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i'm gettin married tis May...but just recently I met an old fren of mine and poof!!! the spark was there. Mutual. Unplanned. Unexpected. Don't ask me why and how...bcos I seriously don't knw how it happened. It just happened. She's just perfect for me. Now...I'm trapped. Undecided. In love. To continue with the marriage out of courtesy or call it off and follow my heart bcos I feel I've finally found my soulmate. |
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pk bebetol..r u sure she's ur soulmate? jgn sbbkan ati jek , u ckp cmtu..
ur fiancee ni x ok ke ? |
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this is not a stoopid prob bro.
this is life! unexpected things happen that making our lifes meaningful.
u r trapped basically.
I may advice u to discuss with both parents & ur GF.
it's hard bro, believe me, been there done that. |
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Originally posted by Deadgurlzz at 21-3-2008 11:03 
pk bebetol..r u sure she's ur soulmate? jgn sbbkan ati jek , u ckp cmtu..
ur fiancee ni x ok ke ?
I have my ups n down with the fiancee...but I guess whatever it is, I'm the one to be blamed. I just don't feel like I'm bein myself when I'm with the fiancee...but this other gal...she just rocks my world...Am i sure she's my soulmate? Rite now I'm even confused of what a SOULMATE means... |
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Maybe u should this with ur long lost friend....
does she has the same SPARK feeling that u thought u have.....
nanti dia kata..." i actually anggap u kawan sahaje"
mampus beb.....cuba try dulu...good luck |
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Originally posted by bulalof at 21-3-2008 11:04
this is not a stoopid prob bro.
this is life! unexpected things happen that making our lifes meaningful.
u r trapped basically.
I may advice u to discuss with both parents & ur GF.
it ...
Really man?? What happened in the end then |
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marry not the one you can live with, but the one u cant live without!
imagine, how many days have u been with ur fiancee?
how many days have u been with this new love?
will the new love remain the same , if put in the same period with ur fiancee now?
will she survive the obstacle that had u and ur fiancee go through?
new love taste sweet. really. wait till it burn by sun and pressured by enviroment. |
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Reply #7 chosen_reject's post
Married with my wife now even tough my ex was there when I was engaged with wife.
Yeah...she's so frustrated but I choosed my wife not because I dont love my ex, but I love them both.
My wife won my heart because, when u getting married, always remember that your not gonna spent your time with wife only, unfortunately u r married to her family as well & her family is damn good & kind.
a lot of things u have to considered, but make the right choice bro. Any of your decisions I wish u best of luck! |
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gulp!
I considered it as God's test how deep your love towards your future wife. How many percentage of commitment you given to marry your fiancee.
Believe me, the feeling that you've now is just a distraction towards your focus on your coming marriage. Please kindly abandon that feeling.
But if you're muslim, I rather advise you to perform solat istikarah. Find your answer.
Whatever decision u make, I wish best of luck. May God bless you man. Eventhough you call off the wedding. My sister also called off her wedding 2 months before her wedding date. |
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Originally posted by rhys88 at 21-3-2008 11:12 
Maybe u should this with ur long lost friend....
does she has the same SPARK feeling that u thought u have.....
nanti dia kata..." i actually anggap u kawan sahaje"
mampus beb.....cuba try dul ...
She has made it clear to me too...the mutual feeling.. |
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Friends...All these Qs that we see here...already came to my head but I can't find the answer...and before I met the old fren, I already did my istikharah (at the time when there's only the fiancee). But this time, I feel like I've already decided in the heart..but due to some other factors...it just stays there. Between my new love n me. |
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Reply #11 chosen_reject's post
nah...your chance to decide man...
u may broke a heart & win a heart at the end of the day! |
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Normal feeling la bro.
You're keen of wanting what you are not suppose to have/shouldn't get. |
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Originally posted by chosen_reject at 21-3-2008 10:56 AM
i'm gettin married tis May...but just recently I met an old fren of mine and poof!!! the spark was there. Mutual. Unplanned. Unexpected. Don't ask me why and how...bcos I seriously don't knw how ...
lam psikoloji ni oang sebut projection jek
ada mende2 'feeling' ko susah nak express ngan pilihan ko yang ko nak nikah tuh..tapi bila jumpe kawan lama tu, seme tersorok tu mudah keluor jek..so u got confused ngan sapa sebeno kene pilih
reason mudah jek nak faham..
macam once u DECIDE, tu dah kire milik kamu. then u macam akan jadi lupa apa kamu miliki. macam kita salu tenguk oang cantik oang hensem tapi kita jarang sekali kata kita cantik or hensem..ni bab self esteem laa
so ko ni tengah mengalami krisis esteem ni..ko masih tak percaya pilihan ko tu terbaik. paham dak?
dont say u dont know laa..u got to think maaaaaaa..setiap kita ada otak disuruh berfikir. kau mau apa lagi? pilihan dah di buat
give urself a kredit skit..puji diri skit tak salah pun..kalo kita asik tenguk luar saja..kita lupa apa kita ada. kita cakap mata oang tu cantik..walhal mata kita sudah sediakala cantik..kesian mata kita..tuan sendiri tak suka or puji..cakap mata dia sepet lah so nak pi operate aa..ni jenis tak reti grateful..so blajo2 bersyukur, dengan apa ko ADA..jalankan amanah tuu baik2 aaa gitu.
ko jumpe soulmate ..katakan ko dump yang ko ada, kawin dia..ko agak terjamin ke seme ni? besok ko ada anak soang dua..ko jumpa soulmate lain plak..mustahil ka? tentu tidak. So sampai bila ko nak PASTI?
ko nak awek tu..so ko skang dah nak kawin..so tuhan dah izinkan seme tu..bersyukur laa sikit. Tuhan uji skit dengan jumpa awek lain..ko dah kalut emosi..abis macam mana oang nak percaya institusi marriage ni? manusia macam tak leh di percayai bila depa buat keputusan gitu kan?
aku salu ajar diri aku, esp kepala otak ni..kene salu brainwash sendiri ..stick with what u have, where u are, be grateful and take things slowly, give time to reveal its mystery dan savour every second in ur life..bukan kejar bayang bayang. paham?
ko cuma tak yakin apa ko pilih..so what need to do is to brainwash u mind tu..look at ur woman tu baik2..dengan dia tu ko nak kongsi idup sampai mati berkoge, susah senang bersama. give ur self credit, apologise to urself pasal terburu2 dalam hidup dan blajo2 sharing happiness dengan apa ko ada. |
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Reply #8 hitamputih's post
skela jwpn itamputeh ni...salu je bg jwpn yg leh wat aku t'pk future...  |
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Reply #16 Deadgurlzz's post
hi to all...am new...just join in...
just wanted to say, if u really feel that she's ur soulmate, go ahead...i've been there before, but i chose to go on with my marriage...at d end, my marriage didnt work out.
but then again, if u're a muslim, go for istiqarah... |
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Reply #17 vita_c's post
welkam vision here:
be a good listener and good advisor  |
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Reply #15 ajinomotonosuga's post
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nicely put...thanks buat aku bepkir dgn lagi rasional. kdg2 nk kena tampar skit kepala aku ni baru la sedar |
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Category: Cinta & Perhubungan
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Post time 21-3-2008 10:56 AM
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