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Post time 6-3-2009 05:28 PM | Show all posts
Originally posted by MsQuerida at 6-3-2009 14:26


beruntung u dapat menghindarkn dan melenyapkan rasa duka dr kisah silam dengan cepat.

i need time for myself. but i need friends around me. i knw loneliness will killin me.SIGH

tapi per ...


mesti u terluka sangat2 kan? aku dulu dgn ex tak kapel lame, kitorang kapel sebulan jer.. x sedih mane pon mase clash, lgpun aku yg mintak(atas sebab2 yg tertentu dan mmg patut).. so aku bleh recover dgn cepat dan jayanya
sumtimes bile kite berkawan ngan lelaki pon bukan la sebab nak bercinta, but then we need sumone as a friends..
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Post time 6-3-2009 06:35 PM | Show all posts

Reply #57 itik_magic's post

Agreed ngan itik...
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Post time 6-3-2009 07:32 PM | Show all posts
Mmg pun laki & pompuan bole berkawan...tapi lama kelamaan, perasaan "kawan" tu pasti akan bertukar jadi "chenta", sooner or later,  you understand what i'm try to say here?

That's why i said in the first place, better off you go find other girls, than you wait for that particular girl that needs time.  Nak maintain while finding others? Again, toksah nak buang masa ler..

I'm speaking based on my own experiences. So, i just slowly disappear from their lives..coz i knew if i can't get 'em, why i need to waste time befriending them, and in the same time, while watching your "girl" flirt & couple dgn laki lain, tak ke sakit tu?

My advice, "dump" them as if you dump your own gf.

Ye, mmg ini agak kejam, tapi utk kebaikan diri laki tu sendiri. Better to kill now, then be killed later by the girl.
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Post time 6-3-2009 08:08 PM | Show all posts
ertinya dia ada pilihan lain....dan perlu masa untuk memilih yang mana yg terbaik..
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Post time 7-3-2009 02:05 AM | Show all posts
menyampuk jugak

saya jawab perihal lelaki lah..

under normal circumstances, laki xkan nak propose perempuan tu if tak ada +ve indication dari perempuan itu.be it layanan mesra,hint dari pihak perempuan,harapan benar atau palsu(provided lelaki xtahu itu hanya palsu belaka),gurauan gurauan berbentuk indication atau apa sahaja yg +ve.

only after dia confident baru dia berani propose.kecuali lelaki itu hanya try his luck (ini worse).like just try luck mana tau kot kot sangkut.kalau sangkut mmg best lah sebab mmg laki tu nak pun betul2 tapi he takes his chance.takde la mencabar sgt.

ok,utk kes lelaki yg confident dan sudah ada feedback +ve, of course dia tak jangka propose dia ditolak.dlm jangkaan dia, samada perempuan tu ckp yes atau sipu sipu malu sambil jeling jeling muka merah dada berdebar which is indirectly mean yes.

other that that, laki itu akan rasa failure la sgt.ala ala kejantanan tercabar.bila ini berlaku teruslah ego memuncak sambil hati berkata kata yg -ve seperti 'cis,perempuan ni ingat dia cantik sgt,ramai lagi aku boleh dpt.' atau 'sialnya aku kena reject'.

bila ini berlaku,apa jadi?haaa....self esteem akan menurun.teruslah amik tindakan seperti xnak berkawan lagi.putus asa dan jugak utk sesetengah kes kronik hingga bunuh diri

so girl put there terutamanya MsQ,from your post i'm sure you can judge yourself why laki laki yg ada propose kamu.base on his +ve thinking or his just try his luck.

and if you not ready but you still want him to try, say it nicely bersilang dgn harapan.or maybe syarat or test.which ever you want.

if you really dont want him, say it directly with good excuse.dont be too honest.

you might lose him as a friend,but that is the price to pay.kena la sacrice jugak..we cannot earn everything everytime.

other girl out there, jgn bagi harapan palsu.dont be too tough on guy.you can do test but agak agak lah.penat la kadang kadang.sometime we all spend all the recources to tackle one girl ikhlas-ly but kena reject with only one moment.

akhir kata, piih pasangan yg buat kamu happy.buildup a strong and happy family.eventually,we can build up a strong and happy country

[ Last edited by  wiranordin at 7-3-2009 02:16 ]
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Post time 7-3-2009 11:23 PM | Show all posts

salam..

well , hmmm  could  kita just simply ignore ? sebab kalau cakap atau tulis pun nanti ada salah faham so buat masa  yg acute ni diam dulu kurangkan emotional effect tu..be objective ...
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Post time 8-3-2009 12:09 AM | Show all posts
Salam. Saya perempuan. (hoho. lawak la aku intro camtu)

Berapa lama y'all ambil masa utk pulih...?
- Agak lame jugak, because it was quiet special. Dalam 2 bulan lebih. I was technically a walking dead that time. Nasib kawan2 sentiasa ada di sisi, bagi support and cheer me up. Alhamdulillah, I'm fine now. I'm back to the old happy-go-lucky self.


