The Secret of Abuser and Abusee Realtionships

Agul

Now I think I finally understand totally why the same people always get into abuser and abusee relationships.

We have, on one side, anger. on another side, a constant desire to please.

Both are two sides of the same coin.

People says opposite attracts, but it isn't so. Surfacely, it may seems to be like that. But if we dig deeper, it is the similarities that attract them in the first place. It's just a different manifestation of the same motives.

So, they are attracted to each other. Because they are similar.

Agul

If I post this in another thread, not many will be able to understand it.

But the main thing is the cracking of the dynamics of relationship between everything in this world. So this understanding can be applied to many, many things.

Will add more.

my-alja

the way i see it bro.....

no respect for oneself, be it urself or orthers
tgk dlm kes2 FD dah laa.....serabut kepala, pd kita benda basic as individu
hormati diri sendiri, sayangi diri sendiri....baru belajar sayang org keliling
dah sayangi diri....secara tak lansung, kita hindari diri kita dibuli, disakiti

my-alja

If I post this in another thread, not many will be able to understand it.

But the main thing is the cracking of the dynamics of relationship between everything in this world. So this understanding  ...
Agul Post at 22-8-2009 19:06

cemana kalo kita apply dlm kehidupan seharian....

org tgk magic series like my kids last nite...because the love to be tricked and manipulated
peminat2 politik nganga dengar ceramah parti politik....sebab depa memang suka mendengar janji kosong

ajinomotonosuga

Know nothing, you are paralysed with fear

Know little bit, you are inspired

Know a bit more, you will have full desire

the world will change sooner or later

seribulan

why do others like to possess or obsess?

Agul

why do others like to possess or obsess?
seribulan Post at 30-8-2009 22:17

wanting control amd wanting to be controlled.

stem from the desire to feel safe.

sorry guna kose diktator sat...edit typo...

seribulan

wanting control amd wanting to be controlled.

stem from the desire to feel safe.
Agul Post at 30-8-2009 09:22 PM

lerr..baru nak edit dah diquote...

RALAT: to possess or obsess...

hamizao

Generally, abusive people have low people relationship....do not treat others with courtesy and respect. Statistics show that such people grew up in abusive environment thinking that such behaviour is normal.

As for the abused person who might continue to remain in an abusive environment, either he /she is being "forced" to accept it especially children, or in the case of adults they may lack the will to break free.

I know this requires further analysis............

seribulan

9# hamizao

In the case of Whitney Houston n hubby ... they called the syndrome as 'women who've dimmed their light for a man'...