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Post time 14-10-2015 11:32 AM | Show all posts |Read mode
Aloha semua

Tak sure masalah TT ni berat ke tidak atau sengaja cari pasal. Seeking opinion how to resolve masalah ni..rasa mcm tak boleh nak move forward selagi x decide.


Tt berkawan dgn bf tt ni dah lama kenal, more than 10 yrs. Dulu dia suami org so masa tu kawan je la....then tau dia dah seperate dgn wife and selama 6 tahun dah duduk asing.

Im in my 30s and he will be in his 50s tak lama lagi ni...lately ni dia moody maybe hormon nak anjak usia 50. Tt di kl tp selalu ulang alik kerja and plannya nak kawen thn dpn and nak business sama sama. Tap tup dpt wassap dia bgtau tt dia kena pindah rumah..rumah yg dia duduk ni owner nak ambil balik. Dia dah cari rumah baru tapi x berkenan, then dia ada issue kat tempat kerja and decide to resign. Financially xde la isu sgt on his part epf pun lagi bape bulAn je dpt then dia buat forex n few part business yg dia ada.

Isu skrg... Dia balik duduk umah bini dia.... Dah filing divorce tp sbb jab islam nak duit utk cepatkan proses cerai... Tu yg delay2 sbb dia ni plak keras kepala xnak byr kat pak pegawai jab islam tu...hmm ni lg satu masalah kno jab islam kita ni menyusahkan banyak pasangan yg nak bercerai for good rather than helping them???  Ok balik ke cerita asal...bila dah tau dia balik umah bini dia sbb x dpt cari rumah baru kena tguu sampai rumah dia siap..so how i should react? Cerita dah jadi mcm tt pulak yg jahat...am i the 3 rd party now??????



So tt bengang and masih sabar lagi ni....layankan je wassap down dia and just ckp apa yg patut tp dlm masa sama tt jd down sbb tt ni mcm mana oulak.. Jadi kawen ke tak ke jd no 2 pulak ke aku ni.....

Half of me dah decide nak bla je...buang masa tunggu. Sayang tu mmg la sedih tu ya to rasa mcm tersekat sekat nak fokus sbb masalah ni....

Macam mana nak fokus and xsedih klu tglkan dia??




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Post time 14-10-2015 11:47 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Erm.. Kalo nak let go, time will heal. Either 1 month or 10 years..

If masih gigih nak bersame dgn encik abe.. Pesan kat dia ' When there is desperation and depressed its time to back to god '
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Post time 14-10-2015 11:51 AM | Show all posts
aaaa ... cari lain jek la    

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 Author| Post time 14-10-2015 11:56 AM | Show all posts
Ni yg payah...nak start all over again. Tt ingat boleh start life withhim as married couple. Tt pun bukanla muda sgt dah lagi 2 thn 40. Single mum and anak pun sorang je.

Maybe ada hikmah klu x kawen. Hmmm
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Post time 14-10-2015 01:26 PM | Show all posts
dah 10 tahun kenal luar dlm. rasanya TT tentu tahu if si dia Sirius ke tak.
kenapa pej agama minta duit? duit rasuah utk cepatkan proses ke. banyak ke? kalau cerai luar mahkamah denda RM1000 kan? kalau betul nak bercerai, cerai luar mahkamah je la. TT, fikir dalam2 nak teruskan hubungan ke tak.
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Post time 14-10-2015 04:09 PM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Pej agama nk duit? For what? Dh lama separate kenapa x cerai2?
Age 50 & tetiba pindah masuk rmh isteri...
Fishy sgt aih
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Post time 14-10-2015 04:25 PM | Show all posts
me susah nak percaya kata susah nak bercerai dan pejabat agama minta duit,
silalah rujuk board keluarga, bila dorang set nak bercerai, bercerai terus,
tak perlu nak bagi sesapa duit...

well sekarang dah balik rumah bini, masa untuk u ucap selamat tinggal kot.
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Post time 14-10-2015 10:30 PM | Show all posts
carik ajer yg lain... xberbaloi nak tggu lelaki nie... npmk propa jer
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 Author| Post time 14-10-2015 11:15 PM | Show all posts
Hari ni gi opis saja nak bz kan diri... Whatsapp dia and tanya dah habis kemas ke baju Semua kat rumah bini.. Dia jawab belum, then i tanya u pindah ni for good ke? For ever or temporary? X jawab..sy tanya kita macam mana pun x jawab.


