bagaimana uols cope with mid life crisis

green~tea

iols bukak ni utk rakan2 sebaya, dipersilakan memberi sepatah dua pendapat... i am very curious how you all dealt with your midlife crises, yang pernah mengalami ke, yang sedang mengalami ke... pandangan anda amat2 lah di alu2kanbagi yang belum mengalami nya, just curious about this mid life crises.... BBNU boleh je menyelit, membaca meluaskan pandangan  



like it or not, bila kita mencecah umur >35 - 40s kita akan menghadapi mid life crisis...
banyak yang i perhatikan, termasuk diri i sendiri mmg ada mengalami this mid life crisis... i buat career change, but not too drastic lah because i buat in stages, and slowly plan for that career change... and of course, i am able to do that because i have less financial commitments...

i look around me and i observe, ada yang membuat drastic decision, contoh nya, bertukar karier secara tiba2.. ada yang i tengok mengalami depression... ada yang bercerai dengan pasangan... tp ada juga yang mengalami midlife crisis nya lebih manageable...contoh nya membuat hobi baru, mengubah penampilan...

apakah punca midlife crisis ni?
AGING, of course... and in combination with changes, problems, or regrets over: work or career (or lack of them)
Biasanya mid-life crises ni last about 3–10 years for men and 2–5 years in women.

green~tea

Mid life crises is quite common je sbnrnya.. and ada yang lagi teruk sebenarnya...  and many of my friends pun kena benda ni jugak...  iaitu MIDLIFE DEPRESSION.. ini yang i baca from article... mcmana nak detect midlife depression... mintak jauh lah,. huhuhuhu



The Symptoms of a Midlife Crisis in Men

Men may also experience the loss of their sex drive, erectile dysfunction, decreased levels of testosterone and feelings of sadness. Sadness in a midlife crisis tends to be much less intense in comparison to full-blown depressive disorders.

Note that people show great individual differences in their symptoms. Some may show only one or two characteristics, while others may experience all of them.

In contrast with a midlife crisis, symptoms of midlife depression include:

• Changes in sleep habits, either insomnia or sleeping too much
• Changes in appetite
• Intense, often debilitating feelings of sadness
• Feelings of guilt and worthlessness
• Lack of interest or enjoyment in previously fun activities (anhedonia)
• Changes in body weight (unplanned loss or gain)
• Loss of interest in sex
• Withdrawal from social interactions
• Elevated levels of anxiety, fear and worry
• Irritability and anger (typically in men)
• Tearfulness, uncontrollable emotions (most often in women)
• Thoughts of death or self-harm
• Aches and pains without an identifiable cause, including muscle pain, digestive problems, and headaches
  

MrsVeneer

What mid life? My life is just about to start. The poll is so not for me? Kikiki

Olumis

Changes in body weight... macam x turun2 dah berat badan ni

green~tea

MrsVeneer replied at 1-9-2021 09:03 PM
What mid life? My life is just about to start. The poll is so not for me? Kikiki

u're approaching mid-century wakakakakkaka

MrsVeneer

green~tea replied at 1-9-2021 09:10 PM
u're approaching mid-century wakakakakkaka

Oh shut up.

green~tea

Olumis replied at 1-9-2021 09:05 PM
Changes in body weight... macam x turun2 dah berat badan ni

that's changes in hormon or metabolism... perempuan ke lelaki? if pompuan, i would recommend try supplements yang regulate hormone like vit E, raw maca root, evening primrose.. either one lah, jangan balun semua.. huhuh

green~tea

MrsVeneer replied at 1-9-2021 09:13 PM
Oh shut up.

yang penting body uolzz maseh bergetah mcm BBNU.. ahhahaha sorry mak hayam.. alaa bucuk2 meh sini jangan ngajok hahahaha

Olumis

green~tea replied at 1-9-2021 09:13 PM
that's changes in hormon or metabolism... perempuan ke lelaki? if pompuan, i would recommend try s ...

Perempuan. Memang consume EPO. Hehe

green~tea

Olumis replied at 1-9-2021 09:25 PM
Perempuan. Memang consume EPO. Hehe

oh... EPO ok lah... jaga meal timing jangan skip your meals.. badan kita ni pandai adjust metabolism bila kita reduce calorie intake

Gundula12

Im in the middle of it. The worst feeling ever. Sometimes dah tak tau the meaning of life. Now trying new hobbies..

