MUM VS MY GIRL

t0m

biase tgk drama kn..mula2 tak suka lama dia accept..ko n f ko kn la yakin n pndai amik ati mumy ko tuh..mak sslunya akan cuba terima pe anak dia buat..mungkin ko kn mulaan peranan dgn memuji2 f ko tuh..angkat dia lebih2 skit..bg ur mum mcm sejuk hati skit..
anyway..good luck..

miss_kikilala

Originally posted by t0m at 5-1-2007 12:47 PM
biase tgk drama kn..mula2 tak suka lama dia accept..ko n f ko kn la yakin n pndai amik ati mumy ko tuh..mak sslunya akan cuba terima pe anak dia buat..mungkin ko kn mulaan peranan dgn memuji2 f k ...

ok gak ini cadangan :setuju: :setuju: :setuju:

amir1976

good news beb..
aku tak tau ape yang bapak aku ckp dgn mak aku..
but lg 2 minggu ada kenduri dekat rumah aku..semalam mak aku call tanpa aku tanya dia suruh aku ajak f sekali.satu perubahan..but knowing my mom la kan.this has 2 possibilities:either die mmg nak beramah mesra dgn f as in get to know more about her...atau display openly yg die tak suke..(but kemungkinan ni terjadi sgt kecik).i trust she'll do the right thing.hmm
pening gak.aku belum bagitahu f pasal situation sebenar.aku taknak die berada dlm keadaan under pressure yg berlebihan sbb relationship ni.we've been thru alot.kalau ade masa nnti aku cerita skit ape yg dh berlaku kat kiteorg selama 2 tahun n apa yang telah buatkan mak aku kontrol aku smpi mcm ni.panjang sejarah die.

anyway i am hoping for the best..power betul la bapa aku ni.kan aku dah cakap bapak2 mmg lebih berkuasa dari ibu2..hehe:pmuka:

[ Last edited by  amir1976 at 7-1-2007 02:20 AM ]

tictactoe

amir...
teruskan lah citer ni...
tak sabo lak aku nak tahu seterusnya.. :bgrin:

philipinoe2

tp aku nmpk 2nd posibility tuh...mak ko in open nk bgtau yg dier x suke awek ko tuh....org kate prepare for the worst...

geeky

one of my lecturer pernah cita kes yg lebeh kurang mcm u cite neh..his mum mmg x suka wife dia dlu sebab wife dia org n9..tp dia kawin jugak ngan wife dia..so what he did were bernazar puasa selama setahun and sentiase berdoa that his mum akan lembut hati and boleh terima wife dia..alhamdulillah..skang mak dia dh ok.hehe.kalo u kuat semangat and bertekad, insyaAllah.sentiase la berdoa kepadaNya ye? :D

airynz

mak awak tu jeles.....sbb dia rasa awak tu milik dia....awak kena explain betul2......

cik_dee_na

amir

cik dee pernah berada di dalam situasi the girl

my hubby's mom tak berkenan ngan cik deehubby pon anak kesayangan mama abah dia
alasan : sudah ada pilihan lain - budak senegeri dengan hubby
tapi hubby tanak budak tu sebab dia dah serasi ngan cik dee

mula2 mama hubby masam muka
gi jumpa diorang she buat deeeekkkk ajer ngan cik dee
dalam 2 jam jumpa, ada la dalam dua patah kot dia tegur

pehtu ntah camane hati dia terbukak
hubby dah siap2 merajuk ngan mak dia
he wrote her a letter dalam bulan 12
and kitorang pun dah prepare nak breakup
sedih sgt kitorang dua orang
so masuk tahun baru kitorang dah jarang contact each other
cik dee tiap2 malam nangis
sedih siottttt

tup2 kakak sulung hubby ajak datang rumah
pehtu sesi berkenalan (awal bulan 5 the next year)
hujung bulan 5 hantar tanda
bulan 8 tunang
bulan 12 kawennnnn!!!!!!
now kitorang ada sorang princess

gembira tak terkata

tapi just after mak dia setuju tu, my hubby (masa tu bf la) cakap we will have a rough road ahead
that he will need me to be prepared
and that we have a lot to do to make them sukakan cik dee
so bila dah kawin memang cik dee put the effort
balik kampung, dok kat dapur, layan mama and sisters my hubby
now dah jadi menantu kesayangan
alhamdulillah

as philipinoe2 say :
hope for the best
but prepare for the worst

do keep us posted dgn perkembangan terbaru

cik_dee_na

oh yes

salam perkenalan
cik dee org baru di bod ni

tetiber terpanggil pulak nak masuk sini

hope it's ok eh!!!

amir1976

hello all
sorry lama tak jengah thread ni.well agak bz la dgn kerja n stuff.lagipun takde perkembangan terbaru pasal f ngan my mum ni.nnti ade news aku update kan korang sume.nak kate bende ni personal sangat pun tak la aku kisah sangat,lagi pun korang bukan kenal aku dan family aku pun kan?hehe

anyways..cik dee na..selamat datang..nice story u got there.mmg prob kite hampir serupa but the diff is my mom mcm tak suke i get serious dengan anyone,tanpa any reason at all.nk kahwin tu lagi la susah.complicated gak hal nih,kene pandai buat kepuusan tanpa sakitkan hati sesapa.

i admire your husband's courage to tell u the truth about his mum. maybe i should do the same for f.but for now tak sampai hati lagi bila i teringatkan f's nyer history..nanti i ceritakan pasal tu.

at the same time i tak boleh nak rushkan utk settle bende nih,taking into account my mom's feelings.die pun ade reason sbb apa dia taknak let me go..dah banyak kawan2 aku gelakkan aku pasal ni..anak mak katanya,but they never know the reason.aku pun tak pernah cerita.nnti i ceritakan jugak.maybe weekend ni.

but alhamdulillah, dah nampak tnda2 my mom nak berlembut.harap2 dia tak berubah fikiran.

nnti weekend aku post lagi.

p/s: geeky..nak pose setahun tu aku tak sanggup la.:love: :love: bisa kurus sekeping jadinye.hehe..thanks for the story anyway.

