Unexpected hurdle in my relationship

salmon-suki

ipes2 replied at 6-10-2017 03:43 AM
bagus dah tu vegs yg dia mkn tu

hmm apa diagnosis nye..

Tu je sayur2 y die mampu makan..y lain xley makan,nanti die muntah..mmg dari dulu lg die xmkn sayur kcuali tauge,kubis,kangkung,pucuk paku je..tp sy suruh die mkn buah jgk,sebijik epal each day..

Ikutkan ape y die cakap kat saya,doktor bagitaw die y paru2 die membengkak dua2 belah,dan kire macam paru2 die dah xde fungsi pun..kalau bedah buang paru2 tu mesti bf sy ni akan mati..doc tu ckp mcm tu laa kt die..suggestion doc tu,utk dapatkn donor paru2 dan gantikan dgn paru2 y baru..dan jugak mkn gamat (kira alternatif method jelaa utk kurangkan luka atau apa2 y kat dlm bdn bf sy skrg ni)..

Dia ckp kat sy yang tiap 3hari die kena pegi hospital utk sedut ape ntah,kira rawatan utk paru2 tu jugak laa,nak bg senang die breathing...sy nak tolong die pun xtaw sbb sy bukan doktor,so sy cuma try cope and bertabah dgn situasi ni...kalau doctor ipes boleh bg apa2 suggestions,pandangan,pendapat,that'd be great..

noraidil_06

salmon-suki replied at 6-10-2017 03:17 PM
Tu je sayur2 y die mampu makan..y lain xley makan,nanti die muntah..mmg dari dulu lg die xmkn sayu ...

Paru2 blh buang ke sis?  Kalau jantung  yes blh replace. Kalau paru2 ade ke ganti.  Base on my own experience.once paru2 corrupted, gone case (pardon my language). My late son ade ade komplikasi paru2.

noraidil_06

ipes2 replied at 6-10-2017 03:43 AM
bagus dah tu vegs yg dia mkn tu

hmm apa diagnosis nye..

Ade eh lung transplant?  Doc ank i dulu ckp my son mmg x blh buat ape dah. I was willing  to bergolok-bergadai. But doc say dont.

salmon-suki

noraidil_06 replied at 6-10-2017 11:12 PM
Paru2 blh buang ke sis?  Kalau jantung  yes blh replace. Kalau paru2 ade ke ganti.  Base on my o ...

Urm,doc cakap cmtu kat die,sis..sy pun first time dgr transplant paru2,salu dgr jantung,hati...maybe sbb dlm family xde lg y sakit paru2,kalau sakit pun penyakit 3 serangkai,sakit usus,batu dlm hempedu tu ada laa..tu y sy buntu nk tlg die caner sbb family history xde sakit paru2..kalau ada ok sket at least taw nak handle camne...

Btw I'm sorry to hear about your son...sis mmg tabah..

mbhcsf

may i know , what kind of lung disease?
well, it is a tough situation and decision for you both.

tapi kalau apa apa pun , the best is to perform istikhorah and kalau rasa nak proceed then you probably need to be very strong in dealing with anticipated death associated with his lung condition ( i am curious to know apa ye sampai begitu ?), maksudnya you need to be emotionally and mentally prepared. so, at the end - u yg at the receiving end to accept everything kalau si dia dah tak der - so  tulah i think istikhoraj is the best.
dari aspek hukum kahwin pun ada wajib, haram, makruh etc. so , kalau ikut kemampuan memnbahagiakan dari segenap segi - you are okay - then , you istikhorah je. bebanyak kali.

- so far dah pergi jumpa pakar perubatan respiratory ke for second opinion ?

otherwise, then  - be a good supportive friend yang boleh menenangkan hatinya , dan support dia dari segi spiritual, emosi etc.

i dunno why tapi teringat trailers  or film ' me before you'.


i wish you well.

salmon-suki

mbhcsf replied at 7-10-2017 02:57 PM
may i know , what kind of lung disease?
well, it is a tough situation and decision for you both.

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Ikutkan apa y dia ckp kat sy, doc bgtaw paru2 die dua2 dah membengkak..and da mcm useless paru2 dia tu,x berfungsi..ikutkan doctor tu,die nak buang terus paru2 tu,tp nti mati pulak..cuma y ni je sy ley gtaw,based on apa y dia bgtaw sy..

Tulaa..sy still ngn dia,skrg pun da back to normal attitude..hehehe..sy abaikan the fact that he's not in a great health,layan die mcm biasa.. In sha Allah..

ipes2

salmon-suki replied at 6-10-2017 03:17 PM
Tu je sayur2 y die mampu makan..y lain xley makan,nanti die muntah..mmg dari dulu lg die xmkn sayu ...

awak ambil lah diagnosis nya.
ada namanya diagnosis itu.
bagi kereta, mekaniknya tahu mcm belakang tangan mereka bila kita kata ''karburator yg rosak''.
dia tahu beza bila ''fuel pump yg rosak'' atau ''piston yg rosak'' etc.

dapatkan nama diagnosis nya dan sy akan cuba jelaskan utk you

ipes2

noraidil_06 replied at 6-10-2017 11:19 PM
Ade eh lung transplant?  Doc ank i dulu ckp my son mmg x blh buat ape dah. I was willing  to bergo ...

ya ada dan kebanyakannya memerlukan heart-lung transplantation ie dua dua sekaligus
risky, dan perlu kepakaran yg sgt tingi
dan kena mkn ubat immunosuppressants utk halang badan pesakit dari reject organ organ org lain tu.
jika selumbar pun kita reject, nora tau tau lah apalagi organ sehebat lungs dan heart

son you? sorry to hear.
how is he now dan apa sakitnya?

noraidil_06

ipes2 replied at 30-10-2017 06:50 PM
ya ada dan kebanyakannya memerlukan heart-lung transplantation ie dua dua sekaligus
risky, dan pe ...

