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Post time 15-4-2017 11:27 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts |Read mode
Edited by niky88 at 15-4-2017 11:28 AM

salam semua

Saya nak mintak pendapat semua. Saya berusia 30 tahun dan diperkenalkan oleh seorang kawan kepada seorang lelaki India Muslim berusia 45 tahun. Dia asalnya Hindu yang sudah convert hampir 10 tahun  . Famili semuanya Hindu. Menurut kepada cerita dia, susah untuk dia mendapat jodoh kerana orang Melayu tidak dapat menerima dia karena dia India. Orang orang India Muslim tidak dapat menerima dia karena dia tidak dilahirkan Islam.

Saya telah setuju untuk diperkenalkan kerana pada pendapat saya bangsa tidak penting.

Kali pertama saya melihat dia,  yang terfikir di fikiran saya.. "Physically rupa parasnya kurang menarik perhatian saya"

Rupa parasnya yg sangat sangat India pekat tidak menarik perhatian saya. Bau badannya juga kurang menyenangkan.

Dia seorang yg sangat sangat pendiam dan saya yang kena mulakan semua perbualan. Saya dapati dia seorang yg berakhlak dan menjaga agamanya.

Salahkan saya, sebab utamanya di sini, rupa parasnya kurang menarik perhatian saya .

Ada orang beritahu saya, kita orang perempuan yg penting kena cari yg berakhlak dan beragama.

Minta pendapat forumers semua


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Post time 15-4-2017 11:41 AM | Show all posts
What affects the perception of attractiveness according to psychology
Here are some factors that affect the perception of attractiveness:

1) Ease of processing: Studies found that people find faces which are easier to process by their brains more attractive. But what determines the ease of processing of facial features? Its familiarity and similarity !
2) Familiarity and attractiveness: People get more attracted to faces they are familiar with. This means that complete strangers might find you less attractive then your acquaintances. One study has shown that the brain gets used to processing the images it sees often and that's why the models you see on TV can define your beauty standards for you without you noticing.
3) Similarity and attractiveness: Another factor that impacts the perception of attractiveness is similarity. People might become attracted to those who have facial features that are similar to them, to one of their parents or to a person they loved before. In my book How to make someone fall in love with you i said that resembling any of these figures in any way can help you make a person fall in love with you
4) Non physical traits that affects attractiveness: Psychologists found that non physical traits such as courage , sense of humor or self confidence greatly affect the perception of attractiveness. The study showed that people's perception of a person's attractiveness changed after they got to know more information about his personality!. That's another reason why complete strangers might find you less attractive than you really are
5) Culture and the perception of attractiveness: The culture also affects the perception of attractiveness to a great extent. In some cultures ,that are to a certain extent isolated from the western definition of beauty, fat women are considered much more attractive than slim women. So your perception of attractiveness is also affected by your culture to a certain extent. (see Attractiveness and culture
6) The need for attention: Some people have been brought up in such a way that they need more attention than others. Those people are very likely to get attracted to those who have features that are rare among their culture. For example a person who lives in a place where blonds are rare might only get attracted to blonds if he has an unmet need for attention
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Post time 15-4-2017 11:42 AM | Show all posts
your life its you to decide...
jgn sbb the clock is tickling you accept jer even suku hati je nk
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Post time 15-4-2017 11:53 AM | Show all posts
eh kalau akak tak tertarik tak payah lah kak, benda2 gini mana boleh paksa diri untuk suka
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Post time 15-4-2017 12:43 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
First2 mintak tgk agama dia dulu....laki islam kalau xtau pasal ilmu agama, susah la sikit bila dh berkahwin nnt...pompuan,kalau nk cri suami , mula2 tgk agama dia, fizikal atau harta kemudian...fizikal ni hanya pnjmn Allah je...ecn dia hensem kalau x tau solat atau hukum hakam xada gunanya jgk...takot2 kita tersesat
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Post time 15-4-2017 12:51 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Seeloknya tgok agama dulu..sbb dia nk bimbing akak..tp kenal2 la dulu tgok mcmana..kot2 nnti ada jmpe yg lebih baik dr segi rupa dan agama..buat masa ni tgok je dulu perangai mcmana..
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Post time 15-4-2017 12:58 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Mmg eloknya tgk agama..tpi agama juga tak halang kalau nak pilih rupa..  so kalau tidak sedap di mata  nak buat macam mana...nak hidup lama lagi... so pilihla juga yg sedap mata memandang..u bukan hina dia...
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Post time 15-4-2017 02:10 PM | Show all posts
Ikut tt lah nak macam mana pun. Pada munah, tgk juga agama dan HARTANYA. Haha mungkin korg akan bash Munah tapi ni based on pendapat Munah je lah. Kita tengok lah Eina Azman dgn suaminya si Bengali tu. Pendek dan tak tasty tp berduit. Kalau nak lelaki handsome mmg senang. Tp yg berduit tu payah. Alang2 dah half hearted tu baik cari yg betul2 berduit supaya tak adalah ralat sangat.
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Post time 15-4-2017 02:27 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Physically kurang attractive tu one thing, Ni siap Ada bau badan lagi. Pikir jela, akhlak ok agama ok tapi 2benda yg kureng ni sanggup ke u hadap for the next ten years? Ntah2 yg byk rejek dia tu Sebab benda2 yg u point out Ni..
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Post time 15-4-2017 05:47 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
ape2 pon akak y kna wat keputusan sndri..org sekeliling termasuk family hnya bagi pandangan dan nasihat..
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Post time 15-4-2017 06:25 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
kalau duit banyak

