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Wow....ur words really did touched me alot
Thanks for being my faithful reader
Yes...the best way to share is based on our own experiences...of coz I like it when everyone is happy in their own relationship...then there will be less sorrow, less breakups and the word love is truly something that everyone likes
I wish u all the best in your own relationship as well
Thanks again
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Thanks winson. I do hope and pray one day ill meet with my other half.
Still searching and looking. Hehe. Reading your stories help me believe and inspire, there's always hope in love and happyness when at times, i felt hopeless about it.
Keep the motivation alive and maybe we cud coffee2 some other time? Eh? Hahah |
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Hope is always there on meetingnthe right one
I am also hoping to meet my new half as well.
Yes, coffee will be great, I stay in PJ, do PM me yah....I believe there are much more things that I can share about life and love
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Part 4
This part is about long distance relationship.
I used to tell everyone that if you have a choice, dont go for LDR. But unfortunately, love knows no state or country. When you fall in love, you fall in love. And sometimes even if the relationship started as near distance, circumstances and things changes, for example, for work or studies, etc. Do we have a choice? Well, yes and no.....but if u love that person enough, then we have to make it happen. But its never a one person's effort, it needs both to commit to it.
When I know my ex, she was in NZ studying and we met in a forum. Then after a while we fell in love. I had to make it happen. If u love that person enough, you had to sacrifice. And it was great coz both of us make the effort. And when she have a long break she will come back and we spend time together as much as possible. That was how we manage to make the relation last for 22 months.
What we did in a LDR? I make it a point to whatsapp her daily to chat with her, to find put about her daily life and if she has eaten, etc. Then we would have a video skype call maybe 2-3 times if possible in a week. This is important as you can see each other and talk face to face. Constant communication is necessary if you want to make a LDR work. And if either one is busy, we set another time for the video call. We need to use modern technology to our advantage. Both have to make the time.
Trust-this may be the most hardest thing to do coz we do not know what each other is really doing when we are not chatting with each other. But to be suspicious will be like killing urself daily. Alot of times, partners do not trust each other and becoz of that, a good relationship may be broken just becoz of trust. So what do we do? We do not have a choice actually. All we can and need to do is to have faith and put 100% trust. I would say its better than to be suspicious at all times. Women especially tends to think 10001 things in their mind, even if most of it does not exist and never did happen. And what happens? Unecessary arguments arises, stress for nothing and relationship breaks. Is that worth it?
So rather than that, its better to live a happy life by having full trust and we can chat happily at all times. Well, we did had that and it was great. But there are times that she thinks too much that I will leave her one day when it didnt even cross my mind. So time and time again I have to remind her that I will never ever leave her and to give that assurance. Girls being girls being emotional being, they cant stop but to think too much coz the heart controls it....so what did my ex did this year? She tried to block away the love for me coz she was scared I will leave her one day. By doing that, she thought that she will not be hurt so much. As you all know, if u keep doing that, it will become a habit and eventually the feeling of love will be lost. So something based on assumption and non existent becomes a reality. So I ask you all again, was it worth it? A beautiful relationship and love and being with a great man is all lost due to senseless thoughts.
So I advice those in a LDR, especially the women to not do the same mistakes that she had done to me. Why would u want to throw away a good man based on senseless thoughts...things that was never true in the first place.
Love letters or good words- I have covered this before. Men and women needs assurance that their partner still loves them. As old school as it may sound, it still works. But of course it may not be easy to write. That is why once u know how to write from the heart and not from the mind, then it will be easy. Do you know how touch I am when she surprises me with an email love letter. Even when she was together with me here, she will sometimes types the love letter in my notepad but didnt tell me. And somehow I then find out and was definately super happy. These are the little things that goes a long way.
