Untuk menjadi lebih extrovert

bulanbulat

Dedulu i introvert. Balik rumah mesti nak menyendiri, kesian housemate. Kalau di kg i keluar time social time ja (makan,gardening, post dinner, orang datang), kalau tak dalam bilik ja. Baca novel, tgk movie, main internet

Now extrovert la pulak. Kalau introvert cemna nak hiking trekking etc

bangcak

porem nih mmg dibina khas buat org2 introbet mcm kita suma.
so, toksah nak deklair sgt introbetnyerr.

tapi, kalu berminat nak jd extrobert rajin2 arr anjur gath
utk kita cari porumer2 yg sama2 teringin nak jd extrobert
berkumpul n berlatih menjadik lebih extroberganva.

rogayahtop

introvert skrg ni mcm ocd. semua dok mengaku introvert padahal gelak sebatu boleh dgr. akak kawan dgn sorang fonen kat fb ni selfie beribu2 pun mengaku introvert. pernah jumpa ramai2 masa single dulu dgn kasut merah rambut highlight suara mcm sajat gelak pun mcm langsuir demam.

rogayahtop

kalau tak reti berkomunikasi dan bersosial tu bukan introverts, tu socially awkward. org dok bercakap dia dok mengangguk. tak ada communication skills. kalau org melayu ckp pendiam tu selalunya pemalu tp ada spesis yg kat depan diam bila jumpe geng2 poen dia lain pulak. yg tu hipo sebenarnya. aka propa. depan lain blkg lain. stgh org ni kat wall fb dia sama je dgn in real life. tu br la tak fake. yg kat wall ala2 mulia share resepi pun letak hadis tp irl bercakap wtf ala2 student uitm on twitter tu memang fake.

MakHayam17

rogayahtop replied at 11-11-2017 03:47 AM
kalau tak reti berkomunikasi dan bersosial tu bukan introverts, tu socially awkward. org dok bercaka ...

Cuba anak baca ni.. mak xpandai.. so mak just baca saja

Don’t Call Introverted Children ‘Shy’
Society rewards extroverts, but quiet types have a hidden strength all their own

By Susan Cain @susancainJan. 26, 2012
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Imagine a 2-year-old who greets you with a huge smile, offering a toy. Now here’s another child who regards you gravely and hides behind his parent’s leg. How do you feel about these two children? If you’re like most people, you think of the first child as social and the second as reserved or, as everyone tends to interpret, “shy.” From a very young age, we categorize children as one or the other, and we usually privilege the social designation. But this misses what’s really going on with standoffish kids. Many were born with a careful, sensitive temperament that predisposes them to look before they leap. And this can pay off handsomely as they grow, in the form of strong academics, enhanced creativity and even a unique brand of leadership and empathy.

(QUIZ: Are You an Introvert or an Extrovert?)

One way to see this temperament more clearly is to consider how these children react to stimuli. When these children are at four months, if you pop a balloon over their heads, they holler and pump their arms more than other babies do. At age 2, they proceed carefully when they see a radio-controlled toy robot for the first time. When they’re school age, they play matching games with more deliberation than their peers, considering all the alternatives at length and even using more eye movements to compare choices. Notice that none of these things — popping balloons, toy robots, matching games — has anything to do with people. In other words, these kids are not antisocial. They’re simply sensitive to their environments.

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But if they’re not antisocial, these kids are differently social. According to the psychologist Elaine Aron, author of the book Psychotherapy and the Highly Sensitive Person, 70% of children with a careful temperament grow up to be introverts, meaning they prefer minimally stimulating environments — a glass of wine with a close friend over a raucous party full of strangers. Some will grow up shy as well. Shyness and introversion are not the same thing. Shy people fear negative judgment, while introverts simply prefer less stimulation; shyness is inherently painful, and introversion is not. But in a society that prizes the bold and the outspoken, both are perceived as disadvantages.

