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Kehidupan ibu tunggal beranak kecil.. Susah ke?
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caritegar replied at 4-8-2017 04:11 PM
Yelah....i fikir terlampau jauh...momeng patut i enjoy or survive ialab sekarang..jauh pulak i fik ...
The best revenge is to show you can go through this and rise up even stronger. Janji pada diri sendiri. Takyah risau jauh2 nanti ada lah solution yg akan datang satu satu.  |
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Edited by Haliho at 4-8-2017 04:37 PM
caritegar replied at 4-8-2017 04:17 PM
I belum bcerai...ai sama mcm u.. Tersepit dengan perkahwinan ni.. Dia ni kadang ok kadang x.. Ni s ...
I read your other post. Dunno lah kalau you boleh terima lelaki macam ni balik bila dia buat drama swasta. Cuba kalau you yg buat lakhnat agak2 dia boleh maafkan tak? jgn ditanya apa dia nak... jantan ni kalau boleh dia nak semua... betina tu dia nak... you ngan anak pon nak. Tanya diri you... apa yg you nak? Maafkan dan hidup sama atau tinggalkan. Both ada sakitnya, cuma mana satu yg boleh you terima.
Anyway kalau dia tak mau ceraikan, mohon cerai fasakh. Dunno mana you nikah kalau kat Selangor (kalau tak silaplah) atas sebab2 tertentu isteri boleh ceraikan dan bayar seringgit. So better you prepare kalau ada kemungkinan kena go through cara ni. |
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Post time 4-8-2017 04:32 PM
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adila39 replied at 4-8-2017 04:14 PM
hello to you back.
Tinggal anak depan pintu while u change clothes, still it is not a wise way ...
Of course im being defensive when u were saying things that i didnt do.. I bawak anak ai masuk dlm fitting room ok.. Stroller yg tinggal depan pintu... I belum gila dan bodoh tinggal anak depan pintu.. My gosh where is your brain??
And lonely i mean is about not having social life with friends or having someone to talk to about everything..kalau cakap dgn baby 9months, apa je boleh jawab, of course bababa, mamamama je... .omaigosh... Why your lonely is revolve around not having a guy in life??? U jenis xboleh hidup tanpa lelaki ke?? What a shallow definition of lonely...
And maybe im a weak mom.. I never said that im a good mom.. But i strive my very best, to give the best for my baby... Kalau i xde usaha, very very weak, i hantar je anak blk kg and hidup sendiri... That is a much easier option.. Tp i didnt.. Sebab i nak jaga anak sendiri.. Walaupun i rasa sgt kelam kabut, tp i still nak jaga... Maybe i xberapa capable now...
Do me a favour, just read properly before commenting |
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Post time 4-8-2017 04:33 PM
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sara_thrash replied at 4-8-2017 04:17 PM
ada sebabnya i taye u kerja atau tidak.. buat sementara u tak bekerja ni spend lah time dgn anak p ...
Itulah td ada someone suggest amik cuti weekdays.. Something i x terfikir pon... Hehehe.. A very good idea to me.. |
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do me a favour too, stop posting if you cant digest any harsh comments.
oh by the way, you are being denial, that is mainly ur issue u cant being alone. Dont you know the best therapist is talking to your baby and look at how she/he smiled with babababmamama..what else is better than that.
You are just being to manja with your life.
Gurl..wake up okeh.
Cheers!
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adila39 replied at 4-8-2017 04:39 PM
do me a favour too, stop posting if you cant digest any harsh comments.
oh by the way, you are ...
Wow, kalau ye pon takyah le kasar sgt. Tak pernah diajar ke... if you've nothing nice to say better not say nothing at all.
Mengeluh, luah perasan, nangis semua tu sign of weakness ke?... choi...
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Anyway TT my apology maybe im being to judgemental, as i am very sensetive bila i sense like taking care a child is a burden. Why a similar cases among our close friends. She abandoned the child becos xboleh lead life alone.
Start with simple gosh and complaining herether and end up anak beliau meninggal demam panas..reason dia lambat bawak ke hospital.
I just wish you best of luck, start your day with bismillah and dont worry Allah is there for you.
The only thing that maybe what you need, if you feel like talking to someone, start with your own baby....try this method infact you akan lebih bersemangat
Sometime, sharing storys with friends or hang outs and so on ..wont change the fact that...what matter most is how you deal with your issue...others may comfort you and yes, spending sometime on your own, have your own quality time. But your feeling will still come and go.
Ive done that, even i pun worst than you dulu, i rebel and clubbing..almost i lupa i anak anak kecil, alhamdulillah i sedar and change since then..kadang kadang kan sis, bila hati kita so messed up..or rasa bosan or rasa nak meletop...u kena paused, and tell urself u can handle this and be better.
Everything is in our mind.
Ps: dont take it personal, afteral ni pun virtual life. Have a good life ya
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jap = kenal pasti u nyer social support - friends, immediate family yg positive? or individu yg you kenal , tahu , kekwan yg memahami situasi you?
masa pi keje - anak tinggal dengab siapa , eh risau pulak i ?
babysitter boleh dipercayai ke ? in your caselah?
kena ada juga respite relief in your case - in laws wujud ke macam mane ke or you think memmang tak nak ada apa apa relationship dengan depa?
u know - being single mom ni - yg i tengok cabarannya ialah support dalam logistics.
kalau ada siblings yg you percaya , safe and selamat okay...
