjwb meskipun dah takde hubungan lagi.
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 Author| Post time 15-8-2020 06:03 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
ifanonline replied at 14-8-2020 09:38 AM
cinta itu bukan sekadar cinta membuta tuli dari hati semata-mata...cinta itu datang dgn tanggungjawa ...

You know what, bila cakap psl poligami i baru terdetik.. Allah izinkan tapi bukan utk semua.. bersebab.. i rasa my ex partner is a narcs.. x sure tapi semua symptoms & process tu ada.. dari love bombing ke devaluation ke discard phase..i rasa utk org mcm ni Allah izinkan poligami.. utk lelaki yg nakkan perfection.. so kalau ada 4, 4-4 tu akan provide needs yg berlainan.. tp tu lah, ada perempuan yg boleh terima ada yg tak..

Manusia normal, bila once dia ckp cinta.. dia dah sedia terima baik buruk pasangan sbb dia tau nobody’s perfect.. but him, when i did something wrong yg turned him off, hati dia terus berubah.. i boleh terima teguran dan harap we worked on it together tp maybe dia rasa i beyond repair kot dan terus cari lain..
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Post time 16-8-2020 11:41 AM | Show all posts
Aku dgn husband pd mulanya dlm fasa berkawan...satu tempat keje.. ms tu dia ada awek tp awek dia slalu maki2 dia..ms tu terlintas dlm kepala aku, kalau aku jd wife dia nnt, mesti aku xkan layan dia mcm tu.. haha tgk2 lps 4 tahun kawen betul2..
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Post time 16-8-2020 03:20 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Just forget him and move on

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Post time 17-8-2020 02:47 PM | Show all posts
kalau bercinta putus takde closure memang sakit sebab tiba tiba hilang.
i harap tt akan berjumpa dengan orang yang lebih baik lepas ni..
nasib baik tt cepat sedar his changes.. kalau tak makan hati lepas kahwin
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Post time 18-8-2020 12:34 AM | Show all posts


aiyaa ..
once d'telepathy communication senses thought damage ..
no more fun .. no more joy .. in relationship maaa




yes .. mature way to end relationship ..
2:47 lyric ..
" Still i'm glad for what we had and how i once loved you "
instead of d'usual hateful drama .. aiyoo


p/s ..

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 Author| Post time 18-8-2020 08:45 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
ramaramu replied at 17-8-2020 01:47 PM
kalau bercinta putus takde closure memang sakit sebab tiba tiba hilang.
i harap tt akan berjumpa de ...

Alhamdulillah.. thanks ramaramu.. dulu ada baca reply u tgh kwn dgn duda.. then skrg dah kawin pun.. congrats.. i hope you’ll end up happily with him ke akhir hayat, with or without a kid(s)..
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