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In laws interfering too much dalam relationship
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Post time 21-1-2019 05:32 PM
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Nana_Man replied at 21-1-2019 04:51 PM
Ur partner ni, hati dia kene kental sikit. Bila nak kawin, dlm otak dia kene set yg income dia cum ...
Thanks for sharing...yes faham sebab sekarang tak kawin lagi so I macam no say... Not only his brother...kalau hal sekolah in fact I yang tolong tapi kalau over sangat minta sebab duit pocket yang parents bagi pun pakai joli then bila habis minta kat partner. Kalau betul2 perlu I guess I can tolerate.Even worst sampai mak sedara my bf pun WhatsApp minta duit bagi alasan nak beli barang. Sekarang macam everyone surrounds him is hating me cos after graduate maybe the family dah angan2 nak depend on him especially financial matter. It makes my presence so bad as if macam bergaduh pasal duit but that's not the problem. Problem is when relatives tak respect our privacy |
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haiya susah la mcm ni sis.. smpi mak sedara pun tumpang minta duit 
kita ni bukan nak kawin dgn bakal suami je, tapi 'kawin' dgn family nya sekali 
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Post time 21-1-2019 06:33 PM
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mujer_in_espejo replied at 21-1-2019 06:04 PM
haiya susah la mcm ni sis.. smpi mak sedara pun tumpang minta duit
kita ni bukan nak kaw ...
That's why sis..binggung... Kalau difikirkan macam sayang nak break sebab we both love each other..takde masalah pun... |
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Omg kepochi nya diorg. Iols pun xsuka org sibuk psl iols.
Tp kalo u btul syg dia, pandangla kepochi diorang dlm sudut positif. Berlapang dada. I blh ckp je. Kalo i pun i x mampu  |
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Post time 21-1-2019 07:26 PM
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cekgihani replied at 21-1-2019 06:54 PM
Omg kepochi nya diorg. Iols pun xsuka org sibuk psl iols.
Tp kalo u btul syg dia, pandangla kepo ...
Hikhik that's why...hurmmm buat dont know je lar... |
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SuriNate replied at 21-1-2019 04:17 PM
That’s why sebab even sekarang belom ada apa2 ikatan in laws macam nak conquer every single thing
be afraid... be very afraidddddd
dgr la nasihat mereka yg dah masak dgn sepak terajang hidup berumahtangga ni...
kalau boleh nak kurang masalah.. bkn tambah masalah. masalah dgn suami pun dah serabut, lg nak tambah serabai dgn masalah in laws..
satu je cara:
lps kawen, terus migrate overseas. |
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SuriNate replied at 21-1-2019 05:32 PM
Thanks for sharing...yes faham sebab sekarang tak kawin lagi so I macam no say... Not only his bro ...
Sis.. ni bkn pasal privacy lagi.. ni trying to take advantage of you. Pls, dun allow that to happen. U NEED to stop helping them. Really u kene tegas. U masih ada parents kan? Ckp jer, u need the money for them. In fact, duit u, hak u. U dun hav any obligation to help ANYONE from that family. Even ur partner too, pasal u bkn isteri dia pun.
Dah kawin pun, pls pls pls... jd pelokek...kalau u rasa ada rezeki lebih, lagi baik u sedekahkn kat yg betul2 perlu, but not to them... atau u simpan jer, and partner jgn tau. |
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sblm kawin pun diaorg dah layan tt mcm tu..apa tah lg nnt selepas kawin.
jgn sampai mengganggu perasaan tt pl..tt kenelah bersedia kalau btl2
tt nak kawin jg dgn bf tt..sanggup ke tt bertahan atau mcm mana..abaikan
pun buat masa skrg ni..tp bila suda berkahwin nnt mcm mana situasi nya
blm lg tt ada anak nnt.sila lah fikir panjang..mental emosi semua tt bole handle
ke tak..tp mcm semua nye diaorg nak amik tau.sampai makcik bf pun berani
minta duit kan..tt fikir baik2 ya..ada baik buruknya kan tp fikir yg akan dtg
nnt..sanggup ke tt tahan semua tu.sedangkan skrg pun tt tak bole buat
keputusan yg sejelas2 nya kan..apa2 pun dahulukan utk diri sendiri tt jg ya |
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Post time 21-1-2019 09:46 PM
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Nana_Man replied at 21-1-2019 09:28 PM
Sis.. ni bkn pasal privacy lagi.. ni trying to take advantage of you. Pls, dun allow that to happe ...
Thanks ya...kawan & family pun bagi nasihat macam ni...i should consider betul ckp you...this is exactly how i feel... Mom i ckp dengan partner pun tak perlu give everything especially yg jenis mcm ni |
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Post time 21-1-2019 09:47 PM
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ikanmasin replied at 21-1-2019 09:40 PM
sblm kawin pun diaorg dah layan tt mcm tu..apa tah lg nnt selepas kawin.
jgn sampai mengganggu pera ...
