sensitif

leftrani_kel

Originally posted by philipinoe2 at 14-12-2006 02:12 PM
psl megi pon nk sedih?...mmg betulla ko nie over sensitip...:jeling:

mmg betul osmet ko salah sbb bedal megi ko....tp ko bleh elak mende tu jd kesalahan kalu ko awal2 dah x berkire...die mkn meg ...

baik plak ko nieh....:love::love:

bungacengkih

pernahkah satu haritu ko rasa begitu sepi dan kosong.
korang jadi badmood. dan rasa mcm nak marah orang.
walaupon tak dorang tak penah buat salah?
sedangkan dorang tanya baik2...
tapi sebab badmood, korang jadik mcm nak marah dia.

entahlah... sensitip aku ini kadang2 sukar untuk dikawal.

tensennya hari ini. sungguh tensennn!!

MelahJanda

ko ada cerita duka ke di masa lalu yg menyebabkan ko sensitip

aku penah ada kawan dulu kena perkosa masa kecik2 so dah besar dia jadik sangat sensitip takut nak buat apa dan pegi mana2 terutamanya kalo ada lelaki

aku cadang ko jumpa kaunselor

aku dulu pun masuk kelab kaunseling masa sekolah
ko pm je aku

fish_o7

ello bunga cengkih.... so how u feeling today ??

oklah straight to the point... bunga_cengkih aku rase ko menghidapi masalh depression sbb....berdasarkan posting ko .... aku firstly aku nk tanya ade tk sebelum ni ko...mengalamin peristiwa yg traumatik...cth accident ker...kematian ker .... and if yes ...then u need to see a caunselor ...but this one ... aku tk yakin sgt

aku rase ko mengalami clinical depression...atau kemurungan disbbkan biologi.... and selalu berlaku disebabkan oleh ketidakstabilan chemical/hormon di dlm badan..... for this case ...i recommend u to see a doctor ...sbb kemurungan jenis ni bleh diubati dgn medication.... lepas ni gi jumpe doktor and probably the doktor will send u to see a specialist ...but before that ....try browse through cari more information....i a bit worry about u ....sbb depression can lead to many thing ...mcm self inflicted injury....suicidal tendency or other abnormal  behavior .....

ok take care ....chalo

try to be positif..jangan terlalu terlalu fikirkan benda yang remah temeh..life is too short..

bungacengkih

thanks melah,
nanti aku cuba PM ko.

waktu kecik aku ada banyak citer tak bes. tapi tak siapa pon penah tahu.

dan bila besar, aku masih mengalami citer2 yang tak best walau sebenarya orang tengok aku gembira.
tapi itu bukan aku yang sebenarnya.

bungacengkih

aku cuba memulakan hari ini dengan baik.
aku datang keje dengan mata yang bengkak. aku menangis terok semalam.
seperti sudah tidak ada hari ini utk menangis. it's too bad!

aku menangis sebab aku merasakan semua orang akan meninggalkan aku.
aku ada bespren sebelom ini, bertahun2 kawan. tapi bila dia ada awek, dia tinggalkan aku.
dah takde dah sms, tepon atau apa.
dan ini bukan kali pertama. tapi dah balik kali.
sampai aku serik nak berkawan baik dengan orang.

dan sekarang aku lebih senang nak berseorangan saja.

mungkin betui aku despression. citer zaman kanak-kanak, zaman remaja.
dan tambah terok beberapa tahun lepas.
benda tu ikot dan kacau aku selalu.
sampai aku rasa betapa teroknya aku.

aku teringin nak jumpa dokter. tapi kadang2 aku rasa despression yang aku ada tak terok.
hahahah mungkin!
errr jumpa mana2 dokter kat klinik tu ke?
atau kena jumpa dokter mana?

i need someone yang boleh dengar citer aku. dan aku tiadk membebankan dia dengan citer aku.

[ Last edited by  bungacengkih at 16-3-2007 08:57 AM ]

bungacengkih

ya...
aku selalu ckp pada diri aku sendiri,
hidup ini terlalu singkat utk melakukan perkara yang sia-sia.

tapi entahlah...