Adakah menerima 'cinta baru atau seseorg yg baru yg hadir dgn cinta'.. mampu memulihkan perasaan u yg pernah terluka..?
- Dalam situasi aku, rasenye dapat kot. Tapi, tunggu aku pulih 80% la kot. Aku tak semudah itu nak accept orang baru kat dalam hidup aku ni. Picky sikit Besides, I was painstakingly and deeply hurt by what happened .. Accepting anyone after the break up wasn't easy...


atau y'all akan menanti sampai satu hari nanti...y'all sendiri tahu yg y'all dh bersedia..
- I'll know when I'm ready to love again. Besides, I'm not that desperate to find somebody



but what if..pada masa sebelum tiba hari tu...y'all dah byk menolak kehadiran cinta dr byk pihak..
- Bukan nak blagak ke ape, tapi bile orang tau je aku dah single balik, terus ade yang usha. Kawan die sendiri pulak tu. Anyway, memang agak banyak yang aku tolak. Ye la, my heart was really crushed ... shattered to pieces (cewah.. emo laks) that time. Susah nak accept sesape. Takkan nak accept orang tu, tapi hati tak ikhlas? Jahat dowh.
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 Author| Post time 12-3-2009 07:49 AM | Show all posts

Reply #65 wiranordin's post

hurmm.there is sumthin 2ponder..thanks wira..
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 Author| Post time 12-3-2009 07:51 AM | Show all posts
Originally posted by mbhcsf at 7-3-2009 23:23
well , hmmm  could  kita just simply ignore ? sebab kalau cakap atau tulis pun nanti ada salah faham so buat masa  yg acute ni diam dulu kurangkan emotional effect tu..be objective ...

maksudnye setiap kali diapproach, bertindak diam membisu terus tanpa beri feedback ape2..?hurmmm...
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 Author| Post time 12-3-2009 07:54 AM | Show all posts
Originally posted by chocolatewaffle at 8-3-2009 00:09
Salam. Saya perempuan. (hoho. lawak la aku intro camtu)

Berapa lama y'all ambil masa utk pulih...?
- Agak lame jugak, because it was quiet special. Dalam 2 bulan lebih. I was technically a wa ...


terima kasih .. dh nampak kata kunci die...apepun jujur dgn diri sendiri & utk menerima kehadiran yg lain biar dgn penuh keikhlasan...
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Post time 12-3-2009 09:03 AM | Show all posts

Reply #7 itik_magic's post

aku setuju ngn apa yg itik cakap kan..
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Post time 12-3-2009 02:21 PM | Show all posts

Balas #65 wiranordin\ catat

si laki ade bg hint2 tp pompuan buat2 tak paham..
dan perempuan still layan ,adakah itu memberi harapan palsu?
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Post time 12-3-2009 06:12 PM | Show all posts
bumping this thread
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Post time 13-3-2009 10:52 AM | Show all posts
Originally posted by MsQuerida at 5-3-2009 09:01
bagaimana ingin menolak dgn cara baik bila ada yg melafaz kata cinta...
dgn harapan walaupn perhubungan itu tidak atas nama cinta,
sekurang瞡ya masih dapat menjadi kawan baik....

kepada lel ...

kepada perempuan..(yg pernah terluka..)
berapa lama y'all ambil masa utk pulih...?
bg org yg mcm i...yg mmg bile dh syg i akan syg gile2...mmg ssh tuk buang rs syg tuhh.......
mmg lame nk recover semula...2-3mths juz tuk back on track....
nk bukak pintu hati..mmg susah n takut some more....

adakah menerima 'cinta baru atau seseorg yg baru yg hadir dgn cinta'.. mampu memulihkan perasaan u yg pernah terluka..?
kalo  dia hadir dalam waktu i nye luka msih bersisa...then,i takut dia juz my rebound...
tp kalo dia hadir bile masa n waktu yg sesuweii....then why not?...............

atau y'all akan menanti sampai satu hari nanti...y'all sendiri tahu yg y'all dh bersedia..
yess..........
kalo ade yg sbr menanti hingga saat i tul2 dh bersedia..
maybe...he's d one!~....maybe

but what if..pada masa sebelum tiba hari tu...y'all dah byk menolak kehadiran cinta dr byk pihak..
what can i say........
muga diorg kans phm....d reason why....
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Post time 13-3-2009 10:55 AM | Show all posts
pe2 pownss for me la kanss......................

bile mr.right tuh datang @ d rite taim n place...
kita kans taw dgn sendirik nyerr....
samada kita nk mengaku @ tak jerkkk..............

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Post time 13-3-2009 10:58 AM | Show all posts

Balas #75 queen_aurora\ catat

how do you know?

follow your heart?  loves is blind!
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Post time 13-3-2009 11:08 AM | Show all posts

Reply #75 queen_aurora's post

mmg leh tau......

mmg mengaku....

tp jika sbllh pihak saja yg merasanya.....penolakan akn berlaku gak...:cool:
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Post time 13-3-2009 11:09 AM | Show all posts
Originally posted by limauais at 13-3-2009 10:58
how do you know?

follow your heart?  loves is blind!

i know la..............

love is blind
but we r not blindfolded
..................

for me...kalo kita kenal kita...kita tau pe yg kita nak..........................
yg penting...kenali n hayati diri kita dulu..
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Post time 13-3-2009 11:12 AM | Show all posts
Originally posted by itik_magic at 13-3-2009 11:08
mmg leh tau......

mmg mengaku....

tp jika sbllh pihak saja yg merasanya.....penolakan akn berlaku gak...:cool:

bg i laks....

kalo name nye MR. right tuh...
d rite 1 for me
n aim d rite 1 for him
.....................

kalo brtepuk sblh tgn tuh...mksud nye he's not d 1 le kotss....

....dia kan dtg dgn sendiri, bila tiba masa nya..
all we have to do is pray...
InsyaAllah............
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Post time 13-3-2009 11:51 AM | Show all posts

Reply #79 queen_aurora's post

dan adakah jika berjmpa sebegitu ko akan memulakannya.......?
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