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Originally posted by havenzhiv at 3-1-2008 09:58 AM 
My style is to actually show who is the boss...........thats me.....ill show to her who is the boss already if she is like that
MALANG SUNGGUH |
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Reply #22 faraway's post
good for you laaa kan....but anyway..my challenge is about wife / wives yang raise their voice to their husbands bila husband diaorg tak bersalah atau salah sikit2 jer...bukan pasal laki tak nak tolong kerja kat rumah... bab tu terpulang laa cara hidup masing2
[ Last edited by havenzhiv at 3-1-2008 10:47 AM ] |
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Reply #20 havenzhiv's post
that's why i said management by respect... if u execute it that way... then may be u'r on the right track...
unless you use management by fear, then you may consider revising ur approach... well management theory is not only applicable to office environment, but may also be useful in our marriage life.... |
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naper tak soh dia carik keje baru?
sekurang-kurangnyer dia tak bosan dok umah...
mmg kalo dah biasa keje ni... kalo kena dok umah jer
mmg la akan boring...
takpun ikut cdgn madura tu..
psg tenet kat umah.. wat biznes on9.. |
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dari apa yang saya perhatikan (from replies kat FD ni):
those yang rasa boring are the ones yang memang tak ready nak stay at home & tak kerja. jadi, memang naluri dia happier in a working environment outside the house.
macam your wife u, memang tgh tertekan.
those yang rasa duduk rumah tak boring, buat the same chores tak boring, then memang impian dia nak stay at home & jaga anak (macam saya ni lah). memang lain ceritanya.
awak tak boleh nak compare, rumah kecik (tak byk kerja nak buat) & jaga anak sorang je. sebab hati dia dah memang takde minat nak jadi housewife.
better ask her to find another job lah kot.
on the other hand, apa lah salahnya tolong menolong buat chores? macam sapa mentioned kat atas tu, sama2 kemas rumah, macam aktiviti sekeluarga lah.
like me, hubby works, i stay at home.
i make sure i maintain a clean & decent looking home so that hubby balik kerja tak berserabut, so things like vacuuming the house, going on all fours to wipe the floors (coz i don't like using the mop, tak bersih), jaga anak2, masak, cuci baju (mesin yang cuci pun, not me), ironing, i do everyday.
that doesn't mean my hubby tak buat kerja langsung. tho he works, balik rumah, apa2 kerja yang ada, dia tolong jugak. buang sampah & sidai baju memang he will do. angkat baju from ampaian. kadang dia tolong jugak vaccum rumah, ye lah ada anak kecik, tak semestinya pagi vaccum, ptg can stay clean macam tu jugak. cuci pinggan lepas makan, normally my hubby volunteers.
lagi satu yang almost everyday dia buat is, mandikan anak2 kami lepas dia balik kerja, & weekends too! he says those are daddy's time with the kids.
jadi, tolak ansur lah. bab tinggikan suara tu, memang lah salah, tapi, bila hati tertekan, tanpa disedari, suara pun naik tinggi. |
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Originally posted by faraway at 3-1-2008 10:42 AM 
my husband pun cakap benda yang sama.. well dr cara dia dibesarkan..
anak pada boss tuan punya syarikat yang ada 300++ pekerjakan..
tetapi walau dia cakap dia ketua rumah tangga, laki keja ...
being a son to a boss, is not a guarantee that a person will have good leadership qualities.... but as u mentioned, its the way a person being brought up.... kalau drpd kecik diasuh supaya mempunyai semua kualiti tersebut such as bertanggungjawab, adil, being a good listener, independent and a good decision maker etc, then they may grow up as a good leader, tp kalau drpd kecik dh memang diajar supaya hampeh... mmg besar pun ada possibility jd tak semenggah ler....
tp org kata mana tumpahnya kuah kalau tak ke nasi... sbb parents set as example to kids.... sbb tu anak pendera kekadang ada bakat jd pendera juga bila dia besar sbb itu yg diasuh sejak kecik... tp ada la yg kuah tertumpah kelantai gamaknya... bapa sikit punya baik tp anak mcm jemuan... mungkin sbb salah asuhan la such as manja ke... |
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Ala...boring bukan alasan yg munasabah..kalau tahu peranan seorang isteri boleh kata boring dan suruh suami plak buat..sikit2 suruh tu ok lah kot..lepas tu majuk dan meninggikan suara lak kat suami sampai ketempat tidor..mahu tak suami satu hari akan hilang sabarnya. |
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Originally posted by alangGIRL at 2-1-2008 10:11 PM
being a son to a boss, is not a guarantee that a person will have good leadership qualities.... but as u mentioned, its the way a person being brought up.... kalau drpd kecik diasuh supaya mempunyai semua kualiti tersebut such as bertanggungjawab, adil, being a good listener, independent and a good decision maker etc, then they may grow up as a good leader, tp kalau drpd kecik dh memang diajar supaya hampeh... mmg besar pun ada possibility jd tak semenggah ler....
tp org kata mana tumpahnya kuah kalau tak ke nasi... sbb parents set as example to kids.... sbb tu anak pendera kekadang ada bakat jd pendera juga bila dia besar sbb itu yg diasuh sejak kecik... tp ada la yg kuah tertumpah kelantai gamaknya... bapa sikit punya baik tp anak mcm jemuan... mungkin sbb salah asuhan la such as manja ke...
yes, he's got leadership.. bila dia bercakap.. more wise than crap.
tetapi betullah tu.. tenguk camana dicorakkan dari kecik..
kalau elok, elok jadinya.. kalau tak hampeh.
tapi jangan pulak berangan nak jadi boss.. tak dapat.
jadikan bini tu cam pekerja lak dan angan angan dia boss |
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Reply #30 alangGIRL's post
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Originally posted by mclaren at 3-1-2008 11:06 AM
going on all fours to wipe the floors (coz i don't like using the mop, tak bersih),
alang2 nie..nak tanyala..
mclaren guna ape? wipe guna ape? yg mmg khas tisu wipe tu ke?
(hana pun rasa..mop tak bersih..lagi kotor ada la.. ) |
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Reply #34 Hana's post
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aku memang tolong bayarkan bil2 semua....tolong bayar aje.... duit semua dari dia... at least keluarlah jugak... sambil2 tu boleh window shopping sekali...takdelah just because jadi housewife mesti terperap aje kat rumah... |
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Reply #18 havenzhiv's post
jadi BOSS kat ofis sudahlah....balik rumah jadi suami dan ayah pd anak2...bykkk beza tu ..tu pesan i pd my hubby
i agree at some point of being a woman/man and their responsibilities but keep in mind...not everybody knows what does it mean by those words because of her background is difference from us....
didiklah dgn cara berhemah...tak perlu emphasis on being a BOSS at home...nature of being human, the more u wanna show ur power..more people will withdraw their attention....so where are u at that point? |
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Post time 3-1-2008 10:28 AM