MelahJanda

cara kita nak mengurangkan stress terhadap perkara tak best yg berlaku pada diri kita ialah dengan membandingkan citer tak best itu dengan orang yg lagi tak best...
contohnya..kalo ko keje gaji RM2000 tapi tak pueh hati, then ko bandingkan nasib ko tu ngan kerani yg gaji sikit depada ko..cemana dia menjalani hidup dia walopun gaji ciput

begitu jugak dengan perkara lain...kalo ko rasa ko tak cun ke..pikirla...berlambak lagi org tak cun dalam donia kena kanser idunglaa..eksidenla, cacat dsb...

aku pun dia alam realiti aku tak reti nak berkawan ramai2 ..(kat opis contohnya) sebab kengkadang derang citer pasal beli kainla, budak lelaki tu jelingla, sengihla...wa tak minat...so aku tak ramai kawan2 kat opis yg boleh dibawak berbincang...keluar ngan derang pun jarang...tapi aku tak pulak anggap aku sensitip ke hapa..that's my stand..mungkin org ingat aku sombong..what the heck kan..tapi make sure u have your life happy outside...aku main futsal ngan kawan kolej lama, aku bawak anak aku pi genting, playground...

then aku ilangkan boring ngan hidup aku nan kesepian nih (ewahh) ngan bershopping dan jugak melukis serta membaca...gue bisa lari dari dunia ini ke alam lain....

hahaha...u can try..jgn terlalu memikirkan masalah sendiri...good luck

MelahJanda

ala susah susah sangat..citer je kat mak kita..selesai masalah...

aku selalu citer kat mak aku tak suka itu ini...masa aku ada asben dulu, kalo aku tak puas hati ngan asben aku dan tak dapat nak meluahkannya sebab takut kena marah/pukul, aku akan citer kat mak, then mak aku best lak, dia sapot akunyer citer baik punya...so aku jadik lega da mengadu kat seseorg

fish_o7

Originally posted by bungacengkih at 16-3-2007 08:54 AM
aku cuba memulakan hari ini dengan baik.
aku datang keje dengan mata yang bengkak. aku menangis terok semalam.
seperti sudah tidak ada hari ini utk menangis. it's too bad!

aku menangis seba ...

try jumpe kt klinik tu ...sbb klau nk jumpe speacialist pon kene ade surat doktor bese.....or just go see a ordinary doctor for consult they can tell whee to go or what to do

first.. i cannot evaluate ur depression here ...becoz i'm not speacialist .....but i try to help ....

ok i don't know if this help...

do you keep a diary.... if u don't now is a good time to have one ... it helps...get one and start writing everything there.....things that made u sad, thing that made u happy, the guy that u have crush on in the office and so on ....after a while read back ur diary and try to review ur self and try to remember things that made u happy ....

if u in a bad mood music always helps.....dun hear those sad and mellow song.... try to hearing those fast beat and cheerful song.....sumething from justin timberlake/destinychild or anything that can lift ur spirit or sumthing ....or the most popular one for girls ..."i will survive" and dance to every song u heard .... if u can dance just move ur body and shake that ass..

try not to isolate ur self ... because when u start isolate urself....u will start thinking negative things... if dun feel good about urself go out ....have a walk ur sumthing..... see the world...

try physical activity.... try to exercise and let sweat pouring out from ur body....get a floor mat and start doing yoga ....get a dumbell and start working those muscle.... one thing about exercise when u focus on something u can forget about the thing that bothers u...and after u exercise usually u feel tired even to bother about other thing....if u don't like jogging...start buying 5 pounds dumbells and work that body

watch the food u eat.... don't eat junk food because it harm ur body... some research so that junk food can induced chemical imblance because junk food itself made mostly by chemical ....try to eat nutrious and quality food....stay away from maggi,junk food and other harmfull suff as well

last thing to say....try ur best to beat ur depession/bad mood/negative self.....is u that have the power to either to be a happier person or stay in the darkness ...... i dunno whether it works

first thing the morning....before the first drop of water lands onto ur skin....go in front of the mirror .... and say:

i'm in control, (pointing at the mirror while doing a macho pose or which pose suits u)
i'm incharge, (pointing at the mirror while doing a macho pose or which pose suits u)
i love myself (pointing at the mirror while doing a macho pose or which pose suits u)
i gonna be happy to today
and nothing gonna stop me (make sure this part u said it with blast of anger/spirit/determination)

then after ur shower turn on the radio/mp3 and sing along ....to justin timberlake ...sexy back...or sean paul ....tempature ...etc ...and dance to it dun care if it stupid or it look ridiculous....just laugh about it ... dun mind about ur friends... if the world can't make u happy ...then u have to make ur self happy...and the first thing to be happier is to laugh at urself ......sounds ridiculous...but i read it in reader digest ...and it helps

about the mirror stuff...i used to worry about my appearance .... yeah lot of acne scars and i kinda afraid what might people think about me....quite depress beb....then one day try change myself for the better one of the first thing i do: is the mirror stuff this is my mantra ...
look at the mirror say say:

i'm the most sexiest motherf**ker alive X3 ..... pointing my self in the mirror
i don't give a f**k about other people think .... again pointing in the mirror now with angry impression.....

now i don't do it anymore because i'm more confident in myself ....... i dun know about u but it sure work for me....i know some of the thing i wrote are quite hard to do at first but.... go a head and try it.... but remember u can spend all ur sulking, cring. complaining and etc or u can do something to make self happy and not overly sensitive .....

p.s: wow what a long post ...hope u don't get bored reading this ....if anything just p.m i glad to help ....

