Patut mengejar atau patut berhenti berlari?

Knowlee

dear thisgirl,

let me tell you something. from your story, it seems like you don't love yourself. start to love yourself by ignoring that stupid guy. he's just disrespecting you, my dear. guy who doesn't respect women is not worthy to be your partner.

i recommend you to read "Why Men Love Bitches?" and "Why Men Marry Bitches?" by Sherry Argov. read both of them, then you will have a lot of (i mean, A LOT) 'ohhh' moment. believe me.

let the idiot f**k off. he doesn't deserve you. don't confront him or whatsoever. if you meet him in another project, do whatever he is doing to you. he ignores you? you ignore him back. he doesn't talk to you? don't ever talk to him.

don't be so weak. we are not in the 60s. this is 21st century. women should change their way of thinking.

Knowlee

and oh, one more thing...

don't chase any guy. let them chase you. how to make them chase you? read those books i recommended to you.

cik.linot

rasenya 9 bln 1 tempoh yg lama tuk dia dpt kenali TT... kalo dia rase sesuai tentu dia akan troskan usaha mengejar takpon mintak declare... tp kalo pas 9 bln tu menjauhkan diri maknanya dia dh xmo la tu... ke ko ade wat salah pape? or ade org wat fitnah ko dh ade boifren

lg 1 umo dia pon dh 30 kan... so x rase dia nk main2kan ko.. cuma dia nk cari yg btol2 tuk wat bini... kalo dia dh stabil la...

pompuan ni ade 1 peel... slagi org laki x ckp dh xmo... slagi tu la pala dia duk pusing nk tau nape dh berubah... slagi tu la rase still ade harapan...

masa dlm meeting dia ade curik2 pandang ko tak???

thisgirl

adoii, berlubang2 hati saya korg tembak reramai..hehe..tak aci laa takde sape pon kate may be dia comitment phobic ke, may be dia rasa sy deserve better ke..

thisgirl

lelaki memg mcm tu la beb, suker wat kite rase syok sendrik, then let go.. leh krane dier dh wat cam ...
plainjane Post at 29-4-2012 20:44

mungkin laki mmg camtu, xde keje buang duit dan masa dan tenaga layan ppuan pastu pegi men jauh2.. saya mmg dalam proses 'i dont know you'.. semoga saya berjaya pandang ke mata dia, and say who are you, again?

thisgirl

Reply  thisgirl


    TT..dun foget  to let we know bout respon from him after u cnfort him..pli ...
R.A.M.A_mirror Post at 30-4-2012 00:05

saya pon tak paham kenapa lagi2 bila dua2 da cukop tua bangka untuk main tarik tali ni puas hati kot dapat buat cmtu?

thisgirl

Reply  thisgirl

dia dah ada awek lain.
FreeMen Post at 30-4-2012 09:16

semoga dia bahagia

thisgirl

wat bodo jerlah. dah org buang kite camtu, xknla kite plak nk tehegeh2 kt die.
lgpn die xpnh bg sta ...
sitifarishah Post at 30-4-2012 10:45

kalo cmtu cara dia layan BFF, baik nyer la dia.. hehe.. jokes aside, baiklah, saya mmg xmo thegeh2 pada dia.

thisgirl

If you love someone, let him go.
If he ever come back, he's yours forever
If not, he's not yours  ...
Megahertz Post at 30-4-2012 11:21

love is like flying a kiteu hold it too tightly, it will come down
u let it go too freely, it will be gone..

thisgirl

Reply  thisgirl


    aku rasa memula memang dia ala2 brminat ngan kau
Then dia hilang minat
M ...
solstice Post at 30-4-2012 12:55

der, wa tak campor hal keje n personal.. wa mula2 as clean as white sheet.. hehehe.. tapi tu lah, bila da terbang melayang, luper diri kejap.
ok, kesimpulannya, lelaki mmg species test water.. da tkde kejee agaknya..