pejam mata, beli deodorant banyak2 biar dia wangi
setel masalah
banyak masalah timbul bila xdak duit
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Post time 15-4-2017 09:06 PM | Show all posts
Edited by mbhcsf at 15-4-2017 09:24 PM

cari yg sekufu lah dear...

i mean ...kenapa perlu say yes  kalau banyak benda yang  u have issues with his being physically not attractive to u ...so?

i dunno istikhorah is the best , seek divine intervention
and then be honest with him , ini peringkat taaruf bukan said yes ke ape , he is also free to  keep his option opens...

so ...???

well...hmm...


pilih agama, so agama is okay  ...baikke orangnya if you tak leh then carilah sekufu ...
his personality? thinking, etc etc?


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Post time 15-4-2017 09:07 PM | Show all posts
onexox97 replied at 15-4-2017 06:25 PM
kalau duit banyak

pejam mata, beli deodorant banyak2 biar dia wangi

hehehe

wow...hihihi
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Post time 15-4-2017 10:36 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Kalau dah tak tertarik nak buat camno.. takkan la asal sbb dia berakhlak & beragama, u kena suka jugak kat dia. Kalau camtu, kita semua kena suka ostad2/ostajah2 la
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Post time 16-4-2017 12:40 AM | Show all posts
Berdasarkan apa yang you cerita, jawapannya sangat jelas bahawa you sememangnya tak suka mahupun tertarik dgn lelaki tersebut untuk dijadikan suami.

Jadi, berkawan sahaja sudah cukup tanpa perlu menjalin hubungan yang serius bersama-sama lelaki tersebut.

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Post time 16-4-2017 01:48 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
lelaki ni kita pilih ikut taste, bukan ikut hensem

Even dia tak hensem tp itu taste ko, amik je. Mcm aku pun tak suka lelaki hensem sbb nampak manja...lebih suka yg tak hensem tapi tasty.

Tp kalau first impression dh tak suka tgk muka dia, toksahla terima...ada jodoh yg lain tu..
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Post time 16-4-2017 03:14 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Kalau tak suke luaran, u pikir malam pertama dia bogel u bole suke?
Then pikir la nak beromen untuk bertahun tahun akan datang lak camne macam tiap kali malam jumaat atau time hujan lebat, atau bila suhu aircond mencecah 16 darjah celcius.

Tak kire lagi is he as hubs mntk u  go down on him.

U sendiri dah tau jawapan, yet gigih nak tanya pendapat forumers yang lain
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Post time 16-4-2017 03:55 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
mbhcsf replied at 15-4-2017 09:07 PM
hehehe

wow...hihihi

jahahahhaha kalau duit banyak cinta mati boleh hidup semula
cinta yang layu akan mekar semula
cinta yang tersadai bergerak kembali
apatah lagi yang belum tersuka lama2 boleh jadi suka
bg deodoran banyak2 wangila dia

tapi kalau xdak duit larikkk jauh2
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 Author| Post time 16-4-2017 04:58 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Terima kasih semua atas pendapat.
Saya sendiri tak setuju dengan pendapat sesetengah makcik2 yang rupa tak penting. Sesetengah makcik2 berpendapat asalkan dia beragama, berakhlak, dan berkemampuan itu yg penting.

Adakah kita orang perempuan tak ada hak untuk tengok pada yg sedap mata kita memandang?

Lelaki ada hak untuk tengok yg cantik2 saja tapi perempuan tak boleh??                    
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 Author| Post time 16-4-2017 05:06 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Punca  saya reject sebab paras rupa dan ditambah dengan bau badan.

Saya terpaksa luahkan di sini kerana di sini identiti saya tak dikenali.

Di alam nyata,  saya tak boleh luahkan pada sesiapa .takut kena bash sebab reject orang kerana tak boleh accept paras rupa. - India berkulit gelap seperti negro.
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