He is resting  now. 3 yrs ago. No more pain

ipes2

mbhcsf replied at 7-10-2017 02:57 PM
may i know , what kind of lung disease?
well, it is a tough situation and decision for you both.

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i pon curious mbhcsf
really want to know
apakah sakit ini yg perlu cari lung donor
if hanya kerana trauma accident beberapa tahun lalu, hmmm tak mungkin
sbb lungs kita ni dah la 2 belah, ada 5 lobes lagi
maksudnya, bdn memang dah buat agar lama dapat bertahan
rosak lobe yg tu, kita buang lobe yg tu

salmon-suki

ipes2 replied at 30-10-2017 06:47 PM
awak ambil lah diagnosis nya.
ada namanya diagnosis itu.
bagi kereta, mekaniknya tahu mcm belaka ...

In sha Allah,doc ipes..tp die ckp die kena g hospital utk "pump gas"...utk kurgkan sesak nafas die ckp..sy mmg xfhm ler..hehe

ipes2

noraidil_06 replied at 30-10-2017 06:51 PM
He is resting  now. 3 yrs ago. No more pain

innalillahi wa inna ilaihi rajiun

rogayahtop

kawin je. amik insurans. kalau menjanda pun dah ada insuran. and you know the gamat from house of healing tu dont work. better kawin dr menyesal x kawin.

pelik pulak bila baca doktor suggest gamat. lol.

salmon-suki

rogayahtop replied at 11-11-2017 04:19 AM
kawin je. amik insurans. kalau menjanda pun dah ada insuran. and you know the gamat from house of he ...

Tgh planning ni..tp skrg x sempat pk psl kawin lg,sbb masing2 tgh bz ngn keje..urm,baru ingat nk suh dia try y gamat house of healing tu,jumpa y gamat luxor tu,xsure menjadi ke x..

Sy pn konfius jgk,sbb jrg doc nk suh cari alt lain especially traditional punya,tp nk bt caner..dia pun awal2 dulu shock jgk,tu y ikhtiar mcm2 cara..siap nk g cari herbal supplements kt kedai ubat cina..hehe..

Hopefully,there's still some light laa..huhu

noraidil_06

salmon-suki replied at 11-11-2017 09:19 AM
Tgh planning ni..tp skrg x sempat pk psl kawin lg,sbb masing2 tgh bz ngn keje..urm,baru ingat nk s ...

Gamat luxor tu bagus. Dlm pantang akk amalkn

salmon-suki

noraidil_06 replied at 11-11-2017 01:35 PM
Gamat luxor tu bagus. Dlm pantang akk amalkn

Betul2 bagus ek kak?kalau bagus,and dah ada testimoni akak lak,nti sy usulkan kt dia..tengs kak!!~

Fimie

rogayahtop replied at 11-11-2017 04:19 AM
kawin je. amik insurans. kalau menjanda pun dah ada insuran. and you know the gamat from house of he ...

mana boleh senang2 ambil insurans.. sblm lulus insurans kan kena ada medical check up dulu.. sebarang penyakit yg ada masa check up tkkn dicover oleh insurans.. lps lulus insurans pun ada waiting period 4 bulan, sebarang sakit dalam 4 bulan ni takkan di cover...

noraidil_06

salmon-suki replied at 11-11-2017 01:54 PM
Betul2 bagus ek kak?kalau bagus,and dah ada testimoni akak lak,nti sy usulkan kt dia..tengs kak!!~

Ot works  for me at least.tp akk sihat dik. Cume makan utk luke2 berpantang

rogayahtop

Fimie replied at 11-11-2017 02:24 PM
mana boleh senang2 ambil insurans.. sblm lulus insurans kan kena ada medical check up dulu.. sebar ...

Depends on jenis insurance dan term insurance tu jugak. Kalau mcm manulife life insurance tu medical checkup pun boleh skip kalau fit profile yg diorang tetapkan.

ada pre existing condition pun bukan bermakna tak perlu ambik insurans. Kalau obese skrg ni pun diconsider medical condition tp org yg obese still boleh ambik life insurance. Tgk terms lah senang. lama dah diorang naikkan premium or reject yg obese2 nih.

https://www.thestar.com.my/news/nation/2013/11/17/insurance-industry-sees-obesity-as-medical-condition/

akak difahamkan kalau ada pre existing condition ni selalunya diorang akan nego dr segi jenis insurance, premium ,waiting period semua tu. takde la kalau arwah dlm 6 bulan dapat full mcmtu

kalau diornag reject semua yg ada existing condition kat malaysia ni mmg susah nak cari makan psl ramai yg melompat2.

rogayahtop

salmon-suki replied at 11-11-2017 09:19 AM
Tgh planning ni..tp skrg x sempat pk psl kawin lg,sbb masing2 tgh bz ngn keje..urm,baru ingat nk s ...

sabar je dik. jaga org sakit ni walaupun susah kita yg menjaga sampai kurus kering pun xpe. kalau ada ke takde rezeki kita nak teruskan hidup dgn dia, redha je lah. akak masa zaman belajar pun ada kawan yg kawin dgn tunang ada kanser. lepas kawin tak lama meninggal. kawan akak ni pasrah  pasal niat dia nak menjaga suami walaupun mmg ada mulut2 ckp blkg2 ni.

semoga adik membuat keputusan yg terbaik utk adik dan pasangan.