he is still with you cuz he doesnt want to hurt you

shahiela · Post time 25-9-2008 10:21 AM

"dia x sampai ati nk ckp kat awak sbb awak nangis. dia x nak teruskan & terima awak atas dasar kesian" ---> nie kata2 dr kawan saya yg berjaya ckp dgn bf saya (yg saya kapel 2 tahun), setelah seminggu bf saya diamkan diri.

mana lebih lucky, awak dgr dengar telinga sendiri atau dr kawan awak?

bg saya, saya lebih rela dgr dgn telinga saya sendiri n terus sampai ke hati utk buat peringatan yg die sudah x sayangkan saya lg. tapi sampai skrg (1 bulan) die masih x lafazkan kat telinga sy.

so saya just let's him go. walaupun hati mmg remuk x hingat, saya lepaskan jugak. dulu dia dtg ke saya dgn cara baik2, n suruh try utk sayang die, tp skrg die pergi dgn cara yg paling x disangka - mendiamkan diri.

jgn buat diri awak lebih terseksa.. x perlu tunggu.. lepaskan la...

** mcm tu ke lelaki (sesetengah) bila nk putus? kesian tp x nak ckp? bukankah lagi kesian buat org lagi tertunggu-tunggu @ tertanya2?

** kadang2 x perlu la nk reka segala alasan. just ckp "saya dh x sayangkan awak" tuh pun dh cukup dr tipu @ diamkan diri.

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akazukin_ryu · Post time 25-9-2008 10:58 AM

i hv the same prob..my bf ask for break off..but i yg xnak bcos i noe dia dh putus asa sbb before this everytime i gaduh dgn dia,i slalu ckp pasal break off(actually mulut jer ckp..hati syg giler..tht's y kuasa talak bkn pd perempn)..i thought i boleh survive without him around but i was wrong..tht time i realize tht i need him in my life..he has all the qualities tht i need as bf as well as husband..

but the prob is ada other gal in his life..they r about to develop feeling to each other..so i said to myself i cannot afford to lose him so i try my very best to win him back..i noe he still luvs me but he just xnak terus sakit hati everytime kami gaduh..

rite now i;m in prosses to ngorat him back,win his heart back..betulkan my mistakes dan jadi mcm dulu(jd mcm masa mula2 couple..)
and he said tht i;m better tht before and dia xkan minta breakoff llg..

setiap org ada salah n dlm hal ni i lg byk salah dr dia so i try to fix it up..and alhamdullilah it works..

but kena bersabar..hasilnya dh nampak tapi sikit demi sikit..
needs time to heel every wound...

i hope tht he will accept me just like before..bukan sbb kesian..

lelaki ni mmg perlukan perhatian sentiasa..and he's is one of tht type..so all i hv to do is win his heart back

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shahiela · Post time 25-9-2008 11:23 AM

mungkin kah, sy dlm kategori give up?

adakah sy terima reality bulat2 je yg die x sayangkan saya setelah call sy x diangkat, msg saya x direply?

donkeylady · Post time 25-9-2008 11:23 AM

heee. thanks guys. for the comments and advise. really appreciate ALL of them.
i guess i will be meeting him either tonite or tommorow.
will update u guys on the progress!

pavlova · Post time 25-9-2008 11:25 AM

wish u all the best!

pk dengan otak bkn dgn hati tau..

akazukin_ryu · Post time 25-9-2008 11:32 AM

Originally posted by shahiela at 25-9-2008 11:23 AM
mungkin kah, sy dlm kategori give up?

adakah sy terima reality bulat2 je yg die x sayangkan saya setelah call sy x diangkat, msg saya x direply?

tak salah mencuba..i dgn xbf i pun mcm tu dulu..i cal dia xangakat tak msg..skrg bila i dh happy dgn my bf diaa dtg merayu2 balik..
if u r the best then he/she will come back to u..

but in my case wif my current bf..i just can't let him go.

.cos i noe he's the best eventho dia ada kekurangan..well..not everyone is perfect

yaminz · Post time 25-9-2008 11:51 AM

Hi awk... Da balik da erk...

hitamputih · Post time 25-9-2008 11:51 AM

Originally posted by akazukin_ryu at 25-9-2008 11:32 AM

tak salah mencuba..i dgn xbf i pun mcm tu dulu..i cal dia xangakat tak msg..skrg bila i dh happy dgn my bf diaa dtg merayu2 balik..
if u r the best then he/she will come back to u..

but ...

yeah agree........terima dia seadanya.

shahiela · Post time 25-9-2008 11:54 AM

actualy, saya dh bace kisah awak dulu..

then lepas tuh bersemangat la nk utk cuba contek.
ditakdirkan Allah, pagi selepas solat subuh die angkat tepon. saya ape lagi, ajak la berbukak pose. tp time tuh die bz x leh nk jawab. sy pun kata jgn lupa msg. abih je call tuh, sy nangis sbb sy baru seda yg sy rindukan die...

pastuh sy msg die, x balas. pastuh saya call die x angkat.

so bg saya- tuh la usaha yg sy boleh buat.

sejak dia diam, saya x msg n call byk2 kali. boleh dikire dgn jari dlm sebulan nie.

mungkin lepas raya nie sy akan cube lg.. tapi dlm hati nie, sy dh boleh lepaskan die pergi walaupun tanpa alasan sekalipun...