[ Last edited by  fish_o7 at 16-3-2007 01:12 PM ]

forfavor

don't feel bad about urself...think positive about urself ok..

miszcincan

aku xtau nk bg nasehat ape..
sbb aku pon sensitip orgnye...

dlu aku agak teruk..mmg mls nk bersosial n aku layan org yg baek ngn aku dgn agak teruk...mayb sbb aku ade internal problem.masalah kekecewaan yg buat aku rs mcm malas nk teruskan life..bley kate stiap mlm aku nanges sbb mnde yg org laen anggap kecik..aku salahkan smua org sbb x fhm diri aku..

tp skrng ok la sket banding dlu..wlaupon aku ni snstip n bermasalah..
kndkng aku tpakse buat2 mcm xde masalah..
aku buat mnde yg aku suke..buat diri aku bsemngt smule...
and yg pnting aku dh tetapkan motif idop aku..
aku mule mbizikan idop aku..
aku mule rapatkan diri dgn org yg bley bg aku smngt..
bknnye menambahkan mslah aku dan buat aku tension..

dan aku rs mnde2 tu smua mmg mbantu aku..
aku still lg bmasalah..but at least aku masih lg bsmngt nk teruskan idop..

bungacengkih

thanks fish,

i will print your opinions dan letak kat tpt yang aku nampak setiap hari.

well, sekarang ni pon setiap pagi bila aku ngadap cermin, aku akan senyum
dan ckp dalam hati aku nak yang indah2 je hari ini.
tapi itulah kita ni kan kadang2 hanya mampu untuk merancang,
tuhan yang menentukan.

kita mulakan hari dengan indah, tapi bila ada spoil...
terus jadi terok satu haritu.

dan sekarang ni membuatkan aku bertambah sensitif adalah kerana aku takut bespren aku akan tinggalkan aku. aku takot bila dia melangkah gerbang perkawinan, dan aku ditinggalkan (again!). benda ni dah berulang kali terjadi sampai aku takmo dah rapat2 dengan orang. dan hari ini aku merasakan aku perlu jarakkan hubungan dengan bespren aku tu. amik langkah berhati-hati agar aku tidak terok kecewa nanti. aku takot nak menghadapinya. serius...ini salah benda yang menjadikan aku begitu sensitif.

aku dah cuba untuk pikir positif, tapi kadang2 ok. dan kadang2 hanya di mulut je aku ok,
dalam hati tak sebenarnya.

bungacengkih

thanks... i will...

bungacengkih

aku start jadik sensitif bila aku pendam semua masalah yang aku ada.
aku memerlukan sambadi utk dengar citer tapi aku dah takde kepercayaan pada orang.
dan pada diri aku sendiri.

miszcincan

citer kt sini pon dpt kurangkan sket prob ko kan....

fish_o7

hye

good to hear u finally take an incentives to change ur self ....i hope for the best....this kind of thing can't change i one nite ...i hope u will practice it from time to time ..... about the mirror thing rite ...u have to say it out loud to fully feel the impact ..the more emotion and spirit u put in ur voice the more impact it make ..but hey.. this is my opinion ...

about the ur bestfrens... have u heard a saying " u really love someone u  have to be ready to let them  go" i know u love ur bestfriend and trust me putting distant will not do any good....come on they're best friends putting a wall between u and them will make u feel more miserable ....because u just slicing away all the attachment and bonds u gals share ..over the years ....

i know is hurting to see some close to u gone .... but bare i mind nothing in this world last forever and nothing in this world cannot be replace.....i not telling u to forget about them ....but i'm telling u ...u have to learn to let go ... everything in this world are lend to us ...not given to us ...and someday we have to give it back ...this also applies to ur bestfren....

even if ur bestfren married and have their on life u still can contact them ...all is up to on how to keep in touch and how to coop with their lost..

maybe they're a big part of ur life and losing them means losing a big part of ur self i can understand that feeling....but u have to remember u will never know who u will end up with ....maybe after this u will meet new people ..and maybe that person will ur bestfren ...maybe u meet someone in this forum and that person becomes ur bestest friend....me maybe ...heheh ...ok ok just kidding..

what i really want to say is, the world is full of posibilities and that what make life so interesting ...keep an open mind....and a clear head kid .....

so chin up kid .... nothing really ends...so keep a positive mind ....and always remember to dance ...the blues away ..kapish

bungacengkih

im lost myself today...

fish_o7

oh...what happen ??