thisgirl

dear thisgirl,

let me tell you something. from your story, it seems like you don't love yourself. ...
Knowlee Post at 30-4-2012 16:24

you know what, i have both books in my hands right now .. first few pages, i was already laughing like mad (it captured him (or rather my stupidity) perfectly.. thank you for recommending both books..  i'll stop being a doormat

pray for me

bunga_lestari

entah2 dia tu suami org kot..biasanya suami org ni mmg pndai treat perempuan..
bila dia dh dpt respon/layanan yg baik, dia cipta alasan kata kita dh minat dia la,apalaa,tu yg dia layan ala kadar je..padahal, dh kawin kan..

sure yg dia bujang? penah x konfemkan status dia? time tdo,xpenah sms,mgkn time yu berdua sms,dia byk peduli kat henpon drpd anak bini dia,tp beralasan kat bini,urusan keje..bila dh tido,peluk bini, xkn nk sms lg..

so,hati2laa dgn laki spesis gini..
klu dia x kawin lg pon,dia mmg xnk serius pn dgn tt sbnrnyer..
so just let time heal the wound..
bru 9bln kwn dgn dia,lama2 blh lupa laa tu..
bukan jadik suami pon kot nk meroyan klu jadik gitu..
klu dh jdik suami,haruslaa..

so,istikharah n solat hajat,mntk supaya Tuhan bukakkan pintu hati dan beri petunjuk terbaik utk tt..kita merancang, Allah jgk merancang, pastinya perancangan Allah adalah yg terbaik..

~mcm2 spesis laki dh jmpa,so dah tau sikit sbyk rentak/cara diorg ni, berdasarkan pengalaman..huhu..tp x perlulah sya nk share pglman sya kot kan..heheh..

R.A.M.A_mirror

Reply 41# Knowlee


    ooo... two thumbs up !!!
    ur coment was awesome !!!
   oo..one thing...why do not u share wif us bout de best quotes from de books ???
   i,m intrested wif it laaa..huhu..

   #nak beli xmampu..nk search malas..haha.. (hope u dont mind.. )

thisgirl

entah2 dia tu suami org kot..biasanya suami org ni mmg pndai treat perempuan..
bila dia dh dpt resp ...
bunga_lestari Post at 1-5-2012 00:37

hi bunga_lestari
at this point, anything is possible. but insyallah, suami org boleh di rule out kan. kitorg keje satu opis, words travel much faster that you can tie a shoe lace.. tak text time tido tu, mm may be sbb dua2 da tua kot, jadi tido adelah nikmat idup yang tak mungkin dilepaskan and berdasarkan observation sy bila lepak ngn dia dan kawan2, serta respond kawan2 dia kat fb, mmg dia single.. but who knows kan?

yup, 9 bulan tak lama, and hopefully saya pon boleh move on dengan cepat.. mungkin Allah tolong dengan letak kami dlm meeting room selalu, supaya cepat sikit baik luka di hati.. bila slalu nampak dia buat muka tak kenal, hati jadi geram dan lg bersemangat nak buat2 tak kenal jugak.. cuma geram nak tahu kenapa dia decided utk pegi?

saya akan terus berdoa semoga yg terbaik utk saya akan muncul . doakan saya jugak yer

thisgirl

Reply 53# R.A.M.A_mirror

nanti saya share sambil2 saya bace tu ok?

thisgirl

masa dan keadaan boleh ubah segala2 nya..kalau x pandai control masa yg ada....mungkin peluang tu x  ...
STONER Post at 1-5-2012 01:37

kalau dia datang semula, saya rasa saya tau jawapan saya.. cuma adekah patut mengejar dia tu yg saya tak pasti

lipso

Dalam masa9 bulan rapat tu, he did a lot of things that lead me to think that diaberminat. Dia berusaha jd org 1st utk wish birthday saya, dia hantarflower bouquet kat office, dia kenalkan saya kat bestfrens dia, bawak balik kampongdia, mana2 dia outstation mmg akan ade ole2 utk saya..

