My Turn To Seek Advice

aw76 · Post time 22-10-2007 11:34 AM

What do I do?

Thanks for reading. Hope your day is better.

[ Last edited by aw76 at 10-9-2008 11:29 AM ]

kudajantan77 · Post time 22-10-2007 12:02 PM

kene berani la bro .. kalo penakut nnti org lain sambar dulu .. apa salahnya making a cold call and ask her out .. takkan nak tunggu die ajak lu ..

kalo die tak berkenan dgn lu pun .. at least u can have peaceful nights knowing that u have tried and have got the verdict .. and can move on .. penantian dan ketidakpastian satu penyiksaan bro ..

ana_una · Post time 22-10-2007 12:11 PM

ni dengor nasihat dpd org yg bepengalaman cam akak ni... tepon dia..ajak dia kuar.. then if u want to declare..just declare... jgn jd cam akak... frust giler bila 'cinta lama' dipendam sampai skang... letih weiii... takut2 nanti bila ko dh kawin tp ati kat org lain... kalau ko nak malu pun ..kejap jer... kalau dia tolak cinta ko..terima jer.. tapi itu takla sesakit bila ko cinta, kasih, syg dan rindu pada seseorg tapi ko tak penah ada keberanian dn kekuatan nk berterus terang.. and bila ko dh besedia nk declare pad si dia.. sygnya sumer dh terlambat.....pecayalah cakap akak ni..

norsha · Post time 22-10-2007 12:31 PM

my God..

species lelaki penakut camni pun ada ke dalam dunia ni..

sapa cepat dia dapat bro..jgn lengah2, nanti dia dah disambar org, u gigit jari jer la..

hitamputih · Post time 22-10-2007 12:35 PM

suka nya aku membaca kisah kisah jatuh cinta sebegini

sampai jarang2 aku komen dlm room ni tp aku komen gak sbb kes ko ni very innocent!

satu ayat
"it is better to have love and lost than not to have love at all!............................"

tak salah ko nak try, ko try ajak dia kawan dulu, then perlahan2 ko kenal hati budi dia dan kalau sesuai go on laa..........

simply, once ko carik satu benda yang bleh ada persamaan between u, then ko ajak laa dia gi situ.....

and dun forget to enjoy the journey!

thedude · Post time 23-10-2007 08:34 AM

Hmm ... I pernah buat like this before, tak pernah jumpa pompuan tuh .. I just got her number .. and start dating ... dating 2-3 bulan gitu.... tapi takde jodoh lak. Lebih kurang macam blind date.

Bila u dah dapat number dia ... u start main sms dengan dia ... I takleh ajar specifically ape ayat nak guna ... tapi what's more important is your genuine interest and feelings for her. With the right feelings, the right words will come. Express those feelings dan jangan cuba-cuba tiru ayat kat movie ke ape. Say what you want to say, not what Irwan Syah had said.

Basic guideline
1) Bila bercakap or SMS, pastikan u senyum betul-betul. You will create good mood for yourself

2) Banyakkan tanya pasal diri dia, family dia dan minat dia. U want to be a good listener, not tukang khutbah. Listen, listen and listen with real intention to know (dont fake it, she will know). Remember the answers so you dont ask the same question again.

3) Kalau boleh, tanya soalan yang berkaitan dengan perasaan e.g "Awak suka tak kalau ...... ". Orang pompuan suka orang tanya perasaan dia. Caring sikit.

4) Bila u dah tau ape minat dia ... conthnye dia suka tengok rumah, bagitau dia bile u jumpa benda2 yang dia minat e.g "Eh awak, KLCC ade expo property, nak tengok ? "

5) Bila dating (I learned this the hard way, dont repeat my mistake), make sure all expenses is on you even if she's actually 10 times richer than u and she offered to pay for it. Kalau dia bawak adik dia or kawan dia, belanja diorang sekali (e.g makan, tiket). Pastikan u bergaul baik dengan family dan kawan dia.

Being a listener is too damn important and probably the hardest part. If you are good at listening, she will open up more and more to you, she will start telling you all her sad stories and personal problems. Dont worry if you cant fix her problems, listening with genuine interest is good enough. Dont judge any character in her story. She may cry in the process, make sure you have tissue with you all the time (all 4 good women I had dated cried during the first 1-3 weeks of dating, banyak kisah sedih diorang nih).

The moment she start sharing all the personal experience and feelings, a bond will exist between you and her. It's up to you what you want to do next.

Good luck and godspeed.

Jangan marah kalau tips ni tak best, I sendiri pon still single and available lagi ...

[ Last edited by thedude at 23-10-2007 08:43 AM ]

aw76 · Post time 23-10-2007 12:00 PM

just an update (if anyone is interested)...i establish contact with her already.

Alhamdulillah she accepts on friendship basis...that's fine by me...

i am happy and a bit relieved tho...

nurulnana · Post time 23-10-2007 02:16 PM

congratulations mate... :pompom: :pompom:

hopefully... perkenalan u berdua akan berkembang menjadi persahabatan.... and persahabatan u berdua akan di'upgrade' menjadi percintaan... and percintaan u berdua kekal hingga ke akhir hayat.....

gudluck mate.................!!!:victory:

nurulnana · Post time 23-10-2007 02:16 PM

congratulations mate... :pompom: :pompom:

hopefully... perkenalan u berdua akan berkembang menjadi persahabatan.... and persahabatan u berdua akan di'upgrade' menjadi percintaan... and percintaan u berdua kekal hingga ke akhir hayat.....

gudluck mate.................!!!:victory:

ziha_rina · Post time 23-10-2007 04:06 PM

suka baca kisah awk.. bertuahnya gadis itu..
semoga apa yang di rancang mendapat restuNya dan dipermudahkanNYa. Amin..

aw76 · Post time 23-10-2007 05:04 PM

Originally posted by ziha_rina at 23-10-2007 04:06 PM
suka baca kisah awk.. bertuahnya gadis itu..
semoga apa yang di rancang mendapat restuNya dan dipermudahkanNYa. Amin..

dia tak bertuah...i actually think i am lucky one to be allowed in her life.

thanks for all the support and advice.

azaleena · Post time 23-10-2007 09:14 PM

buat istikharah ... pastu .. ikut la petunjuk yg dpt tu

qyaisara · Post time 23-10-2007 09:44 PM

congrats..:pompom:
semoga berjaya ke step seterusnya dan bahagia selamanya

~tunggu kabar gembira..:pompom: :pompom:

thedude · Post time 24-10-2007 07:23 AM

Oooh baguslah ... u will have a lot of opportunity later ...

hitamputih · Post time 24-10-2007 11:32 AM

share laa update ek

aw76 · Post time 24-10-2007 04:10 PM

xde apa nak update....since yesterday we talked...online aje...ym and sms. but i can say she doesnt sound insincere so far. i made her laughed which i think is a plus

limauais · Post time 24-10-2007 05:23 PM

good tips !

hitamputih · Post time 24-10-2007 05:30 PM

Originally posted by aw76 at 24-10-2007 04:10 PM
xde apa nak update....since yesterday we talked...online aje...ym and sms. but i can say she doesnt sound insincere so far. i made her laughed which i think is a plus

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