Yet we wouldn’t want to live in a world composed exclusively of bold extroverts. We desperately need people who pay what Aron calls “alert attention” to things. It’s no accident that introverts get better grades than extroverts, know more about most academic subjects and win a disproportionate number of Phi Beta Kappa keys and National Merit Scholarship finalist positions — even though their IQ scores are no higher. “The glory of the disposition that stops to consider stimuli rather than rushing to engage with them is its long association with intellectual and artistic achievement,” observes science writer Winifred Gallagher. “Neither E=mc nor Paradise Lost was dashed off by a party animal.”

(MORE: Patricia Cohen: The Advantages of the Middle-Age Brain)

Children with an alert, sensitive temperament also pay close attention to social cues and moral principles. By age 6, they cheat and break rules less than other kids do — even when they believe they won’t be caught. At 7, they’re more likely than their peers to be described by parents and caregivers as empathetic or conscientious. As adults, introverted leaders have even been found to deliver better outcomes than extroverts when managing employees, according to a recent study by management professor Adam Grant of the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania, because they encourage others’ ideas instead of trying to put their own stamp on things. And they’re less likely to take dangerous risks. Extroverts are more likely than introverts to get into car accidents, participate in extreme sports and to place large financial bets.

But we wouldn’t want to live in a world composed entirely of cautious introverts either. The two types need each other. Many successful ventures are the result of effective partnerships between introverts and extroverts. The famously charismatic Steve Jobs teamed up with powerhouse introverts at crucial points in his career at Apple, co-founding the company with the shy Steve Wozniak and bequeathing it to its current CEO, the quiet Tim Cook. And the three-time Olympic-gold-winning rowing pair Marnie McBean and Kathleen Biddle were a classic match of dynamic firecracker (McBean) and steely determination (Biddle).

The ideal scenario is when those two toddlers — the one who hands you the toy with the smile and the other who checks you out so carefully — grow up to run the world together.

Macam mak cakap.. mak bukan terlalu anti sosial.. pergi keluar semua tapi sampai satu limit, mak suka masuk gua..

noraidil_06

rogayahtop replied at 11-11-2017 03:47 AM
kalau tak reti berkomunikasi dan bersosial tu bukan introverts, tu socially awkward. org dok bercaka ...

Spot on la sis. Ngade2 sdri define walhal acah2 sombong.like org rugi ko sombong.eiwww

makciktijah

kadang makcik terfikir syok kot life org extrovert. bleh sesenang bergaul, bleh huha masuk je grup memana pun takde masalah. masa memuda dulu tgk yg extrovert ni kdg mcm gegedik manja plak, senang je lelaki minat.

makcik takde masalah pun nak berucap dpn org ramai.  kalau tetiba kena tolak naik pentas suh berucap pun makcik tak neves. cuma lepas2 hadap ummah manusia reramai, makcik memang kena lesap, cari ruang utk duduk sengsorang ala2 recharge nyawa. makcik boleh duduk rumah wiken sorang2 tak jumpa orang, membaca berkurung, tetap rasa hepi. gi tgk wayang sorg mkn kat kedai sorg pun boleh je.

tp lately ni terfikir harus ke cuba jadi ala2 extrovert? lebih terbuka nak bersosial dgn org keliling. makcik bukan anti social, makcik cuma selective.

Intanmahsuri

I don't like people.
I don't have best friend. I don't bother when my relationship with bff drifted apart.
I like to stay home. I don't make friends much. I am boring.
I don't like phone calls. Sometimes, I let the phone ringing, and call back later when I'm ready.
I talk to myself a lot.


Doesn't matter the terms.Socially awkward ke, introvert ke.. whatever.

noraidil_06

Intanmahsuri replied at 13-11-2017 12:23 PM
I don't like people.
I don't have best friend. I don't bother when my relationship with bff drifte ...

its actually ok nk jd intro ke extro ke pendiam ke peramah ke. sbb hidup kite. suke hati lah. cume elakkan menyombong.sbb sombong tak bawa kite ke mn. selektif ok, sbb kite x nak org pelik2 dtg dlm hidup kite.

adelia87

iolls pon introvert jugak..iolls siap beli buku utk memahami perangai sendiri..

iolls bersyukur sebab kawan baik iolls faham i macam mana.

lately ni, bila sibuk kerja, lagila malas nak jumpa orang.
nak berkubang je kt rumah.