so u are 27 and he is 49,well..perbezaan 22 tahun di situ..firstly i think u kena pikir masak2 if u nak kahwin dgn dia. putting the issues of love aside, tgk pd issue communication,physical endurance, and security.
1) being married with someone 22 yrs older than u can be considered as being with someone from a totally different era. akan ada byk differences between the both of u. akan ada juga persamaan. the question is will u be able to live with the differences? mcm ada forummer suggest kt atas, kena tau details further about him but no matter how much u know things will only be transparent after kahwin anyway which will bring us to the next point ie:
2) communication,bila dah ada byk differences then u need to sort it out by communicating with each other,seorang lelaki bila berkahwin dia nak perempuan yg dikahwini itu tidak berubah as time goes by,meaning nak dilayan dgn lembut,romantik . alah mcm baru2 bercinta gittew. tp perempuan berubah.once u jadi isteri,menantu or ibu there will be tons of responsibilities on u.it will make u so freaking tired and end up losing urself as a woman,ie u sendiri kata best hidup single kan?boleh bgn lewat,bebas nak pegi mana2,being independent,love urself more,but that will change once u got married.
perempuan pulak expect lelaki berubah bila kahwin ie jadi lebih baik lah, lebih beriman la,lebih bertanggungjawab lah lebih whatever ideal character yg korg nak lah kiranya..but no..guys dont change.they may get more tolerable or compromised but they will never change..sbb tu u kena tanya u boleh tak live with the differences tu.
3) security,if dia yang ada security issues then good for u. i dont know about his social status tp assuming he is already 49, then his social status should be much better than u. his circle of friends could be totally different than urs. boleh tak survive and blend urself in his circle instead of only thinking that he is the one who needs to blend into urs??sbb takut nanti that issue akan haunt u later
4) physical endurance..this is not related to sexual ke apa(well,it could be tp pikir la sendiri hehehe,it could be good,it could be the other way around.hehehe)..but think about having kids.sanggup tak dia nak bgn malam giliran jaga anak,ada sesetgh lelaki yg dh berumur takde masa nak buat semua tu sbb diorg lebih fokus dgn kerjaya and lebih kepada melepaskan tanggungjawab tu kpd isteri.kalau tak,alhamdulillah,rezeki u lah tu..but do lower ur expectation yeah..takut nanti kecewa..
PS:apa2 pun, love definitely conquers all..but always remember he is no Muhammad SAW and u are no Siti Khadijah r.a(fahamkan lah maksud i disitu mengenai hubungan marriage diantara dua makhluk Allah yg mulia ni)
PSS;sorry pjg berjela pendapat iols tulis
Post time 14-1-2019 04:32 AM
Post time 14-1-2019 07:43 AM
tapi honestly i tak pernah main lah dengan heols
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