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donkeylady · Post time 25-9-2008 11:57 AM

sedeyynyaa..

[ Last edited by donkeylady at 25-9-2008 11:58 AM ]

akazukin_ryu · Post time 25-9-2008 12:05 PM

Originally posted by yaminz at 25-9-2008 11:51 AM
Hi awk... Da balik da erk...

haah back to normal as things getting better..our relationship is more stable than before.just give him summore time utk dia betul2 bersedia..
i hope things will be all fine

akazukin_ryu · Post time 25-9-2008 12:07 PM

sy tumpang simpati..hanya boleh ckp may the happiness always be wif u

akazukin_ryu · Post time 25-9-2008 12:09 PM

Originally posted by hitamputih at 25-9-2008 11:51 AM

yeah agree........terima dia seadanya.

yup sbb i pikir takleh salahkan dia 100%..i pun ada salah gak..so sama2 perbaiki kesalahan masing dan hoping for the best

polaris_girlz · Post time 25-9-2008 01:01 PM

Originally posted by shahiela at 25-9-2008 11:23 AM
mungkin kah, sy dlm kategori give up?

adakah sy terima reality bulat2 je yg die x sayangkan saya setelah call sy x diangkat, msg saya x direply?

kes ko lebih kurang cam aku...3tahun yg lepas...
masa jumpa sume elok je..mmg lah bahgia...
tp bila masing2 di destinasi masing, jadi lain....dia senyap jek...
call susah nak angkat, sms xreply.....ada tu aku call sampai kol 1pg...
tp xde pon angkat.....rs sedih sgt
Adakah aku happy dgn situasi camtu.....
Tp dlm pada tu aku cuba berusaha sedaya yg mampu...
dekat setengah tahun aku mencuba & bersabar.....satu tempoh yg lama pd aku :kant:
Last2 aku amik keputusan tuk berpisah jer....

polaris_girlz · Post time 25-9-2008 01:13 PM

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sampai satu tahap...abis sume tips pola geledehhh nk baca...
supaya pola paham prasaan org laki....
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tp takat mana je mampu tahan

olaoli · Post time 25-9-2008 01:46 PM

Originally posted by hitamputih at 25-9-2008 09:57 AM

hehehe thanks for commenting back, its a joke laa dear
but for the sake of entertainment, i reply balik juga yer
*original text in normal
*your post in bold
*my post in blue

The Man ...

hahahha..bet u squeeze ur thoughts out to reply mine eh?hahaha.hitamputih..kite main main jugak ni.saje je..mcm kelakar lak rules nye.tuh yg syiok balas.ahhahah..
pasal my story tuh, ntahla.mcm nak bury the hatchet je..but this girl's situation mcm i jugak la.u knew it too kan hitamputih.u were there when this happened, dekat benang tu.

anyway, just remember this..mcm ada sorang forumner tuh say, what cant kill me only make me tougher!

hitamputih · Post time 25-9-2008 02:13 PM

yups i am there, but tuan umah tak pasan kut, maybe u can show her around?

hehe seperti biasa , just suka suka.....ada lagi nak paste tp panjang sgt

to tuan umah, and all yg dtg, i would like to cadangkan buku "men from mars, women from venus " , i pun learn a lot from the book. kadang2 menda yg kita pikir is actually sgt berlawanan bila pasangan kita pikir.........

hitamputih · Post time 25-9-2008 02:14 PM

betul, cinta ni patut usahakan sehingga kita mampu, bila kita dah tak mampu, pergi, dan cari yg baru. make a limit, sampai berapa lama, sampai setakat mana

olaoli · Post time 25-9-2008 02:26 PM

Originally posted by hitamputih at 25-9-2008 02:14 PM
betul, cinta ni patut usahakan sehingga kita mampu, bila kita dah tak mampu, pergi, dan cari yg baru. make a limit, sampai berapa lama, sampai setakat mana

lagi satu..u need to date a lot of volkswagens before u can get to your porshe.ahhaha..

olaoli · Post time 25-9-2008 02:28 PM

Originally posted by hitamputih at 25-9-2008 02:13 PM
yups i am there, but tuan umah tak pasan kut, maybe u can show her around?

hehe seperti biasa , just suka suka.....ada lagi nak paste tp panjang sgt

to tuan umah, and all yg dtg, i would ...

hitamputih ni memberi nasihat dari pihak lelaki ke pempuan?