Love Doc: Q & A Here (Especially for the Ladies)

ifanonline

A few days back, one of my close female friend ask me whether i would be able to have a platonic relationship with a female. Well, truthfully from a male perspective, if your're a guy who is 'truly' a guy, you would not be able to have a platonic relationship with a woman. Just imagine, your female colleague is a hot chick, smoking bomb, sexy mama...would any male in their right mind would want a platonic relationship with these women? Of course not, sama goes with the ladies. If your male friend is drop dead cutey, handsome and desirably macho, would you be his besty friend?

Actually, it depends on who the person you want to have the platonic relationship with, if it is a girl, make sure that you are not sexually attracted too her and vice versa. Find someone who is not a looker, have the criteria that you want, etc...

Maybe some of you may argue on this point, heck, maybe some of you has friends who are drop dead gorgeous...i believe some of your friends are either gays or lesbians. A true human male or female would not deny their sexual needs and they are not afraid to admit it.

ifanonline

In a world where trust is important, who do you trust most in a relationship? Men? Women? It's hard to say nowadays...women may say women are basicly more trusting than men and vice versa. Looking at statistic in Malaysia, more women are not married compared to men. Why is this so? Is it women don't trust men? Or men doesn't want to marry women who is not trusting?

So ladies and gentlemen, to point fingers to only one gender is not right. Both sexes needs to look each other in the mirror and seek the truth.

sweetpea911

ifan..
i rasa dia mcm not interested aje..
kalau i senyap..dia pun senyap..
kalau i nak tanya, takut tergopoh2 pulak..

should i wait a little longer..dalam 3,4 bulan..lepas tu baru tny..
atau buat2 faham sendiri aje..
deep inside dah start teringat dia..susahla mcm ni..

ifanonline

Cuba tanya soalan yg pelik2 skit kat dier (use your imagination)...but the best way to get to a guys heart is just by asking him out...

sweetpea911

really??
masa first time jumpa..i yang initiate..
i pergi jumpa my friend yang kebetulan duduk area yang sama dengan rumah dia..
then beritahu i ada dekat situ and dia datang jumpa i..pegi minum2..

next week dia ada cakap nak ajak i lunch..since dia baru report
dekat new office and tak tau area situ..kebetulan dekat dengan office i..
tp tak tau la jadi ke tak sebab dia cakap ni dari last week..sebelum dia membisu..

sweetpea911

i think i wanna quit from this game..
he keeps telling me about the other gal..semalam pun
dia cerita dia mimpikan that girl..
but he doesn't take any action sebab dia pun tak boleh
define kenapa dia teringat that girl..

continue aja kawan dengan dia without any expectation dah..
kalau ada, ada lah..

ifanonline

it's ok sweetpea, u kawan ngan dier dulu...sometime a girl must initiate dulu, i'm not sure whether your guy friend tu is a shy guy ataupun tidak. Don't be jealous, u still go out with him, be his friend, etc...sometime loves needs patience...

sweetpea911

ifan..
he asked me the type of man yg i prefer..
then i pun list down all the criteria yang semuanya merujuk
kepada dia..dia faham and tanya i balik, macam mana kalau ada
few girls yang nak sama macam apa yang i nak.. (i rasa dia nak
beritahu ada few girls jugak yang sukakan dia..am i right?)
then, i pun jawab yang i kena try harder lalu dia pun wish me good
luck and all the best..
lepas tu i ada ckp dengan dia, kalau dia rasa tak nak consider, i mintak
dia beritahu awal2, so that i boleh put aside the expectation tp dia kata
i cepat sangat nak putus asa..
the conversation habis mcm tu aje..

am i being too pushy bila tanya pasal consideration tu?

ifanonline

if he is seriously considering you as someone more than friend, you're right, you are being a little pushy here...from my previous posting, you need to get to know him better...maybe your chances are higher when you know him better...

sweetpea911

thanks ifan..
i pun taknak kelam kabut tp somehow terlupa pulak..
sepatutnya nak keluar dengan dia hari ni tp last minute dia
ada hal pulak..

ifanonline

Do you know why women like taller men? Have you ever wonder why taller men are more favourable towards women rather than shorter men? Well, the answer is in the women genetics a.k.a. DNA. God created Adam with such spectacular form. Adam was the only human being created directly by the hands of God. This means that with God powers, Adam was created perfectly.