Roma

Originally posted by Jackie at 31-12-2006 11:43 AM
rasanya ur mom ni ada something x kena. dia xnak ko kahwin sampai ke tua.

:setuju::setuju:

I think ur mom ni takut pompuan lain rampas kasih sayang u sbb u ni anak lelaki yang paling dia sayang.

So my opinion is u go on je kawin sbb lepas 2 baru ur mom akan sedar yang u ni takkan selama-lamanya akan bersama dia.

Yakinkan dia yang w/p u dah kawin u takkan berubah. U will always love her..

errynn

aku rasa better ko teruskan jerk hasrat untuk berkahwin
soal mak ko ckp kat wife ko dia kene pandai-pandai ambil mak mentua

cik_dee_na

btw amir

if you were born in 1976, kita (you and me and my hubby) sebaya eh!!
dragon year ekekekekeke... ff:

BeyondSight

hello mr amir...

i hope u read Hana's posting no 60. I salute you for wanting to settle down and that is a good idea but whatever it is, i do hope that you consider your mom's feelings as well. As when I read about you not wanting them to stay with u after u got married in case they will create a stir in the house with F, im pretty dissapointed with you.

Parents mana yang tak nak tengok anak anak happy. Some parents had to hide their tears when their children make the wrong decisions cause they dont wanna hurt their children's feelings. I do not know your mum and whats on her mind but I am sure she has her own reasons of not liking F.

My humble suggestion would be to pray, hope and try starting some meetings or events to get your mum and F bond and get to know each other. You love F and u wanna marry her. Marriage is not only marrying the girl u love. its about marrying the whole family.

So far u asyik pikirkan what your mum would do to her if u guys got married. Have u ever thought the other way around, just in case?

and aku setuju ngan apa yang Hana tulis:
consequences tak datang dlm masa setahun or 6 bulan.
consequences of our action will come to us only after 20 years later..

Because it has happened to some people i know. Baiklah berpada pada dari sekarang.

I hope you will try your best and pay that Tuhan lembutkan hati your mum and jodoh u dengan F akan ada no matter when and what. Good luck and all the best

amir1976

a'ah dragon..tapi i dragon bujang terlajak heheh

amir1976

thanks Beyond

pendapat u memang bernas.i tak pernah terpk pasal apa yang f akan buat pada my mum jika kami kahwin one day.i'll think about it tho i trust f n my mom takbuat ape yang i tknak terjadi.

love them both.tamau hurt any of their feelings.

amir1976

lol roma..u can read my mind cant you?mmg tu pun yg aku rasa.
for now aku can only pray a lot..semoga Allah bukakan hati aku,f, dan mak aku untuk buat pilihan yang terbaik.

tapikan..if things dont work out jugak,n i cant marry f for whatever reason,rasenye that's it la,i might leave the country to work abroad.tgh plan nak bekerja di dubai.ade offer but i havent accepted it yet.tk payah reply cepat2 pun offer ni..so aku ade masa nak berfk.

susah jugak dah jdi orang dewasa ni kan?

Brader_Jon

Hai Amir... saya tak de experience apa apa tapi teringin gak nak memberi input sikit je. Kalau saya ni duduk di tempat Amir.. dah tentu saya akan serba salah.. sebab sayang amat kedua mereka.. So problemnya cuma kat belah Ibu. Saya rasa Amir kena mendalami lagi perasaan dan tabiat Ibu amir.. Cuba cari titik kelemahan dia.. Apa bende yg amir buat atau minta kat dia yg buat dia cepat mengalah? Hati Ibu ni lembut sebenarnya.. Ingat tak masa kecik..? Kalau Ibu tak beri sesuatu.. kita pujuk mesti dia mengalah. Cuba Amir fikirkan sesuatu yg boleh membuatkan Ibu Amir simpati dengan Amir dan sanggup berkorban demi kebahagiaan hidup Amir.. Kalau Amir kenal betul Ibu Amir, mesti Amir akan tahu kelemahan dia.. good luck Amir.

BeyondSight

brader jon punya nasihat best!

BeyondSight

Amir,

running away wont solve it. it just makes it more difficult because now u gotta handle it from far.believe me i tried it. it didnt work as mush as i've anticipated. and cakap pasal bujang terlajak, just dont worry too much bout it. I got married pretty late too. before this i used to think that perhaps im jinxed. but then, alhamdulillah it just happened. so take it easy.

yea its true memang susah jadik dewasa ni. gotta be wiser, gotta shoulder more responsibilities and such. Well this is life. take it one at a time.

I still hope for the best for you. Insyaallah...