For those that has not tried that, then great. Try to do it and you would probably get back or strenghten the love for each other. Again I stressed this.....men and women are emotional being. Touch the heart always and your love is won. It is that easy, not science |
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aku takde pun kata yg by being atheist tu maknanya being inhumane..
aku tanya sebab nak mengenali your way of thinking as an atheist.. sbb tu la aku tanya pasal moral code tu..
ape2 pun, keep posting ya.. tulisan ko menarik utk dibaca..
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Thank you for ur support ye and am glad u like it...
Well...moral code tu depends...it comes down to the person itself..how he was brought up and the environment....
For me im simple....being a love kaunselor means I do have the heart for others...so my moral is that treat others nicely and as friends...till he/she betrays it....
Even my ex did actually betrays me and cheated on me a few times..but time and time again I do forgive her becoz I know we are but humans..we follow our heart....and thus she is still young
So atheist or religious, it does not make a difference...its jst how that person is with life..how he sees it..how he acts on life
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winsonyu replied at 25-8-2016 02:06 AM
Part 4
This part is about long distance relationship.
well said bro..but the other side should assure that he will do the same. when we as girls put our trust on a guy, pls make us confidence on you.action speaks louder than words. |
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Well....many a times what we can control is ourselves....but we can never control someone else's actions...but we can communicate with that person of what we want in the relationship.....and when i say communicate, i mean discuss, say it out and not expecting the other person to know automatically
thats why i keep telling my ex every time..speak whats in ur heart..tell me whats inside. let me understand u clearly and fully.
but in the end, girls being girls, they think so much and keep everything inside
so yeah...I cant control that. though I have done my best and everything, it still happened....but then if i dont do my part at all, then the relationship may end even sooner
so hope u understand what Im trying to say yah...everything that is out of our control is beyong our control.....but what we do that counts
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winsonyu replied at 25-8-2016 01:34 PM
Well....many a times what we can control is ourselves....but we can never control someone else's a ...
i got you bro.actually my previous comment is referred to my past experience.;))) ..becoz of him, i learnt valuable lessons in relationship. |
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Oic...thats good...u manage to learn something so that u can be better for the next one...but hopefully u will not compare but take the next one whole heartedly...once our heart is kind and sincere its just a matter of time we find the next one...coz we are pure in our feelings
I learnt tremendous alot from the past experiences with her...and I do thank her alot too that I can now share so much to others to help them too...and she has also help me to become what I am
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winsonyu replied at 24-8-2016 10:56 AM
For u mestilah tak best coz ure having a good marriange with less arguments and know how to commun ...
When come to love... we r blind... bcoz love is blind.. very difficult to cope our emotion... thinking too much about.. |
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I got this sentence from the star online newspaper this morning
"When you are blinded by emotions, you make mistakes"
This is so so true and it confirms what I have explained....so love is not blind anymore....it is us who are blinded by emotions
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Edited by seeriesagain at 27-8-2016 04:49 AM
It is hard to be in long distance relationship... if i have a choice, i rather not...
mcm jauh sgt jer bunyinya... hahaha
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Hahahhaa...well, that was exactly what I said before
But when emotions come and u fall in love...its not a choice anymore..and u cant control that
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Interesting sharing winson 
Yes..I agree with this --> "The problem that most man faced is when women always keep to themselves and very seldom able to express what they really feel inside"
Several women suka pendam, termasuk la I..heehee 
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good advice winson..
I always overthinking during my last relationship since he did not make any effort to make our relationship better..so we break up..maybe i should not be in long distance relationship anymore..two times already not for the third times after this..  |
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Thanks for the comment girl..
And yeah...women end up always saying...guys really can understand women...how can we when women keep to themselves
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Well girl...like I said...u will never know, sometimes unexpected and maybe NDR beecomes LDRBut yeah...given a chance I would try not to have long distance also,coz it like got but dont have
Wheres the fun in that when I cant cuddle that person to sleep every night and shower her with love everyday
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Hi Semua,
Kepada sesiapa yg memerlukan sebarang nasihat, dipersilakan post kat sini supaya dapat dijawab ya
Winson
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Post time 24-8-2016 09:50 PM