Adam was created with such handsomeness, with such height, with such knowledge, etc...God created the perfect human being. By this perfection, Eve was created from parts of Adam. That is why when Eve first saw Adam, he was a tall, handsome, young man.

Until to this day, it is because the DNA embedded deeply in the body of women throughout the world, women prefer taller men rather than short men.

p/s: no offence to shorter men, they too have their own loving destiny...

ifanonline

Lelaki dan wanita mempunyai ciri-ciri yang tersendiri dalam memilih dan menarik perhatian the opposite sex. Dalam memilih pasangan, men will choose physical attraction in women above all other criteria. Regardless, of her eduaction, her inner-behaviour, men will choose physical attraction first. That's why men are more attracted to female models, women who show their physical attributes such as the cleavage, buttocks, thigh, legs, etc...physical features shown by women is to attract men solely.

Lelaki tidak akan melihat kelulusan wanita tersebut samada dier ada degree ke, master ke, Phd ke...lelaki akan melihat kecantikan fizikal wanita dahulu sebelum menilai ciri-ciri yg lain. Jadi, sekiranya wanita tersebut mempunyai kelulusan yg tersangat tinggi sekalipun, lelaki tetap tidak akan memilih education berbanding kecantikan fizikal...sebab tu la kita dapat melihat seorang doktor lelaki cuma berkahwin dengan wanita yg berada dalam tingkatan 5!

Bagi wanita pula, ketampanan fizikal lelaki tidak begitu penting bagi mereka, walaupun seseorang lelaki tersebut merupakan jejaka yg paling handsome, wanita tidak semestinya memilih jejaka tersebut. Wanita melihat ciri-ciri dalaman seseorang lelaki seperti confidence, berani, pandai, suka melawak, etc...walaubagaimanapun, wanita juga dalam senario tertentu akan memilih sifat fizikal dalam seseorang lelaki.

Sebab itulah, sekiranya seseorang wanita itu tidak mempunyai kecantikan, amat sukar baginya utk mencari pasangan walaupun wanita tersebut mempunyai kelulusan yg tinggi, budi pekerti yg baik, etc...the sole purpose of a male is finding a beautiful wife regardless of her education, behaviour, background, etc...

Lelaki lebih senang mencari pasangan disebabkan wanita tidak memilih sangat aspek fizikal dlm seseorang lelaki, wanita lebih gemar melihat education background, sifat dan sikap lelaki, wang ringgit, kuasa, etc...sebab tu la kalau anda lihat, banyak dato-dato atau tan sri-tan sri mempunyai bini2 yg muda2 dan cantik2...

maybank

Originally posted by ifanonline at 3-11-2008 12:04 PM
Lelaki dan wanita mempunyai ciri-ciri yang tersendiri dalam memilih dan menarik perhatian the opposite sex. Dalam memilih pasangan, men will choose physical attraction in women above all other cr ...

hehe....nice one....so, tak boleh salahkan si suami kalau si isteri sudah bertukar dari size S kepada size XXL hehehe....berat la tanggungjawab pempuan kan...betul kata org tua2...pempuan takleh malas. Kena sentiasa rajin mencantikkan diri luar dan dalam.

ifanonline

The key of a successful relationship is to understand the very basic of human needs, that is needs of male and female human being. Men and women are built differently, thus the understanding of ones need is crucial. Below are the most important criteria...

Men Needs Physical Intimacy

Men was made and built to have physical intimacy with women. Through physical intimacy, men feels closer towards their women. If you see a group of men playing football together, camping together,etc...they are more closer to one another. Women would not understand this, but i will explain why. True men could not show their love through words but more towards their action. A tip for ladies, if you hear your men tell you he loves you, don't trust him, look at his action whether he is holding your hand, peck on the cheek, this physical connection shows that a man trulu cares fo you.