Gundula12

Lg satu i dah quit my job although dah selesa kat situ, found another job in another city. So will se how it goes

tupai

I resign from my job due to depression...is it consider mid life crisis ke? X penah terfikir pulak tp due to major changes in my life, mmg I byk dekatkan diri dgn tuhan, reflect balik apa yg i dh buat selama i hidup & some sort now i try nk start of my life blk. Alhamdulillah hidup I xde yg kurang cume tu lah, masa i tgh take a break ni sebenar- benar masa utk I check blk diri I. I never regret with my decision because i percaya setiap apa yg berlaku pasti terselit hikmah dr Allah. InsyaAllah, i will back to work next month. Hope no more mid life crisis for me

KIM.K

Sekarang waktu urus pusaka. Tak teruja pulak dapat dgn memori duka.
Meol ni seorang yang diplomatik, ada empati kecuali orang tak bagi kerjasama, ill gladly offer red pills or blue pills.
Gitulah belajar dari pengalaman urus konflik

nakkomenjugak

iol mid life crisis jugak ke umur nak masuk 30 tapi hidup sangat stagnant sampaikan iol rasa cam apa sebenarnya tujuan hidup ni?

green~tea

KIM.K replied at 1-9-2021 10:05 PM
Sekarang waktu urus pusaka. Tak teruja pulak dapat dgn memori duka.
Meol ni seorang yang diplomati ...

U mmg baik pun in real life kim.. very thoughtful, innocent pun ade... dalam forum je i tengok bahasa ganas, byk coding payah i nak hadam hahahahahaha...

Yeah urusan pusaka mmg serabut.. kita yg banyak fikir, tp lebih mudah if u ada kawan2 yg well versed pasal kanun tanah negara atau enakmen undang2 tanah negeri..  mmg quite straightforward la syarat2 dia sbnrnya.. cuba la kim, its great when we can bounce ideas and meluahkan, jgn telan semua sendiri kim..

green~tea

Gundula12 replied at 1-9-2021 09:53 PM
Im in the middle of it. The worst feeling ever. Sometimes dah tak tau the meaning of life. Now tryin ...

Hobbies apa you buat?

I surround myself dgn rakan2 via online.. telegram chat... zoom workout together... i tatau nak pusing apa in my hobby... reading, workout, dancing, borak2 skincare etc

I tak minat kereta.. i dah lost interest dgn handbag or fashion2...

My husband recently decide utk pimp his ride... berpuluh2 ribu heols belanja (from his passive income)... balut dashboard, tukar fully digital dashboard.... balut leather seat, furnishing interior, tukar cat, tukar wiring canbus, fine tune kereta, improvise mcm2... berbulan2 kereta masuk workshop... so i rasa itu thats how he handle his midlife crisis la

green~tea

nakkomenjugak replied at 1-9-2021 10:43 PM
iol mid life crisis jugak ke umur nak masuk 30 tapi hidup sangat stagnant sampaikan iol rasa cam apa ...

Muda sangat lagi ni sis... ur turn will come on your 40th bday hahaha

green~tea

tupai replied at 1-9-2021 10:01 PM
I resign from my job due to depression...is it consider mid life crisis ke? X penah terfikir pulak t ...

Maybe... some people says midlife crisis ni mcm seolah2 you're climbing your career ladder, only to suddenly realize the ladder is actually leaning on a different wall...  haha

tupai

green~tea replied at 1-9-2021 10:55 PM
Maybe... some people says midlife crisis ni mcm seolah2 you're climbing your career ladder, only t ...

I think you are right, I mmg at peak of my career, I hv the pangkat, the recognition but end up I collapsed, its too huge for me to digest. I consider it as a break. In my early 40s, I paused kejap, stabilise my emotion and mental. Masa tu I buat benda2 yg I x berkesempatan buat sblm ni bcoz Im too busy with work. I scheduled my exercise routine, cooking, baking, mengaji, perbetulkan solat I, cuba buat solat sunat sebyk mungkin and layan movie sbb covid/mco I cant go anywhere.