Yes mmg i stress juga sometimes too much. Nsb baik bf i selalu sebelahkan I but in the end of course he will choose his family over me... For now i perhati jer cosmmg dh communicate ckp i tak suka ..if he insists untuk kawin dia must fix masalah ni dulu |
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Oh my.. You'll be in a big trouble
If your partner tak bertegas, mmg haru biru jadinya
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SuriNate replied at 21-1-2019 09:46 PM
Thanks ya...kawan & family pun bagi nasihat macam ni...i should consider betul ckp you...this is e ...
Betul sis... ape2 pun, u doa mintak petunjuk.i taknk ckp samada u patut teruskn atau putus, pasal i'm not someone yg patut ckp gitu. U noe urself better.
I harap u buat keputusan yg baik ya sis. Marriage is for a lifetime... |
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noraidil_06 replied at 21-1-2019 03:13 PM
Cari boyfren baru
Kaknor! Hahaha tapi meols setuju.. please jangan settle down with this guy.. find another ok laling..
Percayalahh belom kawen dah macam ni, kalu dah kawen mende ni boleh sebabkan kita lakibini gaduh.. kalu skang xagduh sbb blom kawen.. |
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sheqim replied at 21-1-2019 11:25 PM
Kaknor! Hahaha tapi meols setuju.. please jangan settle down with this guy.. find another ok lalin ...
Blom kawin dah semak.
Kau ghase?
Akk rase nasihat akk plg bernas!
Mampoo? |
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owh eldest... i guess maybe his family thought yg the reason why anak/abg drg tak spend kat drg is because of you? no?... hence thats y lah drg so kepo nak tau pasal ur financial status... but the siblings tak kerja ke??? berapa umur drg tt?? plus kalau lah u jadi kawin tt, its better lah duduk jauh2 dri family ur future husband ni (like you said before tu)... but just in case, what if your future husband still nak sit with his parents after kawin? i hope not lah.. thats the worst case scenario!! and tt ada bincang tak lepas kawin nak stay dekat mana ke apa... i saw ur replied dekat atas yg tt dah confront him regarding this matter and he just couldnt care less, so ada tak you keep on utarakan pendapat u?... kot2 sekali dua tak masuk.. anyway, whatever ur decision is (nak proceed kawin with him / not), I sincerely pray the best for you tt.. May Allah ease ur problem nie since i know how does it feels bila bakal in law sorg yg control freaks (mine lagi lah mama boy sgt time tu plus the only child.. nasib dah move away dri that toxic relationship)
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tt selagi dia tak dpt tt..mmg akan janji mcm2 tt..cuma saya bole ckp
just hati2.selagi blm kawin tt ada byk masa utk fikir btl2 kan..tgk byk
mana +ve atau byk -ve nya tt..mmg lah bukan semua perfect kan tp
tt ada byk peluang selagi tt blm kawin lg..bila sudah terikat nak menyesal
pun tak guna dah kan..kdg2 bila dah kawin ni baru tau family lelaki mcm
mana tp tt dah nampak sblm kawin lg..bgs jg utk tt kan..
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noraidil_06 replied at 21-1-2019 11:26 PM
Blom kawin dah semak.
Kau ghase?
Akk rase nasihat akk plg bernas!
Mane butang like, nk like seratus kali hahahaha
Selagi buleh elak mil camni baik elakkkk, dah terjebak parahhh nak oi! |
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Kalau bf itu berkualiti kawen ajelah dan pindah rumah jauh Dari mil. Dan kena bertegas jgn lembik dgn mil, yg nak memanipulasi bf. Sedangkan mak pak sendiri yg sibuk campur urusan kewangan kita kena bagi warning inikan pula mil, apa kata jadi superwomen yg boleh kontrol mil Dan bf. Duit gaji laki hang pegang dan kontrol dan agih ke mana pergi ke mana yg perlu. Kerlas gitu |
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Kawen jela lepas tu lari. Susah la nak cari lelaki berkualiti skg ni. At least ni family dia yang problem bukan dia.
Orang cakap bila kita kawen ni, kita kawen dengan family dia sekali. Tapi ada i kesahhh.
Migrate je sis. Kalau x migrate pon layan gitu2 je family dia. Mil i pon sejenis mata duitan and siap ngamuk masa awal2 kami kawen. Sampai skg kami xbole holiday semua. Tapi kami pergi je senyap2 sebab laki iols cakap iols n anak2 tanggungjwb dia. Dia nak kami semua happy. Dia bo layan je permintaan merepek mak dia macam kami xbole holiday semua tu. Yang wajib dia buat la macam teman g spital ke.
So bf uols kene kuat ok kalau syg each other. Jgn give up! Lelaki baik susah cari so jangan lepaskn. Persetankan family dia!
Semoga berbahagia! |
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SuriNate replied at 21-1-2019 04:16 PM
Dah banyak kali bincang dengan partner pasal stuff ya boleh discuss dengan parents and yang boleh ...
I really pro on privacy, sekecik2 benda pun i tak suka apatah lagi hal2 financials etc
Draw the line... |
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Post time 21-1-2019 06:04 PM