Women Needs Emotional Intimacy

Women are embedded with emotions. The DNA of women is buit this way because this is natures give to them. That's why women are better teachers than men. Women needs emotional assurance in a relationship. Women feels secure if she see a rich man, an educated man, etc...she feels secure with this kind of man. Women are more sensitive towards feelings and would go to great length to show them.

That's why there is always some friction between men and women in a relationship. One does not understand the other needs. Both men and women could not compute this because it is deep within them, program by the glorious DNA.

sweetpea911

ifan..
semalam i mcm frust sgt..
i ada ajak dia tgk movie..mula2 dia tak dpt confirmkan lagi..
sampai la hari yang janji nak tengok tu dia senyap je..bila i tanya,
dia kata tak dapat..sebab ada hal..
i tak tau la kalau tu salah satu sign yang dia mmg tak interested..mungkin
'ada hal' tu cuma alasan..tp i tak tanya la..i just cakap ok bila dia kata next time..
since then (semalam)..i tak ber sms dengan dia..selalunya, every morning akan ada
morning message dari dia..takpun i akan bagi..tp tadi takde..i pun macam segan nak
sms..

before this, ada jugaklah dia cancel sekali bila ajak dia tgk movie..tp pernah la ktrg kuar minum
and lunch sesama..masa lunch tu, i siap ambil dia dkt office..

so skrg..i tak tau apa patut i buat..

1) i patut terus je contact dia mcm biasa..tp tak payah ajak dia keluar lagi..but keep
persistent to show him that i really like him.. (btw..tujuan i ajak dia keluar
sbb i nak lebih kenal dia..so that i boleh define betul2 my feeling towards him..)..

2) i tak payah contact dia lagi..terima hakikat dia mmg not interested dan i hanya akan membuang masa..
(1 hari i tak communicate dengan dia hari ni i dah asyik teringat..)

3) beritahu aje apa yang i rasa..and then tak payah contact atau tanya balik apa chances i..
at least i dah berterus terang.. (sebelum ni i ada beritau..tp secara casual and nampak mcm tak serious..)



thanks ifan..

sweetpea911

i think i am really into him..bangun pagi2 aje dah ingat..
and one thing for sure..bukan sebab paras rupa..dia mmg biasa sgt..
bukan sebab sweet words juga..tp sebab cara berfikir..cara dia melihat
sesuatu..lain dari yang lain..

ifanonline

hi sweetpea, you are going into the right direction...just continue to talk to him, buat mcm biasa, just buat small talk and see his feedback...wait until he has given out positif sign...kalau tidak, just continue talking to him, bertegur sapa...

kaki_ayam

Originally posted by ifanonline at 15-8-2006 03:09 PM
Aku tengok banyak nasihat yang diberikan "wanita oleh wanita" didalam board LP ni a bunch of crap!
jadi aku ambik initiative utk memberikan khidmat nasihat "lelaki kepada wanita" yang menghadapi ...

kau ni lelaki ker?? cube tgk sket nasihat kau mcm mana...

ifanonline

ye saya lelaki...knp dengan nasihat saya?

sweetpea911

ifan,
last 2 days..i ada sembang dengan dia on the phone..
and then tiba2 dia cakap, i macam tak usaha sungguh2..
so, mintaklah dia guidelines..apa patut i buat lagi..rasa
macam dah usaha...tp mungkin tak cukup gigih kot..
tp lepas tu dia cakap tak boleh senang2..takut i tak appreciate
dia nanti..pening betul..
oh ye..dia ada sebut jugak favourite dish dia masa raya..siap suruh i belajar masak..
i read it as a good sign.. ..tp adakah lelaki mmg suka2 je ckp cmtu?

apa lagi i patut buat? up until now..i dah ajak dia keluar..i dah sms dia..
i dah call dia (tp dlm masa 3 bln ni, baru 3 kali i call..most of the time ktrg sms/ym je..)