cenggini uols ckp x derk pape? ..dh mmg ptt la klu TT nk perasan pn!
laki ni kengkdg ego jer yg lebey ..hati 2 nk jerk sbnrnya ..
klu TT x nmpk lg mamat ni type yg haprak x taw la iols ..
mmg x ley wat laki ..time nk dia dtg ..time x nk dia pegi
time suka tatang umpama minyak bagai ..time x suka campak cam sampah sesuka hati ..
siap persalahkan TT lg 2

dia kata saya terlalu byk berpikir dan assume bukan2...lebihbaik dia diamkan diri..

dasat tol la mamat nih!
x yah nk pk pape lg la TT ..dia mmg dh x suka lu ..mayb dia dh tersuka dkt owg len plak ..

bunga_lestari

Reply 55# thisgirl


   ok,mgkn jgk dia msih bujang, tp pndpt sya,tlglah jangan merendahkan maruah kita sbg seorg wanitasemata2 krn seorg lelaki mcmtu..

knp? sbb dia yg buat hal..klu kita buat hal pastu nk dptkan blik ksih syg dia,itu mgkn jgk boleh dipertimbangkan klu
kita cuba utk merayu bagai..tp situasi skrg ialah,dia yg buat hal..

just move on n carik lain sajer..x perlu tya dia knp..sya boleh katakan, smada dia lgsg x layan awk
atau awk akan dpt blsan yg mengecewakan spt dia kata "sya anggap awk x lebih drpd seorg kwn, tp bila awk dh berlebih2 sya dh rsa x selesa.." atau jwpn yg sma spt yg dia dh bgtau kat awk sblm ni..

bila mcmtu nanti siapa yg malu? awk jgk..yesss, dia mmg layan awk like a princess, klu sya pon blh jatuh chenta jgk..
tp, mgkn dia cuma nak main2kan awk aje, atau org kata test market..

sya penah kapel dgn mamat spesis gini, 3 thn..thn pertama n kedua,ok..msuk thn ke3, dia boleh x agkt fon calls/reply sms..
bila terserempak, buat2 x kenal n sebolehnyer cba elak/lari drpd sya..

of kos i need some explanation why..why..and why..tp lama2 makin sya kejar dia,makin jauh plk dia lari..sya sndiri
pn penat dan move on tnpa sya ketahui apa sebabnya..now, klu ditakdirkan sya berjmpa dgn dia,nk sajer sya tunjukkan pd dia yg sya bahagia dengan hidup sya skrg..n sya x perlukan dia lgsg dlm idup sya..n pastinyer,sya dh xmau amik tau lg sebab knp dia tgglkan sya..redha dgn apa berlaku n yakin,sbnrnya ada hikmah yg sgt besar utk saya dari Allah SWT..

nasihat sya,jgn pedulikan dia..one fine day,biarkan dia pulak yg crik awk n terhegeh2,biarkan dia pulak rasa apa yg awk rsa skrg ni..msa tu,tgk dia menyesal atau x..itupun if only, dia nyesal/serius dgn awk tp main tarik tali..klu dia terus tgglkan awk n x cari2 awk lg,mknanya dia mmg betul2 xberminat dgn awk..msa tu,bru kta akan nmpk hikmahnya knp dia tidak layak utk kita..

FreeMen

let guy chase you? in what century are we now?

lol. well gudluck with all the guys chasing you btw, IF.

thisgirl

Reply 58# lipso


hi lipso..lewat tido?

tu lah, soal hati ni tak boleh nak jangka.. semalam bagi bunga, kot2 esok bangun pagi rasa nyampah plak kn..

dulu puas jugak pk, saya yg SS ke? tapi mmg rsnya tak kot.. after bace nasehat geng2 kat sini, i think i'll stick to "im innocent, u are the guilty one".. konon2, biar dia malu sendiri la for watever he did (kalo dia tau malu la) hehe..

saya mulakan operasi move on serta merta..