So hangin punya pasal habis satu bar coklat i balun 😂😂😂😂😂😩😩😩
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Post time 15-10-2015 02:03 AM From the mobile phone | Show all posts
Mcm propa jek. Kalo dah xsuke, takkan boleh lak  tinggal sesame balik. Boleh jek cari bilik atau rumah sewa.
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Post time 15-10-2015 02:49 AM | Show all posts
adila39 replied at 14-10-2015 10:15 AM
Hari ni gi opis saja nak bz kan diri... Whatsapp dia and tanya dah habis kemas ke baju Semua kat rum ...

u kena jaga badan sebab u kena cari bf baru,so next time marah, dari makan coklat cuba bawak berexercise
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Post time 15-10-2015 08:52 AM | Show all posts
cari jela org lain.......
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Post time 15-10-2015 09:43 AM | Show all posts
apa maksud nak duit? under table ke? macam tak pernah dengar plak pasal duit bila nak bercerai ni. ke bf ko buat citer?
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Post time 15-10-2015 09:45 AM | Show all posts
faraway1 replied at 14-10-2015 04:25 PM
me susah nak percaya kata susah nak bercerai dan pejabat agama minta duit,
silalah rujuk board kelu ...

aku pun selalu follow board tu. tak pernah plak dengar pasal mintak duit bila nak bercerai ni. sesuatu sungguh
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Post time 15-10-2015 10:51 AM | Show all posts
faraway1 replied at 15-10-2015 02:49 AM
u kena jaga badan sebab u kena cari bf baru,so next time marah, dari makan coklat cuba bawak berex ...

hahaha...gelihati aku ni. tak sabor2 nak reply posting yu ni.
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Post time 15-10-2015 10:56 AM | Show all posts
adila39 replied at 14-10-2015 11:56 AM
Ni yg payah...nak start all over again. Tt ingat boleh start life withhim as married couple. Tt pun  ...

lahh. aku ingatkan TT perempuan bujang.
kalau dah penah berkawen, patutnya lagi BIJAK tau.
lagi terer "membaca" perangai lelaki dari orang2 lain.
mana boleh tanya soalan2 mcm budak umur 25tahun baru kena erti cinta buta.

patutnya selama kawan 5thn pastu NOTHING, patut blah ajek. masa tu, umur u baru awal 30an.
nothing to late anything kalau nak cari pakwe baru la. umur masih muda. lantak la ada anak sorang ka 2 orang ka. janji badan lawa, ok aje. mcm erra fazira tu.

skrg dah drag to 10thn. umur pun dah 38thn.

mmm..tengoklah kalau bernasib baik.
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Post time 15-10-2015 10:57 AM | Show all posts
sila sila noor2. bagi sepatah 2 kata. @noor2
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Post time 15-10-2015 11:10 AM | Show all posts
Move on jela tt.. Ade jodoh insyallah tak ke mana. Lagipun tt dah ade anak sorang kan? Fokus je dengan ank tt. Fokus berbisnes sape tau masa berbisnes pun boleh berjumpa jodoh. Plus tt pun single mum.. Mesti pengalaman yang lepas boleh dijadikan panduan untuk berumahtangga buat kali ke-2..
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Post time 15-10-2015 11:24 AM | Show all posts
sila blah sebab bf uols propa jeh
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 Author| Post time 15-10-2015 02:23 PM | Show all posts
Edited by adila39 at 15-10-2015 02:27 PM

betul pej agama nak rm300 untuk percepatkan bukak file. So bg TT malas. xtaula kalau buat cerita.
Betul jugak umur i pun bukan muda na lagi...but still alhamdulillah i still maintain je. Anak pun akan kekal sorang je la. Maybe TT nak sangat kawen kot sbb my first marriage sekejap je xsempat nak rasa life happily married. TT kawen dgn org lain pun sebab dia jugak...and now i was thinking maybe and maybe this is our time...maybe jodoh mmg takde...atau maybe I yang bodoh betul
stress la dengan spesis lelaki sekarang ni



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