9 bulan tu...
okay jap ade set set parents playgroup tak?
yg dipercayai, berkualiti selamat and all that lah?
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caritegar replied at 4-8-2017 04:17 PM
I belum bcerai...ai sama mcm u.. Tersepit dengan perkahwinan ni.. Dia ni kadang ok kadang x.. Ni s ...
See its not as easy as what people say |
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tak payah le nak hentam TT ni...
kita boleh bagi pendapat je...TT gak yang kena lalui nya.. |
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xtau nak komen,
siannya kehidupan wanita..
bertabah la ibu2 sekalian..Allah sayang semua, setiap yg berlaku ada hikmahnya |
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Edited by doubleA at 4-8-2017 08:07 PM
First and foremost, enjoy your time dengan anak dulu. Whatever activities pun as for now memang kena fikirkan anak. Sabarlah tunggu anak besar sikit boleh la register gym bagai tu. So try to take it positively. Ada hikmah sebalik ketentuan. Allah uji sebab Allah sayang you. Dan kekuatan juga dari Tuhan. Back to Him |
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caritegar replied at 4-8-2017 03:58 PM
Yelah... Dia la sumber kekuatan i.. Kadang bila i sedih kenangkan marriage yg suck ni, hilang sed ...
Sis anak baby boy ker girl? |
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adila39 replied at 4-8-2017 04:39 PM
do me a favour too, stop posting if you cant digest any harsh comments.
oh by the way, you are ...
Poyonya... blergh.. |
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be strong tt..i can feel it even i never experienced it coz im single,tapi family member ada lalui fasa macam tt.setiap sesuatu ada hikmah nya.janji Allah itu pasti. |
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Once you have a baby, it takes over your whole life. The baby comes first, above everything else.
Mzz masih ada husband, but i rarely get me time and dating time dgn husband. So now and then mzz akan ambil cuti from work and lepak..either dating or have some me time. I cannot go to the gym, so i download fitness videos off the internet and workout lepas baby dah tidur.
Mzz bersosial during work hours..after 5pm all i want to do is go home to my baby. After workout, mandi, solat isya..i settle into bed and read a book then go to sleep. I do get bored but i let my imagination do all the happy things i don't get to do irl.
It's a state of mind..you choose how you make do with what you have. All the best tt. Remember, bila anak dah besar nnt..baru then we will experience true loneliness.. |
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Tt.. u mcm i.. i pun kena ada me time. Memang kita syg anak and nak bg the best utk dia. Bg i me time tu bkn nak jd remaja balik..or nak enjoy tp time tu sbenarnya nak introspect diri. See things in a bigger picture.
Ada org dia introspect diri dia dgn duk sorang2, diam2 takde org kacau. Tp i lain.. i akan jumpa family, lepak n g karok.. so every person yg i jumpa tu i akan observe mcm mana dia handle certain things. Mana yg baik kita apply. Mana yg x baik, i vow to myself x nak jd mcm dia (dlm hati).
Kwn2 kita boleh pilih.. tp family members tak boleh.. so kita kena amik iktibar dr keliling kita.
I memang observant. This is my learning style.
Kalau u rasa me time tu penting supaya u x overwhelmed atau jd stress, go ahead. But make sure u leave ur child in good hands. I dpt me time 2 jam je sometimes but lps tu i akan jd rindu sgt dengan anak2 i.. mcm 2 hari x jumpa 
Kalau karoks dgn kwn2 dalam 3-4 bulan skali.. bg i ok je. X bertukar jd remaja pun |
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Semoga dipermudahkan segala nya TT |
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I ramai kawan yang jadi ibu tunggal
Even ade suami pun macam takde
Well mula2 memang susah
Sokay nanti lama2 u akan nampak rentak
Yang penting i perasan mostly kawan i ni kuat aktif tabah alert cepat and pandai manage something |
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i ada anak 2 org. 5yo ngn setahun lebih. husband dok jauh. urus sendri. so i rasa yg ni lg mcm2 nk pikir kn dr kalo anak seorang umur 9 bln. so i nasihatkan TT jgn risau sgt. insyaAllah xde apa2. and sentiasa fikir mcm mna nk include anak dlm setiap aktiviti kita. lama2 kita pun xkn rasa susah dh. mcm i, i gi shopping groceries ngn anak2, keluar2 jln2, even naik flight gi jmpe husband pun i gi sendri je ngn anak dua orang. key word dia jgn risau. buat persiapan elok2 selebihnya biar Allah permudahkan dan bantu kita.
Me time mmg sgt jarang. tp i jenis yg xkesah sgt dok umah je. ambik cuti time weekday tu betul. pergi beli apa yg patut time lunch tu pun betul. i slalu settle kan apa yg patut time lunch. tak makan kadang2. tapau roti je. sbb balik keje xnk lewat ambik anak. salah satu riadah i, i bawa anak2 tiap petang gi playground. anak2 happy dpt main kita pun dpt la borak2 jp ngn jiran. mlm2 i spend time ngn anak read story books etc before derang tido. so pelan2 u akan rasa 24/7 tu kejap je tiba2 anak dah besar. sembang ngn anak2 ni lg seronok sebenarnya. nnt anak u dah besar sikit i rasa u akan rasa ada kawan dah. stay strong TT.... |
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